If my fiance brings home one more package of Oreo's, I might go full-rage.
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That being said, please find some safe alternatives as soon as you can, because a long-term denial of desires (e.g., chocolate) can be a real mind screw. I'm not familiar with Whole30, but can you eat fruit? One piece of dark chocolate, maybe?
Absolutely - I love fruit and veggies, and there is some dark chocolate that I can (and do have) on occasion. I've actually been somewhat successful in not eating his treats, and there have been wonderful suggestions in the comments that will make some of these unwanted cravings even easier to manage. I just noticed myself having emotions to my dietary structure versus his. He's read my original post, which we've both had a laugh at, because it really is such a visceral reaction to such a silly thing, like a cookie. :-)1 -
VintageFeline wrote: »steelaxitute2127 wrote: »Ugh, see, I'm the one with the huge sweet tooth. And also the one who's trying to lose more weight. My partner can care less about sweets and is more into savory food. I love savory food too, but put a delicious donut or cookie in front of me and I'm screwed! lol The beast comes out in me too when I don't have sugar in a certain amount of time. How do you guys abstain?
Short answer, I don't. I mean, I don't eat as much as I used to because calories but I just had two Squiggles (cookies). Because delicious.
If moderation is the problem then all of the advice about separate cupboards etc is solid.
You couldn't pay me to do Whole 30 unless I was trying to figure out what might be giving me digestive issues (I don't have any so don't need to do an elimination diet) because I would 100% inhale my fridge at some point along the line.
agree with this - Whole30 was never supposed to be a diet in the way people treat it - but rather a method to eliminate foods that might be causing health issues. I had a friend who just completed 30 days of it - found out a couple of issues (daily and grains) - but at the same time, her blood work also had some negative changes3 -
MichelleLaree13 wrote: »steelaxitute2127 wrote: »I try to talk myself down. I look up the calories. I try to contract with myself not to eat it and find a healthy or healthier alternative. For me, icecream is really tough to refuse but I try to make a frozen fruit and milk smoothie. Frozen smoothies are very enjoyable for me and not nearly the calories as icecream. I notice sometimes I am just hungry and really just need an extra meal. Other times, I feel like a sugar addict and remove myself from the situation entirely. It has gotten better
I saw this recipe the other day for "Nicecream" which looked delicious!
http://chocolatecoveredkatie.com/2016/08/22/banana-ice-cream-healthy/0 -
Things that work in our house:
Hubs has an office in the basement I rarely go into. He will buy junk and keep it there. Or, he can reach the top of our kitchen cabinets, and I can't. In the last house where the cabinets went all the way up the ceiling he had a top shelf in one of them, or in this house he will just put stuff on top of the cabinet. Sometimes he picks stuff out while we are grocery shopping and I just make him put it away somewhere right when we get home. Other times he just buys stuff while he is out and I truthfully have no idea what he has up there. Out of sight is out of mind for me, so it works well for us. He is also pretty darn good at being sneaky and grabbing his treats while I am distracted and takes them to his office to eat. Just ask him to help you out, he probably will. My husband found it fairly entertaining at first to try to figure out how to eat his treats on the sly without my catching him.5 -
Dump him. Find a semi fat dude that watches what he eats. They are the best, I've heard10
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Had a similar discussion/issue with my wife. Most having to do with chips and almonds. I tried a couple of things:
1. I bought single serving bags of both chips and almonds and requested she not buy others.
2. Asked that she just not leave them out on the counter if she isn't eating them
3. When asked what I wanted from the store, requested "no chips" every week for several in a row.
4. Threatened to just toss them if they are open and laying on the counter.
It took awhile, but for the most part they show up less frequently and are generally put away. Also, she is trying a little harder on her weight as well, so that helps.
The single serving thing seemed to work pretty well - you need to go to Sams or Costco and get a huge box of them. You will need to keep buying them as well. It gets old.2 -
SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
My wife is the same. Annoys the hell out of me.0 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »Dump him. Find a semi fat dude that watches what he eats. They are the best, I've heard
Hahahaha. Awesome. Now that you mention it, I think he has a work buddy like that. I should ask him to hook it up. :-)1 -
Honestly, cakes/cookies/pies/donuts don't even phase me any more because I know I can enjoy something else that will actually fill me up. I don't care what's in the house, I'm probably not gonna eat it.
Because of my new found need to eat healthier/lighter/less and I cook dinner (and meals on weekends), I've impacted my BF's diet big time. He could afford to lose 10-15lbs himself, but refuses to "Count Calories".
I actually welcome him getting "treats" for himself because I know that if it was up to him, we'd eat pizza, spaghetti/meat sauce or tacos EVERY NIGHT. And sometimes I feel guilty that I don't make those things as much as I once had. Now we are eating much more salad, veggies and much less pasta/bread. Not because it's "bad" but because I have a hard time not eating a ton of it. I feel fuller and more satisfied on lean meats, veggies and grains/potatoes, so that's what I make.
Secretly, I'm hoping that the way I cook at home may have an impact on his weight as well, but I do know he doesn't have much willpower at work. Donuts/pie/cake/cookies everywhere and he doesn't say no very often.
Now, we were at Smashburger (who know has their calorie counts on their menus) the other day for lunch and he ordered Grilled Chicken over Crispy Chicken because it has less calories. And he commented on the fact that the calorie counts at Buffalo Wild Wings are WAY more than he ever thought they'd be. I think my calorie counting MAY be rubbing off in small ways.5 -
Tacklewasher wrote: »SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
My wife is the same. Annoys the hell out of me.
It's funny because I go through phases where I find this inner amazing woman who can do this, and it's fantastic when I have her on my side. Then I turn back into a tazmanian devil who must put everything appealing in her mouth for a while. I don't really get it. Being a woman is difficult
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Mellonator81 wrote: »nrodriguez32730 wrote: »I love my darling partner, but he doesn't get it. He's fit, trim, can eat whatever he wants, and has a sweet tooth that would make Willy Wonka cringe. I'll say this up front, because this could absolutely be an unfair request that I've made of him: I've asked him to stop bringing home sweets (i.e cookies, cakes, pies, candy, etc.) in order to help support my need to change my eating habits. He graciously goes to the farmers market with me, spends time exercising with me, and overall is very wonderful. That being said, I keep finding family-size packages of Double Stuffed Oreos in our pantry. I jokingly told him to find a better hiding spot, thinking that it's probably not too fair to make him suffer the loss of junk food with me, but I'm telling you - the jealousy I have around his ability to eat whatever he wants and not gain weight is making me silently rage! I'm currently doing Whole30, and in the beginning stages of detox/sugar withdrawal, and I swear it's making me go into "Beast Mode." Endy ranty rant here to confront cookie package with kitchen knife, a la Inigo Montoya - "...prepare to die."
You are correct it is unfair...
If you want to not eat oreos oh I don't know be an adult and say no I won't eat that????
and btw you can eat whatever you want in moderate quantities just like your husband and not gain weight...
I don't get why our partners need to change for us...esp if you won't change for him, because apparently you aren't willing to not eat his oreos...after all they are his...
It's not about 'being an adult', it's about knowing your vices and doing your best to avoid them. Some people are better at resisting than others. It's a fact that people can stick to their meal plans better when they rid their shelves of the junk.
She never said she's expecting him to change; she just said she wishes he'd hide treats better so she won't find them and be tempted.
sure it is. Part of being an adult is saying no to ourselves when we know it's not healthy/good for us/illegal etc. And she said she was jealous even tho he supports her in every way and she admits it is unfair...
eating cookies is not a vice...Vice is defined as immoral or wicked behavior.
and please define Junk??? food is food and when it's given context such as good or bad that is when things get messy.
My point is this...yes you can control what is in your own home to a degree but what about when you aren't at home...like at the office, eating out, vacation, dinner party etc...you gonna dictate then what is there...???
If people want to be successful they need to learn how to deal with this stuff as they lose otherwise chance are they fail and regain the weight.
and yes I am speaking from experience...
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kristen8000 wrote: »Honestly, cakes/cookies/pies/donuts don't even phase me any more because I know I can enjoy something else that will actually fill me up. I don't care what's in the house, I'm probably not gonna eat it.
Because of my new found need to eat healthier/lighter/less and I cook dinner (and meals on weekends), I've impacted my BF's diet big time. He could afford to lose 10-15lbs himself, but refuses to "Count Calories".
I actually welcome him getting "treats" for himself because I know that if it was up to him, we'd eat pizza, spaghetti/meat sauce or tacos EVERY NIGHT. And sometimes I feel guilty that I don't make those things as much as I once had. Now we are eating much more salad, veggies and much less pasta/bread. Not because it's "bad" but because I have a hard time not eating a ton of it. I feel fuller and more satisfied on lean meats, veggies and grains/potatoes, so that's what I make.
Secretly, I'm hoping that the way I cook at home may have an impact on his weight as well, but I do know he doesn't have much willpower at work. Donuts/pie/cake/cookies everywhere and he doesn't say no very often.
Now, we were at Smashburger (who know has their calorie counts on their menus) the other day for lunch and he ordered Grilled Chicken over Crispy Chicken because it has less calories. And he commented on the fact that the calorie counts at Buffalo Wild Wings are WAY more than he ever thought they'd be. I think my calorie counting MAY be rubbing off in small ways.
That's awesome! I've been so glad to have a lot of restaurants make their nutritional info so much more accessible, because I know it definitely helps me to see those numbers on a menu.
I think my partner would totally second what yours encounters at work - my guy is a distributor for Ben & Jerry's/Good Humor ice cream products, so they get samples/extras ALL the time, which he indulges in at work, and sometimes brings that home as well. I've been taking a similar approach at home, and hoping that the way that I cook will have a positive impact for him as well.1 -
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sure it is. Part of being an adult is saying no to ourselves when we know it's not healthy/good for us/illegal etc. And she said she was jealous even tho he supports her in every way and she admits it is unfair...
eating cookies is not a vice...Vice is defined as immoral or wicked behavior.
and please define Junk??? food is food and when it's given context such as good or bad that is when things get messy.
My point is this...yes you can control what is in your own home to a degree but what about when you aren't at home...like at the office, eating out, vacation, dinner party etc...you gonna dictate then what is there...???
If people want to be successful they need to learn how to deal with this stuff as they lose otherwise chance are they fail and regain the weight.
and yes I am speaking from experience...
My partner is very supportive, but my point was, he doesn't live the temptation that I sometimes experience with regard to food, and that's okay most of the time. I definitely appreciate the experience you bring to the table, and I don't disagree with you around the contextual nature of food, and that you can only control yourself. I think you may have interpreted my post with a level of intensity that was unintended. I was attempting to describe my struggle with a particular craving with some levity that I thought others may be able to connect around.9 -
Halo Top is my go to I need a sweet thing now hangry food. I guess that is not Whole30 friendly. I also keep berries around for snacking for light desserts, sometimes with light cool whip. But I also am married to a giant who stores his stuff where I can't reach it >.<0
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Tacklewasher wrote: »SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
My wife is the same. Annoys the hell out of me.
I'm more or less the same - I actually realized recently that my taste-buds are especially sensitive to sweetness, which makes it hard to distinguish flavors in candy, for example, and make too much sugar at once really overwhelming. I can pretty much eat a small handful of whatever and be done. I've been like that as long as I can remember and I genuinely never put together why. It's not willpower, that's for sure!0 -
nrodriguez32730 wrote: »I love my darling partner, but he doesn't get it. He's fit, trim, can eat whatever he wants, and has a sweet tooth that would make Willy Wonka cringe. I'll say this up front, because this could absolutely be an unfair request that I've made of him: I've asked him to stop bringing home sweets (i.e cookies, cakes, pies, candy, etc.) in order to help support my need to change my eating habits. He graciously goes to the farmers market with me, spends time exercising with me, and overall is very wonderful. That being said, I keep finding family-size packages of Double Stuffed Oreos in our pantry. I jokingly told him to find a better hiding spot, thinking that it's probably not too fair to make him suffer the loss of junk food with me, but I'm telling you - the jealousy I have around his ability to eat whatever he wants and not gain weight is making me silently rage! I'm currently doing Whole30, and in the beginning stages of detox/sugar withdrawal, and I swear it's making me go into "Beast Mode." Endy ranty rant here to confront cookie package with kitchen knife, a la Inigo Montoya - "...prepare to die."
You are correct it is unfair...
If you want to not eat oreos oh I don't know be an adult and say no I won't eat that????
and btw you can eat whatever you want in moderate quantities just like your husband and not gain weight...
I don't get why our partners need to change for us...esp if you won't change for him, because apparently you aren't willing to not eat his oreos...after all they are his...
Eh, I don't see that her wanting him to change the cupboard equates her wanting to change him.
Living together is full of negotiations; this is one example.
In my own home, neither of us is happy with the other's desired thermostat setting at night - we are "being adult" by compromising.5 -
MegaMooseEsq wrote: »Tacklewasher wrote: »SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
My wife is the same. Annoys the hell out of me.
I'm more or less the same - I actually realized recently that my taste-buds are especially sensitive to sweetness, which makes it hard to distinguish flavors in candy, for example, and make too much sugar at once really overwhelming. I can pretty much eat a small handful of whatever and be done. I've been like that as long as I can remember and I genuinely never put together why. It's not willpower, that's for sure!
You are lucky0 -
You are correct it is unfair...
If you want to not eat oreos oh I don't know be an adult and say no I won't eat that????
and btw you can eat whatever you want in moderate quantities just like your husband and not gain weight...
I don't get why our partners need to change for us...esp if you won't change for him, because apparently you aren't willing to not eat his oreos...after all they are his...
Possibly the best advice I've ever seen here. 100%. So right. Should follow this everyday. Printing it out to stick on my mirror. Be an adult, and don't expect compromise in a partner. Got it. Winning in life now.5 -
I just had to stash a plastic container of brownies that my husband made off the kitchen counter into a cabinet where I can't see them every time I walk by! I do have to give myself credit for putting them away without opening the lid.LOL!2
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I just had to stash a plastic container of brownies that my husband made off the kitchen counter into a cabinet where I can't see them every time I walk by! I do have to give myself credit for putting them away without opening the lid.LOL!
Haha, I hear ya. As silly as it seems, I pat myself on the back every time I resist temptation like that! 0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »
But raisin bran is so good! I mean, not oreo's good, but still! Lol5 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »MegaMooseEsq wrote: »Tacklewasher wrote: »SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
My wife is the same. Annoys the hell out of me.
I'm more or less the same - I actually realized recently that my taste-buds are especially sensitive to sweetness, which makes it hard to distinguish flavors in candy, for example, and make too much sugar at once really overwhelming. I can pretty much eat a small handful of whatever and be done. I've been like that as long as I can remember and I genuinely never put together why. It's not willpower, that's for sure!
You are lucky
You should see me with a bag of popcorn, or potato chips.2 -
My husband and I have different goals so we eat differently. He has foods I just can't right now and his portion size is about double mine.
What has worked for me has been stocking up on treats I can have and want. When a craving hits or I see him indulging I have my go to goodies. Lately for me it has been coconut Greek yogurt, sometimes with mini chocolate chips mixed in if I have the extra calories.0 -
My husband is incredibly disciplined with food & doesn't have even a smidgeon of a sweet tooth. I'm simultaneously annoyed by it & extremely grateful, lol.
On a side note, I thought your post was light-hearted but sincere, & amusing. Not sure why a few commenters seemed to take it so seriously.4 -
I don't believe in intentionally abstaining from any food in a permanent way. It sets me up for misery and failure to think this way. I did a whole30 month and hated every single second, was hungry all the time, and I was mean. Life is too short to be in that kind of misery.
Instead, I often make choices which remove certain things from my daily intake because I choose other things but I always allow myself to eat what I want and then keep a tight rein on my calories. I quickly discover that the cookie wasn't worth it or the serving of chips wasn't as enjoyable as I had imagined and my choices change to more satisfying and ultimately more nutrient dense options.
Prelogging meals can help me stick with my plan. It annoys me to go back and change things if I adjusted something. "I planned chicken and broccoli salad and it took forever to log all the ingredients so I'm eating my chicken and broccoli salad."0 -
Assign him a drawer to put his stuff in, and never open it.0
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I just realized that this thread is probably why I decided to buy oreos at the grocery store yesterday.....9
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nrodriguez32730 wrote: »I love my darling partner, but he doesn't get it. He's fit, trim, can eat whatever he wants, and has a sweet tooth that would make Willy Wonka cringe. I'll say this up front, because this could absolutely be an unfair request that I've made of him: I've asked him to stop bringing home sweets (i.e cookies, cakes, pies, candy, etc.) in order to help support my need to change my eating habits. He graciously goes to the farmers market with me, spends time exercising with me, and overall is very wonderful. That being said, I keep finding family-size packages of Double Stuffed Oreos in our pantry. I jokingly told him to find a better hiding spot, thinking that it's probably not too fair to make him suffer the loss of junk food with me, but I'm telling you - the jealousy I have around his ability to eat whatever he wants and not gain weight is making me silently rage! I'm currently doing Whole30, and in the beginning stages of detox/sugar withdrawal, and I swear it's making me go into "Beast Mode." Endy ranty rant here to confront cookie package with kitchen knife, a la Inigo Montoya - "...prepare to die."
I have the exact same problem! I've asked him to chill on the junk or eat it when I'm not around and his answer is always "you're the one on a diet not me. If you can't have it doesn't mean I should stop" !!!0 -
hollyshealthylife wrote: »You are correct it is unfair...
If you want to not eat oreos oh I don't know be an adult and say no I won't eat that????
and btw you can eat whatever you want in moderate quantities just like your husband and not gain weight...
I don't get why our partners need to change for us...esp if you won't change for him, because apparently you aren't willing to not eat his oreos...after all they are his...
Possibly the best advice I've ever seen here. 100%. So right. Should follow this everyday. Printing it out to stick on my mirror. Be an adult, and don't expect compromise in a partner. Got it. Winning in life now.
you forgot to add /sarcasm
but seriously he is compromising as per the OP...heHe graciously goes to the farmers market with me, spends time exercising with me, and overall is very wonderful.
so because he won't compromise more he is the one who is well...the bad one here...
she admitted in her post it was unfair...and me agreeing with her makes me the bad one too...interesting.
and like I said why should he change if she won't????? compromise is a good thing and he has done his share from what I read.3
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