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Breastfeeding older kids (over 12mths old)
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It is OK for him to say it was awkward, it doesn't sound like he complained or made a fuss corrrect, peckchris3267?
I too find it odd and a bit uncomfortable but I can choose to look away or leave the room/location. I'm not sure why its that way for some of us and not others but I don't think there is anything wrong with either, you feel how you feel as long as you don't try to impress those feelings on others.7 -
peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?2 -
TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
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peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
It's her choice.6 -
peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
And I don't want to see it. I have no problem with women breastfeeding infants in public but there comes an age where it is no longer necessary or appropriate.
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peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
And I don't want to see it. I have no problem with women breastfeeding infants in public but there comes an age where it is no longer necessary or appropriate.
So don't look.10 -
Or she could just stop doing it when no longer necessary.Chef_Barbell wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
And I don't want to see it. I have no problem with women breastfeeding infants in public but there comes an age where it is no longer necessary or appropriate.
So don't look.
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peckchris3267 wrote: »
Or she could just stop doing it when no longer necessary.Chef_Barbell wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
And I don't want to see it. I have no problem with women breastfeeding infants in public but there comes an age where it is no longer necessary or appropriate.
So don't look.
Or you can ask her to leave.... Or you know tell her how you really feel.5 -
Chef_Barbell wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »
Or she could just stop doing it when no longer necessary.Chef_Barbell wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
And I don't want to see it. I have no problem with women breastfeeding infants in public but there comes an age where it is no longer necessary or appropriate.
So don't look.
Or you can ask her to leave.... Or you know tell her how you really feel.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-narcissism-epidemic/201205/it-s-not-the-breastfeeding-s-wrong-it-s-the-indulgence?amp10 -
peckchris3267 wrote: »Chef_Barbell wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »
Or she could just stop doing it when no longer necessary.Chef_Barbell wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
And I don't want to see it. I have no problem with women breastfeeding infants in public but there comes an age where it is no longer necessary or appropriate.
So don't look.
Or you can ask her to leave.... Or you know tell her how you really feel.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-narcissism-epidemic/201205/it-s-not-the-breastfeeding-s-wrong-it-s-the-indulgence?amp
So that means you told her this? Or what exactly are you trying to prove?4 -
peckchris3267 wrote: »
Or she could just stop doing it when no longer necessary.Chef_Barbell wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
And I don't want to see it. I have no problem with women breastfeeding infants in public but there comes an age where it is no longer necessary or appropriate.
So don't look.
so tell her you dont want her breastfeeding in your house if you feel so strongly... i'm sure that will go down just fine....4 -
peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My sister breast fed her sons until they were 5 years old. It was very awkward when they asked her for "nummies" while I was there.
for you, not them, presumably?
Yes, for me because watching my sister breastfeeding a 5 year old is not something I wanted to do.
So don't watch?
In my own house? Why should I compromise. I had no problem with her breastfeeding an infant but a 5 year old is a different story. This isn't an anti breastfeeding issue.
then what is it?
She shouldn't be breastfeeding a 5 year old. We aren't an impoverished 3rd world country where it might be a necessity. It is not psychologically healthy.
And I don't want to see it. I have no problem with women breastfeeding infants in public but there comes an age where it is no longer necessary or appropriate.
technically speaking, breastfeeding is no longer necessary from birth, thanks to the creation of formula milk...7 -
There is no benefit to prolonged breastfeeding. It is not in the best interest of the child, it's all in the selfish interest of the mother.24
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This thread has not disappointed.18
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I just took a breastfeeding class last night and the current advice the medical professionals (at least in my area) seem to be agreeing on is:
-breastfeeding is best if you can do it, there is alot of science to back that up for health/immune benefits
-start introducing solids around 6 months They seem to advise you mostly start with grains, go to veggies, fruits, then proteins (I am guessing this order has something to do with ease of digestions, but am honestly not sure on that). Start with single ingredient items so in the event of an allergic reaction its easy to identify what the problem is.
- It takes a while to transition onto solids fully so they still need the breastmilk/formula up to 12 months, then you can replace with other milk and/or water.
As for the night feedings: most of what I have seen is as long as your kid is getting enough nutrition (as determined by their gaining weight at an appropriate rate) it is ok to work on phasing out the night feedings. If your baby is still struggling to gain then they advise you to keep doing night feedings as demanded, or wake your kid up to eat if they happen to be sleeping through the night on their own.
These seem to be the "generally accepted guidelines" right now. Obviously, you can find professionals that promote whatever you want if you look hard enough.8 -
There's no benefit to taking a kid to a fast food restaurant instead of a healthy home cooked meal or letting them sit in front of a TV all day but most people don't voice an opinion on it or find it awkward .9
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Someone already beat me to the World Health Organization recommendation. I breastfed my two biological children for ~14months. My oldest is 22 and back in the day, the Dr. told me I needed to set an alarm and feed him every 2hrs around the clock. You can imagine how much sleep I got. Especially because he was a slow nurser so it took him almost 2hrs to finish. LOL You can bet I didn't do that with the second one.
Also, I am highly suspicious of the health benefits over bottle feeding. Out of my three children, it was the bottle fed one that was healthiest.8 -
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I'm 100% in agreement with you @peckchris3267 A 5 year old does not need to be breastfed, heck i still think there's no need to breastfeed or bottle feed over 12mths old, let alone a school age child
But that's just me, my opinion and how i did it with my own kids,my brother and sister did the same thing with their kids. I have a 2 year old grandchild and my daughter in law followed the same protocol as us.
Reading @4legsRbetterthan2 post, things have obviously changed in some places, as mine started solids at 8 weeks old, not 6mths.9 -
There's no benefit to taking a kid to a fast food restaurant instead of a healthy home cooked meal or letting them sit in front of a TV all day but most people don't voice an opinion on it or find it awkward .
I think many people would have a strong opinion on this, and plenty would voice it I'd say..
And FTR this thread is NOT bashing breastfeeding or whatever, I was genuinely curious why things have changed so much since mine were bubs.4
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