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  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    I've lost grandparents but never experienced any other real tragedy. I feel like it cripples me when trying to figure out how to be helpful and empathetic toward people who are grieving. My cousins are losing their dad to cancer and I feel powerless and ineffectual.

    I can empathize with you. Its hard when you want to do or say something but don't know what to say or do.

    I don't think that there is really anything you can do, just help them if they ask for something or maybe offer or just go ahead and do things to help keep up with day to day life.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    I've lost grandparents but never experienced any other real tragedy. I feel like it cripples me when trying to figure out how to be helpful and empathetic toward people who are grieving. My cousins are losing their dad to cancer and I feel powerless and ineffectual.
    From someone who has experienced that..there's nothing you can do but try to just be there. It's all loud at that point and you can't really hear anyone or anything else. I do always remember the people who were there though.

    Seconded. No words can take away their pain but just being there and "taking care" of what you can to lessen their burdens. Such as meal prep, clean up, errands. Things like that. Or just sitting with them will always bring them some relief.
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    Thistimepat wrote: »
    I don't think it's about the sex of a person- more like the type of person- some people just like using 'weight' to beat the crap out of others

    The heart and make up of an individual is the measure not the way they look- hugs all

    Very nice post :+1:
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    I've lost grandparents but never experienced any other real tragedy. I feel like it cripples me when trying to figure out how to be helpful and empathetic toward people who are grieving. My cousins are losing their dad to cancer and I feel powerless and ineffectual.
    From someone who has experienced that..there's nothing you can do but try to just be there. It's all loud at that point and you can't really hear anyone or anything else. I do always remember the people who were there though.
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    I've lost grandparents but never experienced any other real tragedy. I feel like it cripples me when trying to figure out how to be helpful and empathetic toward people who are grieving. My cousins are losing their dad to cancer and I feel powerless and ineffectual.

    I can empathize with you. Its hard when you want to do or say something but don't know what to say or do.

    I don't think that there is really anything you can do, just help them if they ask for something or maybe offer or just go ahead and do things to help keep up with day to day life.
    RunHardBeStrong wrote: »
    SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    I've lost grandparents but never experienced any other real tragedy. I feel like it cripples me when trying to figure out how to be helpful and empathetic toward people who are grieving. My cousins are losing their dad to cancer and I feel powerless and ineffectual.
    From someone who has experienced that..there's nothing you can do but try to just be there. It's all loud at that point and you can't really hear anyone or anything else. I do always remember the people who were there though.

    Seconded. No words can take away their pain but just being there and "taking care" of what you can to lessen their burdens. Such as meal prep, clean up, errands. Things like that. Or just sitting with them will always bring them some relief.

    Thanks, ladies. Much appreciated.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Some bridges are best left burned.
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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    kace_kay wrote: »
    beingmore1 wrote: »
    I don't add friends on mfp because I am failing so badly with my diet that I can't even be supportive. I feel like a major failure and a huge disappointment to others. I wish it didn't weigh so heavily on my mind.

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    ...... is it okay if I add a reach-around to this virtual hug?
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    edited August 2017
    beingmore1 wrote: »
    I don't add friends on mfp because I am failing so badly with my diet that I can't even be supportive. I feel like a major failure and a huge disappointment to others. I wish it didn't weigh so heavily on my mind.

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    Ahhh , yeah ya maybe not want to try and grope the unfriendly ones .. they bite and scratch :/

    I hope you find peace..you aren't perfect , none of us are, Give yourself a break, you're here and you're trying.. :)
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  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    A snickers ice cream.. :/ thanks @blackcomaro
  • blackcomaro
    blackcomaro Posts: 796 Member
    slimgirljo15 wrote: »
    A snickers ice cream.. :/ thanks @blackcomaro

    @slimgirljo15 imagine how good it will taste next sunday ;)
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    blackcomaro wrote: »
    slimgirljo15 wrote: »
    A snickers ice cream.. :/ thanks @blackcomaro

    @slimgirljo15 imagine how good it will taste next sunday ;)

    But..but thats 6 days away :(:'(
  • trish2016
    trish2016 Posts: 156 Member
    That I need my bad tattoo that I got at the weekend fixed :smile:
  • SouthernCurves91
    SouthernCurves91 Posts: 2,417 Member
    Way too many things...... :/
  • captainfantastic94
    captainfantastic94 Posts: 1,745 Member
    SouthernCurves91 wrote: »
    Way too many things...... :/

    Tell me about it.



    Like really can you elaborate?
  • blackcomaro
    blackcomaro Posts: 796 Member
    captainfantastic94 wrote: »
    SouthernCurves91 wrote: »
    Way too many things...... :/

    Tell me about it.



    Like really can you elaborate?

    Just one thing at a time though..... this isnt #tell me three things! I miss that thread :/
  • SouthernCurves91
    SouthernCurves91 Posts: 2,417 Member
    captainfantastic94 wrote: »
    SouthernCurves91 wrote: »
    Way too many things...... :/

    Tell me about it.



    Like really can you elaborate?
    blackcomaro wrote: »
    captainfantastic94 wrote: »
    SouthernCurves91 wrote: »
    Way too many things...... :/

    Tell me about it.



    Like really can you elaborate?

    Just one thing at a time though..... this isnt #tell me three things! I miss that thread :/


    Y'all are too much! :)
  • IPedal_4_Pleasure
    IPedal_4_Pleasure Posts: 27 Member
    Plain or Peanut?
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    food
  • WorkerDrone83
    WorkerDrone83 Posts: 3,195 Member
    TeacupsAndToning wrote: »
    I think it's really cute how everyone turns into a science geek when phenomenons like the eclipse happen.

    I'm hoping to turn into a werewolf. Science geeks are over-rated.
  • WorkerDrone83
    WorkerDrone83 Posts: 3,195 Member
    TeacupsAndToning wrote: »
    WorkerDrone83 wrote: »
    TeacupsAndToning wrote: »
    I think it's really cute how everyone turns into a science geek when phenomenons like the eclipse happen.

    I'm hoping to turn into a werewolf. Science geeks are over-rated.

    Yes, because what most people would prefer is a hairy beast with a tail who drools a lot

    I feel like you're baiting me into an old-school Team Edward vs Team Jacob battle.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    kace_kay wrote: »
    TeacupsAndToning wrote: »
    WorkerDrone83 wrote: »
    TeacupsAndToning wrote: »
    WorkerDrone83 wrote: »
    TeacupsAndToning wrote: »
    I think it's really cute how everyone turns into a science geek when phenomenons like the eclipse happen.

    I'm hoping to turn into a werewolf. Science geeks are over-rated.

    Yes, because what most people would prefer is a hairy beast with a tail who drools a lot

    I feel like you're baiting me into an old-school Team Edward vs Team Jacob battle.

    There is no good side to choose there

    Necrophilia v. Bestiality. Decisions, decisions.

    why not both ??
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