Guys who lift, getting advice from chicks...?

lynn_glenmont wrote: »

jdlobb wrote: »

jjpptt2 wrote: »

I'd assume she wanted to sleep with me.

kidding... kidding...


If it felt like random advice, I'd mostly ignore it. If it was someone who I'd seen at the gym before and who seemed to know what she was doing, I'd take it under advisement. I'd probably record my next set and watch it later with her comments in mind, then go from there.

That applies to anyone giving me advice.

Ultimately though, I just want to be left alone. But that's not gym/lifting specific, that's pretty much my approach to life.

see, you say you're kidding, but....

there's a lot of truth in that. If a girl, especially a fit attractive one, approaches a guy at the gym, there is a STRONG chance that the guy is going to take it as a come on, no matter WHAT the content of the approach is.

So what you're saying is, the force of wishful thinking is strong?

we're optimists. we are also not smart. the endorphines and testosterone from working out also has a negative impact on our cognitive abilities.

Last Friday I was in the weight room and I was trying a new to me movement...a young lady came up to me and told me my form was off and did a demonstration...I continued with the movement, but not quite right so she corrected me again and I got it down...she also showed me this amazing stretch for an issue I was having.

I gave her some knuckles and thanked her...but she's also my wife's personal trainer and a very good friend of the family...I'd likely not have the same reaction with some rando in the gym who doesn't know anything about me or what I'm doing...I do quite a few things in the gym for very specific reasons that a lot of people would probably find unusual and awkward looking...

jjpptt2 wrote: »

jdlobb wrote: »

lynn_glenmont wrote: »

jdlobb wrote: »

jjpptt2 wrote: »

I'd assume she wanted to sleep with me.

kidding... kidding...


If it felt like random advice, I'd mostly ignore it. If it was someone who I'd seen at the gym before and who seemed to know what she was doing, I'd take it under advisement. I'd probably record my next set and watch it later with her comments in mind, then go from there.

That applies to anyone giving me advice.

Ultimately though, I just want to be left alone. But that's not gym/lifting specific, that's pretty much my approach to life.

see, you say you're kidding, but....

there's a lot of truth in that. If a girl, especially a fit attractive one, approaches a guy at the gym, there is a STRONG chance that the guy is going to take it as a come on, no matter WHAT the content of the approach is.

So what you're saying is, the force of wishful thinking is strong?

we're optimists. we are also not smart. the endorphines and testosterone from working out also has a negative impact on our cognitive abilities.

Not to derail the thread, but that's a *kitten* excuse. If a girl talking to you is a come on, then you're either really arrogant, or a douche. Or both. Probably both.

Hoping it's a come on and assuming it is are very different, with very different responses.

oh no, it's not an excuse. We're already stupid. The gym has the ability to amplify our preexisting stupidity.

There is a different between something being explainable and being excusable.

jjpptt2 wrote: »

Sorry, but this is a no tolerance issue for me, so I'm just going to back out now.



We now return you to your regularly scheduled thread.

i'm not sure what i said that seems to have upset you. I was pointing out that guys, especially most "gym guys" are likely to be kinda douchy. especially with regards to women in the gym. The number of times I've seen variations of "how do I hit on girls at the gym" conversations come up is mind numbing.

a woman approaching a guy in a gym just seems like a recipe for disaster

misnomer1 wrote: »

TashaaaKayeee wrote: »

I know I'm not a trainer but when I see a guy trying to do a deadlift with 100lbs & he's bending his back, I'm pretty sure with a past injury or not, he's going to mess up his back.

let him mess his back. he will learn soon enough, on his own. also, when people are progressing to higher weights, their form is not going to be the best on that PR.

Your form would have to be extremely wonky to mess you up with a 100# Deadlift...

jdlobb wrote: »

3bambi3 wrote: »

Carlos_421 wrote: »

I don't think anyone is talking about following a girl home because she talked to him...
How is it such a "no tolerance" issue that we have to exit stage left just because someone points out that most guys are highly optimistic in thinking that if a girl talks to him then he's got a chance?
Sure, it shows that guys are stupid but if they don't do anything but think that she might be into him...

Are you saying that most men in the gym view women primarily as sexual objects and assume the woman wants to sleep with them if she talks to them?

yep

No.
Please.
Believe it or not, some of us have the intelligence to discern and interpret motive. We're not all deluded by a notion that we are absolutely irresistible.