What nobody tells you about losing weight

jesslla wrote: »

gymprincess1234 wrote: »

kenyonhaff wrote: »

gymprincess1234 wrote: »

I don't judge other obese/overweight people, but I always wonder if I see someone grocery shopping/eating junk food - is this their cheat day? are they on weight loss? are they counting calories too? or they have given up? do thy even care? maybe they don't see it as a problem?

I think I could talk about health/fitness/weight loss all day long lol

I find myself oddly interested in other people's groceries on the conveyor belt. Some people exit with salmon, kale salad and a bottle of wine. Others are stocking up on Hot Pockets and Cheetos. Some have both!

When I used to binge regularly and just eat way over what I needed on daily basis, I was ashamed to buy the food. So I would convince myself that if I bought even more junk food, people wouldn't judge me and just think I'm hosting a house party. How messed up that is?! One of my all time greatest achievements so far has been shopping without guilt and being conscious while doing it, so I don't binge anymore.

Still made me ashamed to write this down.

I'm in the middle of my weight loss, and I still find myself going to the grocery store in the morning to buy junk food for breakfast - a frozen pizza, or tater tots, or pizza rolls. All foods that will use my daily allotment of calories in one meal, or almost. Then I skip lunch and have a light dinner. NOT HEALTHY.

And a 2-liter or two of diet Coke. I can just hear the cashier judging me ("you know the diet coke doesn't do anything when you eat two thousand calories of pizza right?")

No one judges me as harshly as I judge myself though. I know I need to stop, it's a waste of money, a waste of time (I do it most weekdays if I can), and a waste of calories.

I have no idea how to stop. I'm going to bring it up in therapy as I know it's related to why I gained weight in the first place (why I am driven to eat too much).

And to be on-topic: it is amazing how much less padding you have in your knees after you lose weight. I have slim legs, even though I'm still a hundred pounds overweight, and I can't sleep with my knees together anymore. I have to have them offset a bit. I can't imagine what it'll be like when I reach goal!

Just going to say... obviously eating pizza and stuff every day isn't the healthiest, but eating 1 big meal and 2 smaller meals isn't harmful if you are happy doing it that way. A lot of people who do IF do 1 big meal, or 2 medium meals and skip one completely, etc... so maybe don't be so hard on yourself about eating most of your calories in 1 meal, and try to fit in some extra veggies somewhere instead.

I have a side dish of dressing with my salad and only dip my fork in the dressing before scooping the salad. This gives you the flavour of the dressing without drenching the salad. Barley use a teaspoon of dressing this way.

Volendral wrote: »

How much I've started enjoying salads without any dressing. It used to be I had to drench it with ranch or whatever dressing was on hand. Now I find enjoyment in just the taste of the salad itself.

Also how often I'd need to get new belts. It got to the point where I finally just bought one that has holes all throughout it.

I bought a $10 belt hold punch on amazon. It has a rotating head so you can pick the size of the hole you want.

Negatives,
Something no one told me would happen and my #1 greatest annoyance after losing just shy of 1/3 of my body weight….. (~115kg down to 79kg, 178cm)
The seemingly endless stream of friends (& friends of friends) saying ‘oh yeah I could lose weight like you did if I wanted to, but I am happy right now and I lose weight _so_ easily’
Same crowd that now, after I’ve been lifting weights at the gym for 18months, say ‘oh yeah I could put on muscle so easily, it is easy for me – but I don’t want to look big’
My main issue with these people is actually that it will never be me that starts the conversation about my weight loss and it is almost a dig at me to suggest I am _still_ inferior them somehow and they need to head this off in front of their friends/partners. Truth is they hate the way they look and have a depressingly inaccurate idea of how ‘easy’ any of this is - and that is sad.
Same thing with co-workers who are instantly experts in everything health & fitness when they notice a change in you, endless barrage of why and how you are doing things wrong – despite it _clearly_ working.
The struggle of seeing close friends unable to escape the hold of obesity

Positives,
My weightloss also gave me the strength and confidence to leave a horrible, abusive and controlling marriage – that was a very tricky and unexpected side effect.
I have a significantly better relationship with food – it’s a daily battle, but I understand it. Before this I did not understand it at all.
The attention – yes it is nice after such a long time of being seen as the fat guy.
Being approached by others to help them.

brookielaw wrote: »

You will still likely have your pre-weight loss hangups. I still have to take off my shoes and any possible article of clothing when I get on the scale at the doctor's office. I still worry about a lecture for whatever fluctuation has happened. I still occasionally try to "fix" the fluctuations and upticks before a doctor's appointment with short-term solutions and actions.

SOME people will magically treat you better, which can be disheartening in a weird way. There will still be people who will look down on you for having ever been the size that you were, too. I felt that way recently when dealing with some of my medical team. It felt kind of like 'damned if you do, damned if you don't.'

In fairness it may just be that I am being super sensitive at the moment but it's my perception and I own it.

Sounds like it was a bit of a stressful doctor's appt. *HUGS* Whether people look down on you or don't (they probably don't, BTW, everyone is usually too caught up in their own stuff to pay as much attention to us as we think they do) you've come a really long way! Hope your day got better after that.

That when I'm regularly exercising I crave sugar less.

The last couple months have been the busiest of the year, with 14 hour shifts. Work involves an easy 10k steps, and lifting several pounds periodically, so I haven't felt bad leaving workouts by the wayside. I have, however, felt bad. Cranky, irritable, exhausted, and most of all, I have been craving all the sweets. All of them. When I'm at the bakery I've been fiending hard for broken cookies, cake samples, the occasional mini cream puff. I'd been taking sugar in my coffee, which I never do.

Started up workouts again on Monday and realized that in those two days, nothing at the bakery was even remotely tempting. Not one bite. I've been wanting my good old black coffee. I sat down with Halo Top last night expecting to feast on the whole pint and my sweet tooth maxed out at the 1/2 cup portion. I did want a rich chocolate coconut macaroon that's barely sweetened and made with dark dark cocoa and coconut, and what I wanted especially was the coconut. Whatever my body was craving in sweets, it seems to be getting in exercise, and what it wants in food is something totally else. The habits of 3 months were usurped in less than three days. Weird!

This bodes well since tomorrow starts my 2nd round of Whole30!

amusedmonkey wrote: »

glennagael wrote: »

That when I'm regularly exercising I crave sugar less.

The last couple months have been the busiest of the year, with 14 hour shifts. Work involves an easy 10k steps, and lifting several pounds periodically, so I haven't felt bad leaving workouts by the wayside. I have, however, felt bad. Cranky, irritable, exhausted, and most of all, I have been craving all the sweets. All of them. When I'm at the bakery I've been fiending hard for broken cookies, cake samples, the occasional mini cream puff. I'd been taking sugar in my coffee, which I never do.

Started up workouts again on Monday and realized that in those two days, nothing at the bakery was even remotely tempting. Not one bite. I've been wanting my good old black coffee. I sat down with Halo Top last night expecting to feast on the whole pint and my sweet tooth maxed out at the 1/2 cup portion. I did want a rich chocolate coconut macaroon that's barely sweetened and made with dark dark cocoa and coconut, and what I wanted especially was the coconut. Whatever my body was craving in sweets, it seems to be getting in exercise, and what it wants in food is something totally else. The habits of 3 months were usurped in less than three days. Weird!

This bodes well since tomorrow starts my 2nd round of Whole30!

How different people are! I don't find myself eating sweets daily, but when I do I notice it usually coincides with higher activity days more often than not.

Iv never wanted icecream or donuts mroe thn after lifting. Unfortunatly for me im a mover LOL

I never thought about weight loss in my hands. My engagement ring that fit when he proposed in November just slid off my finger the other day when I went to put socks on.

If you are good at planning and like to work out, you can still eat a whole pack of crisps and be in caloric deficit.