How do you date in 2018?
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Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
This is a good question. Really. Dating apps put people who are like minded but far apart readily together. Making it seem like a compatible relationship...in 2018 how does distance play into Dating? How far apart is everyone here willing to "reach" for love/hookups/whatever your bag is.1 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
Lets see, just outside of Columbus Ohio to Halifax NS (about 2,200 km/1400 miles). We only managed to see each other in person 3-4 times,4-7 days at a time
that is a long distance and OH EM GEE. I never find anyone thats only 2 hrs from me! I am in Cincy. Nevermind, shes the one close to me LOL
I dated a coworker in Halifax.
Yes, thats rough2 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
This is a good question. Really. Dating apps put people who are like minded but far apart readily together. Making it seem like a compatible relationship...in 2018 how does distance play into Dating? How far apart is everyone here willing to "reach" for love/hookups/whatever your bag is.
Now I only look for women within 60km from me, though I am sure I would be okay with further, if they contacted me first and we hit it off1 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
Lets see, just outside of Columbus Ohio to Halifax NS (about 2,200 km/1400 miles). We only managed to see each other in person 3-4 times,4-7 days at a time
that is a long distance and OH EM GEE. I never find anyone thats only 2 hrs from me! I am in Cincy.
I dated a coworker in Halifax.
Yes, thats rough
Lol, in the grand scheme of that distance, pretty close to you!
Small world... Too bad the locations weren't reversed, Lol1 -
I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
I'm in my 50s too but I'm fat and I don't think you'd want to smooch me or buy me fried chicken with rice and beans with your multiple incomes. We could never lie down on the couch together, or in the back seat of one of your many vehicles, and discuss 70s film and 80s hairdos. Dammit. What if I wear eyeliner and a girdle and spritz with some Summer's Eve? What if I lie and tell you I own instead of rent? What's the harm. Oh well. I'll just have to settle for daydreaming, fantasizing about men like you and all the joy and depth of emotion I'll never share with you.
Come here you. I'll buy you some fried chicken and we can get a bigger couch to eat that fried chicken and ice cream on.1 -
My first husband and I split up in 2012. I'm a shift worker and refused to date co-workers/officers so I went online "Zoosk". This dating site originated on Facebook. It's the app where my younger brother met his lovely wife. With my background in policing, I was easily able to weed out the "losers and fraudsters". I met my second husband on this site and we've been together for over 5 years now.7
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Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
This is a good question. Really. Dating apps put people who are like minded but far apart readily together. Making it seem like a compatible relationship...in 2018 how does distance play into Dating? How far apart is everyone here willing to "reach" for love/hookups/whatever your bag is.
Well I began, with a 10 mile radius; simply because I rely, upon public transportation! Unbeknownst at the time to me though the 1st man that I took an interest within was only 3 miles, 1 bus distance, the bus stop was literally next to his house & I'd pass it every week going grocery shopping, which he also resides closest to but he dislikes me!
A man, via the Bronx; visited my profile upon Okcupid & he was interesting enough for me to seriously consider him, so I made the difficult decision; to seek within the continental US! However as we were within the midst, of us discussing my coming to see him; he ghosted me!
I'd never, consider long distance; for sex but I'd consider sex, if he's unable to build a relationship normally; like he's a military man & transferring's a constant issue but my only aim's a relationship!1 -
I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
I'm in my 50s too but I'm fat and I don't think you'd want to smooch me or buy me fried chicken with rice and beans with your multiple incomes. We could never lie down on the couch together, or in the back seat of one of your many vehicles, and discuss 70s film and 80s hairdos. Dammit. What if I wear eyeliner and a girdle and spritz with some Summer's Eve? What if I lie and tell you I own instead of rent? What's the harm. Oh well. I'll just have to settle for daydreaming, fantasizing about men like you and all the joy and depth of emotion I'll never share with you.
Wow, bitter much? I am happy that you will never share anything with me...I feel like I need a shower with gasoline and steel wool just reading your dribble.4 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
This is a good question. Really. Dating apps put people who are like minded but far apart readily together. Making it seem like a compatible relationship...in 2018 how does distance play into Dating? How far apart is everyone here willing to "reach" for love/hookups/whatever your bag is.
I would say an hr'ish drive.
That would give us the weekends to see each other.
Makes it also not impossible to have a week night dinner.1 -
If you find out please let me know.0
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I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
I'm in my 50s too but I'm fat and I don't think you'd want to smooch me or buy me fried chicken with rice and beans with your multiple incomes. We could never lie down on the couch together, or in the back seat of one of your many vehicles, and discuss 70s film and 80s hairdos. Dammit. What if I wear eyeliner and a girdle and spritz with some Summer's Eve? What if I lie and tell you I own instead of rent? What's the harm. Oh well. I'll just have to settle for daydreaming, fantasizing about men like you and all the joy and depth of emotion I'll never share with you.
Wow, bitter much? I am happy that you will never share anything with me...I feel like I need a shower with gasoline and steel wool just reading your dribble.
heck, your face made me want to do that to myself.1 -
I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
I'm in my 50s too but I'm fat and I don't think you'd want to smooch me or buy me fried chicken with rice and beans with your multiple incomes. We could never lie down on the couch together, or in the back seat of one of your many vehicles, and discuss 70s film and 80s hairdos. Dammit. What if I wear eyeliner and a girdle and spritz with some Summer's Eve? What if I lie and tell you I own instead of rent? What's the harm. Oh well. I'll just have to settle for daydreaming, fantasizing about men like you and all the joy and depth of emotion I'll never share with you.
Wow, bitter much? I am happy that you will never share anything with me...I feel like I need a shower with gasoline and steel wool just reading your dribble.
heck, your face made me want to do that to myself.
Right back atcha!0 -
I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
#humblebrag #Ibetyou'refunatparties #hashtagsdon'tworkhere1 -
I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
I'm in my 50s too but I'm fat and I don't think you'd want to smooch me or buy me fried chicken with rice and beans with your multiple incomes. We could never lie down on the couch together, or in the back seat of one of your many vehicles, and discuss 70s film and 80s hairdos. Dammit. What if I wear eyeliner and a girdle and spritz with some Summer's Eve? What if I lie and tell you I own instead of rent? What's the harm. Oh well. I'll just have to settle for daydreaming, fantasizing about men like you and all the joy and depth of emotion I'll never share with you.
Wow, bitter much? I am happy that you will never share anything with me...I feel like I need a shower with gasoline and steel wool just reading your dribble.
heck, your face made me want to do that to myself.
Right back atcha!
dude quit being a dick, also you 100% look like you're in your 50's3 -
CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
I'm in my 50s too but I'm fat and I don't think you'd want to smooch me or buy me fried chicken with rice and beans with your multiple incomes. We could never lie down on the couch together, or in the back seat of one of your many vehicles, and discuss 70s film and 80s hairdos. Dammit. What if I wear eyeliner and a girdle and spritz with some Summer's Eve? What if I lie and tell you I own instead of rent? What's the harm. Oh well. I'll just have to settle for daydreaming, fantasizing about men like you and all the joy and depth of emotion I'll never share with you.
Wow, bitter much? I am happy that you will never share anything with me...I feel like I need a shower with gasoline and steel wool just reading your dribble.
heck, your face made me want to do that to myself.
Right back atcha!
dude quit being a dick
I'm not being a dick, i was being attacked for sharing a point of view. Just shows how much ignorance there is in these threads.0 -
I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
I'm in my 50s too but I'm fat and I don't think you'd want to smooch me or buy me fried chicken with rice and beans with your multiple incomes. We could never lie down on the couch together, or in the back seat of one of your many vehicles, and discuss 70s film and 80s hairdos. Dammit. What if I wear eyeliner and a girdle and spritz with some Summer's Eve? What if I lie and tell you I own instead of rent? What's the harm. Oh well. I'll just have to settle for daydreaming, fantasizing about men like you and all the joy and depth of emotion I'll never share with you.
Wow, bitter much? I am happy that you will never share anything with me...I feel like I need a shower with gasoline and steel wool just reading your dribble.
heck, your face made me want to do that to myself.
Right back atcha!
dude quit being a dick
I'm not being a dick, i was being attacked for sharing a point of view. Just shows how much ignorance there is in these threads.
"attacked" "point of view" "Ignorance"
you literally just told someone you'd mutilate yourself instead of visiting them. then told someone else to mutilate themselves.
that's being a dick.
Slow your role bro4 -
CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
I'm in my 50s too but I'm fat and I don't think you'd want to smooch me or buy me fried chicken with rice and beans with your multiple incomes. We could never lie down on the couch together, or in the back seat of one of your many vehicles, and discuss 70s film and 80s hairdos. Dammit. What if I wear eyeliner and a girdle and spritz with some Summer's Eve? What if I lie and tell you I own instead of rent? What's the harm. Oh well. I'll just have to settle for daydreaming, fantasizing about men like you and all the joy and depth of emotion I'll never share with you.
Wow, bitter much? I am happy that you will never share anything with me...I feel like I need a shower with gasoline and steel wool just reading your dribble.
heck, your face made me want to do that to myself.
Right back atcha!
dude quit being a dick
I'm not being a dick, i was being attacked for sharing a point of view. Just shows how much ignorance there is in these threads.
"attacked" "point of view" "Ignorance"
you literally just told someone you'd mutilate yourself instead of visiting them. then told someone else to mutilate themselves.
that's being a dick.
Slow your role bro
Wow... you really can't comprehend anything can you? You said set myself on fire and set someone else on fire then you edited it. You should really just stop posting because you are being a dick...Bro!2 -
anyways if anyone figures out this dating thing do me a favor and let me know! I'd be interested in finding out.0
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I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
Buffalo nickel says you get a half dozen DMs just from posting that little tidbit of info right there.
Actually nope not a single one. I didn't post that to get DMs, I was being honest and sharing my point of view.
I'm sure your profile at least got a lot more hits today.0 -
Okay we're all singles here from very different walks of life and with different values. Let's be friends, seriously. I appreciate you all, even if I wouldn't have sex with you maybe. My comment was tongue in cheek and (I thought) equally self deprecating as it was sarcastically obnoxious. No harm, no foul, please. I was just throwing a curve ball instead of an easy pitch. Us bitter 50 something year old fatty gals are good at that and we love it. Let us have our simple pleasures. But also, let's keep this thread going and not get it shut down. Sorry if I offended.
I regret responding the way I did, I didn't read it the way you intended it to be read. I certainly didn't mean to come off as high and mighty or braggadocious. I too am sorry if I offended anyone with my comments.4 -
I want to get off the planet3
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Okay we're all singles here from very different walks of life and with different values. Let's be friends, seriously. I appreciate you all, even if I wouldn't have sex with you maybe. My comment was tongue in cheek and (I thought) equally self deprecating as it was sarcastically obnoxious. No harm, no foul, please. I was just throwing a curve ball instead of an easy pitch. Us bitter 50 something year old fatty gals are good at that and we love it. Let us have our simple pleasures. But also, let's keep this thread going and not get it shut down. Sorry if I offended.
so no chicken and cuddles?
dangit
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I've tried dating apps, they suck IMO.
That being said, there have been a couple guys I've "met" online through FB or FB groups who, if we lived closer, I would totally date. Unfortunately at this point they're on the other side of the country, but I did meet the one guy when I was out there visiting family and we really hit it off *sad face as I had to head back home*
These are usually people I meet through motorcycle groups, the one I met through a pilon fracture group, but he's a dirt biker, so that's kind of what kicked that off.
Now, if I could find some guys closer to me, that would be grrrreeeaaaattt.2 -
Okay we're all singles here from very different walks of life and with different values. Let's be friends, seriously. I appreciate you all, even if I wouldn't have sex with you maybe. My comment was tongue in cheek and (I thought) equally self deprecating as it was sarcastically obnoxious. No harm, no foul, please. I was just throwing a curve ball instead of an easy pitch. Us bitter 50 something year old fatty gals are good at that and we love it. Let us have our simple pleasures. But also, let's keep this thread going and not get it shut down. Sorry if I offended.
so no chicken and cuddles?
dangit
I am sure she would still be up for that! otherwise, you could still cuddle your dog and still have the chicken... mmm chicken!0 -
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Less quality women. Want to know where all the good men gave gone. Too many women looking to trade up the second they think a better option comes along. Men are tired of it. Tired of paying child support. Tired of losing half our assets when we get divorced. Tired of dying earlier. Tired of working longer hours only to be publicly flogged as "less quality" ...plenty of good men out here. Many are just opting out.
I blame the slogan..."I won't settle." Which is fine for those with desirable traits, but don't expect 6'2" six pack and making 200k Prince charming to come along and date 100% of the single population. Here's a clue. Those men have the women they want. Those men represent less than 1% of the male population. So be very careful with how you define "quality men". Women were once very angry about having to live up to a "Barbie standard" (and rightfully so to be angry...thats unrealistic)...but we need to start having some realistic expectations and conversations about what makes a quality man.
The end.[/quote]
I agree and disagree with your post. I believe women are starting to hold men to higher standards, but that could also be because a few fk boys screwed it up for the rest of you. If a guy portrays himself as all of these things and keeps up the act long enough to get into her pants she will start to believe he really exists.
I for one never thought my standards were super unattainable, because I would never ask of someone else something I couldn’t ask of myself. Honesty is my biggest Quality I look for. If something goes wrong tell me early so that we can deal with it together instead of letting the mess get bigger and telling me when it’s too late.
I’m not gonna ask a guy to be superfit and have a six pack when I know I’m not. Not gonna ask you to have $100,000+ /year when I don’t but I will ask that he not Live paycheck to paycheck because it something I won’t be able to live with. Especially if we share bills. @ 5”3 Everyone is taller than me.0 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
This is a good question. Really. Dating apps put people who are like minded but far apart readily together. Making it seem like a compatible relationship...in 2018 how does distance play into Dating? How far apart is everyone here willing to "reach" for love/hookups/whatever your bag is.
Agreed. The internet makes the world much smaller in terms of making others more accessible. However, it's not only distance which is the hurdle. Time, other people, work, and most importantly finances come into play. Add to it that it's one thing to text, Skype/Facetime, someone. But, if you want/need a hug, newer long-distance relationships lack that.
I once got involved with a gal that's 1,000 miles from me. Flew down to meet her in person and spend the weekend with her. She then made the comment of "when you fly me back to your place over the next few months" put the final nail in the coffin. We both make decent salaries. But, if I am paying for my flight down, she better pay for hers up. I already had a wife who basically was a freeloader at the end of our marriage. Not doing it again. The other deal breakers were allergies to animals, perfume and dust. I walked in her house and almost went into respiratory issues from it all.0 -
Well I have went from serious relationship to serious relationship almost non stop since 1995. I have never really done the single dating scene. Now here I am in 2018 41 single and not really knowing how to do it! I live in a small town and the pickings are slim! I don’t even really know how to ask someone out. It’s a frustrating spot to be in but at the same time I am enjoying not having the pressure and responsibilities of being in a relationship! I still think deep down I don’t really like the thought of being alone since I’ve never really done it! I tried a dating app but I found that it isn’t really for me! I think the women on those sites get bombarded with messages from guys and if you aren’t real smooth or suave you aren’t getting a response! Idk not for me! There is a band playing tomorrow night and would love to have someone to go with but I look through my phone, Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram accounts and I’m like dang! There is nobody to ask! I don’t know I saw this thread and thought maybe this is where people will share my frustration. Anyways you all have a good night!4
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I know I need to see what to do also. I haven’t dated in over 20 years. Ugh...I’m sure things have changed a bit.0
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LOL Man, I hope I never have to find out! I haven’t dated since 1977.1
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Ready2befithealthy wrote: »I know I need to see what to do also. I haven’t dated in over 20 years. Ugh...I’m sure things have changed a bit.
Yep, was a shocker to me when finding myself single again after 20+ years. Things changed, a lot!1
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