How to approach girls in the gym???

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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
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    Say "Good morning" with a big smile when you see her. Then based on her reaction you should get an idea of how to proceed.
    I used to speak to no one at the gym. No one. Now I have made friends that I will go out with outside of the gym, I know about their families, their jobs, etc. I go to the gym to get *kitten* done and anyone there that knows me would say that I am one of the hardest working people there, but that doesn't mean I don't have time to be friendly. Yes, my time is limited and I work out hard, but I have learned a ton by being open to speaking to other people.
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    Responding to the bold - so what if I don't need or want interaction with someone else at the gym - on MY time. I have plenty of work to do before I'm anywhere near "perfect". Your forced interaction isn't going to bring any more quality to my life, let alone my workout. It would be different if I was sitting at a bar, looking around, making eye contact at people. I have to be social at my job all day, constantly being interrupted or solving problems for other people - you better believe when I'm at the gym I'm having the experience I want. ME TIME.

    I don't need or want a tip on form, if my form is *kitten* for a rep, I know it is, I'm aware if there's a hole in my pants, if my shoes untied - I meant it to be. And my time is precious. I will never understand why people get mad if other people don't want to have the same experience they do. Maybe they are having their own experience, and I doubt you'd like it being forced on you as well.

    lol what a ridiculous comment.
    JoRocka wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    I genuinely feel sorry for single men. There's so many social situations they're expected to navigate and they feel like they're wrong no matter what they do.

    Considering I've been harassed on the street since I was like 14- I don't feel all that bad.

    Yes, this would make a difference, I suppose. I've never been harassed so I can't speak for everyone. I just didn't see what he was wanting to do as harassment, but I guess I could see why others might take it that way.

    You appear to be a grown good looking woman. I have a hard time believing you have NEVER ever been whistled at- cat called or leered at in public.
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    erm- maybe they have social anxiety? maybe they are having a bad day- maybe their dad just died- maybe they are in a hurry and don't have time to chat- maybe they are doing interval training and can't actually talk (had that happen before- someone got super huffy- I was USING A BLOODY TIMER that beeped at 10 and 40 second intervals- it was 12 minutes of work- GO AWAY)

    I am a very social person- I generally don't understand the "I never ever talk to people at the gym" mentality- because I'm just way to effing social for that- but there are days- where no- I don't want to talk to anyone- I don't have time to get wrapped up in a conversation- and there is no guarantee that "hey man what's up" won't turn into a flipping 20 min discussion about why your leg hurts. So sometimes yes- it's safer to not talk. But that doesn't mean people who don't talk to other people think they are perfect- there are a whole HOST of reasons why and it isn't always about some one being aloof.

    There is room in the middle my friend.

    if people dont wanna talk to other people coz they think other people got nothing to offer them that’s f-ed up

    thats what i get from what @lstrat115 said

    dont be so easily offended

    That's not what I got from what he posted. And I'm entitled to my opinion. And you're entitled to your own. I'm not "so easily offended"- I'm merely pointing out other options and why people might not want to be talked to at the gym that have NOTHING to do with elitism. I literally have no dog in this fight- I'm happily married.

    Assuming people don't want to talk to you because YOU think they are thinking they are better than you- is pretty self centered. Life isn't about you- sometimes people don't think they are better than you- sometimes they are just wrapped up in their own ish.

    *she

    This is why i love the banana. People assume that I am a guy and read what I say in a different tone/manner. I knew I was stirring up trouble, but i just couldn't help myself ;)

    haha - I read your response with you being a "she". Stirring up trouble makes the day more interesting. I wish sarcasm was better interpreted through text vs. explicitly saying I'M BEING SARCASTIC :D:D

    I got you this for Valentines day. I drew it myself. It took me hours.

    c00qxsguh5d6.jpg

    You really didn't have to do that! I love it!

    ofchziq6uchm.gif

    Are you being sarcastic?

    Since we're on the internet, it's probably best if you just interpret my personality and tell me how I feel while reading some lines of text.

    Save us both a lot of confusion, you know?

    Then no. <3<3<3<3<3

    I'm so glad we got past our first fight and came out ok. I'm also glad you enjoy my bird arm drawing. It's taken me awhile to get that good but you're welcome.

    I was conflicted - but your drawing won me over. If only we'd met in the gym, we could have contributed to this post. Next time.

    My drawings are amazing. But enough about me. Tell me more about you. What are your hobbies and interested?
    How many cats do you have? What is your favorite pizza? Do you know Kevin?

    Hobbies - running with my shoes untied while texting on my cell phone on a treadmill. Interest, my cats. I have 17 cats, all sleep in bed with me. I don't eat pizza, because it's "junk/bad" food. I only eat Kale. I know Kevin - he better pay me back if he know's what's good for him.

    If you know Kevin - tell him what I just said. Thanks.

    HOLY *love* *love*!!!! You know Kevin!!! I've been looking for him for awhile now. When was the last time you saw him?

    What's your favorite Kale recipe? I love Kale chips.

    Why do you have so many cats, do you have a big place. Anything under 1000 should not have more than 2 cats. For every 500 square feet after 1000, you can add one cat. So a home that is 1500 square feet, you can usually house 3 cats comfortably.

    @lstrat115

    Ok, so you caught me in a lie. I only have 1 wiener dog, he's pretty much a cat. But I WISH I HAD 17. I beg to differ on a square footage requirement, if you add ramps and runways that run the perimeter of the ceiling, you can easily add more ruckus space.

    As for kale, my recipe is simple, it only has 3 steps:

    1. open the garbage lid
    2. throw the entire thing of kale in
    3. go get your favorite pizza

    Enjoy.

    aelsm0tjovhd.jpg

    Savage response.. Pizza with sausage & pepperoni good to go?

    Completely. Solid choice. I might be flagged for this, but pineapple is also good to go o:):)>:)

    Wait.

    Pineapple ?


    Post Reported.
  • brittyn3
    brittyn3 Posts: 481 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
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    lstrat115 wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Say "Good morning" with a big smile when you see her. Then based on her reaction you should get an idea of how to proceed.
    I used to speak to no one at the gym. No one. Now I have made friends that I will go out with outside of the gym, I know about their families, their jobs, etc. I go to the gym to get *kitten* done and anyone there that knows me would say that I am one of the hardest working people there, but that doesn't mean I don't have time to be friendly. Yes, my time is limited and I work out hard, but I have learned a ton by being open to speaking to other people.
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    Responding to the bold - so what if I don't need or want interaction with someone else at the gym - on MY time. I have plenty of work to do before I'm anywhere near "perfect". Your forced interaction isn't going to bring any more quality to my life, let alone my workout. It would be different if I was sitting at a bar, looking around, making eye contact at people. I have to be social at my job all day, constantly being interrupted or solving problems for other people - you better believe when I'm at the gym I'm having the experience I want. ME TIME.

    I don't need or want a tip on form, if my form is *kitten* for a rep, I know it is, I'm aware if there's a hole in my pants, if my shoes untied - I meant it to be. And my time is precious. I will never understand why people get mad if other people don't want to have the same experience they do. Maybe they are having their own experience, and I doubt you'd like it being forced on you as well.

    lol what a ridiculous comment.
    JoRocka wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    I genuinely feel sorry for single men. There's so many social situations they're expected to navigate and they feel like they're wrong no matter what they do.

    Considering I've been harassed on the street since I was like 14- I don't feel all that bad.

    Yes, this would make a difference, I suppose. I've never been harassed so I can't speak for everyone. I just didn't see what he was wanting to do as harassment, but I guess I could see why others might take it that way.

    You appear to be a grown good looking woman. I have a hard time believing you have NEVER ever been whistled at- cat called or leered at in public.
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    erm- maybe they have social anxiety? maybe they are having a bad day- maybe their dad just died- maybe they are in a hurry and don't have time to chat- maybe they are doing interval training and can't actually talk (had that happen before- someone got super huffy- I was USING A BLOODY TIMER that beeped at 10 and 40 second intervals- it was 12 minutes of work- GO AWAY)

    I am a very social person- I generally don't understand the "I never ever talk to people at the gym" mentality- because I'm just way to effing social for that- but there are days- where no- I don't want to talk to anyone- I don't have time to get wrapped up in a conversation- and there is no guarantee that "hey man what's up" won't turn into a flipping 20 min discussion about why your leg hurts. So sometimes yes- it's safer to not talk. But that doesn't mean people who don't talk to other people think they are perfect- there are a whole HOST of reasons why and it isn't always about some one being aloof.

    There is room in the middle my friend.

    if people dont wanna talk to other people coz they think other people got nothing to offer them that’s f-ed up

    thats what i get from what @lstrat115 said

    dont be so easily offended

    That's not what I got from what he posted. And I'm entitled to my opinion. And you're entitled to your own. I'm not "so easily offended"- I'm merely pointing out other options and why people might not want to be talked to at the gym that have NOTHING to do with elitism. I literally have no dog in this fight- I'm happily married.

    Assuming people don't want to talk to you because YOU think they are thinking they are better than you- is pretty self centered. Life isn't about you- sometimes people don't think they are better than you- sometimes they are just wrapped up in their own ish.

    *she

    This is why i love the banana. People assume that I am a guy and read what I say in a different tone/manner. I knew I was stirring up trouble, but i just couldn't help myself ;)

    haha - I read your response with you being a "she". Stirring up trouble makes the day more interesting. I wish sarcasm was better interpreted through text vs. explicitly saying I'M BEING SARCASTIC :D:D

    I got you this for Valentines day. I drew it myself. It took me hours.

    c00qxsguh5d6.jpg

    You really didn't have to do that! I love it!

    ofchziq6uchm.gif

    Are you being sarcastic?

    Since we're on the internet, it's probably best if you just interpret my personality and tell me how I feel while reading some lines of text.

    Save us both a lot of confusion, you know?

    Then no. <3<3<3<3<3

    I'm so glad we got past our first fight and came out ok. I'm also glad you enjoy my bird arm drawing. It's taken me awhile to get that good but you're welcome.

    I was conflicted - but your drawing won me over. If only we'd met in the gym, we could have contributed to this post. Next time.

    My drawings are amazing. But enough about me. Tell me more about you. What are your hobbies and interested?
    How many cats do you have? What is your favorite pizza? Do you know Kevin?

    Hobbies - running with my shoes untied while texting on my cell phone on a treadmill. Interest, my cats. I have 17 cats, all sleep in bed with me. I don't eat pizza, because it's "junk/bad" food. I only eat Kale. I know Kevin - he better pay me back if he know's what's good for him.

    If you know Kevin - tell him what I just said. Thanks.

    HOLY *love* *love*!!!! You know Kevin!!! I've been looking for him for awhile now. When was the last time you saw him?

    What's your favorite Kale recipe? I love Kale chips.

    Why do you have so many cats, do you have a big place. Anything under 1000 should not have more than 2 cats. For every 500 square feet after 1000, you can add one cat. So a home that is 1500 square feet, you can usually house 3 cats comfortably.

    @lstrat115

    Ok, so you caught me in a lie. I only have 1 wiener dog, he's pretty much a cat. But I WISH I HAD 17. I beg to differ on a square footage requirement, if you add ramps and runways that run the perimeter of the ceiling, you can easily add more ruckus space.

    As for kale, my recipe is simple, it only has 3 steps:

    1. open the garbage lid
    2. throw the entire thing of kale in
    3. go get your favorite pizza

    Enjoy.

    aelsm0tjovhd.jpg

    Savage response.. Pizza with sausage & pepperoni good to go?

    Completely. Solid choice. I might be flagged for this, but pineapple is also good to go o:):)>:)

    Wait.

    Pineapple ?


    Post Reported.

    You're one of those people that likes to watch the world burn... aren't you. AREN'T YOU!

    #pineapplepizzalover
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Say "Good morning" with a big smile when you see her. Then based on her reaction you should get an idea of how to proceed.
    I used to speak to no one at the gym. No one. Now I have made friends that I will go out with outside of the gym, I know about their families, their jobs, etc. I go to the gym to get *kitten* done and anyone there that knows me would say that I am one of the hardest working people there, but that doesn't mean I don't have time to be friendly. Yes, my time is limited and I work out hard, but I have learned a ton by being open to speaking to other people.
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    Responding to the bold - so what if I don't need or want interaction with someone else at the gym - on MY time. I have plenty of work to do before I'm anywhere near "perfect". Your forced interaction isn't going to bring any more quality to my life, let alone my workout. It would be different if I was sitting at a bar, looking around, making eye contact at people. I have to be social at my job all day, constantly being interrupted or solving problems for other people - you better believe when I'm at the gym I'm having the experience I want. ME TIME.

    I don't need or want a tip on form, if my form is *kitten* for a rep, I know it is, I'm aware if there's a hole in my pants, if my shoes untied - I meant it to be. And my time is precious. I will never understand why people get mad if other people don't want to have the same experience they do. Maybe they are having their own experience, and I doubt you'd like it being forced on you as well.

    lol what a ridiculous comment.
    JoRocka wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    I genuinely feel sorry for single men. There's so many social situations they're expected to navigate and they feel like they're wrong no matter what they do.

    Considering I've been harassed on the street since I was like 14- I don't feel all that bad.

    Yes, this would make a difference, I suppose. I've never been harassed so I can't speak for everyone. I just didn't see what he was wanting to do as harassment, but I guess I could see why others might take it that way.

    You appear to be a grown good looking woman. I have a hard time believing you have NEVER ever been whistled at- cat called or leered at in public.
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    erm- maybe they have social anxiety? maybe they are having a bad day- maybe their dad just died- maybe they are in a hurry and don't have time to chat- maybe they are doing interval training and can't actually talk (had that happen before- someone got super huffy- I was USING A BLOODY TIMER that beeped at 10 and 40 second intervals- it was 12 minutes of work- GO AWAY)

    I am a very social person- I generally don't understand the "I never ever talk to people at the gym" mentality- because I'm just way to effing social for that- but there are days- where no- I don't want to talk to anyone- I don't have time to get wrapped up in a conversation- and there is no guarantee that "hey man what's up" won't turn into a flipping 20 min discussion about why your leg hurts. So sometimes yes- it's safer to not talk. But that doesn't mean people who don't talk to other people think they are perfect- there are a whole HOST of reasons why and it isn't always about some one being aloof.

    There is room in the middle my friend.

    if people dont wanna talk to other people coz they think other people got nothing to offer them that’s f-ed up

    thats what i get from what @lstrat115 said

    dont be so easily offended

    That's not what I got from what he posted. And I'm entitled to my opinion. And you're entitled to your own. I'm not "so easily offended"- I'm merely pointing out other options and why people might not want to be talked to at the gym that have NOTHING to do with elitism. I literally have no dog in this fight- I'm happily married.

    Assuming people don't want to talk to you because YOU think they are thinking they are better than you- is pretty self centered. Life isn't about you- sometimes people don't think they are better than you- sometimes they are just wrapped up in their own ish.

    *she

    This is why i love the banana. People assume that I am a guy and read what I say in a different tone/manner. I knew I was stirring up trouble, but i just couldn't help myself ;)

    haha - I read your response with you being a "she". Stirring up trouble makes the day more interesting. I wish sarcasm was better interpreted through text vs. explicitly saying I'M BEING SARCASTIC :D:D

    I got you this for Valentines day. I drew it myself. It took me hours.

    c00qxsguh5d6.jpg

    You really didn't have to do that! I love it!

    ofchziq6uchm.gif

    Are you being sarcastic?

    Since we're on the internet, it's probably best if you just interpret my personality and tell me how I feel while reading some lines of text.

    Save us both a lot of confusion, you know?

    Then no. <3<3<3<3<3

    I'm so glad we got past our first fight and came out ok. I'm also glad you enjoy my bird arm drawing. It's taken me awhile to get that good but you're welcome.

    I was conflicted - but your drawing won me over. If only we'd met in the gym, we could have contributed to this post. Next time.

    My drawings are amazing. But enough about me. Tell me more about you. What are your hobbies and interested?
    How many cats do you have? What is your favorite pizza? Do you know Kevin?

    Hobbies - running with my shoes untied while texting on my cell phone on a treadmill. Interest, my cats. I have 17 cats, all sleep in bed with me. I don't eat pizza, because it's "junk/bad" food. I only eat Kale. I know Kevin - he better pay me back if he know's what's good for him.

    If you know Kevin - tell him what I just said. Thanks.

    HOLY *love* *love*!!!! You know Kevin!!! I've been looking for him for awhile now. When was the last time you saw him?

    What's your favorite Kale recipe? I love Kale chips.

    Why do you have so many cats, do you have a big place. Anything under 1000 should not have more than 2 cats. For every 500 square feet after 1000, you can add one cat. So a home that is 1500 square feet, you can usually house 3 cats comfortably.

    @lstrat115

    Ok, so you caught me in a lie. I only have 1 wiener dog, he's pretty much a cat. But I WISH I HAD 17. I beg to differ on a square footage requirement, if you add ramps and runways that run the perimeter of the ceiling, you can easily add more ruckus space.

    As for kale, my recipe is simple, it only has 3 steps:

    1. open the garbage lid
    2. throw the entire thing of kale in
    3. go get your favorite pizza

    Enjoy.

    aelsm0tjovhd.jpg

    Savage response.. Pizza with sausage & pepperoni good to go?

    Completely. Solid choice. I might be flagged for this, but pineapple is also good to go o:):)>:)

    Wait.

    Pineapple ?


    Post Reported.

    You're one of those people that likes to watch the world burn... aren't you. AREN'T YOU!

    #pineapplepizzalover

    What?

    No !!


    Well..... um,

    Maybe?
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Say "Good morning" with a big smile when you see her. Then based on her reaction you should get an idea of how to proceed.
    I used to speak to no one at the gym. No one. Now I have made friends that I will go out with outside of the gym, I know about their families, their jobs, etc. I go to the gym to get *kitten* done and anyone there that knows me would say that I am one of the hardest working people there, but that doesn't mean I don't have time to be friendly. Yes, my time is limited and I work out hard, but I have learned a ton by being open to speaking to other people.
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    Responding to the bold - so what if I don't need or want interaction with someone else at the gym - on MY time. I have plenty of work to do before I'm anywhere near "perfect". Your forced interaction isn't going to bring any more quality to my life, let alone my workout. It would be different if I was sitting at a bar, looking around, making eye contact at people. I have to be social at my job all day, constantly being interrupted or solving problems for other people - you better believe when I'm at the gym I'm having the experience I want. ME TIME.

    I don't need or want a tip on form, if my form is *kitten* for a rep, I know it is, I'm aware if there's a hole in my pants, if my shoes untied - I meant it to be. And my time is precious. I will never understand why people get mad if other people don't want to have the same experience they do. Maybe they are having their own experience, and I doubt you'd like it being forced on you as well.

    lol what a ridiculous comment.
    JoRocka wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    I genuinely feel sorry for single men. There's so many social situations they're expected to navigate and they feel like they're wrong no matter what they do.

    Considering I've been harassed on the street since I was like 14- I don't feel all that bad.

    Yes, this would make a difference, I suppose. I've never been harassed so I can't speak for everyone. I just didn't see what he was wanting to do as harassment, but I guess I could see why others might take it that way.

    You appear to be a grown good looking woman. I have a hard time believing you have NEVER ever been whistled at- cat called or leered at in public.
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    erm- maybe they have social anxiety? maybe they are having a bad day- maybe their dad just died- maybe they are in a hurry and don't have time to chat- maybe they are doing interval training and can't actually talk (had that happen before- someone got super huffy- I was USING A BLOODY TIMER that beeped at 10 and 40 second intervals- it was 12 minutes of work- GO AWAY)

    I am a very social person- I generally don't understand the "I never ever talk to people at the gym" mentality- because I'm just way to effing social for that- but there are days- where no- I don't want to talk to anyone- I don't have time to get wrapped up in a conversation- and there is no guarantee that "hey man what's up" won't turn into a flipping 20 min discussion about why your leg hurts. So sometimes yes- it's safer to not talk. But that doesn't mean people who don't talk to other people think they are perfect- there are a whole HOST of reasons why and it isn't always about some one being aloof.

    There is room in the middle my friend.

    if people dont wanna talk to other people coz they think other people got nothing to offer them that’s f-ed up

    thats what i get from what @lstrat115 said

    dont be so easily offended

    That's not what I got from what he posted. And I'm entitled to my opinion. And you're entitled to your own. I'm not "so easily offended"- I'm merely pointing out other options and why people might not want to be talked to at the gym that have NOTHING to do with elitism. I literally have no dog in this fight- I'm happily married.

    Assuming people don't want to talk to you because YOU think they are thinking they are better than you- is pretty self centered. Life isn't about you- sometimes people don't think they are better than you- sometimes they are just wrapped up in their own ish.

    *she

    This is why i love the banana. People assume that I am a guy and read what I say in a different tone/manner. I knew I was stirring up trouble, but i just couldn't help myself ;)

    haha - I read your response with you being a "she". Stirring up trouble makes the day more interesting. I wish sarcasm was better interpreted through text vs. explicitly saying I'M BEING SARCASTIC :D:D

    I got you this for Valentines day. I drew it myself. It took me hours.

    c00qxsguh5d6.jpg

    You really didn't have to do that! I love it!

    ofchziq6uchm.gif

    Are you being sarcastic?

    Since we're on the internet, it's probably best if you just interpret my personality and tell me how I feel while reading some lines of text.

    Save us both a lot of confusion, you know?

    Then no. <3<3<3<3<3

    I'm so glad we got past our first fight and came out ok. I'm also glad you enjoy my bird arm drawing. It's taken me awhile to get that good but you're welcome.

    I was conflicted - but your drawing won me over. If only we'd met in the gym, we could have contributed to this post. Next time.

    My drawings are amazing. But enough about me. Tell me more about you. What are your hobbies and interested?
    How many cats do you have? What is your favorite pizza? Do you know Kevin?

    Hobbies - running with my shoes untied while texting on my cell phone on a treadmill. Interest, my cats. I have 17 cats, all sleep in bed with me. I don't eat pizza, because it's "junk/bad" food. I only eat Kale. I know Kevin - he better pay me back if he know's what's good for him.

    If you know Kevin - tell him what I just said. Thanks.

    HOLY *love* *love*!!!! You know Kevin!!! I've been looking for him for awhile now. When was the last time you saw him?

    What's your favorite Kale recipe? I love Kale chips.

    Why do you have so many cats, do you have a big place. Anything under 1000 should not have more than 2 cats. For every 500 square feet after 1000, you can add one cat. So a home that is 1500 square feet, you can usually house 3 cats comfortably.

    @lstrat115

    Ok, so you caught me in a lie. I only have 1 wiener dog, he's pretty much a cat. But I WISH I HAD 17. I beg to differ on a square footage requirement, if you add ramps and runways that run the perimeter of the ceiling, you can easily add more ruckus space.

    As for kale, my recipe is simple, it only has 3 steps:

    1. open the garbage lid
    2. throw the entire thing of kale in
    3. go get your favorite pizza

    Enjoy.

    aelsm0tjovhd.jpg

    Savage response.. Pizza with sausage & pepperoni good to go?

    Completely. Solid choice. I might be flagged for this, but pineapple is also good to go o:):)>:)

    Wait.

    Pineapple ?


    Post Reported.

    You're one of those people that likes to watch the world burn... aren't you. AREN'T YOU!

    #pineapplepizzalover

    A great pizza combination is pinapple, Canadian bacon and hot peppers.


    .... or so I've been told.

  • brittyn3
    brittyn3 Posts: 481 Member
    edited February 2018



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    Do you have these same glasses for watching the world burn?
  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,590 MFP Moderator
    brittyn3 wrote: »

    #pineapplepizzalover

    yessssss! will you join my army
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Say "Good morning" with a big smile when you see her. Then based on her reaction you should get an idea of how to proceed.
    I used to speak to no one at the gym. No one. Now I have made friends that I will go out with outside of the gym, I know about their families, their jobs, etc. I go to the gym to get *kitten* done and anyone there that knows me would say that I am one of the hardest working people there, but that doesn't mean I don't have time to be friendly. Yes, my time is limited and I work out hard, but I have learned a ton by being open to speaking to other people.
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    Responding to the bold - so what if I don't need or want interaction with someone else at the gym - on MY time. I have plenty of work to do before I'm anywhere near "perfect". Your forced interaction isn't going to bring any more quality to my life, let alone my workout. It would be different if I was sitting at a bar, looking around, making eye contact at people. I have to be social at my job all day, constantly being interrupted or solving problems for other people - you better believe when I'm at the gym I'm having the experience I want. ME TIME.

    I don't need or want a tip on form, if my form is *kitten* for a rep, I know it is, I'm aware if there's a hole in my pants, if my shoes untied - I meant it to be. And my time is precious. I will never understand why people get mad if other people don't want to have the same experience they do. Maybe they are having their own experience, and I doubt you'd like it being forced on you as well.

    lol what a ridiculous comment.
    JoRocka wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    I genuinely feel sorry for single men. There's so many social situations they're expected to navigate and they feel like they're wrong no matter what they do.

    Considering I've been harassed on the street since I was like 14- I don't feel all that bad.

    Yes, this would make a difference, I suppose. I've never been harassed so I can't speak for everyone. I just didn't see what he was wanting to do as harassment, but I guess I could see why others might take it that way.

    You appear to be a grown good looking woman. I have a hard time believing you have NEVER ever been whistled at- cat called or leered at in public.
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Here come the woos, but.... Anyone who refuses to talk to someone else in the gym isn't worth your time. They clearly think they are perfect and don't need interaction with the likes of you or anyone else to better themselves.
    For those of you that want to hate me for saying that think about the possibility that someone wants to give you a tip on form or they want to let you know there is a huge hole in your pants or your shoe is untied or that they admire your strength, stamina, weight loss, etc. Not every person who speaks to you at the gym wants in your pants or is a waste of your precious time.

    erm- maybe they have social anxiety? maybe they are having a bad day- maybe their dad just died- maybe they are in a hurry and don't have time to chat- maybe they are doing interval training and can't actually talk (had that happen before- someone got super huffy- I was USING A BLOODY TIMER that beeped at 10 and 40 second intervals- it was 12 minutes of work- GO AWAY)

    I am a very social person- I generally don't understand the "I never ever talk to people at the gym" mentality- because I'm just way to effing social for that- but there are days- where no- I don't want to talk to anyone- I don't have time to get wrapped up in a conversation- and there is no guarantee that "hey man what's up" won't turn into a flipping 20 min discussion about why your leg hurts. So sometimes yes- it's safer to not talk. But that doesn't mean people who don't talk to other people think they are perfect- there are a whole HOST of reasons why and it isn't always about some one being aloof.

    There is room in the middle my friend.

    if people dont wanna talk to other people coz they think other people got nothing to offer them that’s f-ed up

    thats what i get from what @lstrat115 said

    dont be so easily offended

    That's not what I got from what he posted. And I'm entitled to my opinion. And you're entitled to your own. I'm not "so easily offended"- I'm merely pointing out other options and why people might not want to be talked to at the gym that have NOTHING to do with elitism. I literally have no dog in this fight- I'm happily married.

    Assuming people don't want to talk to you because YOU think they are thinking they are better than you- is pretty self centered. Life isn't about you- sometimes people don't think they are better than you- sometimes they are just wrapped up in their own ish.

    *she

    This is why i love the banana. People assume that I am a guy and read what I say in a different tone/manner. I knew I was stirring up trouble, but i just couldn't help myself ;)

    haha - I read your response with you being a "she". Stirring up trouble makes the day more interesting. I wish sarcasm was better interpreted through text vs. explicitly saying I'M BEING SARCASTIC :D:D

    I got you this for Valentines day. I drew it myself. It took me hours.

    c00qxsguh5d6.jpg

    You really didn't have to do that! I love it!

    ofchziq6uchm.gif

    Are you being sarcastic?

    Since we're on the internet, it's probably best if you just interpret my personality and tell me how I feel while reading some lines of text.

    Save us both a lot of confusion, you know?

    Then no. <3<3<3<3<3

    I'm so glad we got past our first fight and came out ok. I'm also glad you enjoy my bird arm drawing. It's taken me awhile to get that good but you're welcome.

    I was conflicted - but your drawing won me over. If only we'd met in the gym, we could have contributed to this post. Next time.

    My drawings are amazing. But enough about me. Tell me more about you. What are your hobbies and interested?
    How many cats do you have? What is your favorite pizza? Do you know Kevin?

    Hobbies - running with my shoes untied while texting on my cell phone on a treadmill. Interest, my cats. I have 17 cats, all sleep in bed with me. I don't eat pizza, because it's "junk/bad" food. I only eat Kale. I know Kevin - he better pay me back if he know's what's good for him.

    If you know Kevin - tell him what I just said. Thanks.

    HOLY *love* *love*!!!! You know Kevin!!! I've been looking for him for awhile now. When was the last time you saw him?

    What's your favorite Kale recipe? I love Kale chips.

    Why do you have so many cats, do you have a big place. Anything under 1000 should not have more than 2 cats. For every 500 square feet after 1000, you can add one cat. So a home that is 1500 square feet, you can usually house 3 cats comfortably.

    @lstrat115

    Ok, so you caught me in a lie. I only have 1 wiener dog, he's pretty much a cat. But I WISH I HAD 17. I beg to differ on a square footage requirement, if you add ramps and runways that run the perimeter of the ceiling, you can easily add more ruckus space.

    As for kale, my recipe is simple, it only has 3 steps:

    1. open the garbage lid
    2. throw the entire thing of kale in
    3. go get your favorite pizza

    Enjoy.

    aelsm0tjovhd.jpg

    Savage response.. Pizza with sausage & pepperoni good to go?

    Completely. Solid choice. I might be flagged for this, but pineapple is also good to go o:):)>:)

    Wait.

    Pineapple ?


    Post Reported.

    You're one of those people that likes to watch the world burn... aren't you. AREN'T YOU!

    #pineapplepizzalover

    A great pizza combination is pinapple, Canadian bacon and hot peppers.


    .... or so I've been told.

    Yes...

    I like mine with Hatch green chile...if I'm out of state and that's not available, jalapenos will do...
  • brittyn3
    brittyn3 Posts: 481 Member
    brittyn3 wrote: »

    #pineapplepizzalover

    yessssss! will you join my army

    I'm in.

    My favorite pizza in life is pineapple, jalapeno - and if I'm feeling extra EXTRA pepperoni and mushrooms
  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,590 MFP Moderator
    Ima pineapple, ham, bacon, onion, and mushroom kinda girl myself
  • brittyn3
    brittyn3 Posts: 481 Member
    Ima pineapple, ham, bacon, onion, and mushroom kinda girl myself

    I feel like we just became best friends... can you.. can you feel it too?
  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,590 MFP Moderator
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    Ima pineapple, ham, bacon, onion, and mushroom kinda girl myself

    I feel like we just became best friends... can you.. can you feel it too?

    MOD pizza date? I will pay!
  • brittyn3
    brittyn3 Posts: 481 Member
    brittyn3 wrote: »
    Ima pineapple, ham, bacon, onion, and mushroom kinda girl myself

    I feel like we just became best friends... can you.. can you feel it too?

    MOD pizza date? I will pay!

    hahahaha yesssss
  • dwrightlaw
    dwrightlaw Posts: 804 Member
    Say: "Yo legs, let's bounce"...worked on me :D
  • brittyn3
    brittyn3 Posts: 481 Member
    I got one - just throw quarters off her butt to make them bounce. She'll know it's because her behind is so firm and be extremely flattered. That would totally work on me.
  • NewlifeinNW
    NewlifeinNW Posts: 3,866 Member
    Sneaking up on them and tickling their ribs while they are doing squats
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    csbnga wrote: »
    Sneaking up on them and tickling their ribs while they are doing squats

    Making constant eye contact and licking your lips while I am using the hip abduction machine does it for me most days.
  • NewlifeinNW
    NewlifeinNW Posts: 3,866 Member
    First intently stare at their reflection in the mirror unil you are comfortable enough to stare directly at them. Take pictures to practice staring at at home if needed. Eventually they will say something to you. Now the dialogue is open.
  • dwrightlaw
    dwrightlaw Posts: 804 Member
    csbnga wrote: »
    Sneaking up on them and tickling their ribs while they are doing squats

    Making constant eye contact and licking your lips while I am using the hip abduction machine does it for me most days.

    This
  • Monkey_Business
    Monkey_Business Posts: 1,800 Member
    ZQGainz wrote: »
    What's the best way haha?

    I do not approach women at the gym for the following reasons:
    1. I do not go to the gym.
    2. My wife of 46 years would kick my *kitten*
  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,588 Member
    Oh Dude isint it obvious...

    You gotta pace back and forth for like 5min in front of the machine she's waiting on, then grab the bar and do like 2reps and be sure to grunt as loud and obnoxiously as possible then pace back in forth for like another 5min while staring her down before asking....

    D'you know how to use this thing or do I need to show you :smirk::lol:
  • ZQGainz
    ZQGainz Posts: 58 Member
  • Gould118
    Gould118 Posts: 544 Member
    I feel like their isn't a good way :D
  • goatg
    goatg Posts: 1,399 Member
    I'd be a hypocrite if I said, "don't." I've picked up a guy for a friend (they're currently dating). Plus I know several people at my gym who are long-term couples, even married, after meeting there.

    Become friends first. There will be an opening if she's interested. It's a community so the expectations/bar should be higher.
  • Keto_Vampire
    Keto_Vampire Posts: 1,670 Member
    Don't do it brah, you'll start going catabolic & lose all your "gainz" according to leading expert bro scientists.

    It's nice having more female lifters around, I'm sure lots get put off weight lifting because of horny gym bros approaching them
  • ZQGainz
    ZQGainz Posts: 58 Member
    edited February 2018
  • ZQGainz
    ZQGainz Posts: 58 Member
    Rx_Keto wrote: »
    Don't do it brah, you'll start going catabolic & lose all your "gainz" according to leading expert bro scientists.

    It's nice having more female lifters around, I'm sure lots get put off weight lifting because of horny gym bros approaching them

    Haha! You’re right bro.. I can’t forfeit my gainz!! Therefore, case closed!
  • PWRLFTR1
    PWRLFTR1 Posts: 324 Member
    This might help...or not.

    https://youtube.com/watch?v=TBvHbnhl3M8
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    edited February 2018

    Don’t approach her as a jerk.

    Be yourself.

    For me, these two sentences are in direct conflict.
  • princess7955
    princess7955 Posts: 1,277 Member
    Seems to me that I may or may not need to get myself a gym membership....
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    Seems to me that I may or may not need to get myself a gym membership....

    Don't

    (I'm actually joking about the most common answer here.)
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