WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2018

evie1958 wrote: »

Machka, you certainly have had a lot on your plate in the last six months. I'm not sure I could deal with all that you have had to, but I guess there really is no alternative but to bravely soldier on. I'm with you on the visitors, there would not be a parade of people coming thru our door to "help" either!

I have to guess (from what I've observed and a few comments along the way) that the majority of people they deal with fall into 2 categories:

1) elderly ... with lots of kids and grandkids, and maybe living in something like a retirement community where people do know each other.

My parents live in a place like that and when my father had his heart attack, several neighbours came over with food and to check on my mother, and when someone was out mowing their lawn, they came over and did my parents' lawn as well. Things like that.

And I've seen the crowds of family coming to visit some of the patients in the Neuro ward and Rehab.


2) young ... quite often with parents, grandparents, siblings, etc. nearby.

I was talking with the head nurse in Rehab the other day who told me that they get quite a few brain injury patients between 20 and 40 because of sports and risky behaviour. And they usually come into Rehab with parents, siblings, cousins, etc.


That head nurse told me that my husband is a bit unusual ... they don't usually get people between about 40 and maybe 80 because that age group has usually settled down and don't do much anymore, but they're young enough not to have the falls or strokes that an elderly person might.

So some of the communication difficulties I've had with Rehab are because they aren't used to dealing with someone in my husband's situation either.


While all this is happening with my husband, my grandmother who is 97 years old is deteriorating. She was in a retirement home, in a studio apartment. One of these places where they supply dinners, but she could do her own lunches etc. She was doing all right, then one day she had at least one fall (probably more) and the staff found her on the floor. She had hit her head ... not as badly as my husband, but she is displaying some of his symptoms. She's been in hospital for a while, and now she's living with my aunt and uncle. My parents are helping out as well.

So I've been debating whether it would be worth it to go for a visit ... we were supposed to go last July. And whether my husband could tolerate the flight. Or whether it would just be stressful for everyone if we did that.


Machka in Oz

Sharon in Seattle: Thanks for the idea on the CO tax situation. Our daughter says she is going to resolve it. I’m doubtful that she can, but grateful that she wants to try. We have an appointment to talk to our accountant and get advice from him. We may need a CO attorney at some point, but we’re taking things one day at a time. :flowerforyou:

(((Heather))) Wishing you good luck.

Lanette: The problem is that my husband was a co-owner on the title and not a resident of Colorado. Colorado has a special tax for nonresidents who sell CO real-estate. DD thinks she can straighten it out. I’m happy to let her try but I suspect we’re going to pay Colorado thousands. This is a clear example of “No good deed goes unpunished.” :grumble:

Rori: Thank you for the advice.

M in OZ: I hope you are able to get your teeth taken care of soon. It sounds painful and horrible. :flowerforyou:


We are planning to visit with our own accountant soon for advice on the real estate sales tax that Colorado wants us to pay. DD says she will take care of it, as all of the proceeds of the sale are in her accounts. On another topic, the RV is in the shop getting work done on the brakes. We had something go wrong during our drive home from DSIL’s place.


Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

Katla I remember something like this when I had my name on my brother's house in Denver. I think I had to sign an affidavit saying that I would not owe Colorado any income tax in order for the money not to be withheld by the title company. It's been a number of years ago, so my memory is a bit fuzzy. I hope there is something simple that you can do to get out of it. I know it's a pain.

Karen in Virginia

Good morning lovelies! Up, coffeed and on my way to do the grocery shopping. I have Trentin today and tomorrow from 11am-10:30pm (mom picking up a late shift). Going to be a long couple of days. BUT, there is a wildlife group that I belong to and they have annual photo "scavenger hunts". This year's hunt begins today. All photos must be taken in Michigan, taken and dated from today's date on... There is a list of 96 things we have to find and photograph. Some are easy (acorns, ants), some are harder (frost, butterfly, caterpillar). lol Last week I saw quite a few butterflies and caterpillars; but the temps have dropped and I am thinking they are going to be very hard to find. Anyway, Trentin and I will work on that today and tomorrow and get some walking/hiking in.
I FINALLY got a call from the trucking company that is delivering my grant/daycare materials! Woo-hoo! They will deliver on Thursday! I am so excited! The driver will give me a call 30 minutes before they arrive; so that will give me enough time to get home if the kids and I are walking or get the kids situated so that they are out of the way when the order arrives.
Machka- Sorry about your tooth/jaw pain. Hopefully it is just clenching while you sleep? I do that when I am stressed and wake up with sore jaws. If that is the case, they will make you a mouth guard to wear while you sleep.
Speaking of Machka and her tooth pain; reminds me of Wendy and her bee propolis for fighting tooth issues. Wendy where are you? I miss you!

Well, time to get the shopping done! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)

Rori - You're the best, thank you for that offer. I'm seriously thinking about writing a book about this whole process and publishing it later with names changed to protect both the innocent and the guilty. I'll reach out during this upcoming week.

Listening to the dryer cycling through the last load and will probably just go ahead and put many of the clothes right into the suitcase, as I'll be flying out again a week from tomorrow. Short trip this time, flying Sunday the 30th, back home Wednesday night. Big event, but a much more relaxed, less formal occasion and a lot more help from the staff, as we're holding it at our program center in Midland.

Had to get a new phone, as the battery on my old one was integral, and unswitchable, and had developed an unnerving habit of shutting the phone down almost every time it got to 30 percent. Always at a crucial time when I needed it, of course. And then in the last few weeks, started shutting itself down at the 50 percent mark. Does anyone else remember when you got the phone upgrades for free? Yeah, that doesn't happen anymore. Could have spent nearly a thousand dollars on a new phone, but that's just crazy. Unfortunately, when I restored the backup information, it randomly brought in less than half my contacts, so spent a few hours yesterday (in between naps) entering all my contacts and going out to find the apps I use all the time.

On the bright side, it did give me the chance to get rid of a bunch of them that I didn't need, as well as a number of apps I never use...and I LOVE the quick memo function that came with the phone, so I can add a voice memo for reminders of all the bitsy-bob things that I keep forgetting. Now if I just remember to check the list...

Machka - I grind my teeth unmercifully, and particularly when under stress. Literally destroyed one of my back teeth a few years back, part of it just shattered. Luckily, not enough to expose the nerve, so they were able to fill it. Don't know if your dental care is expensive - but a company called Plackers makes these minimal intrusion small guards that can be worn either on upper or lower teeth that work quite well when I remember to wear them. I've had dentists make mouth guards as well, which get quite expensive, and these work just as well, can be cleaned for wearing three or four times, and then disposed of.

Once Corey's up, we'll head for the mountain house--he's working on the bedroom ceiling, and I'll be painting the trim in the living room and office. At the moment, that sounds quite restful and productive at the same time.

Love y'all,
Thank you for all the hugs while I traipse through this wild and wooly travel schedule. Only three more in October, then (supposedly) I'm done for this year.

Lisa in Arkansas where she belongs....

Hi I'm a bit late joining for September. Still better late than never. I'm looking forward to being a member of this group. Take care everyone.

Hey...Hey...Hey

Winter is coming and sometimes you just have to exercise in the house. That said, I have these DVD's that I'd sell to someone for the price of the shipping (which is typically a little less than $3, multiples are usually a bit more than $3)

Low Impact Aerobics and Daily Exercise Routine with Nancy Marmorat (this is two DVD's but I'd ship them as one)
Christie Taylor Totally Hot Cardio
Christie Taylor Solid Gold Cardio
Extreme Makeover the Workout Weight Loss Edition
Transform you Body with Brooke Burke
Winsor Pilates Power Sculpting
Pilates Intermediate
Patrick Goudeau Play Ball in Four
Gold's Gym Muffin Top Meltdown

Michele
aka exermom

Just PM me if you are interested. See, I have a lot of DVD's and always want to do something different so I'm constantly changing things. There's nothing wrong with any of these DVD's except that I need room for new DVD's

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Chicken curry in the IP.

DH's younger daughter rang him this morning to talk about her job situation. She is in a dying industry, print journalism, magazines, and her editor has been made redundant and the staff have been offered redundancy, including her, though she is not at risk at the moment. He talked her patiently through all the options. He is such a lovely dad.

When I was thinking through my gratitude list I remembered that, this time last year, I had the most dreadful cough that lasted well into December. Well, at least I haven't got that!
Rainy, chilly and miserable here, so I will do some recumbent cycling for my bonus calories. Got to wrap Edie's presents.

Another thing to be grateful for : I feel I have grown "spiritually" through this process of selling and buying a house. Whatever comes of it I have developed a much better attitude to uncertainty. I have started to meditate. I am beginning to embrace minimalism. I am learning patience. I am living in the moment. I can switch my attention off unpleasant thoughts much better. My 'non-attachment muscle' is growing.
All very good stuff.

Yes, Wendy, where are you?

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

Heather. This reminds me of something my mother used to say: "Do everything in your power to get the outcome you want. Then let go of the outcome. You have done what you can." Easier said than done. (((hugs)))

Rebecca - you make me chuckle! Thanks!!

Okie

margaretturk wrote: »

Rori What kind of detailing did you have done. I have considered doing it to my car too! Were you happy with the job they did.

Rye (((HUGS)))

Margaret

Margaret: I had the polymer hand wax (supposed to last 6 months) plus all you see on the detailing menu. Very happy with the results. You have to empty EVERYTHING out of every little storage space in your car, which is a bit of a pain. I forgot I had an envelope of 'emergency' cash under the drivers floor mat, and when they found it, the supervisor brought it directly to me. With generous tip, a bit over $200. Love my car again, so saving on hunting for and buying a new one. I say treat yourself, and take really good care of something that you heavily rely on for everyday living.
https://bearscarwash.com/detailing/

Rori

Thank you Karen! I appreciate it. I will do my best to remember that for picture posting!

Okie