Things that make a woman instantly hotter

I was actually happier on my own instead of putting up with negative comments such as, your pathetic, you're a failure, you can't do anything

My opinion is that any man who tells you that doesn't respect you and maybe doesn't even really love you. It doesn't matter what you did or how upset he is; there is simply no excuse for that kind of emotional abuse. Praise and compliments and appreciative gestures are meaningless when given to people who are messed up enough in the head to talk to someone they allegedly love in that manner.

So of course there is more to a successful relationship (especially a marriage) than showing each other constant attention and appreciation. If none of it is genuine (i.e. backed up by mutual love and respect), then it's not going to do any good.

Along with cris's comments and previous valuable support - are you both trying to say that perhaps I made the wrong choice in getting back with my boyfriend / partner? I understand totally of where you are coming from.....so far it's only been two weeks that i've been back with him - just seeing how it goes - part of me is waiting for things to go back to the negative. Part of the problem we have is that I sometimes don't communicate very well - mainly when he's stressed and grumpy - I find it hard to approach him - and i told him this recently, which we are working on at the moment. I dunno - maybe I should have stayed on my own longer or permanently - just feel I can't give up on someone who deep down is a great guy that I've been with for so many years through some really hard times. When I'm with someone - I commit to the bitter end. I've spent the last month or so getting the real me back - which was noticed by my partner and appreciated. There's so many things going through my mind right now....maybe i get what you're both saying and know in reality I've maybe put myself forward for another (final) fall. Dunno.. I have to try in order to find out the truth I suppose. I have my flaws too - as a female friend once said to me - grow a set of balls and stand up for myself more - which I'm putting into practice - not in a kick *kitten* way - just in a diplomatic, honest way.

anyhows....your post kinda hit an emotional nerve (shed a few tears) - maybe that says alot! :-) I hate doubting the decisions I make

I was actually happier on my own instead of putting up with negative comments such as, your pathetic, you're a failure, you can't do anything

My opinion is that any man who tells you that doesn't respect you and maybe doesn't even really love you. It doesn't matter what you did or how upset he is; there is simply no excuse for that kind of emotional abuse. Praise and compliments and appreciative gestures are meaningless when given to people who are messed up enough in the head to talk to someone they allegedly love in that manner.

So of course there is more to a successful relationship (especially a marriage) than showing each other constant attention and appreciation. If none of it is genuine (i.e. backed up by mutual love and respect), then it's not going to do any good.

Along with cris's comments and previous valuable support - are you both trying to say that perhaps I made the wrong choice in getting back with my boyfriend / partner? I understand totally of where you are coming from.....so far it's only been two weeks that i've been back with him - just seeing how it goes - part of me is waiting for things to go back to the negative. Part of the problem we have is that I sometimes don't communicate very well - mainly when he's stressed and grumpy - I find it hard to approach him - and i told him this recently, which we are working on at the moment. I dunno - maybe I should have stayed on my own longer or permanently - just feel I can't give up on someone who deep down is a great guy that I've been with for so many years through some really hard times. When I'm with someone - I commit to the bitter end. I've spent the last month or so getting the real me back - which was noticed by my partner and appreciated. There's so many things going through my mind right now....maybe i get what you're both saying and know in reality I've maybe put myself forward for another (final) fall. Dunno.. I have to try in order to find out the truth I suppose. I have my flaws too - as a female friend once said to me - grow a set of balls and stand up for myself more - which I'm putting into practice - not in a kick *kitten* way - just in a diplomatic, honest way.

anyhows....your post kinda hit an emotional nerve (shed a few tears) - maybe that says alot! :-) I hate doubting the decisions I make

I think its ultimately your choice... communication and honest communication is the key to any good relationship. it sounds to me like y'all hashed things out... stay with him.... however, you know what you don't want if it happens again, then no reason to say, but if he truly does care and truly wants you in his life then the negative comments will stop as he said they would... perhaps some couple counceling would be in order? Just a suggestion, but remember nobody on here knows the situation in its entireity only what you choose to share so take advice/comments think them over, if you feel they apply use them, if you feel they do not, then dont. remember, we do not have to live your life, that is all you.... good luck

I only made it through the first couple of pages and had to stop because it looks as though I'm not girly enough to be dateable LOL I only wear makeup on special occassions, I love watching football and scream at the TV, I have my opinions and voice them, I'm independent, I prefer sittin by the river fishing to dressing up for a big fancy dinner.

Why would you think that,many guys including myself have said that those things were hot.

Many of those things were said by girls, not guys. LOL Or at least the ones that I saw were said by girls. Perhaps I should have read a little further in to find what the guys were saying!!

World of Warcraft :smokin:

Love it!!!

High Heels.

not a gold-digging whorebag
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LMAO!! That's a good start!!

Hugh Jackman.... oh, wait, you meant from a guy's perspective, not something that makes us HOT and need to fan ourselves... my bad

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Omg I love him!! He does make me HOTT!!!

Yoga pants?

Yoga pants, tee hee.

Made me think about my girlfriend who was waiting at a bus-stop after yoga and was being honked at by guys going by, she wondered if it was because she had a yoga mat that they might assume she was flexible??

GG

A BRAIN. Looks attract, but a brain keeps me. If you bore me to tears, there is only one thing I want to do with you.... leaver your *kitten* alone. Being able to hold a conversation, making your points clearly and concisely, even if we don't agree, I can totally respect you. THAT is what makes a woman hotter for me. At that point, she could even be quiet next to me for a long time, and it would still be a turn on.

A BRAIN. Looks attract, but a brain keeps me. If you bore me to tears, there is only one thing I want to do with you.... leaver your *kitten* alone. Being able to hold a conversation, making your points clearly and concisely, even if we don't agree, I can totally respect you. THAT is what makes a woman hotter for me. At that point, she could even be quiet next to me for a long time, and it would still be a turn on.

I agree completely. At the same time though...it can't be something she has to prove every time she opens her mouth either. Quiet, confident intelligence is incredibly hot. I mean...being able to hold a conversation with me for more than 10 minutes is proof enough. If she got that far...we'll be talking for hours anyway...and she'll have plenty of opportunity to dazzle me with her intelligence then =D.

So, I think that we are getting away from the original topic.

Thing that make a woman INSTANTLY hotter.

A woman that doesn't wear so much makeup that you think you can go swimming on her face.

^^^^^^
THIS

Makeup is awesome stuff...when properly applied with discretion and consideration for the overall effect.

Seriously.

It doesn't have to be one or the other. I just think most women don't understand that a man needs to hear that the woman in his life finds him strong and handsome and sexy .. that she thinks of him as a good provider, a good father, etc. A man who doesn't feel like he embodies those things doesn't really feel like a man. It's not "*kitten*-kissing" ... it's just being honest and forthcoming with your feelings. Just tell him how you feel about him as a man, as a husband, as a father. That's it. And I think most women would be surprised at the things their men would say and do for them if they could stop seeing the vocalizing of feelings as "*kitten*-kissing" or "ego-stroking."

After 34 years of marriage, my mom still randomly tells my dad what a great provider he is. And she does it in front of other people. My dad would walk through fire to make her happy.

Exactly!!!

I see women demeaning their men, and men disgracing their women all the time. It bugs me when our significant other's act kinder and/or nicer to complete strangers than to us. It's messed up, they should be our #1 Fan!
Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic but we have one life, so our partner should be "the love of our life"! and treated as such. It's not *kitten*-kissing it's telling them how you feel and if you don't feel that way then maybe it's not right. Or maybe it's me and I dream too big.
The best way to be instantly hotter is treat your man like he's the King. He will return it 10 fold!

Yoga pants?

No

I think she needs to see a doctor, I'm pretty sure those are tumors.

Ah, scary.