Things that make a woman instantly hotter

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  • foodfight247
    foodfight247 Posts: 767 Member
    I was actually happier on my own instead of putting up with negative comments such as, your pathetic, you're a failure, you can't do anything

    My opinion is that any man who tells you that doesn't respect you and maybe doesn't even really love you. It doesn't matter what you did or how upset he is; there is simply no excuse for that kind of emotional abuse. Praise and compliments and appreciative gestures are meaningless when given to people who are messed up enough in the head to talk to someone they allegedly love in that manner.

    So of course there is more to a successful relationship (especially a marriage) than showing each other constant attention and appreciation. If none of it is genuine (i.e. backed up by mutual love and respect), then it's not going to do any good.

    Along with cris's comments and previous valuable support - are you both trying to say that perhaps I made the wrong choice in getting back with my boyfriend / partner? I understand totally of where you are coming from.....so far it's only been two weeks that i've been back with him - just seeing how it goes - part of me is waiting for things to go back to the negative. Part of the problem we have is that I sometimes don't communicate very well - mainly when he's stressed and grumpy - I find it hard to approach him - and i told him this recently, which we are working on at the moment. I dunno - maybe I should have stayed on my own longer or permanently - just feel I can't give up on someone who deep down is a great guy that I've been with for so many years through some really hard times. When I'm with someone - I commit to the bitter end. I've spent the last month or so getting the real me back - which was noticed by my partner and appreciated. There's so many things going through my mind right now....maybe i get what you're both saying and know in reality I've maybe put myself forward for another (final) fall. Dunno.. I have to try in order to find out the truth I suppose. I have my flaws too - as a female friend once said to me - grow a set of balls and stand up for myself more - which I'm putting into practice - not in a kick *kitten* way - just in a diplomatic, honest way.

    anyhows....your post kinda hit an emotional nerve (shed a few tears) - maybe that says alot! :-) I hate doubting the decisions I make
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    I was actually happier on my own instead of putting up with negative comments such as, your pathetic, you're a failure, you can't do anything

    My opinion is that any man who tells you that doesn't respect you and maybe doesn't even really love you. It doesn't matter what you did or how upset he is; there is simply no excuse for that kind of emotional abuse. Praise and compliments and appreciative gestures are meaningless when given to people who are messed up enough in the head to talk to someone they allegedly love in that manner.

    So of course there is more to a successful relationship (especially a marriage) than showing each other constant attention and appreciation. If none of it is genuine (i.e. backed up by mutual love and respect), then it's not going to do any good.

    Along with cris's comments and previous valuable support - are you both trying to say that perhaps I made the wrong choice in getting back with my boyfriend / partner? I understand totally of where you are coming from.....so far it's only been two weeks that i've been back with him - just seeing how it goes - part of me is waiting for things to go back to the negative. Part of the problem we have is that I sometimes don't communicate very well - mainly when he's stressed and grumpy - I find it hard to approach him - and i told him this recently, which we are working on at the moment. I dunno - maybe I should have stayed on my own longer or permanently - just feel I can't give up on someone who deep down is a great guy that I've been with for so many years through some really hard times. When I'm with someone - I commit to the bitter end. I've spent the last month or so getting the real me back - which was noticed by my partner and appreciated. There's so many things going through my mind right now....maybe i get what you're both saying and know in reality I've maybe put myself forward for another (final) fall. Dunno.. I have to try in order to find out the truth I suppose. I have my flaws too - as a female friend once said to me - grow a set of balls and stand up for myself more - which I'm putting into practice - not in a kick *kitten* way - just in a diplomatic, honest way.

    anyhows....your post kinda hit an emotional nerve (shed a few tears) - maybe that says alot! :-) I hate doubting the decisions I make

    "grow a set of balls and stand up for myself more - which I'm putting into practice - not in a kick *kitten* way - just in a diplomatic, honest way."

    This is what I meant to start with about a lady not accepting 2nd place in my original post.
    Now don`t get me wrong either,we are pretty well set as who we are by our late teens so if he has been abusive it will be difficult for him to change.
    Maybe this is what will do it.:smile:
  • brattyworm
    brattyworm Posts: 2,137 Member
    I was actually happier on my own instead of putting up with negative comments such as, your pathetic, you're a failure, you can't do anything

    My opinion is that any man who tells you that doesn't respect you and maybe doesn't even really love you. It doesn't matter what you did or how upset he is; there is simply no excuse for that kind of emotional abuse. Praise and compliments and appreciative gestures are meaningless when given to people who are messed up enough in the head to talk to someone they allegedly love in that manner.

    So of course there is more to a successful relationship (especially a marriage) than showing each other constant attention and appreciation. If none of it is genuine (i.e. backed up by mutual love and respect), then it's not going to do any good.

    Along with cris's comments and previous valuable support - are you both trying to say that perhaps I made the wrong choice in getting back with my boyfriend / partner? I understand totally of where you are coming from.....so far it's only been two weeks that i've been back with him - just seeing how it goes - part of me is waiting for things to go back to the negative. Part of the problem we have is that I sometimes don't communicate very well - mainly when he's stressed and grumpy - I find it hard to approach him - and i told him this recently, which we are working on at the moment. I dunno - maybe I should have stayed on my own longer or permanently - just feel I can't give up on someone who deep down is a great guy that I've been with for so many years through some really hard times. When I'm with someone - I commit to the bitter end. I've spent the last month or so getting the real me back - which was noticed by my partner and appreciated. There's so many things going through my mind right now....maybe i get what you're both saying and know in reality I've maybe put myself forward for another (final) fall. Dunno.. I have to try in order to find out the truth I suppose. I have my flaws too - as a female friend once said to me - grow a set of balls and stand up for myself more - which I'm putting into practice - not in a kick *kitten* way - just in a diplomatic, honest way.

    anyhows....your post kinda hit an emotional nerve (shed a few tears) - maybe that says alot! :-) I hate doubting the decisions I make


    I think its ultimately your choice... communication and honest communication is the key to any good relationship. it sounds to me like y'all hashed things out... stay with him.... however, you know what you don't want if it happens again, then no reason to say, but if he truly does care and truly wants you in his life then the negative comments will stop as he said they would... perhaps some couple counceling would be in order? Just a suggestion, but remember nobody on here knows the situation in its entireity only what you choose to share so take advice/comments think them over, if you feel they apply use them, if you feel they do not, then dont. remember, we do not have to live your life, that is all you.... good luck
  • musicgirl88
    musicgirl88 Posts: 504 Member
    I only made it through the first couple of pages and had to stop because it looks as though I'm not girly enough to be dateable LOL I only wear makeup on special occassions, I love watching football and scream at the TV, I have my opinions and voice them, I'm independent, I prefer sittin by the river fishing to dressing up for a big fancy dinner.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    I only made it through the first couple of pages and had to stop because it looks as though I'm not girly enough to be dateable LOL I only wear makeup on special occassions, I love watching football and scream at the TV, I have my opinions and voice them, I'm independent, I prefer sittin by the river fishing to dressing up for a big fancy dinner.

    Why would you think that,many guys including myself have said that those things were hot.
  • foodfight247
    foodfight247 Posts: 767 Member
    Thanks to those who responded to my comment - realise this isn't a relationship thread, so if you want to friend me in order to communicate any further views/advice by PM's, that's fine. I appreciate what's been said so far.

    All I can say is, I commit to the bitter end, I'll see how things develop, but I know deep down that things can easily go backwards like before, if we don't carry on as we have the past few weeks. I'm just trying with the old me back - I hope I don't lose those qualities again. Alot of our problems stem from bringing past events / mistakes up - we're supposed to have wiped the slate clean and starting fresh. So far things are fine, but we'll see.

    I'm not gonna bring myself down in dwelling on the what if's because that will draw attention to negativity at this point.in how I am...I've got myself back on track - he seems to have done the same - time will tell. But, if I see a hint of previous happenings - I'll not fight it emotionally, but be strong in walking away. I'm a good person with a big heart at the end of the day but will not tolerate any kind of negativity by him or anyone else again. I'm much stronger this time round. I can and will go it alone if needs be. At least I can say I tried.
  • musicgirl88
    musicgirl88 Posts: 504 Member
    I only made it through the first couple of pages and had to stop because it looks as though I'm not girly enough to be dateable LOL I only wear makeup on special occassions, I love watching football and scream at the TV, I have my opinions and voice them, I'm independent, I prefer sittin by the river fishing to dressing up for a big fancy dinner.

    Why would you think that,many guys including myself have said that those things were hot.

    Many of those things were said by girls, not guys. LOL Or at least the ones that I saw were said by girls. Perhaps I should have read a little further in to find what the guys were saying!!
  • rocketpants
    rocketpants Posts: 419 Member
    Curves
    A beautiful face
    Sense of humor
    athletic
  • Tori_356
    Tori_356 Posts: 510 Member
    World of Warcraft :smokin:
    Love it!!!
  • felicia8604
    felicia8604 Posts: 274 Member
    My list of the perfect girl right here:

    Sweet.

    Non-dramatic.

    Honest.

    Affectionate.

    Intelligent.

    Is herself, not faked.

    Someone I want to know me.

    Can carry meaningful conversations as well as conversations about absolutely nothing.

    Likes a lot of the same things I do.

    Driven

    Ambitious

    Dang, long list!

    is a nurse! wink wink! haha just kidding... those are very good qualities.. dont ever sacrifice any of them for anything you dont want.
  • Texas501
    Texas501 Posts: 274
    High Heels.
  • keith0373
    keith0373 Posts: 2,154 Member
    My list of the perfect girl right here:

    Sweet.

    Non-dramatic.

    Honest.

    Affectionate.

    Intelligent.

    Is herself, not faked.

    Someone I want to know me.

    Can carry meaningful conversations as well as conversations about absolutely nothing.

    Likes a lot of the same things I do.

    Driven

    Ambitious

    Dang, long list!

    is a nurse! wink wink! haha just kidding... those are very good qualities.. dont ever sacrifice any of them for anything you dont want.

    That list gets shorter when she has Felicia's eyes!
  • Nailrep
    Nailrep Posts: 966 Member
    not a gold-digging whorebag
    [/quote

    LMAO!! That's a good start!!
  • jonbobfrog
    jonbobfrog Posts: 294
    I'm just gonna stick with being single!
  • Dylanzmom
    Dylanzmom Posts: 120
    Hugh Jackman.... oh, wait, you meant from a guy's perspective, not something that makes us HOT and need to fan ourselves... my bad

    :devil:


    Omg I love him!! He does make me HOTT!!!
  • Best answer I've heard! :)
    worth the repeat.

    Being herself.
  • mandeiko
    mandeiko Posts: 1,657 Member
    Yoga pants?
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Yoga pants?


    Good answer. :happy:
  • pinkgigi
    pinkgigi Posts: 693 Member
    Yoga pants, tee hee.

    Made me think about my girlfriend who was waiting at a bus-stop after yoga and was being honked at by guys going by, she wondered if it was because she had a yoga mat that they might assume she was flexible??

    GG
  • Zedama
    Zedama Posts: 33 Member
    Showing up naked. :-)

    lmao! That's what the men want to type... (:
  • Tiggerrick
    Tiggerrick Posts: 1,078 Member
    A BRAIN. Looks attract, but a brain keeps me. If you bore me to tears, there is only one thing I want to do with you.... leaver your *kitten* alone. Being able to hold a conversation, making your points clearly and concisely, even if we don't agree, I can totally respect you. THAT is what makes a woman hotter for me. At that point, she could even be quiet next to me for a long time, and it would still be a turn on.
  • MelMoly
    MelMoly Posts: 1,303 Member
    Yoga pants?

    So true!! :bigsmile:
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    A BRAIN. Looks attract, but a brain keeps me. If you bore me to tears, there is only one thing I want to do with you.... leaver your *kitten* alone. Being able to hold a conversation, making your points clearly and concisely, even if we don't agree, I can totally respect you. THAT is what makes a woman hotter for me. At that point, she could even be quiet next to me for a long time, and it would still be a turn on.

    I agree completely. At the same time though...it can't be something she has to prove every time she opens her mouth either. Quiet, confident intelligence is incredibly hot. I mean...being able to hold a conversation with me for more than 10 minutes is proof enough. If she got that far...we'll be talking for hours anyway...and she'll have plenty of opportunity to dazzle me with her intelligence then =D.
  • mrphil86
    mrphil86 Posts: 2,382 Member
    So, I think that we are getting away from the original topic.

    Thing that make a woman INSTANTLY hotter.

    A woman that doesn't wear so much makeup that you think you can go swimming on her face.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    So, I think that we are getting away from the original topic.

    Thing that make a woman INSTANTLY hotter.

    A woman that doesn't wear so much makeup that you think you can go swimming on her face.

    ^^^^^^
    THIS

    Makeup is awesome stuff...when properly applied with discretion and consideration for the overall effect.

    Seriously.
  • alex215
    alex215 Posts: 518 Member
    Yoga pants?

    yes
    sexy-girls-yoga-pants-8.jpg

    No
    yoga%2Bpants.jpg
  • Russellb97
    Russellb97 Posts: 1,057 Member
    It doesn't have to be one or the other. I just think most women don't understand that a man needs to hear that the woman in his life finds him strong and handsome and sexy .. that she thinks of him as a good provider, a good father, etc. A man who doesn't feel like he embodies those things doesn't really feel like a man. It's not "*kitten*-kissing" ... it's just being honest and forthcoming with your feelings. Just tell him how you feel about him as a man, as a husband, as a father. That's it. And I think most women would be surprised at the things their men would say and do for them if they could stop seeing the vocalizing of feelings as "*kitten*-kissing" or "ego-stroking."

    After 34 years of marriage, my mom still randomly tells my dad what a great provider he is. And she does it in front of other people. My dad would walk through fire to make her happy.

    Exactly!!!

    I see women demeaning their men, and men disgracing their women all the time. It bugs me when our significant other's act kinder and/or nicer to complete strangers than to us. It's messed up, they should be our #1 Fan!
    Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic but we have one life, so our partner should be "the love of our life"! and treated as such. It's not *kitten*-kissing it's telling them how you feel and if you don't feel that way then maybe it's not right. Or maybe it's me and I dream too big.
    The best way to be instantly hotter is treat your man like he's the King. He will return it 10 fold!
  • mrphil86
    mrphil86 Posts: 2,382 Member
    Yoga pants?
    No
    yoga%2Bpants.jpg

    I think she needs to see a doctor, I'm pretty sure those are tumors.
  • mandeiko
    mandeiko Posts: 1,657 Member
    Yoga pants?
    No
    yoga%2Bpants.jpg

    I think she needs to see a doctor, I'm pretty sure those are tumors.

    Ah, scary.
  • Lunachic77
    Lunachic77 Posts: 434 Member
    World of Warcraft :smokin:

    LOL! Random. I would totally vote for this as well. :tongue:

    Me too! I love it! In fact, I need to be doing my dailies right now! :bigsmile:

    Speaking of dailies...is it just me or are the Mount Hyjal ones annoying as all get out?
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