What nobody tells you about losing weight
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This might not be something people don't know but I'm always surprised by it - one week feels great, eating healthy is awesome, I can control my portions. The next week I'm struggling to stay within my calories every single day and I can't say no to the cookies or muffins in the staff room. Not sure if it's hormones or just that I struggle with long term change but it always gets me.31
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I also havw a hard time keeping on track. I get so frustrated when I mess up and have the hardest time getting my head in the right place to get started again. I k ow I can do it becuase I have lost and gained and lost and gained over the years. Keeping it Off and maintaining progress is the hardest for me.... and I am not at a place where I feel why bother if I am only going to gain it back anyway.5
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becca_rup23 wrote: »This might not be something people don't know but I'm always surprised by it - one week feels great, eating healthy is awesome, I can control my portions. The next week I'm struggling to stay within my calories every single day and I can't say no to the cookies or muffins in the staff room. Not sure if it's hormones or just that I struggle with long term change but it always gets me.
It's hormones for me. It's like clockwork - a week before my cycle starts, I get intense cravings (I also get very loopy and anxious, which are less fun than the cravings). They go away after my cycle starts. I used to think it was just my brain anticipating my cycle, but then I got out of tracking my cycle for a while. They still came around, but were worse because I was surprised by the sudden cravings.6 -
Just remember you don't fail until you stop trying. I have lost and regained often too - all we can do is keep plugging away at it - not bothering is not an option because if you don't i) no-one else will do it for you and ii) your health will deteriorate. You can do it - just don't lose sight of the fact that you may have to keep monitoring your food and exercise permanently X18
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I've looked at this forum for years and never posted because I've never achieved. But so far this year I'm down 35lbs and got another 14 to go to hit my second goal.
I can cross my legs, hate myself less, wear much better clothing and not just joggies anymore!
And I feel confident now. Im not at my goal but I'm no where near where I used to be which is massive to me56 -
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Someone said a few posts back, that if you gain back even 1 pound, if feels like you've gained back 10 lbs! This is true. It happened for me, when I treated myself to 3 barbecue chicken tenders. Afterward, I felt like I gained every bit of the 15 pounds I lost and when I looked in the mirror, I saw that chunky woman again. Eventually, my common sense kicked back in.
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unigirl143 wrote: »That my bed would become uncomfortable because I can now feel my hip bones more.
OMG yes!!!! I have to sleep with 4 pillows strategically placed now, knees and ankles become and issue sleeping on your side.
I picked up a $40 memory foam mattress topper and it solved that problem.11 -
So, I have trouble with being obsessive about weighing in (which nobody ever told me would happen). So, I set it so I only weigh in the day after my "flow" has ended during my period, about 5-ish days into my cycle. It's normally a low day, which is nice. But, now my period is late, and I've never been so eager for a period to start in my life, because I've been on track and I just want to know. Now would not be a good time as I usually experience pre-cycle bloating, and it would affect my reading for a month!
Fortunately, it is not pregnancy. I can guarantee that, haha.16 -
fittocycle wrote: »Or that would find yourself panicking because you forgot to put your Fitbit on and went to run errands!
LOLL this is so me!! I charged it for 15 minutes yesterday so it would be charged for my 8 hour serving shift yesterday. Worth it as it ended up being a 3400 calorie burn day!!
I so miss serving for this reason only! Well and the tips, they bought all of my girls diapers when they were babies.4 -
I'm finding it hard to come to terms with my smaller person fragility.
Had to leave my wonderful job this week as I'm moving long distance (honestly, still a bit broken hearted 😭💔) & that meant lots of goodbye hugs.
My entire life, I've been the heavier (and by default the "strongest") person so I've always been sensitive to that.
Now I'm not & men in particular do things that I've not experienced before. Some are great, like my lovely husband having no trouble picking me up bridal style!
But last week my best male work pal hugged me so forcefully he popped something in my back audibly...still suffering 😂 (bless, he felt so bad!)
Another strange thing was being lifted up into hugs by others & sort of shaken around in the air....that was....just bizarre because I've never experienced it...
Can't help but realise just how "vulnerable" bodily I am now... if that makes any sense at all? Does that resonate with anyone else?37 -
Old posts 😳 thought someone would have been here recently .....2
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No one told me how defensive I’d become over calorie counting and MFP.
‘You calorie count? You know it’s unhealthy to obsess over numbers, just eat healthily and it’ll come off’. Erm, excuse me? You can over eat on healthy food, and I personally love knowing the numbers, it makes me feel in control. And who’s lost all this weight, me or you? Thanks Susan, now back off.
Also how much you’d hate hearing about fad diets. I know calorie counting doesn’t work for everyone, or some people don’t like it.. but herblife? Really? Eat like a rabbit for a month, and sure! You’ll lose weight. Let’s see how long you can keep the rabbit or egg or water diet up for Susan.37 -
No one told me how defensive I’d become over calorie counting and MFP.
‘You calorie count? You know it’s unhealthy to obsess over numbers, just eat healthily and it’ll come off’. Erm, excuse me? You can over eat on healthy food, and I personally love knowing the numbers, it makes me feel in control. And who’s lost all this weight, me or you? Thanks Susan, now back off.
^this
since when did gathering information so you can make informed choices become 'an obsession'. I need to know how many calories I burn and eat so I can see reasons for gaining or losing. Some times are more vague than others but it is still better than when I used to tell myself, 'I walked 15 minutes to get this large fish and chips so that totally balances out'.
Information is vital!
People research holiday destinations and read reviews on hotels for informed decisions so they can have a good holiday. I calorie count so I can be healthier, physically and mentally.
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Vonny198334 wrote: »I'm finding it hard to come to terms with my smaller person fragility.
Had to leave my wonderful job this week as I'm moving long distance (honestly, still a bit broken hearted 😭💔) & that meant lots of goodbye hugs.
My entire life, I've been the heavier (and by default the "strongest") person so I've always been sensitive to that.
Now I'm not & men in particular do things that I've not experienced before. Some are great, like my lovely husband having no trouble picking me up bridal style!
But last week my best male work pal hugged me so forcefully he popped something in my back audibly...still suffering 😂 (bless, he felt so bad!)
Another strange thing was being lifted up into hugs by others & sort of shaken around in the air....that was....just bizarre because I've never experienced it...
Can't help but realise just how "vulnerable" bodily I am now... if that makes any sense at all? Does that resonate with anyone else?
Totally resonates. When I hug very slim people they feel so... Light? Barely there? And I can remember when I could jump in guy friends arms back yeah, 15 years ago.6 -
No one told me how defensive I’d become over calorie counting and MFP.
‘You calorie count? You know it’s unhealthy to obsess over numbers, just eat healthily and it’ll come off’. Erm, excuse me? You can over eat on healthy food, and I personally love knowing the numbers, it makes me feel in control. And who’s lost all this weight, me or you? Thanks Susan, now back off.
Also how much you’d hate hearing about fad diets. I know calorie counting doesn’t work for everyone, or some people don’t like it.. but herblife? Really? Eat like a rabbit for a month, and sure! You’ll lose weight. Let’s see how long you can keep the rabbit or egg or water diet up for Susan.
God I hate the Susans of this world...20 -
No one told me how defensive I’d become over calorie counting and MFP.
‘You calorie count? You know it’s unhealthy to obsess over numbers, just eat healthily and it’ll come off’. Erm, excuse me? You can over eat on healthy food, and I personally love knowing the numbers, it makes me feel in control. And who’s lost all this weight, me or you? Thanks Susan, now back off.
Also how much you’d hate hearing about fad diets. I know calorie counting doesn’t work for everyone, or some people don’t like it.. but herblife? Really? Eat like a rabbit for a month, and sure! You’ll lose weight. Let’s see how long you can keep the rabbit or egg or water diet up for Susan.
I was one of the only people I know to gain weight on that stupid lemonade diet. lol
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Vonny198334 wrote: »I'm finding it hard to come to terms with my smaller person fragility.
Had to leave my wonderful job this week as I'm moving long distance (honestly, still a bit broken hearted 😭💔) & that meant lots of goodbye hugs.
My entire life, I've been the heavier (and by default the "strongest") person so I've always been sensitive to that.
Now I'm not & men in particular do things that I've not experienced before. Some are great, like my lovely husband having no trouble picking me up bridal style!
But last week my best male work pal hugged me so forcefully he popped something in my back audibly...still suffering 😂 (bless, he felt so bad!)
Another strange thing was being lifted up into hugs by others & sort of shaken around in the air....that was....just bizarre because I've never experienced it...
Can't help but realise just how "vulnerable" bodily I am now... if that makes any sense at all? Does that resonate with anyone else?
In my head, I am much bigger. Much wider. Much more round.
In reality, it does not take much at all to shove me out of place.
I used to be a fixture, hoping that if I pulled myself in, I could be smaller. Less environmental and more transient.
Now, I forget that I am not a force of mass and gravity and find myself surprised by the emergence of slender bones. Still got a ways to go (~15-20kg), so I'm not sure how I'll feel when I get to my goal.
But yes, this definitely resonates!
The mind is a funny creature, and I'm convinced it has a mind of its own, separate from me. It tries to tell me that even though I fit into smaller clothing, take up less space, etc, that I am still the obese-me. Hiding in plain sight!13 -
Pushing large things becomes harder. You can't just lean onto something and simply walk it to where you want to it, now you need to put some muscle into it.17
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Smaller belts need the holes closer together. Going one belt hole is a more significant percentage of girth. I have one belt that fits, though I only have a coupe of holes left, but I have to adjust it where it is obviously too lose (drops down below the top button on pants) or where it can dig in when I bend over.5
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I notice everybody else's weight (especially children)- and I don't like it. I constantly want to offer unsolicited advice on living a healthy lifestyle because I want everybody to feel as good as I do.
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Vonny198334 wrote: »I'm finding it hard to come to terms with my smaller person fragility.
Had to leave my wonderful job this week as I'm moving long distance (honestly, still a bit broken hearted 😭💔) & that meant lots of goodbye hugs.
My entire life, I've been the heavier (and by default the "strongest") person so I've always been sensitive to that.
Now I'm not & men in particular do things that I've not experienced before. Some are great, like my lovely husband having no trouble picking me up bridal style!
But last week my best male work pal hugged me so forcefully he popped something in my back audibly...still suffering 😂 (bless, he felt so bad!)
Another strange thing was being lifted up into hugs by others & sort of shaken around in the air....that was....just bizarre because I've never experienced it...
Can't help but realise just how "vulnerable" bodily I am now... if that makes any sense at all? Does that resonate with anyone else?
Same here. I fell backwards in an exercise class a few days ago. Luckily I landed on the fullest part of my bottom. Unfortunately my bottom is no longer very padded and boy did it hurt. No permanent damage but I can remember being a bit like a padded ball. However there used to be sooo much more heft going down.
I still feel strong but now it's more about being limber and agile. Less sumo and more dancer. This feeling is particularly delightful and surprising.
So sorry to hear about moving on from your lovely job. I wish you lots of brilliant adventures in your slim new body as you make your move.
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brightresolve wrote: »How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"
I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...
This. I don't want to eat cake or pizza, don't tell me I need to eat or I deserve "a treat". Those are chemicals, not a treat.
Also, I had a coworker tell me that I should stay the weight I was and shouldn't get any smaller. I was still overweight at the time. I told her he'll has, I'm gonna be strong af.
My contribution:
-Water really does make a huge difference, it gets easier. When you start drinking water, you're not going to want to wear pants with 3 buttons, a zipper and a belt haha.
-Everyones method is different, try different things and see what works for you.22 -
Edited: thought this was posted in another thread.0
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Gall stones hurt like ****. This derailed my last attempt after 12 lbs of loss. Don't have insurance or the money for surgery so I get to live with it. Just gotta take it slow. Also, water is delicious and is easily my favorite beverage.8
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I noticed that I break off my heals due to my weight! I am hoping that after getting to normal weight, I will wear them again!3
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dhiammarath wrote: »Vonny198334 wrote: »I'm finding it hard to come to terms with my smaller person fragility.
Had to leave my wonderful job this week as I'm moving long distance (honestly, still a bit broken hearted 😭💔) & that meant lots of goodbye hugs.
My entire life, I've been the heavier (and by default the "strongest") person so I've always been sensitive to that.
Now I'm not & men in particular do things that I've not experienced before. Some are great, like my lovely husband having no trouble picking me up bridal style!
But last week my best male work pal hugged me so forcefully he popped something in my back audibly...still suffering 😂 (bless, he felt so bad!)
Another strange thing was being lifted up into hugs by others & sort of shaken around in the air....that was....just bizarre because I've never experienced it...
Can't help but realise just how "vulnerable" bodily I am now... if that makes any sense at all? Does that resonate with anyone else?
In my head, I am much bigger. Much wider. Much more round.
In reality, it does not take much at all to shove me out of place.
I used to be a fixture, hoping that if I pulled myself in, I could be smaller. Less environmental and more transient.
Now, I forget that I am not a force of mass and gravity and find myself surprised by the emergence of slender bones. Still got a ways to go (~15-20kg), so I'm not sure how I'll feel when I get to my goal.
But yes, this definitely resonates!
The mind is a funny creature, and I'm convinced it has a mind of its own, separate from me. It tries to tell me that even though I fit into smaller clothing, take up less space, etc, that I am still the obese-me. Hiding in plain sight!
As usual, I feel very similar to you my love! Though it's improving...think because folk keep doing things to test my own perception of me! A lot of the time I still feel obese, possibly because I've not reached goal yet but more likely because I've never NOT been obese before, really.
Still get a fright when I catch my reflection sometimes but mainly I don't see anything bordering "thin" yet others persist in saying how "tiny" I am. If I'm in a small space & someone needs to pass through the same time I do, I can be guilty of quickly throwing myself against the wall to give them "space" 😂. They must think I'm crazy....
Just doesn't match up all of the time! We'll get there....it's taken time to shift this weight, sure it'll take us time to shift the mindset too xx10 -
Vonny198334 wrote: »I'm finding it hard to come to terms with my smaller person fragility.
Had to leave my wonderful job this week as I'm moving long distance (honestly, still a bit broken hearted 😭💔) & that meant lots of goodbye hugs.
My entire life, I've been the heavier (and by default the "strongest") person so I've always been sensitive to that.
Now I'm not & men in particular do things that I've not experienced before. Some are great, like my lovely husband having no trouble picking me up bridal style!
But last week my best male work pal hugged me so forcefully he popped something in my back audibly...still suffering 😂 (bless, he felt so bad!)
Another strange thing was being lifted up into hugs by others & sort of shaken around in the air....that was....just bizarre because I've never experienced it...
Can't help but realise just how "vulnerable" bodily I am now... if that makes any sense at all? Does that resonate with anyone else?
Same here. I fell backwards in an exercise class a few days ago. Luckily I landed on the fullest part of my bottom. Unfortunately my bottom is no longer very padded and boy did it hurt. No permanent damage but I can remember being a bit like a padded ball. However there used to be sooo much more heft going down.
I still feel strong but now it's more about being limber and agile. Less sumo and more dancer. This feeling is particularly delightful and surprising.
So sorry to hear about moving on from your lovely job. I wish you lots of brilliant adventures in your slim new body as you make your move.
Aww, your poor slender bottom...that does sound like an ouch moment!
Can complete relate to being stronger in a different way...it's much more satisfying when you can lift/move something or even yourself due to working hard rather than the happenstance of your "heft".
Think it's coming to terms with being at "the mercy" of others though....folk just being able to pick me up & move me should the mood take them. It's not necessarily a bad thing (would hope it never became a terrible thing....) but it sure takes some getting used to!
Thanks so much for your lovely wishes...am looking forward to it & also think it's very strange that everyone I meet from here on in will just believe this is how I am(probably always was) bodily 😂4
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