The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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@MountainLaurel787 Congratulations on your 10 weeks!5
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@RubyRed427 Thanks for posting that video -- I needed it this morning.
I feel off balance, almost like I'm slipping, these past few days. I used to have a group, but with the move, I haven't found the right new place for me yet. Going to try another one today.
For anyone who hasn't been to a group meeting, I have to tell you, they can be unexpectedly fulfilling. Sometimes it is good to know that there are others who have faced your challenges, and they have beaten them. And they are willing to share their stories.8 -
I am in total agreement with Ruby Red. I am strong if I am on a streak. And I am HAPPY. Depression free, just wonderful. Then I think, "Oh I am doing so well, what can one drink do?" Well for me, one is never ever one. This is what happened to me yesterday. There was some wine in the house (I never have it in the house for this very reason) that someone had brought over, and I opened it up and drank it all. I had told myself I will have one glass...you know the rest. I don't feel hungover but I do feel low grade depression that was not there before, and I am mad at myself. I will never lose weight or meet other personal goals I have for myself I go down that road again. Back to day one.
Just pick up and go again. I am late posting to this. You help me by saying this. You remind me of how hard it was to stop. It was harder to stop than remain stopped for me at this point. You will reach your goals. Just tell people to not bring it over ahead of time or get another strategy going. This process takes time to iron out. All is not lost. Remember all the times I tell you all that I fell. I had a binge that lasted over a year. It can get worse and be even worse. You are working on stopping it now.7 -
I want to give a big THANK YOU to everyone here! I joined Sober Grid looking for support, but I seem to have found a lot of judgmental folks that if you are not doing it their way or AA, then you are doing it wrong.
I am a newbie runner and completed my first Half Marathon on 03/09. The last 4 miles sucked so bad. I cannot tell you how bad they sucked... The last 2 - we just walked because that was all we could do. My running buddy had all but hit the wall. I kept saying to her " This is OUR race. We cannot compare ourselves to those that have already finished." I would like to add that we finished 1.5 hours AFTER the early finishers, and still did not finish last! YAY US!
My point to this is - that was OUR race and we finished it the way WE could. This is MY RECOVERY and I cannot compare myself to anyone else. I totally feel that this group embodies that same spirit!!!!
My brain fog seems to be lifting a little today, but I am still unbelievably irritable. I broke down and cried on my husband this morning - thanking him for putting up with me during these most trying days. Better days ahead!!15 -
@Beka3695 I never had the brain fog... well, I guess my brain was so fogged from the bourbon, that anything else felt like clarity. Congrats on that half-marathon! I lost three toenails on my first half marathon. And, mile 10, holy mother of pearl! Keep up the great work! DAY 4!!!! Make the most of it!
@Yellowstone1983 Yeah, hoping by summer the urge has eased up a bit, as beach and beer have always gone hand in hand with me... Hang tough! You got this 90!
@MountainLaurel787 10 weeks! That's awesome AF! Sorry... couldn't resist...
@lorrainequiche59 I can soooooo relate. Had a few text messages last month... woke up, checked my messages, thought, "Hmmmm, I don't remember messaging them.... OH MY GAWD!!!" I had to apologize to a couple people. Drunk Kevin just says whatever is on his mind, apparently.
@Ed_Zilla Thanks for the friend request, and all the support!
Day 18 ~ Feeling groovy.... I love everyone's names on here. I signed up for MFP without realizing there was a forum. Found this, and went to use my regular forum name, Panama Red, and darned if it wasn't taken already, along with all the versions of it. Went for my back-up name, Red Fish, and Son of a Brown Nosed Trout, it was taken also... Love to see all the support on here. Y'all keep kicking it. Looking forward to posting "Week 3"! Ciao!
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Congrats everyone for staying strong in this journey!9
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@kevinrfletcher I cannot believe there is someone else out there that says, "Groovy"!!!! Too funny! Happy 18
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I had an interesting & busy day...after work I went to the new pad & signed my lease & got the keys WOOHOO! Tons of closet space...OMG I've been here for 15 months and have lived with one closet 2.5' wide & 5' deep. It's been VERY annoying...so I'll love that feature, having closets once again!
Anyway, I went & had tea with an older lady that I know & on the way home I stopped at a friend's to pick something up (former 'drinking' friend) and when I pulled in I saw that they had guests. As my friend opened the door & I glanced in her kitchen the first thing I saw was two bottles of wine on the table & someone began to open one of them...obviously it was another of a few cause the guests seemed to have quite the glow on & my friend definitely had a major "glow". She invited me to come in to stay for a bit, but I just did not feel like it, so I thanked her for the invite & left.
Sometimes I feel like a stranger. Like an oddball. Like I don't fit in. And you know what, I'm really ok with that!! I just am. I'll eventually click with someone who has the same goals as I do.
Happy thoughts to everyone
I'm really glad I have this group!! 
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@RubyRed427 L VE this Craig Ferguson video...he's SO honest!! Thanks for posting this again. 4
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just a heads up to folks that have a struggling day or two.........it gets better , trust me. Im close to one year, the first month or so I had temptations.
I did find out, who ever pushed me to drink or indulge or say that " I was uncomfortable to be around because I didn't drink"..well, they aren't your friend...........
just hang in there, it will happen......... the day will come that you won't even give it a second thought. There is wine and beer in the fridge here and its invisible to me My wife has a bit here and there, no problem with her, but is Lent, and she gave it up...........
some of these posters who have gone on for years alcohol free have said similar words..........just don't give in or give up , it will happen..................best wishes13 -
Day 5... Last night was a piece of cake!
Today, I am starting to get nervous about the weekend. I have plans for Sat morning, but nothing Sat PM or Sunday. I know I have to keep busy or I will want to drink.
Maybe this is a good weekend for some deep cleaning of Casa del Beka!!!10 -
Back to AA for me. I am starting to slip ........
I reached out to my friend and we are having lunch tomorrow. He’s also an addiction counselor. Only a fellow alcoholic knows the thinking of an alcoholic. Like Craig Ferguson said when someone would say “Drink responsibly “ he would say “I’ll try...” LOL
I am knee deep in divorce. Signed an apartment lease. So many changes proved too much for me. I cannot do this alone. So, I reached out. If anyone is feeling like their slipping, please reach out. Don’t say isolated and grin and bear it. It can be a lonely disease if you let it. Don’t.
@lorrainequiche59 congrats on the lease
@lloydrt Thanks for your motivation.
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Canceled my girl’s weekend trip because we all know where that would take me.... “Hey, slippery slope. Here I come. “
Let them drink and be merry. I’ll stay home and start packing and go furniture shopping. At least that’s exciting!8 -
@RubyRed427 inspired by your insight and forward thinking! It sounds like you have a pretty excellent weekend ahead of you - maybe some San Pellegrino to celebrate the new place? ☺️💙6
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I am feeling so fine today. It will be 100 days tomorrow AF -- except for my one tumble off the wagon two weeks ago. In truth, I didn't plan on quitting forever 100 days ago. I just knew I had to make some changes and cutting out all alcohol (for "a while") was the clear answer. I have lost 15 pounds since then. I have become more productive than I can ever remember being. And that slip up two weeks ago just made it crystal clear to me that this is not a temporary change. This is my new, amazing life.8
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Thinking of you @RubyRed427. Love and hugs.4
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Yellowstone1983 wrote: »@Beka3695 welcome to the group!
Good evening friends.. Just writing to stay accountable. Tonight's a mildly tough night as I find that it was always easy to have wine when my husband works overnight. I'm reading about benefits of quitting while little man is sleeping. And trying to keep Craig Beck in mind, more specifically 'the kick' as he calls it. Today is day 13 this time around.. I know the urge will pass. I just hate that at these times I think of the summer habits my husband and I have vacationing in wine country and romanticizing it. The summer will be tough.. Right now I'm shooting for a straight 90 days though , so I feel like I should just focus on that for now. Hope everyone has a great AF evening!
Keep going! Focus on the benefits and the reasons more. The little man comes to mind for one, of course. You are doing great!!
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CarvedTones wrote: »Just checking in. Day 637.
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@kcn2bluesky EXCELLENT!3
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@kevinrfletcher KEEP ON TRUCKIN'!!3
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My weekly Friday night check in.. Feeling fine for the rest of the evening.. definitely wanting some indulgent food though.. My diet is quite strict.. But this is typical for me: either balls to the wall or nothing at all. It's even more frustrating when I've been holding steady at 8 pounds lost for the last 5 days.. Need to see that number go down to stay motivated. If I'm calculating accurately, (need a calendar to be sure I'm not off by a day) today is day 15.. Longest streak since starting this goal was 17 days, so I'm on a good track to beat that. I hope everyone has a great AF Friday night!
@salleewins Thanks for the encouragement!
@RubyRed427 Sorry things are so tough right now, but it's wonderful that you're staying the course through it all!3 -
Tough week. Hmmm let's see. Insane time with some joy at the relative's for 5 days. Made it. Trip home drama. 11 hours of drama at work the next day and I am not seriously kidding on that. Yes some tough errands to do yesterday, but they are done!!!!!!!!! Today I locked the keys in the car. Oh yeah and it took 5 hours for Rooadside to show up. I had to laugh when the guy smiles and says he is early??? If it was last year in January, I would have walked/stormed off to the liquor and have packed away quite a bit by the time that he showed. Stupid, right?? Definitely. Back then was another story. I probably would have drove off and repeated the buying again etc. then.Today better. I can sleep tonite. Today instead among other things, I planned how I will spend next Wednesday. Planting herbs in inside pots, putting up the desk to begin the writing I am to do. The chair is done, to go with it. Getting a turkey sub. Maybe I will hit the laundry mat with a sleeping bag. Most of these things my son would have done with me. The writing I am doing because of him. Wednesday will mark 4 years that he went to heaven. I will go to the AA meeting that I usually miss because I am at work and the client in now in rehab for her fracture due to age. He wanted me to quit and so I will be happy that I am continuing to do it. This year in May he would have been 26. I would be lying if I said my heart stopped bleeding because it never did, and I hear that it never will, but alcohol was not the answer to help me make it. Alcohol said it could help dry the daily crying, but it lied to me. I guess I say these things right out so you can see how hard it is and that it could always be harder. I could be missing all my kids right now. I know that I now have 2 in heaven, but I could have 3 there. I could be paralyzed, too. You get the idea.
Keep strong everyone. It encourages me!!! Even those that start again!!!12 -
@salleewins I can't imagine the grief you're experiencing! I am sorry for your losses! Sending you a big hug and a pat on the back for walking right into those feelings instead of medicating them.6
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@lloydrt That was just what I needed to hear this week, so thank you!4
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@RubyRed427 Good luck with the AA meetings. Back in the day I used to attend Al-Anon meetings for other reasons and I found most (sorry - but true) of the meetings to be tedious. HOWEVER, on occasion, someone would say something that would hit close to home and the time immediately before and after the meetings were awesome. I always attended - never missed a meeting - for the before/after one-on-one meeting times. Good luck!
P.S. That family member is 100% recovered and doing well.
@salleewins I agree with @Yellowstone1983. I can not imagine losing a child either. We have good friends that have gone through the same thing and all we could do was be there for them. As bad as you are hurting over your loss, I am sure your friends are hurting too because they wish they could use a magic wand to grant you some peace. If interested in some bible passages that really helped, send me a PM...I will be glad to explain their meaning in plain English.
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Yesterday was 9 weeks AF free for me and we also returned home from vacationing at the Clearwater, Florida "bar and grill." I came close to failing one evening and had serious temptations two other times, but I made it through the week...Ultimately, I did get "ice cream" 3 times for beating back the demons. Even better, (DON'T HATE ME) I lost 2.8 pounds on vacation!!! Bammo! Take THAT vacation! I have a new weight loss plan - - - daily walks on the beach, no snacks, and eating sensibly. Fighting urges must burn a lot of calories! I also learned: Good seafood is not cheap and cheap seafood is not good.
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@Ed_Zilla Thanks so much for updating us. I’m happy you beat back the demons with some delicious ice cream! And you lost 2 pounds - no FAIR! Giggle- I’m happy for you though. Congrats on week 9!!!
@salleewins I just dont have the words to comfort you but do know you always have us to turn to, to vent, to express, to cry with... This was a bad week for you BUT you persevered and didn’t drink. So proud of you, so proud of your commitment and so proud of you courage. Xo
@Yellowstone1983 What is your diet? Sounds like a success at 8 pounds! Congrats on day 15. Stay vigilant. Xo
@lagoscarrie Bravo- 100 days of sobriety brings countless more benefits. Can you imagine how happy your brain and organs feel- regenerating. I agree with you; I cannot view this as a temporary change. It needs to be a lifestyle.
@Beka3695 Keep busy. Maybe sign up for yoga class this weekend. I saw at our yoga studio is a 1.5. Hour meditation session- try something new this week. Go paint pottery. Look online for a cooking class. Sometimes when we have a new project; we look forward to that project. Try something new this weekend.7 -
@Ed_Zilla Congratulations on 9 weeks and staying strong through your vaca! Also, congrats on the weightloss!
@RubyRed427 I'm on the 17 day diet. 4 cycles of 17 days, the first of which is the most restrictive, then you move through the 4 and repeat until goal weight. The name makes it sound gimmicky, but it's a very healthy, whole food type of diet that takes the weight off quick, especially in cycle 1. Broke through my plateau, so as of this morning, 11 pounds down in 2 weeks.. I'm thrilled with myself!5 -
Thanks for the support always everyone!!
@Ed_Zilla Nice job on vacation!! GREAT job on the 9 weeks!! Yes it really is beating back the demons. I have to let down the diet plan some this week, too, because my bigger problem is alcohol. I studied through Griefshare. Excellent for the most part. I don't know if you know about those support study groups. I am almost constantly having to replace lies in my head with the truth of the Bible and His word regarding the grief. If it wasn't for Him and good people speaking comfort and truth, AND trying to help others, I probably would not have made it out of this one. I was told to go to AA and I had an argument about it. I laugh now, like I know what is best, especially while drinking. I really had to try a few meetings to see which ones worked. Now for me, I am hoping to get into a stronger spiritually backed recovery meeting. I find many believers in AA, so I can still go there as I have to participate in a group. Any Bible verse couldn't hurt, so feel free to send. Thank you!!
@lorrainequiche59 Congrats on your new apartment!! It sounds lovely!!
@Yellowstone1983 That sounds wonderful!! Good going!! Congratulations!!6
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