If you had to be unhappy

Tankiscool wrote: »

r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »

Nerdswrkout2_1978 wrote: »

If your unhappy both ways...pick married! Then you can at least split the bills and you get tax breaks! Who knows? Maybe you’ll grow tolerate each other.

Unhappy and single is not fun...even if it is for the best.

You are so smart!

I choose married and unhappy. Dat tax return...

Yeah but at that point it be an agreed arrangement, so you'd be happy and that's not the point

Dammit! Good point!

RomaineCalm wrote: »

Married only because I hate cleaning toilets.

2nded that and laundry sucks too

Tankiscool wrote: »

Keep_on_cardio wrote: »

Tankiscool wrote: »

JustPassingTime wrote: »

newmeadow wrote: »

JustPassingTime wrote: »

Lol @newmeadow I know what you're doing. You're trying to see who are the unhappy married people for ammo on a debate or something 🤣🤣🤣

You're ever so jaded my dear.

Lmaooo! But being unhappy either married or single it's the same feeling I would think.

Married and unhappy = not getting any
Single and unhappy = you are doing something wrong

🤷🏻‍♀️ you can be unhappy/married and still do the THANG.. dang.. lol.. not a freaking monastery.

You can still do the THANG but at the end you can't be like " I'll call you an uber" so disappointed afterwards anyways if you're married 😂

🤣🤣🤣 well there’s always a couch, to pretend it’s an Uber. You’re halfway away 😆

Experience both vicariously, be neither

FeelinFooFoo wrote: »

Nerdswrkout2_1978 wrote: »

FeelinFooFoo wrote: »

I think if I was gona be unhappy anyway then I would do it with somebody.

A problem shared is a problem halved after all. We could be unhappy together. Or we might end up making each other happy....

Id take the chance on that.

Great perspective! Misery loves company!

The only way it wouldn't work this way, id imagine, was if the other person actually compounded your unhappiness.

Like they were a total douch bag.
In which case I may venture out alone.

or if you were so unhappy you infected your partner with your misery. and then there were two.

caco_ethes wrote: »

So all y’all can dish your own ice cream? That’s bullshrimp

“Scoop” seems to fit so much better here. 😘

Single. I wouldn't want to drag someone I care about down.

newmeadow wrote: »

but you had a choice: To be unhappy and married or unhappy and single, what would you choose?

Isn't this a tautology?

no man will determine my happiness.
sorry im a misery

kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »

caco_ethes wrote: »

So all y’all can dish your own ice cream? That’s bullshrimp

“Scoop” seems to fit so much better here. 😘

Don’t foist synonyms at me

1sphere wrote: »

What if being married to someone great could cure your unhappiness?

Never rely on someone else for your happiness ...

Which going by that this thread concept is moot?

🤔

caco_ethes wrote: »

RomaineCalm wrote: »

caco_ethes wrote: »

kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »

caco_ethes wrote: »

So all y’all can dish your own ice cream? That’s bullshrimp

“Scoop” seems to fit so much better here. 😘

Don’t foist synonyms at me

But could he thrust them?

What inducement necessitates you to importune by and by the most wanting

Why do you insist on being the worst?

For the reason that yours truly is superb at doing such.

I don’t think it’s that simple of an answer, especially if you have children. I truly believe if children are involved their happiness should be taken into consideration. I don’t believe parents should stay merely for the children, but if both parents are willing to work on things it’s best for the children involved unless abuse or infidelity is an issue. With that being said, ultimately unhappiness may come from within. If so, changing something externally is only a bandage to the actual problem. This unhealthy coping mechanism will be passed on from generation to generation if not attended to properly. Changing your relationship statues won’t fix the problem in this instance, rather more than likely will add to it.

JustPassingTime wrote: »

Vikka_V wrote: »

Single, If I were married and unhappy I think I'd be resentful and blame spouse at least in part for unhappiness - even if the unhappiness would be there either way

...wow @newmeadow...it this a psychological experiment? If answered truthfully, it may be kinda telling of some core personality traits

You know it is. One of the best thing in this place is trying to figure out people's personalities, traits and behavior kinda like people watching.

Except do people truly say things genuinely?! My experience in life is that people tend to say things that they think people want to hear.

laprimaJenny wrote: »

JustPassingTime wrote: »

Vikka_V wrote: »

Single, If I were married and unhappy I think I'd be resentful and blame spouse at least in part for unhappiness - even if the unhappiness would be there either way

...wow @newmeadow...it this a psychological experiment? If answered truthfully, it may be kinda telling of some core personality traits

You know it is. One of the best thing in this place is trying to figure out people's personalities, traits and behavior kinda like people watching.

Except do people truly say things genuinely?! My experience in life is that people tend to say things that they think people want to hear.

Unless Im being paid, I most often say things genuinely, or say nothing at all. I'm a blurter too. On here I'm even less inhibited, I feel I can express myself better written than verbally (I sometimes just ramble and forget what I say in person).
At work I'll bite my tongue, or say nothing and just smile and maybe shrug, or say something vague if I disagree with someone like "ya, maybe" or "I don't know", sometimes I just stare at them and say nothing (awkward silence has become one of my happy places).
Come to think of it, I often do this outside of work too, unless I feel like engaging in conversation...then I let loose what I think (even if it doesn't make sense) just to get it out or get feedback to consider why I think what I do.