Things people say when you lose weight
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Worst: In laws. Every time I see them they make backhanded compliments and say they can't understand why I would want to lose weight (the whole be healthy thing doesn't register as a reason to them). I've lost 95 pounds in about a year. This past week mother-in-law asked, what do you weigh now? I finally had enough and retorted, if I were gaining weight instead of losing would you ask me my weight? Shut her up fast, but still very annoying.
Best: You look healthier (co-worker I rarely see in person, a few months into my journey).
Awe - I'm not a mother in law, but I could be oneday (son is 26). Instead of taking it negatively, you could show the mother-in-law a BMI chart from the CDC, and where your goals are for health, show your weight and where you are heading. In many areas, especially in US, our perception of "normal" is skewed, especially in families. At one time, being thin was viewed as poor/poverty and plump indicated wealth. I did my 23andme and discovered I'm supposed to be genetically thinner than most...eyes-wide-open. Totally lifestyle choices.14 -
long_for_me wrote: »People say "Take care of yourself." as if I do not. I have never heard that when I was obese.
It might be regional, its odd they didn't say it before. It's very common for me to hear that phrase - but I work in a nautical community, and people are gone a lot, and it could be awhile till you see them sometimes. It usually means, if I don't see you for awhile take-care-of-yourself til we meet again.13 -
Yesterday, my coworker told me my pants are about to fall down coz I'm now too tiny. I wear scrubs for work. I refuse to buy new sets until I reach my goal, which is 7 lbs away.
I bought new sets when I lost 25 lbs and now they are pretty baggy on me.20 -
People sometimes don't think about what they are saying or what it means to the other person. I recently lost a lot of weight due to a lengthy hospital stay, and diuretics for fluid overload. I lost 65 liters of fluid which was about 63 lbs. I have comments like, you must not have liked the hospital food - you don't need to lose any more weight, it won't hurt you to eat this or that just one time - oh just blow your diet for one day and enjoy - crazy thing is, I enjoy eating healthy and lean. I am still considered overweight - and would benefit from losing 30 more pounds. I went from a size 22 to 12. It is a struggle, and my husband is very supportive and I am my own cheerleader - I don't need the praise of others. My reward is feeling healthy30
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This is hands down the strangest weight loss experience I’ve had.
A neighbor who lifts recommended me to my gym and my awesome trainer. He told her a bunch of neighbors went out to dinner and had a discussion on how much weight I’d lost and how different I looked, and he told them about my training. (She told me because she was proud for me, not thinking that would kinda piss me off. She’s like a little power lifting fairy- never an ill thought crosses her mind )
I went to a memorial service for neighbor’s daughter yesterday, and another neighbor came up and hugged me. That was OK. There was a lot of that going on under the circs.
But then he grabbed me by both shoulders and proceeded to feel my arms up through my jacket. I mean he squeezed them up and down like he was at a meat market. Then he grinned and gave me a thumbs up.
I was so embarrassed at his behavior. Inappropriate at any place and any time, but at a memorial, too? For Pete’s sake!40 -
springlering62 wrote: »This is hands down the strangest weight loss experience I’ve had.
A neighbor who lifts recommended me to my gym and my awesome trainer. He told her a bunch of neighbors went out to dinner and had a discussion on how much weight I’d lost and how different I looked, and he told them about my training. (She told me because she was proud for me, not thinking that would kinda piss me off. She’s like a little power lifting fairy- never an ill thought crosses her mind )
I went to a memorial service for neighbor’s daughter yesterday, and another neighbor came up and hugged me. That was OK. There was a lot of that going on under the circs.
But then he grabbed me by both shoulders and proceeded to feel my arms up through my jacket. I mean he squeezed them up and down like he was at a meat market. Then he grinned and gave me a thumbs up.
I was so embarrassed at his behavior. Inappropriate at any place and any time, but at a memorial, too? For Pete’s sake!
That is SO strange and inappropriate at the memorial, my goodness. When my grandfather passed away (in his 90s) I had dozens of extended family members commenting on my weight loss. AT THE FUNERAL. It was really inappropriate and upsetting to me, and to be honest I have avoided some other types of social situations since then due to this experience. I didn't go to my 20 year class reunion for example. I didn't want that level of attention & comments.21 -
springlering62 wrote: »This is hands down the strangest weight loss experience I’ve had.
A neighbor who lifts recommended me to my gym and my awesome trainer. He told her a bunch of neighbors went out to dinner and had a discussion on how much weight I’d lost and how different I looked, and he told them about my training. (She told me because she was proud for me, not thinking that would kinda piss me off. She’s like a little power lifting fairy- never an ill thought crosses her mind )
I went to a memorial service for neighbor’s daughter yesterday, and another neighbor came up and hugged me. That was OK. There was a lot of that going on under the circs.
But then he grabbed me by both shoulders and proceeded to feel my arms up through my jacket. I mean he squeezed them up and down like he was at a meat market. Then he grinned and gave me a thumbs up.
I was so embarrassed at his behavior. Inappropriate at any place and any time, but at a memorial, too? For Pete’s sake!
Maybe I'm less socially adept.. but he would have gotten hit if he did that to me. Even if it was somewhere more appropriate.
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DianeMichaelis1 wrote: »People sometimes don't think about what they are saying or what it means to the other person. I recently lost a lot of weight due to a lengthy hospital stay, and diuretics for fluid overload. I lost 65 liters of fluid which was about 63 lbs. I have comments like, you must not have liked the hospital food - you don't need to lose any more weight, it won't hurt you to eat this or that just one time - oh just blow your diet for one day and enjoy - crazy thing is, I enjoy eating healthy and lean. I am still considered overweight - and would benefit from losing 30 more pounds. I went from a size 22 to 12. It is a struggle, and my husband is very supportive and I am my own cheerleader - I don't need the praise of others. My reward is feeling healthy
65 liters us equal to 65 kilos.7 -
"It's so easy for you. You are SOOOOO lucky! That would never work for me."
Which basically gives me zero credit. They disrespect both me AND themselves with those kind of comments. As if some people are inherently fit and healthy by accident and other people stand no chance, so why should they bother? People setting themselves up for failure with sad excuses like this annoys me. They can think whatever they want about me, I don't care. The tragic thing is how little credit they give themselves.47 -
At the gym yesterday-"wow you look fantastic. You've lost a lot of weight. You were rather plumpy, weren't you?" 🤣
Interesting enough my weight loss has been down to injury so not being able to train and therefore not eating nearly as much as I was. The guy talking assumed that the reason I had been training was to lose weight rather than to get strong.
Although his comment wasn't very PC, I did find it quite funny. I put it down to him being from an older generation where perhaps it was more common and acceptable to make remarks about another person's weight.9 -
"You'll fall down the cracks in the pavement!"
"Skinny-minny"
"You'll disappear before long"
"Don't lose too much weight"
"I hardly recognise you" / "I didn't think you were the same person by looking at you"
Just a few of the comments I've had, mostly from work. My favourite though is : "You make it look so easy!" It is and it isn't. I had a complete diet overhaul and get myself to the gym 5/6 days a week. Plus I'm in training for a trek to Nepal in Oct so need to train hard for that.17 -
Nothing. Absolutely nothing.
I have since changed my name to cellophane...40 -
The best comment was from my mam
"u doing ur best go ahead & u strong enough to do it" I lov my mam she is my inspiration26 -
Ive received alot of comments, all of which i took it with a laugh, thing is ALL of the comments said to me, i either have said it to someone losing weight in the past or thought it.9
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sundaylouwho wrote: »I'm at the beginning of my journey and only down 4-5 lbs. The comment I received yesterday was:
"Don't lose too much. I can already see that you're thinner. You don't want to get too skinny."
I'm 5'2" and around 150 lbs (mostly fat). Ideally, I want to get closer to the high end of the healthy BMI stat OR shed some more fat and gain some muscle. Hearing that comment felt so negative! I feel really good about the little bit I have lost, but I still have some fat around the midsection that I'm working on losing.
Can I just say I'm 5'2", my usual maintenance weight range is 148-152lb (currently a little higher as I've just finished marathon training/bulking) and I get a lot of people telling me I don't need to lose more. While I do have a higher than average amount of muscle (thanks to lifting heavy while losing the weight), a lot of loose skin and a fairly low bf, I'd still like to get down to 135lb this summer as I cut, mostly though because doing so fits in with my goals of working on speed over the next 18months.
But I do not want to be skinny, I have been skinny before and it doesn't look good on me, I look better with the extra muscle (I'm a UK10/12 (very occasionally an 8-10) and last time I was this size I weighed around a stone less). When I first got down to the 148-152lb I had about 30% bodyfat, 18months and a lot of work later I'm down to around 21% (hard to be accurate without a scan as I have a lot of loose skin as I said).
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sundaylouwho wrote: »I'm at the beginning of my journey and only down 4-5 lbs. The comment I received yesterday was:
"Don't lose too much. I can already see that you're thinner. You don't want to get too skinny."
I'm 5'2" and around 150 lbs (mostly fat). Ideally, I want to get closer to the high end of the healthy BMI stat OR shed some more fat and gain some muscle. Hearing that comment felt so negative! I feel really good about the little bit I have lost, but I still have some fat around the midsection that I'm working on losing.
Can I just say I'm 5'2", my usual maintenance weight range is 148-152lb (currently a little higher as I've just finished marathon training/bulking) and I get a lot of people telling me I don't need to lose more. While I do have a higher than average amount of muscle (thanks to lifting heavy while losing the weight), a lot of loose skin and a fairly low bf, I'd still like to get down to 135lb this summer as I cut, mostly though because doing so fits in with my goals of working on speed over the next 18months.
But I do not want to be skinny, I have been skinny before and it doesn't look good on me, I look better with the extra muscle (I'm a UK10/12 (very occasionally an 8-10) and last time I was this size I weighed around a stone less). When I first got down to the 148-152lb I had about 30% bodyfat, 18months and a lot of work later I'm down to around 21% (hard to be accurate without a scan as I have a lot of loose skin as I said).
I'm also 5'2" and currently at 147 and I also get comments of "you'll disappear" and "you look great you don't need to lose more!" However my BF% is at 35% so I know I definitely need to lose more fat, but I dress well for my body shape and these people don't see me naked so I understand why they might think I'm small enough now!
For the "disappear" comments I like to answer back "I hope so!" It really confuses people and makes me laugh!6 -
My sis in law repeatedly tells me “you’re too skinny momma you need to stop losing”
Or another fave “you’re a mom now you don’t need to be a size 4” (or whatever small size)
So you know, the ole non-compliments
(I’m 5’5” and a buck forty ish and not trying to lose really just lifting weights)
Annoyed can you tell lol
Ha, I'm a stepmom to teenagers and I'm a size 4-6 in pants. Moms get to be whatever size they want to be!7 -
I've gotten, "I can tell you've really slimmed down; you look great" spoken in all sincerity to "Wow, you've lost a lot of weight. Wow, you look really good. Keep it up!" said in a shocked, approving voice. To the latter, I wanted to say "Well I've lost about 15 pounds. I've gone from 157 to 142. Did I look really bad before? Was I huge?" I just said thank you. I guess it showed up more dramatically in my face, and I was wearing my new skinny jeans that day. But the way it was said was off-putting.
My uncle politely asked if I had lost weight. When I confirmed, he followed up just as politely, "Did you mean to?" Once I confirmed that too, he was congratulatory. I appreciated that he was reserved about making comments until he knew it was intentional.24 -
hallobailey wrote: »Weight loss is a very personal journey but it inevitably draws comments from the people around us. I’m curious, what kind of comments have you received related to your weight loss? Good, bad, frustrating. Here are a couple for me...
Good: “You are looking fit”
Frustrating: “you don’t have any weight to lose” or “don’t get obsessed with your new diet”
This is the 2ND time this week someone asked me if my SUPER YOUNG looking, really beautiful 20 something year old daughter was MY SISTER!!!!! I'm an older woman, btw...uhhhhh BOOM!
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"Are you losing weight? On purpose?"8
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