Things people say when you lose weight
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seltzermint555 wrote: »Chesirekate wrote: »Just the other day we had a breakfast at work. As I reached for a hard earned doughnut, the man behind me said "now now, you don't want to ruin all of your hard work". I couldn't believe it!
By contrast another co-worker said "you must be exercising more. you look very strong" that was my favorite
I'd like to punch donut dude. Ugh.
I had that almost exact thing said to me. I was in a convenience store getting a donut for me and my husband and ran into an old friend. She looked quite a bit heavier than in the past, not that it matters, but she said, "You don't want to undo everything you've accomplished!" WTF - I ended up talking to her in great detail about counting calories and boring her to death and I wanted to not-so-gently suggest she try it herself, but I'm not that mean...
20 minutes later I bet she was sorry she said anything about your donut. lol21 -
ItsyBitsy246 wrote: »Nothing. Not a peep, good or bad after losing 35-40 pounds. I'm pretty sure there was a noticeable difference between my weight of 185 and my weight of 145!
Personally, I would rather not get any comments on my weight.
Me too! I’ve only lost 24lbs and have 160 or so more to go but I did have a dance mom comment that I looked like I lost weight and looked good, and my sister has commented that I looked good too but I’d still rather just people keep their comments to themselves because it’s my life and journey not theirs
To each their own, I guess. I personally LOVE getting comments about my weight loss. Makes me want to do an extra 20 minutes on the elliptical every time!27 -
The ones that stood out in a negative way were
“Oh my god I remember you, you used to be a really big girl didn’t you?”and “I bet the boys are lining up for you now” and “Who would have ever thought “that” was under there this whole time”.
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I am a normal BMI but overfat, so I am trying to lose pounds/fat. I especially hate the cellulite above my knees and on the front of my thighs (looks dreadful in summer clothes). I keep hearing “I think you look fine” from an overweight girl at work who has never seen my bare legs. Not helpful. I’ve stopped mentioning anything to her about counting calories.9
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squiggledypiggledycat wrote: »After months of losing weight due to severe anaemia, my bones were jutting out of my hips and I was so miserable and weak I could barely walk. I received the comment 'you look so good!' From a lot of people who hadn't seen me in ages. I wanted to cry.
From that day on I never comment on people's weightloss without prompting. just incase they have a tape worm.
I got way too many compliments when I was 16 and medically emaciated from an eating disorder. It was bizarre and sad.17 -
My fave was
Them 'are u going to tell me your secret then, how have u done it?!'
Me ' i just watch what i eat and exercise'
Them *face falling* ' oh, yeh that doesn't work for me so I'm having weight loss surgery'
No idea what magic they thought I'd been doing
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My sister told me she was glad I was doing something about my weight as she was worried about my health, coming from someone who is 6” shorter and at least 28lbs bigger than I ever was, who refuses to use mfp because it’s too much faff but thinks drinking aloe Vera juice will help her lose weight, then spends a whole afternoon telling me all about her health issues, all of which can be attributed to her weight17
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I didn’t like it when people didn’t recognize me if it had been a while. Showed they didn’t really know me. But if someone could look me in the eye and have a convo, I wD more comfortable. I didn’t like drawing attention. On the other hand, I lost a lot of weight so it was inevitable that I had comments.
Worst was someone concerned with my weight loss. Said she was an onconology nurse. I was seeing my doc regularly. I wanted to ask where her concern was when I was 300 pounds.18 -
My fave was
Them 'are u going to tell me your secret then, how have u done it?!'
Me ' i just watch what i eat and exercise'
Them *face falling* ' oh, yeh that doesn't work for me so I'm having weight loss surgery'
No idea what magic they thought I'd been doing lol
That's the part I don't understand when I watch the show My 600 lb. Life. So many people on the show go in thinking the surgery is going to magically change everything and then are disappointed when they are told they still need to watch what they eat and exercise.22 -
My fave was
Them 'are u going to tell me your secret then, how have u done it?!'
Me ' i just watch what i eat and exercise'
Them *face falling* ' oh, yeh that doesn't work for me so I'm having weight loss surgery'
No idea what magic they thought I'd been doing lol
That's the part I don't understand when I watch the show My 600 lb. Life. So many people on the show go in thinking the surgery is going to magically change everything and then are disappointed when they are told they still need to watch what they eat and exercise.
Oh I love this show!! Dr Now is so straight talking.. he makes so much sense, 1200 calories a day, high protein no snacking.. love him.11 -
Worst: In laws. Every time I see them they make backhanded compliments and say they can't understand why I would want to lose weight (the whole be healthy thing doesn't register as a reason to them). I've lost 95 pounds in about a year. This past week mother-in-law asked, what do you weigh now? I finally had enough and retorted, if I were gaining weight instead of losing would you ask me my weight? Shut her up fast, but still very annoying.
Best: You look healthier (co-worker I rarely see in person, a few months into my journey).
Awe - I'm not a mother in law, but I could be oneday (son is 26). Instead of taking it negatively, you could show the mother-in-law a BMI chart from the CDC, and where your goals are for health, show your weight and where you are heading. In many areas, especially in US, our perception of "normal" is skewed, especially in families. At one time, being thin was viewed as poor/poverty and plump indicated wealth. I did my 23andme and discovered I'm supposed to be genetically thinner than most...eyes-wide-open. Totally lifestyle choices.14 -
long_for_me wrote: »People say "Take care of yourself." as if I do not. I have never heard that when I was obese.
It might be regional, its odd they didn't say it before. It's very common for me to hear that phrase - but I work in a nautical community, and people are gone a lot, and it could be awhile till you see them sometimes. It usually means, if I don't see you for awhile take-care-of-yourself til we meet again.13 -
Yesterday, my coworker told me my pants are about to fall down coz I'm now too tiny. I wear scrubs for work. I refuse to buy new sets until I reach my goal, which is 7 lbs away.
I bought new sets when I lost 25 lbs and now they are pretty baggy on me.20 -
People sometimes don't think about what they are saying or what it means to the other person. I recently lost a lot of weight due to a lengthy hospital stay, and diuretics for fluid overload. I lost 65 liters of fluid which was about 63 lbs. I have comments like, you must not have liked the hospital food - you don't need to lose any more weight, it won't hurt you to eat this or that just one time - oh just blow your diet for one day and enjoy - crazy thing is, I enjoy eating healthy and lean. I am still considered overweight - and would benefit from losing 30 more pounds. I went from a size 22 to 12. It is a struggle, and my husband is very supportive and I am my own cheerleader - I don't need the praise of others. My reward is feeling healthy30
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This is hands down the strangest weight loss experience I’ve had.
A neighbor who lifts recommended me to my gym and my awesome trainer. He told her a bunch of neighbors went out to dinner and had a discussion on how much weight I’d lost and how different I looked, and he told them about my training. (She told me because she was proud for me, not thinking that would kinda piss me off. She’s like a little power lifting fairy- never an ill thought crosses her mind )
I went to a memorial service for neighbor’s daughter yesterday, and another neighbor came up and hugged me. That was OK. There was a lot of that going on under the circs.
But then he grabbed me by both shoulders and proceeded to feel my arms up through my jacket. I mean he squeezed them up and down like he was at a meat market. Then he grinned and gave me a thumbs up.
I was so embarrassed at his behavior. Inappropriate at any place and any time, but at a memorial, too? For Pete’s sake!40 -
springlering62 wrote: »This is hands down the strangest weight loss experience I’ve had.
A neighbor who lifts recommended me to my gym and my awesome trainer. He told her a bunch of neighbors went out to dinner and had a discussion on how much weight I’d lost and how different I looked, and he told them about my training. (She told me because she was proud for me, not thinking that would kinda piss me off. She’s like a little power lifting fairy- never an ill thought crosses her mind )
I went to a memorial service for neighbor’s daughter yesterday, and another neighbor came up and hugged me. That was OK. There was a lot of that going on under the circs.
But then he grabbed me by both shoulders and proceeded to feel my arms up through my jacket. I mean he squeezed them up and down like he was at a meat market. Then he grinned and gave me a thumbs up.
I was so embarrassed at his behavior. Inappropriate at any place and any time, but at a memorial, too? For Pete’s sake!
That is SO strange and inappropriate at the memorial, my goodness. When my grandfather passed away (in his 90s) I had dozens of extended family members commenting on my weight loss. AT THE FUNERAL. It was really inappropriate and upsetting to me, and to be honest I have avoided some other types of social situations since then due to this experience. I didn't go to my 20 year class reunion for example. I didn't want that level of attention & comments.21 -
springlering62 wrote: »This is hands down the strangest weight loss experience I’ve had.
A neighbor who lifts recommended me to my gym and my awesome trainer. He told her a bunch of neighbors went out to dinner and had a discussion on how much weight I’d lost and how different I looked, and he told them about my training. (She told me because she was proud for me, not thinking that would kinda piss me off. She’s like a little power lifting fairy- never an ill thought crosses her mind )
I went to a memorial service for neighbor’s daughter yesterday, and another neighbor came up and hugged me. That was OK. There was a lot of that going on under the circs.
But then he grabbed me by both shoulders and proceeded to feel my arms up through my jacket. I mean he squeezed them up and down like he was at a meat market. Then he grinned and gave me a thumbs up.
I was so embarrassed at his behavior. Inappropriate at any place and any time, but at a memorial, too? For Pete’s sake!
Maybe I'm less socially adept.. but he would have gotten hit if he did that to me. Even if it was somewhere more appropriate.
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DianeMichaelis1 wrote: »People sometimes don't think about what they are saying or what it means to the other person. I recently lost a lot of weight due to a lengthy hospital stay, and diuretics for fluid overload. I lost 65 liters of fluid which was about 63 lbs. I have comments like, you must not have liked the hospital food - you don't need to lose any more weight, it won't hurt you to eat this or that just one time - oh just blow your diet for one day and enjoy - crazy thing is, I enjoy eating healthy and lean. I am still considered overweight - and would benefit from losing 30 more pounds. I went from a size 22 to 12. It is a struggle, and my husband is very supportive and I am my own cheerleader - I don't need the praise of others. My reward is feeling healthy
65 liters us equal to 65 kilos.7 -
"It's so easy for you. You are SOOOOO lucky! That would never work for me."
Which basically gives me zero credit. They disrespect both me AND themselves with those kind of comments. As if some people are inherently fit and healthy by accident and other people stand no chance, so why should they bother? People setting themselves up for failure with sad excuses like this annoys me. They can think whatever they want about me, I don't care. The tragic thing is how little credit they give themselves.47 -
At the gym yesterday-"wow you look fantastic. You've lost a lot of weight. You were rather plumpy, weren't you?" 🤣
Interesting enough my weight loss has been down to injury so not being able to train and therefore not eating nearly as much as I was. The guy talking assumed that the reason I had been training was to lose weight rather than to get strong.
Although his comment wasn't very PC, I did find it quite funny. I put it down to him being from an older generation where perhaps it was more common and acceptable to make remarks about another person's weight.9 -
"You'll fall down the cracks in the pavement!"
"Skinny-minny"
"You'll disappear before long"
"Don't lose too much weight"
"I hardly recognise you" / "I didn't think you were the same person by looking at you"
Just a few of the comments I've had, mostly from work. My favourite though is : "You make it look so easy!" It is and it isn't. I had a complete diet overhaul and get myself to the gym 5/6 days a week. Plus I'm in training for a trek to Nepal in Oct so need to train hard for that.17 -
Nothing. Absolutely nothing.
I have since changed my name to cellophane...40 -
The best comment was from my mam
"u doing ur best go ahead & u strong enough to do it" I lov my mam she is my inspiration26 -
Ive received alot of comments, all of which i took it with a laugh, thing is ALL of the comments said to me, i either have said it to someone losing weight in the past or thought it.9
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sundaylouwho wrote: »I'm at the beginning of my journey and only down 4-5 lbs. The comment I received yesterday was:
"Don't lose too much. I can already see that you're thinner. You don't want to get too skinny."
I'm 5'2" and around 150 lbs (mostly fat). Ideally, I want to get closer to the high end of the healthy BMI stat OR shed some more fat and gain some muscle. Hearing that comment felt so negative! I feel really good about the little bit I have lost, but I still have some fat around the midsection that I'm working on losing.
Can I just say I'm 5'2", my usual maintenance weight range is 148-152lb (currently a little higher as I've just finished marathon training/bulking) and I get a lot of people telling me I don't need to lose more. While I do have a higher than average amount of muscle (thanks to lifting heavy while losing the weight), a lot of loose skin and a fairly low bf, I'd still like to get down to 135lb this summer as I cut, mostly though because doing so fits in with my goals of working on speed over the next 18months.
But I do not want to be skinny, I have been skinny before and it doesn't look good on me, I look better with the extra muscle (I'm a UK10/12 (very occasionally an 8-10) and last time I was this size I weighed around a stone less). When I first got down to the 148-152lb I had about 30% bodyfat, 18months and a lot of work later I'm down to around 21% (hard to be accurate without a scan as I have a lot of loose skin as I said).
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sundaylouwho wrote: »I'm at the beginning of my journey and only down 4-5 lbs. The comment I received yesterday was:
"Don't lose too much. I can already see that you're thinner. You don't want to get too skinny."
I'm 5'2" and around 150 lbs (mostly fat). Ideally, I want to get closer to the high end of the healthy BMI stat OR shed some more fat and gain some muscle. Hearing that comment felt so negative! I feel really good about the little bit I have lost, but I still have some fat around the midsection that I'm working on losing.
Can I just say I'm 5'2", my usual maintenance weight range is 148-152lb (currently a little higher as I've just finished marathon training/bulking) and I get a lot of people telling me I don't need to lose more. While I do have a higher than average amount of muscle (thanks to lifting heavy while losing the weight), a lot of loose skin and a fairly low bf, I'd still like to get down to 135lb this summer as I cut, mostly though because doing so fits in with my goals of working on speed over the next 18months.
But I do not want to be skinny, I have been skinny before and it doesn't look good on me, I look better with the extra muscle (I'm a UK10/12 (very occasionally an 8-10) and last time I was this size I weighed around a stone less). When I first got down to the 148-152lb I had about 30% bodyfat, 18months and a lot of work later I'm down to around 21% (hard to be accurate without a scan as I have a lot of loose skin as I said).
I'm also 5'2" and currently at 147 and I also get comments of "you'll disappear" and "you look great you don't need to lose more!" However my BF% is at 35% so I know I definitely need to lose more fat, but I dress well for my body shape and these people don't see me naked so I understand why they might think I'm small enough now!
For the "disappear" comments I like to answer back "I hope so!" It really confuses people and makes me laugh!6 -
My sis in law repeatedly tells me “you’re too skinny momma you need to stop losing”
Or another fave “you’re a mom now you don’t need to be a size 4” (or whatever small size)
So you know, the ole non-compliments
(I’m 5’5” and a buck forty ish and not trying to lose really just lifting weights)
Annoyed can you tell lol
Ha, I'm a stepmom to teenagers and I'm a size 4-6 in pants. Moms get to be whatever size they want to be!7 -
I've gotten, "I can tell you've really slimmed down; you look great" spoken in all sincerity to "Wow, you've lost a lot of weight. Wow, you look really good. Keep it up!" said in a shocked, approving voice. To the latter, I wanted to say "Well I've lost about 15 pounds. I've gone from 157 to 142. Did I look really bad before? Was I huge?" I just said thank you. I guess it showed up more dramatically in my face, and I was wearing my new skinny jeans that day. But the way it was said was off-putting.
My uncle politely asked if I had lost weight. When I confirmed, he followed up just as politely, "Did you mean to?" Once I confirmed that too, he was congratulatory. I appreciated that he was reserved about making comments until he knew it was intentional.24 -
hallobailey wrote: »Weight loss is a very personal journey but it inevitably draws comments from the people around us. I’m curious, what kind of comments have you received related to your weight loss? Good, bad, frustrating. Here are a couple for me...
Good: “You are looking fit”
Frustrating: “you don’t have any weight to lose” or “don’t get obsessed with your new diet”
This is the 2ND time this week someone asked me if my SUPER YOUNG looking, really beautiful 20 something year old daughter was MY SISTER!!!!! I'm an older woman, btw...uhhhhh BOOM!
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"Are you losing weight? On purpose?"8
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