Apple shaped disaster
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Thx. I’m aware of all this and I eat a healthy paleo diet. Diet alone has helped me lose almost 30 lbs in 7 months. Def need to change up my exercise, but still not really seeing a difference in my middle.oh, and to answer your question, not sure about fitness goals, but if you are genuinely carry excess weight in your middle this can be somewhat dangerous healthwise as it can indicate fat around your internal organs. so i would say fitness/healthwise, maintain a healthy diet and exercise routine, work on losing weight healthily if you are overweight. see your doctor....etc
What is your height and weight?
How much more weight (if any) are you trying to lose?
What exercise are you currently doing?
Hi. I’m 168.5. Down from 196 when I started eating paleo in December. I just got out of the “obese” BMI category. I’m 5 ft 6.
I’m not focused on a number for weight loss. I’m focused on being in better shape, getting rid of this high risk abdominal area, and try to get my body to look less top heavy.
Exercise I walk about 3-5 times a week. I was doing elliptical/ stairs before that but I hurt my ankle and was advised to wait until it is better- which it is. Cardio makes my legs drop weight. Then I really look like a circle with stick legs. I used to do body pump- I like it but hard to find classes with my work schedule. I need a trainer or a gym- I can’t rely on tv or internet to get me to exercise.
Okay, so you still have some weight to lose. You just have to keep going. It is not uncommon for the midsection to be the last to go, and to actually look worse in the middle of the process as the rest of you slims down.
I'd strongly suggest finding a way to focus on strength training if you can, it can really do wonders for your aesthetics as you slim down. Hang in there!
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10332083/which-lifting-program-is-the-best-for-you/p18 -
I am grateful for my health and that I have legs to carry me, but the bottom line is that as a woman, I feel I don’t look like a woman. I don’t have low self esteem, I try to eat very healthy. To me- a woman can be big or small- but the apple shape isn’t feminine to me. It’s the most unattractive shape. When I say it’s a disaster- it’s because it’s true. We all learn to accept what we can’t change- but that doesn’t mean the truth changes. Being shaped like a circle or a tortilla chip is unattractive.
Damn, well. I hope you can come to terms with yourself because genetics isn't something you can change. Maybe you need to learn to expand your personal definitions of beauty and femininity. Best of luck to you.7 -
Get down to goal weight, then focus on gaining a lot of leg muscle to get the proportions you want7
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I am grateful for my health and that I have legs to carry me, but the bottom line is that as a woman, I feel I don’t look like a woman. I don’t have low self esteem, I try to eat very healthy. To me- a woman can be big or small- but the apple shape isn’t feminine to me. It’s the most unattractive shape. When I say it’s a disaster- it’s because it’s true. We all learn to accept what we can’t change- but that doesn’t mean the truth changes. Being shaped like a circle or a tortilla chip is unattractive.You can’t change your overall shape, that’s genetics. Losing weight, gaining strength, building muscle etc. are all great goals, but you must also learn to love your body. I have come to terms with the short, stumpy legs I was born with, for example, because they are healthy and strong and get me where I need to go. I wish I had long, slender legs like Kate Middleton but it ain’t gonna ever happen. My legs do look better after weight loss and lifting, though.
So, I’m not an apple, more like an hour glass I guess, but saying apples are not feminine and the most unattractive shape is just not very nice. There are probably others on here who are struggling with accepting their apple shape just like you are and calling yourself unattractive and not feminine because of that shape doesn’t help you or them.
Everyone struggles with body image from time to time. We can all be beautiful, but it’s a bit silly to think we’d all be able to look the same, or even want to.
I imagine your shape is not as bad as you think it is, and you are not a disaster. Most people, especially women, are far more critical of themselves than other people are. Maybe cut yourself some slack. It sounds like you’ve already accomplished SO MUCH and need to be proud of yourself instead of calling yourself a disaster.9 -
Sunshine_And_Sand wrote: »
I am grateful for my health and that I have legs to carry me, but the bottom line is that as a woman, I feel I don’t look like a woman. I don’t have low self esteem, I try to eat very healthy. To me- a woman can be big or small- but the apple shape isn’t feminine to me. It’s the most unattractive shape. When I say it’s a disaster- it’s because it’s true. We all learn to accept what we can’t change- but that doesn’t mean the truth changes. Being shaped like a circle or a tortilla chip is unattractive.You can’t change your overall shape, that’s genetics. Losing weight, gaining strength, building muscle etc. are all great goals, but you must also learn to love your body. I have come to terms with the short, stumpy legs I was born with, for example, because they are healthy and strong and get me where I need to go. I wish I had long, slender legs like Kate Middleton but it ain’t gonna ever happen. My legs do look better after weight loss and lifting, though.
So, I’m not an apple, more like an hour glass I guess, but saying apples are not feminine and the most unattractive shape is just not very nice. There are probably others on here who are struggling with accepting their apple shape just like you are and calling yourself unattractive and not feminine because of that shape doesn’t help you or them.
Everyone struggles with body image from time to time. We can all be beautiful, but it’s a bit silly to think we’d all be able to look the same, or even want to.
I imagine your shape is not as bad as you think it is, and you are not a disaster. Most people, especially women, are far more critical of themselves than other people are. Maybe cut yourself some slack. It sounds like you’ve already accomplished SO MUCH and need to be proud of yourself instead of calling yourself a disaster.
First, I’m not calling myself, or my accomplishments, or my life a disaster. I’m calling the actual struggle of being an apple shape a disaster because it is. It’s harder to lose, it’s harder to fit in clothes, it’s harder to hide your big belly, it’s harder to attract a mate, the risk for many diseases is increased with apple genetics.
Yes it’s a disaster. Yes it’s unfortunate. I’m not sure why anyone would want these problems, but we don’t have a choice. Yes I can be grateful for many other things I have in life- but ultimately your body is the most important thing. You need it to bear children, to live, to breathe, to walk. If you have so many things against you- you don’t want to hear others simply say, “oh you should be grateful” or “ just accept it.”
No- I don’t have to and I can dislike this part of my life.
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While you can’t spot reduce, you can strengthen the muscles of your core in a way that may reduce your waist circumference by helping you have better posture and hold your belly in. I’m not an apple, but I do have a big belly which I tend to stick out in front of me, and core exercises helped my appearance a lot. Heavy compound lifts work your core, and I also really like my ab roller for core strength - they are very inexpensive, and if you don’t want to buy one you can also do ab rollouts using a dumbbell. Take some photos from the side and look at your posture, if you tend to stand with your pelvis tilted forward, work on that.
As far as disasters go, broad shoulders look great in halters! Every shape has advantages as well as disadvantages. It’s natural to hate your own disadvantages because you are more aware of them. Just remember to look for the good as well.6 -
I too am an inverted triangle and apple shaped. I have a B belly too.
By the time I hit my mid 50’s I was in the worst shape, and looked the worst, of my life.
Bordering on overweight but carrying most of that weight front and forward, especially the upper ‘belly’ region, I decided to do something about it.
Counting my cals and starting to exercise for the first time in my life took me back to the weight I had been earlier but with a better body composition.
It took a year, to get my weight down and progressively increase my fitness level. That year gave me a healthy body, and a sculpted body.
10 years later and I still, through diet and exercise, have a healthy, sculpted body- not one like a fitness model, one that I find easy to maintain, admire, and dress.
If you don’t like where you are now, start losing some weight and incorporate some cardio and strength training into your daily life.
Being an inverted triangle, apple shaped, B bellied, small breasted, flat bottomed, slim legged person is who I am on the outside, it suits me, and says nothing about who I am on the inside.
I’ve always had this figure, I don’t know how I would dress any other kind of figure.
(For those who recognize me, no need to click the spoiler
)The first pic is me at 54. All the rest were taken in my 60’s.
Not the body of a young woman but with work that ‘apple’ has improved
Just to show that the apple shape isn’t the end of the world as far as dressing to please yourself goes.
Be the best you can be. It takes work and dedication, but well worth it.
Cheers, h.
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middlehaitch wrote: »I too am an inverted triangle and apple shaped. I have a B belly too.
By the time I hit my mid 50’s I was in the worst shape, and looked the worst, of my life.
Bordering on overweight but carrying most of that weight front and forward, especially the upper ‘belly’ region, I decided to do something about it.
Counting my cals and starting to exercise for the first time in my life took me back to the weight I had been earlier but with a better body composition.
It took a year, to get my weight down and progressively increase my fitness level. That year gave me a healthy body, and a sculpted body.
10 years later and I still, through diet and exercise, have a healthy, sculpted body- not one like a fitness model, one that I find easy to maintain, admire, and dress.
If you don’t like where you are now, start losing some weight and incorporate some cardio and strength training into your daily life.
Being an inverted triangle, apple shaped, B bellied, small breasted, flat bottomed, slim legged person is who I am on the outside, it suits me, and says nothing about who I am on the inside.
I’ve always had this figure, I don’t know how I would dress any other kind of figure.
(For those who recognize me, no need to click the spoiler)The first pic is me at 54. All the rest were taken in my 60’s.
Not the body of a young woman but with work that ‘apple’ has improved
Just to show that the apple shape isn’t the end of the world as far as dressing to please yourself goes.
Be the best you can be. It takes work and dedication, but well worth it.
Cheers, h.
Thank you! It’s great hearing your story! That bikini pic is fabulous. One day perhaps...
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I could have wrote this myself! I gain weight in my belly first and legs last, lose “weight” in my legs first while the belly is dead last to go! My mama has got this shape, and heck even my dad has this shape...genetics hit me twice, lol. It eventually will go down as you lose more and more weight so hang in there.
Is this my dream shape? Heck no, I’d love to look like an hour glass! I’m built like Gaston. But darnit if I don’t have the best legs in the state! 😉
Celebrate what you love in the meantime. Being feminine or looking feminine is not purely your shape. It’s the way you carry yourself, the vibe you send out, how you take care of yourself, and interact with others.7 -
Girls!! Idk If in Apple shaped.. this is my body type... can anyone relate?
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@JanetReyna I know you were pregnant before, did you have the baby? Having recently had a baby / being pregnant will change the answer to the question, it takes a while for even naturally hourglass shaped people to get their waists back!
Looking at your figure and bearing in mind your goals from the thread about being “thic” I think you can do a lot for yourself if you work on heavy compound lifts. Your booty is naturally prominent, and your waist will naturally slim down when you lose weight. The main thing I can see which would improve your appearance probably isn’t what you think, and is definitely within your control - your upper leg muscles! If you work on larger quads and hams, you will look more balanced without having to obsess about body type.
Also, right now you look amazing! Cherish your body for the amazing things it can do in making a new human being!1 -
rheddmobile wrote: »@JanetReyna I know you were pregnant before, did you have the baby? Having recently had a baby / being pregnant will change the answer to the question, it takes a while for even naturally hourglass shaped people to get their waists back!
Looking at your figure and bearing in mind your goals from the thread about being “thic” I think you can do a lot for yourself if you work on heavy compound lifts. Your booty is naturally prominent, and your waist will naturally slim down when you lose weight. The main thing I can see which would improve your appearance probably isn’t what you think, and is definitely within your control - your upper leg muscles! If you work on larger quads and hams, you will look more balanced without having to obsess about body type.
Also, right now you look amazing! Cherish your body for the amazing things it can do in making a new human being!
Thank you so much! I’m afraid if I lose the weight my booty will go, but I’ve lost weight before and it stays. I was thinking the same, my legs are pretty skinny especially the thighs. But I honestly don’t know what to do to get those big thighs! I love how they look I just know what workouts to do to make them bigger!1 -
JanetReyna wrote: »Girls!! Idk If in Apple shaped.. this is my body type... can anyone relate?
Hard to say love. If I were to see the first picture, I would say yes, that’s an apple shape. But looking at the second pic and seeing how your waist is flatter with a shapely booty, I would say you look more hourglass. I also go by “where do you lose weight from/put on weight to first”? A typical apple shape will take off weight from thighs and butt first (stomach is the last to go), and put on weight first to the stomach. Apples have thin legs, small booty, and top heavy. Hope this helps.
Btw, your body looks amazing! Wow your side profile pic is gorgeous! I love your curves!
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I’m apple shaped/ inverted triangle. Weight is all in middle. Wider shoulders. Nicer legs. I’ll lose weight in my legs but middle is still so disproportionate. Can I change my shape? Is it even possible? What are the best fitness goals to focus on with this problem?
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The midsection is primary fat stores for many people and the vast majority of men...it is a first on, last off kind of thing. I lost 40 Lbs almost 7 years ago going from 220-180. From 220-200 I saw literally zero change in my midsection. It went down a bit from 200-190, enough so that my pants were a little lose, but the next size down was a bit snug. From 190-180 almost all of my loss was in the gut as I went from a pretty decent gut to no love handles and being mostly flat save for the lower abdomen.
When I was losing I was concerned that my belly would never catch up...I lost weight in my extremities and limbs and neck and face and I was worried I'd just keep losing from those areas and just look weird...but eventually the gut fat loss kicked in.
I put on 10ish Lbs pretty much every winter and it's the same...it all goes to my midsection and all comes off my midsection when I lose it in the spring.1 -
Weird bump...JanetReyna wrote: »Girls!! Idk If in Apple shaped.. this is my body type... can anyone relate?
And this makes me sad... did you have a baby... were you even pregnant? So many unanswered questions. 🤷🏼♀️🤔🧐6 -
I am grateful for my health and that I have legs to carry me, but the bottom line is that as a woman, I feel I don’t look like a woman. I don’t have low self esteem, I try to eat very healthy. To me- a woman can be big or small- but the apple shape isn’t feminine to me.
Mother Nature determines where we all gain and lose weight first. So just be patient. Your shape isn't settled yet.
And try to remember that of course, you look like a woman. You are a woman and you are part of the definition of what looks like a woman. You already know that women come in all sizes. We come in all shapes also, and that includes yours.
Who has been telling you that your natural shape is unattractive?
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I'm an apple-hourglass, almost all my weight is bread-baby, it's very annoying. I know exactly what I shouldn't eat but I'm also an emotional binge eater, extremely hard habit to get out of. I've watching youtube for reminders on what I should be eating, exercises i should be doing/avoiding and found 'gauge girl training', and she describes us lot (endomorphs) really well, what our issues are and how to combat them (she also goes over other body types). Totally recommend her vids.1
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I'm an apple-hourglass, almost all my weight is bread-baby, it's very annoying. I know exactly what I shouldn't eat but I'm also an emotional binge eater, extremely hard habit to get out of. I've watching youtube for reminders on what I should be eating, exercises i should be doing/avoiding and found 'gauge girl training', and she describes us lot (endomorphs) really well, what our issues are and how to combat them (she also goes over other body types). Totally recommend her vids.
Your extra weight is too many calories, not one particular food. Somatypes (endomorph, ectomorph, etc) have been debunked.4
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