Ladies, I'm sorry

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  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    irishiwasfitter wrote: »
    I haven’t used any dating sites in almost two years because the guys I met off them were either bat crazy or creepy. I remember one guy constantly messaging me after I had told him I wasn’t interested in him and so I ended up blocking him but he made a new profile and starting being verbally abusive calling me stupid, ugly, wishing I was dead etc. I had literally sent maybe 5 messages to him and I’d never met up with him or anything. Dodged a bullet if ya ask me!!

    I met my husband on one of those sites but I know the feeling of dealing with crazies, too. Guys would message me asking why it said in my profile that I wouldn't date anyone with kids. I told them it was because I didn't want to have kids and would take it very seriously to be in a stepmom role down the road, so I just didn't want to take that chance. Several of them became really fixated on that and would send me horrible mean messages & just not let it go. One created a fake account to do this and later even confronted me in person when I was out with friends.

    As for Meetup, I'm more freaked out by that than dating sites because my ex and I used it to try and meet childfree by choice friends. We were around 28-30 and came to a Meetup group which was ALL married couples in their mid 50s who were very into a swinging lifestyle. Also most of them were empty nest parents, not childfree by choice.
  • gothchiq
    gothchiq Posts: 4,590 Member
    Indeed, this is the kind of garbage we get, except often it is worse. People sending pictures of their twig and berries, describing sexual activities that they assume we would participate in with a total stranger, etc. This is why I don't have accounts on Meetup or anything like that anymore. I'm married and I'm old! Bugger off, dongle-flashers!
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  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    theresa120 wrote: »
    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    Why do you think I hide behind cat avatars all the time? Much easier. Doesn't deter it 100% though.

    I’ll bet it doesn’t. I can’t even mention that I own a cat without a sexual innuendo being thrown my way 🙄

    Oh, this is my "tame" cat avatar. Someone complained that my other one freaked them out. Apparently, "spider cat" isn't as loved or appreciated here as I would like. :P
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  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »
    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    theresa120 wrote: »
    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    Why do you think I hide behind cat avatars all the time? Much easier. Doesn't deter it 100% though.

    I’ll bet it doesn’t. I can’t even mention that I own a cat without a sexual innuendo being thrown my way 🙄

    Oh, this is my "tame" cat avatar. Someone complained that my other one freaked them out. Apparently, "spider cat" isn't as loved or appreciated here as I would like. :P

    🤣 I loved spider cat

    THANK YOU. Spider cat is awesome.
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »
    but yeah, alot of guy spam to wade through when your a female who ventures onto the WWW - hence why alot of females don't put their face as their avatar

    Exactly. I've been on various message boards for almost 20 years and learned that lesson early.

    There's just something about the anonymity of a computer screen that gives some guys permission to let their most obnoxious sexual aggression out.
  • HappilyDistracted
    HappilyDistracted Posts: 1,700 Member
    JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »
    The real fun starts when you decline and they start threatening to murder you
    pizzamyheart wrote: »
    I haven’t had to deal with any creepy messages since they changed the pm rules here. So sadly, my days are now less amusing. Being a short, fat, tired old lady I don’t get creeped at irl. I’m not sure if that’s good or bad.

    Is that why my messages aren't going through? Ugh...

    For reals though - they changed the rules?
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  • BasedGawd412
    BasedGawd412 Posts: 346 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    bennettinfinity wrote: »
    NorthCascades wrote: »
    I broke a rib and hurt my feet too. All of my friends are "hardcore" hikers, the best scenery is hard to get to, and that's where the solitude is. I don't want to hold them back, but rivers and trees are the best medicine.

    I joined Meetup for hiking, not having luck there. In a moment of desperation, I put an ad on Craigslist to find people who do short and easy hikes. Here's the response I got:

    Let’s just get naked together at your place tomorrow I’m 39 guy

    Is this what women deal with every day? I feel like I need to apologize on behalf of my gender.

    Yes, because when exposed to one person's bad behavior, it's perfectly reasonable to impugn that person's race, gender, religion, political party, culture, and/or bowling team.

    But if it helps you score some points with the 'ladies' (are we still allowed to use that word?), then by all means, carry on.


    You know he's just joking right?

    Behind every joke is a hint of seriousness.
  • MoxyLeigh
    MoxyLeigh Posts: 433 Member
    JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »
    HappilyDistracted wrote: »
    JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »
    The real fun starts when you decline and they start threatening to murder you
    pizzamyheart wrote: »
    I haven’t had to deal with any creepy messages since they changed the pm rules here. So sadly, my days are now less amusing. Being a short, fat, tired old lady I don’t get creeped at irl. I’m not sure if that’s good or bad.

    Is that why my messages aren't going through? Ugh...

    For reals though - they changed the rules?

    Yeah, if you message someone you aren't friends with it never goes through.

    Also, if you curse in your first message it won't go through. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    Wow, good to know- it should tell you that when you message somebody you're not friends with. I think I've only done it once, and I was a lil surprised to get no reply at all, but just shrugged it off.

  • NorthCascades
    NorthCascades Posts: 10,968 Member
    gallicinvasion wrote: »
    NorthCascades wrote: »
    I broke a rib and hurt my feet too. All of my friends are "hardcore" hikers, the best scenery is hard to get to, and that's where the solitude is. I don't want to hold them back, but rivers and trees are the best medicine.

    I joined Meetup for hiking, not having luck there. In a moment of desperation, I put an ad on Craigslist to find people who do short and easy hikes. Here's the response I got:

    Let’s just get naked together at your place tomorrow I’m 39 guy

    Is this what women deal with every day? I feel like I need to apologize on behalf of my gender.

    Instead of “apologizing” to random women online and trying to get brownie points, I think your energy would be better spent challenging this kind of behavior when you see male friends or acquaintances engaging in it. When men make jokes about women’s appearances, generalize about women, talk about harassing women online, or use b*tch, p*ssy, c*nt, etc, you should make it known that that behavior harms women. If men don’t challenge each other, nothing will be fixed.

    Please don't think I'm friends with people who think it's ok to make people feel uncomfortable for the fun of it.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    HappilyDistracted wrote: »
    JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »
    The real fun starts when you decline and they start threatening to murder you
    pizzamyheart wrote: »
    I haven’t had to deal with any creepy messages since they changed the pm rules here. So sadly, my days are now less amusing. Being a short, fat, tired old lady I don’t get creeped at irl. I’m not sure if that’s good or bad.

    Is that why my messages aren't going through? Ugh...

    For reals though - they changed the rules?


    @HappilyDistracted

    don't worry, I've received your messages.





    .......and you should be ashamed of yourself.


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  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    Unfortunately par for the course :|
  • LiftingSpirits
    LiftingSpirits Posts: 2,207 Member
    RunHardBeStrong wrote: »
    JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »
    The real fun starts when you decline and they start threatening to murder you

    Or when they kidnap you.


    Oh wait that wasn't real... nvmd.

    😂😂😂😂 That one wasn't, but it is a possibility
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