WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2019
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There has been a lot of conversation of weight loss in one’s 50s. I will agree with most. It is a little harder than it was in my 30s. I attribute that to the same things recently discussed such as muscle loss, perimenopause/menopause, and health challenges.
Note – This is a bit of a rant. Read at your will or not.
That said I believe we limit ourselves with too much with our internal self-talks as to the reasons why we cannot or why it’s so hard. Yes, it has been a little harder this time around for me. I do have to make a conscience effort to get active. But instead of telling myself it’s hard I am telling myself I can. Yes, I can get up every once in a while and walk in place. Yes, I can use hand weights while I am watching TV. Yes, I can walk each type of clothing up the stairs while doing laundry. Yes, I can squeeze in 3, 45-second planks every other day even though it hurts. Yes, I can plan my meals. Yes, I can drink eight glasses of water every day. And, so on and so forth.
Am I fortunate? Yes, I am. I am 55, in menopause, do not take any medication, and have not had any major accidents or ailments. I know many things may pop up in my future (maybe even tomorrow). But it is the main reason why I am getting serious now well before I am saying I am not so young.
So on to weight loss. Here is the proof that although one may have to put in a little more effort weight loss is possible at the same rate as we were in our 30s and 40s.
I am keeping up with my 36-year old self. Will this continue? I do not know. What I do know is I if I keep doing what I am doing and the weight will come off. WW = WeightWatchers
Wishing everyone a wonderful day, afternoon, or evening.
SuziQ - Florida
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Workoutahloic50 wrote: »Good morning beautiful ladies 💐💐💐.My Hubby is a great guy,most of the time.He usually thinks of others.
I went to Busch gardens after work with my daughter last night.We had a blast.Its hallow scream so the freaks are out at night.Thank y’all for your input about ocular migraine.Thinking about when it happens,probably stress.I used to get premenstrual migraines and those were almost debilitating.But like we say,Some good comes from menopause,not much.I’m hoping to get some pictures of my fall decorations and will show y’all.
Debby In Va
Here are pics of my Fall decorations
Janetr OKC
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Hi all!
Phew! We survived! :laugh:
This is the first thing they want to do when they come in. They shout "EXERCISE ROOM! " and run up the stairs. Edie is on DH's lap.
Then it was Lego, Art, Music, the older ones played Battleships with DH , making their own game up, while I played making houses with Bea and having car races.
They very much wanted to go to Fatto a Mano for lunch, so we all got our warm coats on, except for Max, who refused to wear anything but a T shirt.
It was chilly, but fine. We set off at 11.30, journeyed there on the top deck of the bus, right at the front, and queued up outside. It opens at 12. We were first in the queue and very soon a line of large families was stretching behind us, some with grandparents. 
We had a table for six and they all ate masses. Children eat free with a slightly smaller pizza and an ice cream each. The staff are amazing at putting up with the horrible mess. I think Bea looked like a pizza! There is colouring and puzzles for them. Delicious sourdough, woodfired pizza.
Then, after I had explained that a juice in a restaurant costs four times as much as one at home, we walked along the street to the big supermarket and bought juices. Plus TicTacs. That took a long time as the TicTac choosing decision was long and involved. We got home at 2.45, to play a game and then, phew, watch a bit of children's TV.
Parents came to get them and they have nearly finished the room changeover. Bea is now staying where she was and Edie and Max are going to share the bigger room, so the au pair will be on the top floor next to the guest room.
They were exhausted. And very jealous about Fatto! :bigsmile:
I collapsed on the sofa and slept.
Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx7 -
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Heather, your adventures with your grands sound delightful.Suziq I love your positive attitude. I found MFP at age 62 and lost the 50 pounds that had plagued me for years and have kept it off. I see being active as one of my hobbies and have greatly reduced baking and knitting which kept me back. Big windstorm yesterday and last night so there are branches and stuff everywhere. I agreed to get out the leaf blower and work outside and Jake is staying inside to do the floors.
Barbie in NW WA 2 -
Happy Sunday, Supermodels!
Heather - Love that photo with the grands and DH in the exercise room. I laughed out loud! Sounds like a great visit with them. So glad you live near them now and can enjoy them. Great memories they will always cherish. Did you ever hear from your housecleaner?
Barbara AHMOD - When you get done with your burnpile, you and Joe are welcome to come torch ours. It's been on DH's "to do" list for a couple years and we keep adding to it. I am jealous of your mushrooms!! I need to bundle up and go looking. I can reliably ID the chanterelles and oysters. Lucky you seeing "Maleficent". My GF's twisted my arm and we're supposed to see "Judy" at the matinee this Wednesday. Would you believe I haven't seen a film in a theatre since "Passion of the Christ"?? DH won't go and since I see anything I want on Prime and Netflix, why spend the time and money?
The "Science of Prevention" series wound up today with the final presentation on supplements. I took notes. Already doing well on the B12 and D and aim to get that tested every couple years.
Watching this series has been a reminder to me to get serious. Consequently, I have been reading a lot on the "Diet Doctor" website (thank you RV Rita) and have been on a low-carb eating plan all week. Net carbs 50 and under. Not that hard to push them down, and have been eating more sautéed veggies (in butter!). Made keto mashed cauliflower - delish!
Also back on the 12/3 intermittent fasting. Very doable - stopping eating 3 hrs before bed and 12 hours between dinner and breakfast. I'm not hungry when I get up (between 4 and 5) but by the time 6 rolls around - that's 13 hours - I am ready to eat.
Will it prevent dementia like my mom and maternal grandfather had? Hard to say. I tend to think theirs was due more to vitamin deficiency (both D and B12) than Alzheimers, and lack of exercise, but back then no one tested anything.
But, I know I feel much better overall not eating sugary and processed foods and the increased healthy fat makes that much easier.
Enjoying all the photos of fall throughout the states! Margaret - thank you! Love those falls. You live in a beautiful part of the USA.
Tracey - so glad you could pop in. Lots of stress in that job, but I think you thrive on it up to a point. Would they consider getting something like QuickBooks? Payroll might be hard to do though with all of the union contracts being picky. Yes, getting up and walking sounds like a good plan.
Lots more to comment on but must close. This laptop's days are numbered until I get serious and download something ( Firefox) to replace Windows 7 - support is going away in a few months. Hard to type responses on this forum and emails, anything without a full keyboard.
Looks like they make small Bluetooth keyboards for tablets, I will check at Staples next time I'm in town. That might solve my problem.
OK Ladies, make it a fabulous day!
Lanette
Rainy (total of 4" this past week) SW WA State5 -
Hi Gals,
Well, I decided to face it and have a discussion with mom, I had gathered as much info as I could from you, the links, some looking I did on my own and from asking vague questions of my mom. I was kind, and gentle; told her it was because I was worried that this would limit her life, that she would be less comfortable going out. And it backfired. She did agree to MAYBE talk to her Doctor in 3 months, and NO to the incontinent panties, NO to thinking about maybe being more careful in choices when she went out to eat, NO to looking at stools in the toilet for color change. And then the tears started, and the blame began - I am doing this because I hate her and I know it is embarrassing and I like to embarrass her and I wish she was dead….. and and and….
I am very thankful I am having lunch with some friends today and get a break.
I know that she finds this embarrassing, but beyond that I know my heart was/is in the right place. That this will limit the quality of her life, and maybe the length of her life. But that it is her choice. She is choosing to not consider the options, not to admit it is a choice, and to blame. She may be scared, angry? But that is not my fault or responsibility. Still I feel sad.
Kim from N. California
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Hello everyone. I hope you are having a good Sunday. It is cold, rainy here in WV but we need the rain so no complaints here. Can't believe it's the 20th of Oct. and we're on page 56 for this. Have gone to a couple local fall festivals, where I walked away without eating anything they had. I've tried to stay around 1200 cal. as often as I could. I made homemade waffles this morning and they were 220 cal. per waffle. I almost fainted. Trying to find alternatives for breakfast as yogurt was just not cutting it. I bought this waffle maker at a yard sale last month and decided today was the day.
I have enjoyed reading different pages on this post but I never remember to read it everyday.
Have a wonderful week ahead and be safe.
Marianne-WV5 -
I have run to the store, and picked up a few things.. I downloaded audible and am listening to all creatures great and small. enjoying listening to a book , with pups on my lap..
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Kim so sorry your mom is not willing to be open to choices that would help her. Sounds like she is in denial. My mom would do the same thing in that when I tried to confront her about difficult topic she would play the blame game with me too. I am glad you are not willing to let her guilt you.
The hard part is having her live with the consequences of her actions.It is very difficult to watch someone you love suffer even when some of the suffering is brought on by the choices the person makes. Who is helping her clean up from her accidents?
Is she willing to listen to her doctor? From her symptoms I agree with the others here 3 months is too long to wait to see her doctor. Given her age I am not sure they would do a colonoscopy on her. The doctor hopefully would have ways on making this condition easier on her. I agree it must be next to impossible for her to go out.(((Kim)))
Janetr love the decorations!5 -
I know that she finds this embarrassing, but beyond that I know my heart was/is in the right place. That this will limit the quality of her life, and maybe the length of her life. But that it is her choice. She is choosing to not consider the options, not to admit it is a choice, and to blame. She may be scared, angry? But that is not my fault or responsibility. Still I feel sad.
Kim from N. California
So sorry your mom is being unreasonable. She is probably both embarrassed and scared. Your heart is in the right place.
I hope the lunch with your friends was the break you needed. 2 -
Thought I'd pop in......don't know if I am posting a reply or just making a comment in the group😂
StArted a new job as a career and need to lose weight so I am fit enough to do it, have had a great first week (again)
I have had thousands of first weeks.........need the motivation and will power to get on top of this overeating lark😡4 -
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Janetr- Love the decorations. How nice to celebrate the Fall. Autumn. Whatever.
Kim - You are so much more than a dutiful daughter. She is not going to change now, you know that. Yes, be sad, but our selfhood requires us to separate our identity from those we love, but who cannot see the truth. We cannot save people who won't be saved. Big hugs for you.
When I first knew you your 'handle' referred to your mother. Now your handle is about something much more positive in your life. I hope you will be able to tread that difficult line between caring and sacrificing. Everyone has to work out for themselves where they stand on that line.
Enjoy your lunch tomorrow.
Relaxing now on the sofa. Easy TV tonight. Oh joy!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx5 -
I know that she finds this embarrassing, but beyond that I know my heart was/is in the right place. That this will limit the quality of her life, and maybe the length of her life. But that it is her choice. She is choosing to not consider the options, not to admit it is a choice, and to blame. She may be scared, angry? But that is not my fault or responsibility. Still I feel sad.
Kim from N. California
So sorry your mom is being unreasonable. She is probably both embarrassed and scared. Your heart is in the right place.
I hope the lunch with your friends was the break you needed.
KIM - ditto. Hopefully you have planted a seed with your mom. Does she have a medical/financial power of attorney and if so, are you the person in charge and executor?
I am so glad she is still able to be independent and drive at her age.
(((((hugs))))💓
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Kim, Everyone's said all the right things, won't repeat them... and you said the right things to your mother, too. She deserves the ability to make her own decisions, at her age. You deserve the ability to make yours, too, and not to allow her decisions to have a negative impact on your life. I give people all the information I can, give them the places where I draw my own lines, and leave them alone to get on with their choices. I don't have to agree with their choices. You don't have to agree with her choices in order to let her go ahead and make them. It may sound cold - but I hope when I'm 90, I'm still able to drive and make my own decisions about what I choose to do with my body and my life.
Busy morning - got one of the grands' quilts prepped for sewing, but it was too beautiful a day to resist going out and helping Corey gather up all the brush and get it burned. Yesterday, we took down one of the old sheds that was leaking and smelled of mold, saved what was usable and built a lean-to on one of the other, dry sheds, to store the equipment that was in the one we destroyed. Burned all the unusable wood from the shed we took down, as well as the equivalent of about four pick-up loads of brush, so it was quite a bonfire!
Corey's canning salsa and getting dinner in the crockpot... I'm going to go lay down and read, I think (for which you can substitute "take a nap," most likely.)
Later,
Lisa in AR6 -
Some quick answers before I run out to lunch with the gals! Yes I have all the legal things needed to take care of her and her affairs, executor etc... I can only hope I have planted a seed, 3 months is a long time but I'm going to see if I can get her doctors name and call, and my mom lives independently and does all her own cleaning, laundry, scrubs floors, in a 4 bedroom 2.5 bath 2700 sq ft home... I am hoping to get her to something smaller, but that will have to wait until after my brother who lives with her dies (which was expected 18 months ago) She is also his primary care giver.
Thanks for all the understanding and support, sometimes just knowing you all are there gets me through a day.
Love ya!
Kim in N. California8 -
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Kim~ all I can do is send hugs, my dad had nothing in place... lived independently and still drove, he wouldnt tell me anything because he thought I would chuck him in a nursing home..which I wouldnt do.. he died less then a month from diagnosis of colon cancer of a heart attack as he had congestive heart failure which he failed to let me know he had, and only by the grace of God did we have the advance directive signed and notarized 2 weeks before his death..
DFIL that was all taken care of when he was admitted to the Nursing Home..
I have had a hell of a week , but so has Tom and I am glad it all worked out the way it did so that he and Elena have time to rest and relax.. sometime I would like to go rest and relax but that wont be anytime soon..5 -
Lanette - I do love the job and I love that I am being challenged. We are a privately owned nursing home that has hired a bigger corporation to manage some of our business. Procedures, payroll, payables and receivables. That company owns and manages over 1000 nursing homes and unless they change their system what we have is what we can work with. I think once I have done a few pay periods on my own I’ll feel more confident.
Kim - hugs to you that was a very difficult conversation to have and unfortunately it wasn’t a good response. I hope you have at least made her think and that hopefully she sees a doctor sooner. I’m glad you had a break today.
Lisa - that was a busy day, I think going to lay down and “read” is what I would do too.
Allie - hugs to you, I hope you get some rest soon too. You have had an emotional rollercoaster for far too long.
Tracey6 -
One of the most difficult things we have to do as adults is allow the other adults in our lives to live their own lives even if their choices are ones that we think are unwise or unhealthy. That is true whether the other adult is your parent, spouse, or child. 9
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stat for the day:
0 runner- 50min= 50min, 119ahr, 151mhr, 106c, 10h, 41l, 9.39min mi, 8-9lvl, 5.19mi= 441c
Apple Watch- 371c
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One of the most difficult things we have to do as adults is allow the other adults in our lives to live their own lives even if their choices are ones that we think are unwise or unhealthy. That is true whether the other adult is your parent, spouse, or child.
Barbie: May I add sibling to that list? My brother who lives with us is back to drinking, and I am trying to practice spiritual principles. He knows it bothers me, but I "let it go" because it's not something I can control.
Kim: At her age, your mom has undoubtedly endured alot and come out okay. I think you are wise to have said your peace, and I hope you find comfort in knowing you planted the seed. ((hugs))
Winds have been wild all night and all day. All the beautiful, colorful leaves have blown right into the alcove of our front door. Fortunately, DH loves to sweep, so he bundled up and tackled the piles, even as the winds continued to swirl around. 💨💨💨
Make it a great week, friends. We can do this.
Rori
Colorado Foothills
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On catchup again. Very busy last few days. Up to p53. Skimming so possibly no comments. Until caught up. 💕💖💕
☘️ Terri
Later: caught up, but too bushed to remember comments. Off to bed. 💤💤💤4 -
Machka in Oz - Looking at that picture of the ferry makes me nearly seasick.
I don't understand people who eat out for lunch every day. I know many people don't have to "worry" about money, but there are so many reasons not to do that beyond saving money. The mister has discovered weight gain since he started working again. They feed him 2 times per week via catering, usually more often due to leftovers, and he is complaining about gaining weight.4 -
KIM + ALLIE Hugs to you both
Been staying with DD for a few days. Bit of a traumatic weekend her oldest dog had a tooth extracted. So we worried about her most of Friday. She was really wobbly when she came home, she has arthritis too. Then late Fri evening grand who has EDS started with severe chest pain . We called out of hours service and they ordered an ambulance which came very quickly and carted her off to hospital. Anyway it wasn't a heart attack but Pericarditis caused by a virus
Going home to DH tomorrow, peace, no drama hopefully
Kate UK 5 -
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M – it’s been a long time since I’ve had fast food. No, I take that back. When we went to visit Denise, do you know that around there isn’t one place that serves breakfast like a Perkins Pancake House or Bob Evans? So I had to go to a McDonalds and have one of their egg sandwiches. But it’s been a very long time since I’ve had a fast food burger. Update: we stopped at a McD’s and I just had the fruit & yogurt parfait. Then had a fruit strip that I had in my pocketbook
Heather – you’re such a good cook. Do you make cutout cookies with the grands? Admitted that doesn’t take 6 hours, but it could easily take up 2 or 3. What about making bread? Things that they can take home with them….lol
We went to this place in South Carolina and got some bisq for ceramics
Rishi – welcome. Really, 7 pounds isn’t all that much. Enough, but it could be worse. You’ll get it off, I’m sure of that. Just keep coming in here.
Vince just grilled the pork chops and the pork tenderloin and the salmon. I must have made the pork tenderloin medallions pretty big because there aren’t as many servings as I would have expected. Was in the 70’s
SuziQ – that’s just great that you were continually losing. I tend to lose, gain, lose, gain the same pound or two.
Janetr – lovely decorations
Heather – sounds like you had a lovely day. Lovely AND exhausting!
Kim – (((BIG HUG))) Everyone said what was in my mind so I won’t repeat it
Michele in NC
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I turned around and my spoon rest was broken. I really liked it. It's of a cat made by Boston Warehouse. Only I don't see it on their website. I do hope they still make it. I've written to the company to see if they make it and I just don't see it.
Michele in NC3
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