How do you get over people not liking you?
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Might I suggest:
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The trick is to feel the sting, but then shrug & move on. Resist the urge to mold yourself into what you believe might make you more palatable to others. Don’t be a dick, but be yourself, please yourself, draw to yourself the kinds of people who appreciate you as you are.
As for me
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This has never happened to me. Everyone likes me. I'm so lovable.
Now if a dog doesnt like you, that hits straight to the heart2 -
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Get some therapy. You already know it's a you problem and not a problem with everyone else and we can tell you all the things in the world to do but until you address the underlying thing that makes others approval of you so important, they're not going to help.4
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there’s always people out there who don’t like you. that’s how the world is.
but its a huge world and there’s a couple million billion people out there. guaranteed some of them will like you. and that’s not such an unhappy thought.
point being- do your best not to worry overly much and just keep an eye out for new friends every new day instead of trying to force people from yesterday5 -
Is there a way you can change your situation so you no longer have to see this person daily? Or at least keep more of a distance from them? Hard to do if you live with them or work with them but it's stressful interacting with someone every day feeling that way. Or you can do what 'they' say, kill 'em with kindness.1
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I've got no pride so here i'll lay out what I've learned after about a year of seeing a professional marriage/family counselor. #1 way to make life "happy" is to become happy individually. It's literally that simple. Expectations are the silent killer of relationships. I could talk for days on this topic these days... but in the end most of life falls in place when you work on yourself and stop worrying about the outside influences.5
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The Four Agreements helped me learn to deal with this. Do your best, and don't take it personally.
Since I don't think anyone has asked this yet, are you a nice person? Considerate, don't say and do things to hurt others? If you're a mean jerk (and I'm not saying you are), maybe stop being a mean jerk.
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The thing is, you can't really control who likes and who doesn't like you. I had counselling and my counsellor said she actually got disliked by a colleague for being too sunny and positive! It wasn't great to hear but once she knew she just accepted it and moved on. Like they say, you can't please everyone. I have been the world's worst when it comes to wanting to be liked, but as I get older I try to be more stoic about it. I can't make people like me, and I can't control what they think about me. Don't know if this helps but it's just the way I try to deal with it.2
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Gosh so hard and easier said than done
I think age helps..as we get older we really don't give a *kitten* anymore what other people think
I could say at this very moment it doesn't matter to me at all
I tell me kids you cant control anyone else..their actions or emotions
Regardless of what anyone else says or does, you are in control of the emotions you feel and rhetoric you play in your head
I find with myself, being more sensitive person, def affects us more
In also an over thinker analyzer so that doesn't help.....
((HUGS))
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Never really cared what others thought about me.1
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This is me.
What I tell people..
Don't take it personally.. I treat everyone the same.. I don't like anyone, unless you can change my mind. You go your way and I go my way, both will be happy...that simple.
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Who cares, don't worry about them loser. Hell I like you and don't even know you....
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XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »Might I suggest:
For those that like this type of book "Unfuck Yourself" and "Stop Doing That *kitten*" by Gary John Bishop I thought were actually a little better than this personally.
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Experience solves this. Try a debate class. Do you overthink things much?2
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One phrase that helped me a lot with this is: "What other people think of you is really none of your business."
I used to really care a LOT when someone didn't like me; to the point it made me physically sick. Once I realized that as long as I'm nice, play by the rules, not a jerk, etc. then what anyone else thought was irrelevant. The only person's opinion that matters is yours! As long as YOU like yourself? Anyone else is moot.2 -
Shrug and walk away.
"...middle finger in the air...."2
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