The New Singles Hangout...Come & Mingle

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  • useable12
    useable12 Posts: 4 Member
    Hello. I am 25 and have always been single. Is it normal?
  • tinak33
    tinak33 Posts: 9,883 Member
    useable12 wrote: »
    Hello. I am 25 and have always been single. Is it normal?

    Sure. I know plenty of people who didn't even think of dating till after graduating college. Then finally getting social, it was a few more years before trying a relationship.
  • mattig89ch
    mattig89ch Posts: 2,648 Member
    I mean, I'm 33 and am the same. Define normal?
  • boehle
    boehle Posts: 5,062 Member
    I am 37. Never been married and don't want to. That isn't normal lol
  • phil2k17
    phil2k17 Posts: 316 Member
    boehle wrote: »
    I am 37. Never been married and don't want to. That isn't normal lol

    Normal is subjective. Do what makes you happy and forget what society defines as "normal" so long as you aren't harming yourself or anyone else.
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    My motto since high school has been "Why be normal" It has never led me wrong
  • T1DCarnivoreRunner
    T1DCarnivoreRunner Posts: 11,502 Member
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    Stealing.
  • I thought Singles Awareness Day is Feb 15?
  • katarina005
    katarina005 Posts: 259 Member
    Hi, 45 in Daytona Beach 😊
  • mattig89ch
    mattig89ch Posts: 2,648 Member
    I had...way too many sweets today. I just gave up today. Getting back on the wagon tomorrow. Hope everyone's day was...positive in some way.
  • theresa120 wrote: »
    How I’ve been spending my night. Just finished watching #Cats_the_Mewvie on Netflix 😂

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    Sounds like a quiet evening. I got home late from work. Now, I'm kind of wishing I had some of the lasagna I made. :lol:
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  • yogidani77
    yogidani77 Posts: 6,978 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    It doesn’t really bother me. I don’t do it often because I don’t have a lot of extra money for going out....that bothers me more than going out alone 🤣
    But if it makes you feel more lonely I say don’t do it...you should do things for yourself that make you feel better 🤗
    Maybe explore a hobby that you can do solo and put your time and money into that :)
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  • mattig89ch
    mattig89ch Posts: 2,648 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    tbh, I work Saturdays. So its never really been something I had to worry about.

    That said, I find all kinds of stuff to do on Saturday's on meetup. Have you tried checking that site out?
  • DecadeDuchess
    DecadeDuchess Posts: 315 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    It depends upon if it's something, that's meant to be done alone or not. I am able to swim laps alone for exercise, at my apartment complex's pool but miniature golfing requires at least another partner, so I never do that. I'll eat inside a Taco Bell alone because I get to choose, my seat but a diner'll seat just 1 person at a lunch counter instead of a booth, so I never do that either.
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  • DecadeDuchess
    DecadeDuchess Posts: 315 Member
    mattig89ch wrote: »
    1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    tbh, I work Saturdays. So its never really been something I had to worry about.

    That said, I find all kinds of stuff to do on Saturday's on meetup. Have you tried checking that site out?

    However I've found that this' only reasonably plausible, if an attendee has a vehicle or lives within a city, neither of which I do.
  • 1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    It depends upon if it's something, that's meant to be done alone or not. I am able to swim laps alone for exercise, at my apartment complex's pool but miniature golfing requires at least another partner, so I never do that. I'll eat inside a Taco Bell alone because I get to choose, my seat but a diner'll seat just 1 person at a lunch counter instead of a booth, so I never do that either.

    How does mini golf require one other partner? I've played more than a few rounds solo. Also, while it is better for a restaurant to place a single person at the counter, it by no means that you are stuck there with no option. Most of the sit down style restaurants I go to will ask me if I have a preference where I sit.

    As to going out solo, I do it quite frequently. But, as mentioned, it really depends on what it is. If it's something that really does require two people, then I'll see if I can find someone to go. If not, then I go do it. Though, there are some things where going solo is not ideal. For example, I went to a huge Christmas light display to check it out. Was happy to go, and while the lighting was spectacular to see. It was primarily groups of people, particularly couples and families, so it kind of put it on the down side of the emotion scale.

    Speaking of going places, I need to hurry up and find a date for an event end of next month...
  • DecadeDuchess
    DecadeDuchess Posts: 315 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    It depends upon if it's something, that's meant to be done alone or not. I am able to swim laps alone for exercise, at my apartment complex's pool but miniature golfing requires at least another partner, so I never do that. I'll eat inside a Taco Bell alone because I get to choose, my seat but a diner'll seat just 1 person at a lunch counter instead of a booth, so I never do that either.

    How does mini golf require one other partner? I've played more than a few rounds solo. Also, while it is better for a restaurant to place a single person at the counter, it by no means that you are stuck there with no option. Most of the sit down style restaurants I go to will ask me if I have a preference where I sit.

    As to going out solo, I do it quite frequently. But, as mentioned, it really depends on what it is. If it's something that really does require two people, then I'll see if I can find someone to go. If not, then I go do it. Though, there are some things where going solo is not ideal. For example, I went to a huge Christmas light display to check it out. Was happy to go, and while the lighting was spectacular to see. It was primarily groups of people, particularly couples and families, so it kind of put it on the down side of the emotion scale.

    Speaking of going places, I need to hurry up and find a date for an event end of next month...

    Like bowling, there's scoring. Sure people'll go bowling by themselves, especially if they're practicing for a competition since it's also a sport but miniature golf's a family, couple or friend group form of entertainment.
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  • 1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    It depends upon if it's something, that's meant to be done alone or not. I am able to swim laps alone for exercise, at my apartment complex's pool but miniature golfing requires at least another partner, so I never do that. I'll eat inside a Taco Bell alone because I get to choose, my seat but a diner'll seat just 1 person at a lunch counter instead of a booth, so I never do that either.

    How does mini golf require one other partner? I've played more than a few rounds solo. Also, while it is better for a restaurant to place a single person at the counter, it by no means that you are stuck there with no option. Most of the sit down style restaurants I go to will ask me if I have a preference where I sit.

    As to going out solo, I do it quite frequently. But, as mentioned, it really depends on what it is. If it's something that really does require two people, then I'll see if I can find someone to go. If not, then I go do it. Though, there are some things where going solo is not ideal. For example, I went to a huge Christmas light display to check it out. Was happy to go, and while the lighting was spectacular to see. It was primarily groups of people, particularly couples and families, so it kind of put it on the down side of the emotion scale.

    Speaking of going places, I need to hurry up and find a date for an event end of next month...

    Like bowling, there's scoring. Sure people'll go bowling by themselves, especially if they're practicing for a competition since it's also a sport but miniature golf's a family, couple or friend group form of entertainment.

    Preconceived notions, I still fail to see your point. One can score themselves if it's not for leagues. Even if you go with someone else, you're only as honest as the one there. I shoot competitive archery, and I score practice sessions just as I would leagues or tournament scores. Otherwise, it doesn't do me any good to fake my scores.
  • DecadeDuchess
    DecadeDuchess Posts: 315 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    It depends upon if it's something, that's meant to be done alone or not. I am able to swim laps alone for exercise, at my apartment complex's pool but miniature golfing requires at least another partner, so I never do that. I'll eat inside a Taco Bell alone because I get to choose, my seat but a diner'll seat just 1 person at a lunch counter instead of a booth, so I never do that either.

    How does mini golf require one other partner? I've played more than a few rounds solo. Also, while it is better for a restaurant to place a single person at the counter, it by no means that you are stuck there with no option. Most of the sit down style restaurants I go to will ask me if I have a preference where I sit.

    As to going out solo, I do it quite frequently. But, as mentioned, it really depends on what it is. If it's something that really does require two people, then I'll see if I can find someone to go. If not, then I go do it. Though, there are some things where going solo is not ideal. For example, I went to a huge Christmas light display to check it out. Was happy to go, and while the lighting was spectacular to see. It was primarily groups of people, particularly couples and families, so it kind of put it on the down side of the emotion scale.

    Speaking of going places, I need to hurry up and find a date for an event end of next month...

    Like bowling, there's scoring. Sure people'll go bowling by themselves, especially if they're practicing for a competition since it's also a sport but miniature golf's a family, couple or friend group form of entertainment.

    Preconceived notions, I still fail to see your point. One can score themselves if it's not for leagues. Even if you go with someone else, you're only as honest as the one there. I shoot competitive archery, and I score practice sessions just as I would leagues or tournament scores. Otherwise, it doesn't do me any good to fake my scores.

    I guess that I feel the same about miniature golf, as you did concerning the Christmas light display. Yet I've never felt like you did then, so it's all individual.
  • yogidani77
    yogidani77 Posts: 6,978 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    @yogidani77 that would be my instinct, but I tell myself that I have to leave my comfort zone. If I don’t put myself out there, it seems like I’ll never meet anybody. Maybe I should just go, and leave to go home again if I’m not feeling it.. I’m not really even going out for drinks.

    I hope you got out of your comfort zone and went out and had a great time 🤗
  • yogidani77
    yogidani77 Posts: 6,978 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    I went out. I went into about 5 different late bars, I didn’t have any alcohol. I was just stalking the bars. Have to laugh, I wasn’t missing out on nothing much

    Well darn... I didn’t see this before I posted... and the bar isn’t my scene either but the important thing is you got out!
    Good for you 🥰
  • T1DCarnivoreRunner
    T1DCarnivoreRunner Posts: 11,502 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    what do you think about the concept of going out Saturday night alone? I hate doing that, sometimes it feels like an attack on my spirit, I might end up feeling even more lonely

    It depends upon if it's something, that's meant to be done alone or not. I am able to swim laps alone for exercise, at my apartment complex's pool but miniature golfing requires at least another partner, so I never do that. I'll eat inside a Taco Bell alone because I get to choose, my seat but a diner'll seat just 1 person at a lunch counter instead of a booth, so I never do that either.

    How does mini golf require one other partner? I've played more than a few rounds solo. Also, while it is better for a restaurant to place a single person at the counter, it by no means that you are stuck there with no option. Most of the sit down style restaurants I go to will ask me if I have a preference where I sit.

    As to going out solo, I do it quite frequently. But, as mentioned, it really depends on what it is. If it's something that really does require two people, then I'll see if I can find someone to go. If not, then I go do it. Though, there are some things where going solo is not ideal. For example, I went to a huge Christmas light display to check it out. Was happy to go, and while the lighting was spectacular to see. It was primarily groups of people, particularly couples and families, so it kind of put it on the down side of the emotion scale.

    Speaking of going places, I need to hurry up and find a date for an event end of next month...

    Like bowling, there's scoring. Sure people'll go bowling by themselves, especially if they're practicing for a competition since it's also a sport but miniature golf's a family, couple or friend group form of entertainment.

    Interestingly enough, I just went bowling solo last weekend. Was traveling for a marathon and had some time. I drove past a bowling alley and thought, "I haven't bowled in forever... that seems like it could be fun." I suck, bowled 2 games with less than 100 each, buy still enjoyed it... and that is all that matters.