So... how come mfp is so quiet now?
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It is certainly quiet around here. I agree with a lot of the comments that it is probably to do with the lockdown and people finding other things to do and possibly not so diet focused. But I have noticed the change with the forums for some time now.
I have said in previous posts that the fun has gone out of it a bit. People get butt hurt really easily and then the mods have to shut down threads. They also shut down threads that really would benefit new members who may not be asking but are lurking. For example low calorie/fad diets/bro science and misinformation from so called experts are all areas that should be discussed and vehemently put down for what they are. How are people going to learn about all these things if we can't discuss them.
There are so many really funny clever helpful people on this site but a lot of them are no longer chiming in on posts as their brand of tough love is not considered acceptable any more and they are worried they will be penalised if they say the wrong thing.
It has been a long time since I have snorted a drink over my keyboard because of something I read in the forums. I miss the sarcasm and outrageous comments that used to appear on some posts.
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I miss that too.. I remember having both my phone and laptop going to post in so many places at once lol0
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Messages are hit or miss1
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And the points? What are they for?0
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Kris, I sent you message a few days ago. I guess you didn’t get it. Lol0
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L1zardQueen wrote: »Kris, I sent you message a few days ago. I guess you didn’t get it. Lol
Ohhh... no I didnt! Let me try and message you!0 -
As a newcomer, I can't tell what's busy vs quiet but I like this level of activity and find the vast majority of people pleasant. I also didn't know about getting penalized/banned for days.
The worst that's happened to me since being here is getting a post deleted when I replied to someone in a hunting post. Surely, everyone doesn't get their food from the grocery store? And, while I don't hunt, I respect the lifestyle even if it means they need firearms (or other devices used to hunt and trap).
Generally, I'm friendly but I don't accept friend requests so I can't speak to PMs.
Lastly, let snark reign. As long as the overall tone is respectful and light, it should have no effect the Under Armour bottom line.8 -
I carved my name into the wall of my jail cell lol5
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Brooks was here.2
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Lol.. I feel like seymore on the simpsons when he finds that metal bucket he wore on his head as a prisoner lol...2
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I only post when it’s relevant to an issue I have dealt with. Usually someone has explained whatever it is that is being discussed better than I could have anyway.
I have gotten quite a few tips from these boards on my journey tho, so I try to check in every day to see what’s new.5 -
You know, alot of times when I'm reading threads and posting here and there I get a little twinge of guilt... like dude, I could really be squeezing in a little bit hiit or cardio or even yoga right now. Lol. But on the other side of the coin, downtime is nice too, and it helps to be goal oriented and always looking for that little bit of extra knowledge or that one tip or trick that really works for you. The struggle is real right now. 9 times out of 10 if I'm reading or writing posts on the MFP community boards I am looking for that extra little push of motivation to get off my butt and do something. I'm glad to say that it works for me too. Lol. See ya on the hamster wheel.4
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I think a lot of people go into the forums when they're at work because they're bored. Lots aren't working or at working from home now so maybe they don't have the same opportunities? Maybe some have just given up? The forums can be very cyclical I find. When I first found the forums they were rather unfriendly. I find it goes through waves of friendly and not....perhaps this is just a natural ebb3
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KrissCanDoThis wrote: »And the points? What are they for?
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10775422/introducing-mfp-forum-badges#latest0 -
This place will be hoppin' when we get on the other side of the storm. Happy Easter.
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Diatonic12 wrote: »This place will be hoppin' when we get on the other side of the storm. Happy Easter.
I can just see it coming:
"I NEED to lose my COVID-19 by next weekend! Can I eat 919 Cals, burn 1919 and lose all 19#s without ending up in hospital by the 19th?"14 -
KrissCanDoThis wrote: »amusedmonkey wrote: »Speaking for myself. Before this, I had a sort of a routine. I didn't know I had a routine until I lost it. Now my routine is all messed up so are my usual habits (including MFP). I find myself doing other things. I do check in, but less often than I used to.
That I'm currently in weight gain mode doesn't help either (it feels disingenuous to offer advice when I'm trying not even trying). I did fine at first and maintained my weight just fine, but I wasn't ready for how much quarantine cooking everyone in the family would end up doing after a while of being cooped up. It's like they're using cooking to pass time. I had a set of breakfasts and dinners I cycled through and left the bulk of my calories for lunch (often cooked by others and high in calories) and that worked well, now I'm in a novel situation and I don't know what to do with my calories so I just stopped caring. I'm hoping this IDGAF mode won't last long so I can get back to dieting and lose these extra few kilos.
I feel your frustration. Being back here again after losing 165lbs the first time and having gained almost all of it back, makes me feel like a fraud for offering advice to others..
But I also try to tell myself, maybe my words can prevent them from becoming me.. someone who has to put my own advice into practice.
Do you know how or why it happened? There must have been various points during the regain where you saw what was happening and tried to regroup but couldn't for some reason. Yet you must've had tremendous self-discipline and determination to lose the 165 lbs in the first place. What changed? I am extremely interested in hearing more about this if you're up for describing it a little.3 -
KrissCanDoThis wrote: »amusedmonkey wrote: »Speaking for myself. Before this, I had a sort of a routine. I didn't know I had a routine until I lost it. Now my routine is all messed up so are my usual habits (including MFP). I find myself doing other things. I do check in, but less often than I used to.
That I'm currently in weight gain mode doesn't help either (it feels disingenuous to offer advice when I'm trying not even trying). I did fine at first and maintained my weight just fine, but I wasn't ready for how much quarantine cooking everyone in the family would end up doing after a while of being cooped up. It's like they're using cooking to pass time. I had a set of breakfasts and dinners I cycled through and left the bulk of my calories for lunch (often cooked by others and high in calories) and that worked well, now I'm in a novel situation and I don't know what to do with my calories so I just stopped caring. I'm hoping this IDGAF mode won't last long so I can get back to dieting and lose these extra few kilos.
I feel your frustration. Being back here again after losing 165lbs the first time and having gained almost all of it back, makes me feel like a fraud for offering advice to others..
But I also try to tell myself, maybe my words can prevent them from becoming me.. someone who has to put my own advice into practice.
Do you know how or why it happened? There must have been various points during the regain where you saw what was happening and tried to regroup but couldn't for some reason. Yet you must've had tremendous self-discipline and determination to lose the 165 lbs in the first place. What changed? I am extremely interested in hearing more about this if you're up for describing it a little.
@lgfrie
I have binge eating disorder, I've had it since I was a small child, I was over weight my whole life, even as early as 9 and people with binge eating disorder live in a continuous binge and restrict frame of mind, so any efforts to lose weight over my life were met with a binge cycle following it
It took me a long time to find a doctor that would listen to me that it was an issue because I had diabetes too and they were only interested in putting me on insulin and not addressing the underlying issue.
I was finally able to see a psychiatrist at the eating disorder clinic who was able to put me on a medication called vyvanse.
I didnt realize it at the time but the medication was simply prolonging the restrict cycle, which is how I was able to lose the weight, but I didnt even get to transition to maintenance before everything started falling apart
Before I knew it, I was exhibiting habits of bulimia, trying to control what was slipping through my fingers and I was terrified because I kept trying to restrict and restrict more to control things and it just kept snowballing
I was 135, I looked sick, my bones were sticking out, I was so tired all the time I could barely function anymore, and eventually I just ran out of fight and the binge part of the loop returned.
I made a couple of attempts to stop it before it got worse but was unable to succeed.
I'm back on vyvanse now but it's not the same as the first time, its helping tho..
My eating disorder psychiatrist told me that while mfp is good for most people, with someone like me, with an eating disorder, calorie restriction, even tho it's a choice made by me and not a severe one, it's still the same, my brain is allowing me now to have this restriction, and I could get another 2 years but it's just perpetuating the binge and restrict cycle.
So for now... I'm here and doing it because I need some weight off for my health, but he insists that i receive a certain therapy that's designed for people with eating disorders that allows them.to achieve a healthy weight but not seem like I'm purposefully restricting so that it breaks the binge and restrict cycle I'm forever stuck in. I'm just unable to cause covid and insurance isnt going to cover it.15 -
KrissCanDoThis wrote: »KrissCanDoThis wrote: »amusedmonkey wrote: »Speaking for myself. Before this, I had a sort of a routine. I didn't know I had a routine until I lost it. Now my routine is all messed up so are my usual habits (including MFP). I find myself doing other things. I do check in, but less often than I used to.
That I'm currently in weight gain mode doesn't help either (it feels disingenuous to offer advice when I'm trying not even trying). I did fine at first and maintained my weight just fine, but I wasn't ready for how much quarantine cooking everyone in the family would end up doing after a while of being cooped up. It's like they're using cooking to pass time. I had a set of breakfasts and dinners I cycled through and left the bulk of my calories for lunch (often cooked by others and high in calories) and that worked well, now I'm in a novel situation and I don't know what to do with my calories so I just stopped caring. I'm hoping this IDGAF mode won't last long so I can get back to dieting and lose these extra few kilos.
I feel your frustration. Being back here again after losing 165lbs the first time and having gained almost all of it back, makes me feel like a fraud for offering advice to others..
But I also try to tell myself, maybe my words can prevent them from becoming me.. someone who has to put my own advice into practice.
Do you know how or why it happened? There must have been various points during the regain where you saw what was happening and tried to regroup but couldn't for some reason. Yet you must've had tremendous self-discipline and determination to lose the 165 lbs in the first place. What changed? I am extremely interested in hearing more about this if you're up for describing it a little.
@lgfrie
I have binge eating disorder, I've had it since I was a small child, I was over weight my whole life, even as early as 9 and people with binge eating disorder live in a continuous binge and restrict frame of mind, so any efforts to lose weight over my life were met with a binge cycle following it
It took me a long time to find a doctor that would listen to me that it was an issue because I had diabetes too and they were only interested in putting me on insulin and not addressing the underlying issue.
I was finally able to see a psychiatrist at the eating disorder clinic who was able to put me on a medication called vyvanse.
I didnt realize it at the time but the medication was simply prolonging the restrict cycle, which is how I was able to lose the weight, but I didnt even get to transition to maintenance before everything started falling apart
Before I knew it, I was exhibiting habits of bulimia, trying to control what was slipping through my fingers and I was terrified because I kept trying to restrict and restrict more to control things and it just kept snowballing
I was 135, I looked sick, my bones were sticking out, I was so tired all the time I could barely function anymore, and eventually I just ran out of fight and the binge part of the loop returned.
I made a couple of attempts to stop it before it got worse but was unable to succeed.
I'm back on vyvanse now but it's not the same as the first time, its helping tho..
My eating disorder psychiatrist told me that while mfp is good for most people, with someone like me, with an eating disorder, calorie restriction, even tho it's a choice made by me and not a severe one, it's still the same, my brain is allowing me now to have this restriction, and I could get another 2 years but it's just perpetuating the binge and restrict cycle.
So for now... I'm here and doing it because I need some weight off for my health, but he insists that i receive a certain therapy that's designed for people with eating disorders that allows them.to achieve a healthy weight but not seem like I'm purposefully restricting so that it breaks the binge and restrict cycle I'm forever stuck in. I'm just unable to cause covid and insurance isnt going to cover it.
thanks for this detailed answer to my question. I never heard of Vyvanse before and didn't know there was such a thing as a drug for binging behavior. I've been on a good, successful diet for 10 months, but all my previous ones of the 3-4 month, 25-40 lb variety entailed gaining all the weight back and then some, after horrible and I mean insane binging I know I still haven't fully conquered, though I've gotten a lot better at regrouping quickly - like the next day, instead of 4 years later LOL But the tendency is still there, I know I haven't beaten it. I think about that a lot and how fragile this whole diet thing is, even for those who have their "system" down and can opine all day long on what works and what doesn't. It works until it doesn't, is my thinking. It's really a fragile thing. I appreciate your insights.8 -
Absolutely. When I started logging again on march 28th, several days that followed ended up being write offs, but I got up the next day and tried to be sympathetic to myself rather then harsh and critical. Try again today krista, I would say.
Who knows if I'll figure out how to keep it off this time, but i gotta keep trying, I'll keep working with my psychiatrist to figure out how to get the therapy he suggests and then try it and if i fail, I'll try again..
I realize i could wake up tomorrow and my brain could say well F this sht and go into binge overdrive, so everyday it allows me a little closer to my goal, I appreciate.4
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