How would you react if..
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Diatonic12 wrote: »I followed the BreakUP Cleanse Diet. I found myself and gained back some self-respect. There's no need to try and soften the blow with a lorra lorra talking on the phone. It won't make one whit of difference.
A man that cares would've dropped off chicken noodle soup and rice dishes. They would be speaking to you through the door and caring, really caring. The handwriting is on the wall when they can't put away their childish ways. The sea is a miracle. There are fishes that swim and waves of emotion and whopping boatloads of men about to reach the shoreline.
If she has Covid, I'm dropping off pizza.
because it's the only food I can slide under her front door.2 -
What you feel is something anyone would feel in your situation about expecting someone you trust and felt connected to , not reaching out to you when you needed the most. At times tough and life altering situations really is the only way we know who cares versus a fair weather friend. This is just a general perception I have had but talk it out , and it's better to talk things out versus assuming things. Stay strong , be safe and best of luck.1
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GymGoddessGoals wrote: »
this is one of those painful truths it took me way too long to figure out4 -
We don't have any pizza places out here. No fast food joints or fancy restaurants. He would have to leave everything by the door and come back for the dishes in a couple of weeks. There would be handwritten signs as you look out the window, singing and dancing in the front yard. A lorra lorra presents and tiddlywinks to make you smile. Running your errands for you with daily checks.3
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I ran into town and I thought about that comment all the way in. ^^^ It's a good one. I have a feeling the OP will give him a second chance. I wish she wouldn't but you have to learn these things the hard way.4
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sweet_ermengarde wrote: »GymGoddessGoals wrote: »
this is one of those painful truths it took me way too long to figure out
I was going to say just this. I hate this1 -
Ooo, I remembered that even penguins know the art of perfect gift-giving. It takes bird brains to teach the rest of us how to live and love. Penguins mate for life and propose by giving their mate a pebble.
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Diatonic12 wrote: »Ooo, I remembered that even penguins know the art of perfect gift-giving. It takes bird brains to teach the rest of us how to live and love. Penguins mate for life and propose by giving their mate a pebble.
as sweet as this is, i have a sad truth to tell you about the promiscuity of penguins.
https://youtu.be/HrHeKcZV7vA
when they said "she's got no time for losers" i felt that in my SOUL2 -
@ButterIsGood Come back.
Do want to marry this guy? Are you hoping and waiting and hoping and dreaming. In the back of your mind do you get the strong impression that he's not really there. Just kind of going through the motions. There's your sign.
In sickness and in health. He disappeared as soon as you were sick. What would he do if you had children and the child came down with flu or measles. Would you be there taking care of business while he was out running the streets. Bottomline: This event is a precursor. The true essence of the grape is revealed when it's squeezed.5 -
Diatonic12 wrote: »@ButterIsGood Come back.
Do want to marry this guy? Are you hoping and waiting and hoping and dreaming. In the back of your mind do you get the strong impression that he's not really there. Just kind of going through the motions. There's your sign.
In sickness and in health. He disappeared as soon as you were sick. What would he do if you had children and the child came down with flu or measles. Would you be there taking care of business while he was out running the streets. Bottomline: This event is a precursor. The true essence of the grape is revealed when it's squeezed.
I dunno.... what if he's busy ??1 -
Diatonic12 wrote: »Ooo, I remembered that even penguins know the art of perfect gift-giving. It takes bird brains to teach the rest of us how to live and love. Penguins mate for life and propose by giving their mate a pebble.
as sweet as this is, i have a sad truth to tell you about the promiscuity of penguins.https://youtu.be/HrHeKcZV7vA
when they said "she's got no time for losers" i felt that in my SOUL
thats not what i expected under that spoiler2 -
RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
Really? You would've not contacted your SO to check and make sure they're doing alright? You wouldn't discuss it with them? You'd just stop all contact? To me, what her boyfriend did, reeks more of pride and power than genuine caring about another person.
TBH, more than likely the OP has it, does care, but doesn't see the point in the test. Not sure that I wouldn't do the same in her circumstances. I just don't know for sure. Op did mention her mom and sister both had tests provided by their work; maybe OP is worried about cost or discomfort, we don't know. The main gist of the post was how we felt about what her bf did in response.
JMO so please no egg throwing.
I think she meant the part where the guy gave the tiniest of reactions before he split, but IDK I tend to hunt for "good".
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Butter, I should've listened to my mother but I didn't. I waited around for some yellow-bellied lily-livered sapsucker. He could charm the skin right off of a snake The entire thing was a useless waste of time. He was always running around and striking a pose. He spent his evenings at the gym working out. Then he was really working out after that. He adored his muscles more than anything. If I was trying to watch the TV he would get in front of it and always ask me about this or that muscle group. How did it look. Mostly, everything was always about him. When the right one came along he was married within 3 or 4 months. You don't have to take my advice. I had to learn things the hard way but with hard lessons comes a few revelations. You learn that action is the thing that really counts.
First there's the emotions. Then comes logical reasoning. If you can find your way to that place quickly you'll see with eyes wide open what others have shared, too. You deserve someone who really cares about you. Take action and Make Room For Daddy. The right one.6 -
Diatonic12 wrote: »Butter, I should've listened to my mother but I didn't. I waited around for some yellow-bellied lily-livered sapsucker. He could charm the skin right off of a snake The entire thing was a useless waste of time. He was always running around and striking a pose. He spent his evenings at the gym working out. Then he was really working out after that. He adored his muscles more than anything. If I was trying to watch the TV he would get in front of it and always ask me about this or that muscle group. How did it look. Mostly, everything was always about him. When the right one came along he was married within 3 or 4 months. You don't have to take my advice. I had to learn things the hard way but with hard lessons comes a few revelations. You learn that action is the thing that really counts.
First there's the emotions. Then comes logical reasoning. If you can find your way to that place quickly you'll see with eyes wide open what others have shared, too. You deserve someone who really cares about you. Take action and Make Room For Daddy. The right one.
It just hurts to go from thinking someone loves you to finding out that he doesn't. His ego and pride are always in the way. Hasn't even tried to apologize for his actions but only to put the blame on me for his absence. I think about him all the time. Songs remind me of him. Places remind me of him. Foods remind me of him. Just wish the hurt was from both sides but he probably doesn't care and is out there enjoying his tacos. If he was to get sick, id check up on him at least a few times a day. I don't see him in my future after what happened but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt to move on.7 -
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@ButterIsGood
Listen to the important people around you. Your folks, aunts and uncles, real friends.
Absolutely. It hurts. I did invest more years than you have and a big ole chunk of money. I picked up the tab for his toys and tiddlywinks. Yuck,
I need a bucket when I think about it. It was such an expensive lesson in my life. I'm still paying for it.
You've said some key words and words matter. You've talked about all of the time that's invested. There you go.
You didn't mention the big word. L.O.V.E.
I was his Mama and not his girlfriend. Huge difference. Always taking care of business while he played and played. He married his girlfriend. There are plenty of country songs about heartbreak but Let's All Go Down to Dum@$$ Walkers would describe my lesson.
One of two marriages hit the skids. These things are much harder to handle if children and houses are involved. You won't be able to get the time back and that's why get' out while the gettin' is good would be my stock answer.
When we're young no one can save us from our own feelings and emotions. We have to experience all of them so that we can recognize truth from lies. Here's something from my family to you. Never let an old flame burn you twice.4 -
ButterIsGood wrote: »Diatonic12 wrote: »Butter, I should've listened to my mother but I didn't. I waited around for some yellow-bellied lily-livered sapsucker. He could charm the skin right off of a snake The entire thing was a useless waste of time. He was always running around and striking a pose. He spent his evenings at the gym working out. Then he was really working out after that. He adored his muscles more than anything. If I was trying to watch the TV he would get in front of it and always ask me about this or that muscle group. How did it look. Mostly, everything was always about him. When the right one came along he was married within 3 or 4 months. You don't have to take my advice. I had to learn things the hard way but with hard lessons comes a few revelations. You learn that action is the thing that really counts.
First there's the emotions. Then comes logical reasoning. If you can find your way to that place quickly you'll see with eyes wide open what others have shared, too. You deserve someone who really cares about you. Take action and Make Room For Daddy. The right one.
It just hurts to go from thinking someone loves you to finding out that he doesn't. His ego and pride are always in the way. Hasn't even tried to apologize for his actions but only to put the blame on me for his absence. I think about him all the time. Songs remind me of him. Places remind me of him. Foods remind me of him. Just wish the hurt was from both sides but he probably doesn't care and is out there enjoying his tacos. If he was to get sick, id check up on him at least a few times a day. I don't see him in my future after what happened but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt to move on.
When a man is really in love, there is no room for his ego.2 -
Im glad to see this is still going2
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@ButterIsGood
One more thing. Your apology may not be forthcoming so don't wait for it.
It's another technique. When someone can't sit down face-to-face they may start or create an imaginary fight. You could be waiting around for that imaginary apology for months or years. It's a way to slip out the back, Jack, without telling you why or putting themselves on the spot.
Now, one day after I'd cleaned up all of the mess, here he comes down the driveway. Oooo, yeah, that yay-hoo showed back up on my doorstep. So get ready. They'll act like nothing happened and want to pick right up where they've left off. If you fall for it, it won't last the second time either. It will be quicker and a tad uglier the second time around should you choose to accept this third-rate attempt at romance. Both of his marriages have fallen apart but I have really moved on.3 -
Diatonic12 wrote: »@ButterIsGood
One more thing. Your apology may not be forthcoming so don't wait for it.
It's another technique. When someone can't sit down face-to-face they may start or create an imaginary fight. You could be waiting around for that imaginary apology for months or years. It's a way to slip out the back, Jack, without telling you why or putting themselves on the spot.
Now, one day after I'd cleaned up all of the mess, here he comes down the driveway. Oooo, yeah, that yay-hoo showed back up on my doorstep. So get ready. They'll act like nothing happened and want to pick right up where they've left off. If you fall for it, it won't last the second time either. It will be quicker and a tad uglier the second time around should you choose to accept this third-rate attempt at romance. Both of his marriages have fallen apart but I have really moved on.
I'm not giving him another chance. Apology or not. I don't think I can ever forgive in this case. I'm just gonna go on living my single life and stop thinking about him.4 -
If we can find some measure of happiness with the wrong one just imagine how happy you'll be with the right one. Keep dancing in your integrity and the right one will want to cut in. 4
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@ButterIsGood Seems like an eternity but it's only been 7 days. Thinking about you and I remembered this from my dear sweet mother.
If they like you, you'll know. If they don't you will always be confused. That's it in a nutshell and not the whole bushel.
How are you. We gotta know. 0 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
most doctors around here tell u to stay home and not get tested if u been exposed and think u have it
This is the best approach.
If we really want the positive Covid numbers low, then we need to stop testing.
How can someone test positive if they don't take a test?
Think of the time and money we can save if we just return all of the unused Covid testing packs back to Amazon.
This could be the best strategy yet.
We need to follow the advice of these physicians so the water parks can open before Labor Day.
actually i think they assume u are positive and dont want u coming in to infect other people
Do you have covid test sites in your area? They don't want you at the doctors. They want you to go to a test site. And while waiting for confirmation...stay home and quarantine.0 -
Ummm, I think you wanted another thread.
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Diatonic12 wrote: »@ButterIsGood Seems like an eternity but it's only been 7 days. Thinking about you and I remembered this from my dear sweet mother.
If they like you, you'll know. If they don't you will always be confused. That's it in a nutshell and not the whole bushel. How are you. We gotta know.
Hey, I'm okay. Just today he unfriended and unfollowed me on all social media. He was posting about " love" and " relationship" on his Snapchat this whole past week. And also posts about how women have bad taste in men.. And how they reject good men and prefer bad men in their lives. All bs. I'm still kinda hurt about the whole situation because I thought he'd at least attempt an apology but that didn't happen. I wanted closure. I wanted to straight up tell him why he's the most shittiest person ever. But I'm sure he'll be back one day. They always come back.2 -
Girl, do not cry over that man.
It’s one thing to be upset that you didn’t go get tested it’s another thing to straight up ignore you while your sick. 2.5 years is a serious Amount of time to be together. He should of cared to atleast check in. Drop some stuff at your door. Ect.
Thank god that he showed his true colors before he attempted to marry you. What a douche bag. I’m sorry. I hope you’re feeling better.2 -
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@ButterIsGood
Are you secretly hoping that he does. In the back of my mind and in my dreams, I hoped that he would. He did but those dreams turned into another nightmare. There were no apologies for anything. Ever. He simply picked up the pieces where he'd left off and I was a doubleknit nit-wit for opening that door.
When one door closes and another opens your house is probably haunted. Just kiddin' 0 -
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