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ButterIsGood
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Hey guys,
So I caught covid19 about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to hang out with my boyfriend but I texted him and cancelled. I told him I was feeling very sick and probably had covid. I was exhausted and was having a hard time just getting out of bed. I had a major headache as well. When I told him I was sick, he said I should go get tested. I said " okay...I have to see where I can go".. So I checked and the only appointments were available for 7 days later.. I told him that I more than likely caught the virus because my symptoms were matching up to those of the virus. I told him that I don't see the point in getting tested when they it will take 7 days just to get tested and that they will prob tell me to quarantine for 14 days anyway. He got mad at me for not getting tested. My sister and mom also got sick around the same time as me. They went to get tested 2 day later because their employer has a test site available for employees without appointments. They were both positive. Anyway, my bf didnt text me at all for 2 days. Never asked me if I was okay... Nothing. He finally texts me 2 days later to say " Amanda was wondering what you've been up to?"... Amanda is a mutual friend of ours who we haven't spoken to for months. I responded by saying " thanks for letting me know. I'm glad you're worried about how I'm doing. I had too high of expectations from you to check up on me when I'm sick" .. And he responded with " you always act like you're better than me! *kitten* that *kitten*!" To which I didn't respond because his response was just him being defensive imo. A day later, he posts on social media about a new taco place he likes? Like what the heck? You got time to poat about tacos but no time to check up on me? This whole situation just upset me so much. It made me feel like he didn't care about me all... We use to text everyday.. He'd text me good morning everyday.. But as soon as I got sick, he just disappeared. We haven't spoken since the last convo I mentioned above which was about 2.5 weeks ago. We have been together for 2.5 years. How would you react to this if you were in my place? I just feel hurt.
So I caught covid19 about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to hang out with my boyfriend but I texted him and cancelled. I told him I was feeling very sick and probably had covid. I was exhausted and was having a hard time just getting out of bed. I had a major headache as well. When I told him I was sick, he said I should go get tested. I said " okay...I have to see where I can go".. So I checked and the only appointments were available for 7 days later.. I told him that I more than likely caught the virus because my symptoms were matching up to those of the virus. I told him that I don't see the point in getting tested when they it will take 7 days just to get tested and that they will prob tell me to quarantine for 14 days anyway. He got mad at me for not getting tested. My sister and mom also got sick around the same time as me. They went to get tested 2 day later because their employer has a test site available for employees without appointments. They were both positive. Anyway, my bf didnt text me at all for 2 days. Never asked me if I was okay... Nothing. He finally texts me 2 days later to say " Amanda was wondering what you've been up to?"... Amanda is a mutual friend of ours who we haven't spoken to for months. I responded by saying " thanks for letting me know. I'm glad you're worried about how I'm doing. I had too high of expectations from you to check up on me when I'm sick" .. And he responded with " you always act like you're better than me! *kitten* that *kitten*!" To which I didn't respond because his response was just him being defensive imo. A day later, he posts on social media about a new taco place he likes? Like what the heck? You got time to poat about tacos but no time to check up on me? This whole situation just upset me so much. It made me feel like he didn't care about me all... We use to text everyday.. He'd text me good morning everyday.. But as soon as I got sick, he just disappeared. We haven't spoken since the last convo I mentioned above which was about 2.5 weeks ago. We have been together for 2.5 years. How would you react to this if you were in my place? I just feel hurt.
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Sounds to me like he's punishing you for not obeying him when he told you to get tested, and that's pretty controlling. Followed by immature defensiveness. I'd let that relationship slide.
Hope you're feeling better now.4 -
Id say you should be thankful. Sometimes it takes a long time to see a persons true character and the longer it takes the messier it can be. This is pretty cut and dry. Everybody looks good when the sun is shining, how they look on the dark days is what determines character and worth. Your boy aint worth squat, so now you know.11
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I agree completely with Revolu!! His actions spoke so much louder than anything he has said before. Time to move on and find someone worthier of you!!
How are you feeling now? And how is your family doing?3 -
I’m so sorry he treated you that way. That is not how a loving partner acts. Honestly, it doesn’t matter what excuse he gives. A man who acts like that and doesn’t contact you has checked out of the relationship. I would not take him back under any circumstance.4
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I am seeing passive agressive immaturity from both sides, not good in a relationship.
Also, specifically in response to the "we have been together 2.5 years" part. I see this kind of thinking alot with women, it's hard not to feel like you have invested so much and you don't want to throw that away. But, in every case I have seen, the relationship ends up failing either way. You may have already invested 2.5 years but you are better off cutting out now than wasting more time.5 -
just break up10
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Burn his house down10
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You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on3
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ButterIsGood wrote: »Hey guys,
So I caught covid19 about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to hang out with my boyfriend but I texted him and cancelled. I told him I was feeling very sick and probably had covid. I was exhausted and was having a hard time just getting out of bed. I had a major headache as well. When I told him I was sick, he said I should go get tested. I said " okay...I have to see where I can go".. So I checked and the only appointments were available for 7 days later.. I told him that I more than likely caught the virus because my symptoms were matching up to those of the virus. I told him that I don't see the point in getting tested when they it will take 7 days just to get tested and that they will prob tell me to quarantine for 14 days anyway. He got mad at me for not getting tested. My sister and mom also got sick around the same time as me. They went to get tested 2 day later because their employer has a test site available for employees without appointments. They were both positive. Anyway, my bf didnt text me at all for 2 days. Never asked me if I was okay... Nothing. He finally texts me 2 days later to say " Amanda was wondering what you've been up to?"... Amanda is a mutual friend of ours who we haven't spoken to for months. I responded by saying " thanks for letting me know. I'm glad you're worried about how I'm doing. I had too high of expectations from you to check up on me when I'm sick" .. And he responded with " you always act like you're better than me! *kitten* that *kitten*!" To which I didn't respond because his response was just him being defensive imo. A day later, he posts on social media about a new taco place he likes? Like what the heck? You got time to poat about tacos but no time to check up on me? This whole situation just upset me so much. It made me feel like he didn't care about me all... We use to text everyday.. He'd text me good morning everyday.. But as soon as I got sick, he just disappeared. We haven't spoken since the last convo I mentioned above which was about 2.5 weeks ago. We have been together for 2.5 years. How would you react to this if you were in my place? I just feel hurt.
i would be sad as hell if i were u, i’m sorry that happened3 -
RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
Really? You would've not contacted your SO to check and make sure they're doing alright? You wouldn't discuss it with them? You'd just stop all contact? To me, what her boyfriend did, reeks more of pride and power than genuine caring about another person.
TBH, more than likely the OP has it, does care, but doesn't see the point in the test. Not sure that I wouldn't do the same in her circumstances. I just don't know for sure. Op did mention her mom and sister both had tests provided by their work; maybe OP is worried about cost or discomfort, we don't know. The main gist of the post was how we felt about what her bf did in response.
JMO so please no egg throwing.7 -
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Idk why but this is funny to me2
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Dump him 👎4
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*kitten* him...
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ButterIsGood wrote: »Hey guys,
So I caught covid19 about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to hang out with my boyfriend but I texted him and cancelled. I told him I was feeling very sick and probably had covid. I was exhausted and was having a hard time just getting out of bed. I had a major headache as well. When I told him I was sick, he said I should go get tested. I said " okay...I have to see where I can go".. So I checked and the only appointments were available for 7 days later.. I told him that I more than likely caught the virus because my symptoms were matching up to those of the virus. I told him that I don't see the point in getting tested when they it will take 7 days just to get tested and that they will prob tell me to quarantine for 14 days anyway. He got mad at me for not getting tested. My sister and mom also got sick around the same time as me. They went to get tested 2 day later because their employer has a test site available for employees without appointments. They were both positive. Anyway, my bf didnt text me at all for 2 days. Never asked me if I was okay... Nothing. He finally texts me 2 days later to say " Amanda was wondering what you've been up to?"... Amanda is a mutual friend of ours who we haven't spoken to for months. I responded by saying " thanks for letting me know. I'm glad you're worried about how I'm doing. I had too high of expectations from you to check up on me when I'm sick" .. And he responded with " you always act like you're better than me! *kitten* that *kitten*!" To which I didn't respond because his response was just him being defensive imo. A day later, he posts on social media about a new taco place he likes? Like what the heck? You got time to poat about tacos but no time to check up on me? This whole situation just upset me so much. It made me feel like he didn't care about me all... We use to text everyday.. He'd text me good morning everyday.. But as soon as I got sick, he just disappeared. We haven't spoken since the last convo I mentioned above which was about 2.5 weeks ago. We have been together for 2.5 years. How would you react to this if you were in my place? I just feel hurt.
What kind of tacos ??4 -
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I agree completely with Revolu!! His actions spoke so much louder than anything he has said before. Time to move on and find someone worthier of you!!
How are you feeling now? And how is your family doing?
My sister and I have pretty much recovered completely. My parents still have a cough and some shortness of breath but have tested negative recently.7 -
RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
most doctors around here tell u to stay home and not get tested if u been exposed and think u have it6
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