How would you react if..
ButterIsGood
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Hey guys,
So I caught covid19 about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to hang out with my boyfriend but I texted him and cancelled. I told him I was feeling very sick and probably had covid. I was exhausted and was having a hard time just getting out of bed. I had a major headache as well. When I told him I was sick, he said I should go get tested. I said " okay...I have to see where I can go".. So I checked and the only appointments were available for 7 days later.. I told him that I more than likely caught the virus because my symptoms were matching up to those of the virus. I told him that I don't see the point in getting tested when they it will take 7 days just to get tested and that they will prob tell me to quarantine for 14 days anyway. He got mad at me for not getting tested. My sister and mom also got sick around the same time as me. They went to get tested 2 day later because their employer has a test site available for employees without appointments. They were both positive. Anyway, my bf didnt text me at all for 2 days. Never asked me if I was okay... Nothing. He finally texts me 2 days later to say " Amanda was wondering what you've been up to?"... Amanda is a mutual friend of ours who we haven't spoken to for months. I responded by saying " thanks for letting me know. I'm glad you're worried about how I'm doing. I had too high of expectations from you to check up on me when I'm sick" .. And he responded with " you always act like you're better than me! *kitten* that *kitten*!" To which I didn't respond because his response was just him being defensive imo. A day later, he posts on social media about a new taco place he likes? Like what the heck? You got time to poat about tacos but no time to check up on me? This whole situation just upset me so much. It made me feel like he didn't care about me all... We use to text everyday.. He'd text me good morning everyday.. But as soon as I got sick, he just disappeared. We haven't spoken since the last convo I mentioned above which was about 2.5 weeks ago. We have been together for 2.5 years. How would you react to this if you were in my place? I just feel hurt.
So I caught covid19 about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to hang out with my boyfriend but I texted him and cancelled. I told him I was feeling very sick and probably had covid. I was exhausted and was having a hard time just getting out of bed. I had a major headache as well. When I told him I was sick, he said I should go get tested. I said " okay...I have to see where I can go".. So I checked and the only appointments were available for 7 days later.. I told him that I more than likely caught the virus because my symptoms were matching up to those of the virus. I told him that I don't see the point in getting tested when they it will take 7 days just to get tested and that they will prob tell me to quarantine for 14 days anyway. He got mad at me for not getting tested. My sister and mom also got sick around the same time as me. They went to get tested 2 day later because their employer has a test site available for employees without appointments. They were both positive. Anyway, my bf didnt text me at all for 2 days. Never asked me if I was okay... Nothing. He finally texts me 2 days later to say " Amanda was wondering what you've been up to?"... Amanda is a mutual friend of ours who we haven't spoken to for months. I responded by saying " thanks for letting me know. I'm glad you're worried about how I'm doing. I had too high of expectations from you to check up on me when I'm sick" .. And he responded with " you always act like you're better than me! *kitten* that *kitten*!" To which I didn't respond because his response was just him being defensive imo. A day later, he posts on social media about a new taco place he likes? Like what the heck? You got time to poat about tacos but no time to check up on me? This whole situation just upset me so much. It made me feel like he didn't care about me all... We use to text everyday.. He'd text me good morning everyday.. But as soon as I got sick, he just disappeared. We haven't spoken since the last convo I mentioned above which was about 2.5 weeks ago. We have been together for 2.5 years. How would you react to this if you were in my place? I just feel hurt.
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Sounds to me like he's punishing you for not obeying him when he told you to get tested, and that's pretty controlling. Followed by immature defensiveness. I'd let that relationship slide.
Hope you're feeling better now.4 -
Id say you should be thankful. Sometimes it takes a long time to see a persons true character and the longer it takes the messier it can be. This is pretty cut and dry. Everybody looks good when the sun is shining, how they look on the dark days is what determines character and worth. Your boy aint worth squat, so now you know.11
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I agree completely with Revolu!! His actions spoke so much louder than anything he has said before.
Time to move on and find someone worthier of you!!
How are you feeling now? And how is your family doing?3 -
I’m so sorry he treated you that way. That is not how a loving partner acts. Honestly, it doesn’t matter what excuse he gives. A man who acts like that and doesn’t contact you has checked out of the relationship. I would not take him back under any circumstance.4
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I am seeing passive agressive immaturity from both sides, not good in a relationship.
Also, specifically in response to the "we have been together 2.5 years" part. I see this kind of thinking alot with women, it's hard not to feel like you have invested so much and you don't want to throw that away. But, in every case I have seen, the relationship ends up failing either way. You may have already invested 2.5 years but you are better off cutting out now than wasting more time.5 -
just break up10
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Burn his house down10
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You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on3
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ButterIsGood wrote: »Hey guys,
So I caught covid19 about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to hang out with my boyfriend but I texted him and cancelled. I told him I was feeling very sick and probably had covid. I was exhausted and was having a hard time just getting out of bed. I had a major headache as well. When I told him I was sick, he said I should go get tested. I said " okay...I have to see where I can go".. So I checked and the only appointments were available for 7 days later.. I told him that I more than likely caught the virus because my symptoms were matching up to those of the virus. I told him that I don't see the point in getting tested when they it will take 7 days just to get tested and that they will prob tell me to quarantine for 14 days anyway. He got mad at me for not getting tested. My sister and mom also got sick around the same time as me. They went to get tested 2 day later because their employer has a test site available for employees without appointments. They were both positive. Anyway, my bf didnt text me at all for 2 days. Never asked me if I was okay... Nothing. He finally texts me 2 days later to say " Amanda was wondering what you've been up to?"... Amanda is a mutual friend of ours who we haven't spoken to for months. I responded by saying " thanks for letting me know. I'm glad you're worried about how I'm doing. I had too high of expectations from you to check up on me when I'm sick" .. And he responded with " you always act like you're better than me! *kitten* that *kitten*!" To which I didn't respond because his response was just him being defensive imo. A day later, he posts on social media about a new taco place he likes? Like what the heck? You got time to poat about tacos but no time to check up on me? This whole situation just upset me so much. It made me feel like he didn't care about me all... We use to text everyday.. He'd text me good morning everyday.. But as soon as I got sick, he just disappeared. We haven't spoken since the last convo I mentioned above which was about 2.5 weeks ago. We have been together for 2.5 years. How would you react to this if you were in my place? I just feel hurt.
i would be sad as hell if i were u, i’m sorry that happened3 -
RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
Really? You would've not contacted your SO to check and make sure they're doing alright? You wouldn't discuss it with them? You'd just stop all contact? To me, what her boyfriend did, reeks more of pride and power than genuine caring about another person.
TBH, more than likely the OP has it, does care, but doesn't see the point in the test. Not sure that I wouldn't do the same in her circumstances. I just don't know for sure. Op did mention her mom and sister both had tests provided by their work; maybe OP is worried about cost or discomfort, we don't know. The main gist of the post was how we felt about what her bf did in response.
JMO so please no egg throwing.
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Lol0
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Idk why but this is funny to me2
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Dump him 👎4
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*kitten* him...
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ButterIsGood wrote: »Hey guys,
So I caught covid19 about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to hang out with my boyfriend but I texted him and cancelled. I told him I was feeling very sick and probably had covid. I was exhausted and was having a hard time just getting out of bed. I had a major headache as well. When I told him I was sick, he said I should go get tested. I said " okay...I have to see where I can go".. So I checked and the only appointments were available for 7 days later.. I told him that I more than likely caught the virus because my symptoms were matching up to those of the virus. I told him that I don't see the point in getting tested when they it will take 7 days just to get tested and that they will prob tell me to quarantine for 14 days anyway. He got mad at me for not getting tested. My sister and mom also got sick around the same time as me. They went to get tested 2 day later because their employer has a test site available for employees without appointments. They were both positive. Anyway, my bf didnt text me at all for 2 days. Never asked me if I was okay... Nothing. He finally texts me 2 days later to say " Amanda was wondering what you've been up to?"... Amanda is a mutual friend of ours who we haven't spoken to for months. I responded by saying " thanks for letting me know. I'm glad you're worried about how I'm doing. I had too high of expectations from you to check up on me when I'm sick" .. And he responded with " you always act like you're better than me! *kitten* that *kitten*!" To which I didn't respond because his response was just him being defensive imo. A day later, he posts on social media about a new taco place he likes? Like what the heck? You got time to poat about tacos but no time to check up on me? This whole situation just upset me so much. It made me feel like he didn't care about me all... We use to text everyday.. He'd text me good morning everyday.. But as soon as I got sick, he just disappeared. We haven't spoken since the last convo I mentioned above which was about 2.5 weeks ago. We have been together for 2.5 years. How would you react to this if you were in my place? I just feel hurt.
What kind of tacos ??4 -
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I agree completely with Revolu!! His actions spoke so much louder than anything he has said before. Time to move on and find someone worthier of you!!
How are you feeling now? And how is your family doing?
My sister and I have pretty much recovered completely. My parents still have a cough and some shortness of breath but have tested negative recently.7 -
RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
most doctors around here tell u to stay home and not get tested if u been exposed and think u have it6 -
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sweet_ermengarde wrote: »RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
most doctors around here tell u to stay home and not get tested if u been exposed and think u have it
This is the best approach.
If we really want the positive Covid numbers low, then we need to stop testing.
How can someone test positive if they don't take a test?
Think of the time and money we can save if we just return all of the unused Covid testing packs back to Amazon.
This could be the best strategy yet.
We need to follow the advice of these physicians so the water parks can open before Labor Day.4 -
I would’ve done like you... I wouldn’t contact him either. I’d block him off everything and act like he never existed. how do you not check on someone you’ve known for 2.5 years when they are sick.
I hope you never give him the time of day again, because if he’s like most men I know, they always come back with something stupid to say. Block block block for your own sake.5 -
Both of you need to consider working on communication and conflict resolution skills, either in this relationship...or the next one.4
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Make a clean break and a fast getaway. Don't invest another minute of another day on this. A year is more than enough time to give to anyone. Within 3-6 months most know exactly where you stand in the big picture. Sometimes, they're just keeping you as the backup plan until the right one comes along.
Get out while the gettin' is good and don't wait around another day. Somewhere on here I found the BreakUP Cleanse diet. The first rule was no more phone calls or texting. The second rule: We are never getting back together. Thirdly: Pack up all of his multi-cr@p and tell him to come and get it because you're packin' it in.
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Motorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
most doctors around here tell u to stay home and not get tested if u been exposed and think u have it
This is the best approach.
If we really want the positive Covid numbers low, then we need to stop testing.
How can someone test positive if they don't take a test?
Think of the time and money we can save if we just return all of the unused Covid testing packs back to Amazon.
This could be the best strategy yet.
We need to follow the advice of these physicians so the water parks can open before Labor Day.
actually i think they assume u are positive and dont want u coming in to infect other people2 -
RockingWithLJ wrote: »You should still have set the appt just to know for sure. Why you didn't is beyond me. I would have reacted the same way as he did with my SO... I mean, how is he supposed to care if you dont? Sounds like he is over it and you should move on
This is ridiculous. I am an ER Physician Assistant and younger, otherwise healthy people are encouraged to stay home. It is better to stay home than to risk infecting others. Getting tested just to know is silly unless one works an essential job. Testing is not needing for everyone. If her two family members tested positive then she is presumed to be positive too. Tests aren’t 100%. There is no excuse for her ex boyfriend’s behavior.9 -
DouchetownBrohouse wrote: »Idk why but this is funny to me
Wish you knew why, then maybe you could explain to us the humor?
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I would’ve done like you... I wouldn’t contact him either. I’d block him off everything and act like he never existed. how do you not check on someone you’ve known for 2.5 years when they are sick.
I hope you never give him the time of day again, because if he’s like most men I know, they always come back with something stupid to say. Block block block for your own sake.
Exactly this.2 -
I followed the BreakUP Cleanse Diet. I found myself and gained back some self-respect. There's no need to try and soften the blow with a lorra lorra talking on the phone. It won't make one whit of difference.
A man that cares would've dropped off chicken noodle soup and rice dishes. They would be speaking to you through the door and caring, really caring. The handwriting is on the wall when they can't put away their childish ways. The sea is a miracle. There are fishes that swim and waves of emotion and whopping boatloads of men about to reach the shoreline.5
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