Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
This was me the first few months I was in here.
I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.
I hate to think anyone feels this way.
❤️
Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.
I don't feel.this way, FWIW.
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
This was me the first few months I was in here.
I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.
I hate to think anyone feels this way.
❤️
Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.
“id10t” is how i know you’re a tech genius 😄
I think you’re really well liked here. I’m surprised you feel this way.
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not so much opinion, but a question i guess
how many pairs of shoes do you own?
and how do you store them when you're not using them; like do you just huck em in the closet and forget about them, or do you keep them on a specific shelf in there, or do you keep them in the boxes until you wear them again?
Is this a trick question? Am I being judged? Interviewed?!
...why do I feel attacked?
...(because you are a shoe hoarder, Vikka)
being asked to model some - that's it!
~50 (which is ridiculous, this year I can count on 2 hands how many pair I've worn) And I'm a "minimalist" (in everything else, except soup...I have a lot of soup)
They are neatly stored on a shoe shelf in the closet (b/c I am a tidy MF and I don't wear most of them, so why not!) My heels and indoor flipflops, running and training shoes are in my bedroom closet, and my "currently worn" 2 pair of boots are on a boot tray by the door. My muddy trail running shoes are in the farthest corner possible, closest to the door (eww, dirty). My new sparkly flats and not worn outside yet (cheaper brand) Uggs are in my living room so I can look at them
('cause that's not at all weird)
eta - *note I also have Crocs ballet flats - intriguing, I'm sure!
50 pairs my God
At first I was like but then I was like
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
This was me the first few months I was in here.
I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.
I hate to think anyone feels this way.
❤️
Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.
“id10t” is how i know you’re a tech genius 😄
I think you’re really well liked here. I’m surprised you feel this way.
😂 😂 😂 Guilty as charged.
And thank you. I struggle a lot with it, actually. So I appreciate it. ❤️4 -
KickassAmazon76 wrote: »KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
This was me the first few months I was in here.
I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.
I hate to think anyone feels this way.
❤️
Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.
“id10t” is how i know you’re a tech genius 😄
I think you’re really well liked here. I’m surprised you feel this way.
😂 😂 😂 Guilty as charged.
And thank you. I struggle a lot with it, actually. So I appreciate it. ❤️
Well cut that *kitten* out 😏❤️2 -
@Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I have "favourite" threads - but if there is a 'fresh meat' tread that looks intriguing, I go there first.
I hate to say it, but 'trolly' threads entertain me - sometimes, and I jump into them for amusement (as long as they aren't cruel)
If I'm on my laptop I do sometimes go to a thread if there is someone (I find ) interesting was the last poster. On my phone - its blind, I don't use the app, and cant see the pp in the main CC section - so go to my usuals of whatever intrigues me.
I've been finding myself associating my heightened anxiety problems lately with 'here', its misdirected, I know - but for some reason 'social interaction' en masse, is making me feel sketched out and more vulnerable lately. I used to have a lot of fun here, and still do, but maybe just a bit hyper critical of everything...right now? 🤔 Mostly feeling regretful for what I say, and feeling 'paranoid' or hyper sensitive to the interpretation (again, I know it's a me problem)
I like interacting with everyone, but am shy (ish). I sometimes feel like I'm that annoying, cringy post poster and should just go away and come back anew...but reality is - I'd still be that cringy post poster, shy, girl who (spews) her thoughts
Random thought interjection - For the record, I like you!
To me "insightful" can be a dis - really, I'm not smart enough to be 'insightful' - but it could be a compliment or neutral too - like "I get that interesting perspective of yours, Vikka"
Guess it depends on my mood - and which way the wind blows?!
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PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your reaction to ex reaching out to you months to year or longer after break up?
1. Curious and wanna catch up
2. Don't ever contact me again
3. Curious and may wanna grab drinks or more
4. Restraining order
5. Name your own ...
5. No, I still won't "lend" you money. *kitten* off.
😂😂
I had one tell me i had to block him or he would not stop messaging.1 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I ignore most of chit-chat... whatever the "cool" factor is in this group, I don't have it. I prefer conversational threads and the every so rear serious/thoughtful post. I catch up on wholesome memes a couple of times per month.
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I don't necessarily see a "cool factor" in here as much as I see a bunch of regulars having a good time. I've seen this said iften around here and it makes me cringe.
Time doesn't always allow me to say more than a few sentences at a time, work is first. Conversational threads are very time consuming and almost too personal at times. I feel like I'm reading someone's diary.
I come here to get a good laugh and to have fun...I don't necessarily think I'm "cool." If anything, I'm probably annoying to many 😂
That may well be the case. To me, it feels like high school, where all the cool kids are in threads laughing and having a good time, and I'm over in the corner not getting the joke but desperately wanting to be accepted into your group.
To be clear, I don't use the word "cool" as any sort of judgement or evaluation. But like you said, there is a group or regulars that get each other and are generally the ones that drive many of the threads. I routinely feel like an outsider (uncool) in those threads.
That's how I feel so many times.
I'm an extreme introvert and thought I was better about it on here, being anonymous and all. But come to find out, I still feel like I'm lurking in a corner and am invisible most of the time. My sister is 10 yrs. older than me; she always finds stuff to talk about, loves people, getting to know them and has a zillion friends. Not me, I'm exactly the opposite. It's not that I don't care about people, it's more like I'll say stupid stuff and people won't like me. (Now if that doesn't sound like high school all over again, I don't know what does 
)
And the picture of that little puppy with his head hanging down, just want to pick him up and cuddle him all day long.3 -
Coming into this site every a.m. I always check out a post or 2 on other topics then come to chit chat, start at the bottom and work my way up, picking topics that I usually check out, avoiding certain ones that I've never started to read and by now have 1K replies, then once I hit the top I start back again and see if I want to read anything I missed. Actually, this topic was one I'd never read because I was already too far behind. Looks like a whole lot of catching to do. But there's only so many hours in a day.2
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@Kashmir_314_ wrote: »@Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I have "favourite" threads - but if there is a 'fresh meat' tread that looks intriguing, I go there first.
I hate to say it, but 'trolly' threads entertain me - sometimes, and I jump into them for amusement (as long as they aren't cruel)
If I'm on my laptop I do sometimes go to a thread if there is someone (I find ) interesting was the last poster. On my phone - its blind, I don't use the app, and cant see the pp in the main CC section - so go to my usuals of whatever intrigues me.
I've been finding myself associating my heightened anxiety problems lately with 'here', its misdirected, I know - but for some reason 'social interaction' en masse, is making me feel sketched out and more vulnerable lately. I used to have a lot of fun here, and still do, but maybe just a bit hyper critical of everything...right now? 🤔 Mostly feeling regretful for what I say, and feeling 'paranoid' or hyper sensitive to the interpretation (again, I know it's a me problem)
I like interacting with everyone, but am shy (ish). I sometimes feel like I'm that annoying, cringy post poster and should just go away and come back anew...but reality is - I'd still be that cringy post poster, shy, girl who (spews) her thoughts
Random thought interjection - For the record, I like you!
To me "insightful" can be a dis - really, I'm not smart enough to be 'insightful' - but it could be a compliment or neutral too - like "I get that interesting perspective of yours, Vikka"
Guess it depends on my mood - and which way the wind blows?!
Thank you for that - 💙
I love reading your threads. You're the perfect mix of funny, quirky (in the best way) and adorable.
Thanks Lady!
Am super complimented by the 'quirky' acknowledgement! Flattered! I identify! Funny and adorable is cool too - I'll absorb al the positives as POWER!!
"QuirkyCanuck" was one of my usernames (for Insta(stalker)gram) (I basically just creep my cousin who is a fitness model competitor) TMI, but rando info is my specialty!
I can't decide b/t whimsy and quirky as a descriptor for me! Hmm, maybe I'll unite the 2!,
Anyhow - as I ramble...
HULK SMASH - 2020 is our *kitten*, and almost conquered!
Have a great day Lady!
and thank-you for making mine better!❤4 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
My initial thought is the lady was being snotty, possibly assuming you were hitting/flirting with him.🤷♀️
I would take it as the biggest compliment ever3 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
Context matters. A lot.
A compliment is much more meanginful to me when it comes from someone who actually understands what it takes to do whatever is being complimented than it does from someone who has no idea.2 -
Well that "lady" was going to follow him home but your stalk game was more on point.Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
This isn't over, Mel G!!!!
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😂I honestly don’t think he thought anything at all. I think the lady did. And I was curious what other peoples opinions were on it.
I think other things will make it appear a flirt, like telling them they look like they workout while making eye contact and squeezing his muscle. 😆
Did you look into his eyes and squeeze his muscle Mel? 😜2 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »MelG7777, perhaps you need this?
https://www.amazon.com/Just-Because-Nice-Doesnt-T-shirt/dp/B07K13LMRR?customId=B0753882ZV&th=1
😂I honestly don’t think he thought anything at all. I think the lady did. And I was curious what other peoples opinions were on it.
I think other things will make it appear a flirt, like telling them they look like they workout while making eye contact and squeezing his muscle. 😆
Did you look into his eyes and squeeze his muscle Mel? 😜
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When I was at my most physically active I would get that comment from people I didn't see frequently and, to my rude awakening, it made me feel resentment toward myself.Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
I used to go to the gym everyday, no life event could keep me out, and it wasn't uncommon for me to spend 3 hours there because it was a time in my life where I believed that if I looked good, absolute happiness and inner peace would follow.
So when someone at the water cooler or bbq grill would casually mention that I look like I workout, I would think "Well *kitten* I would hope so. I only spend all of my free time there (gym). While you are probably busy raising a family, moving up the corporate ladder, or going dancing with your friends- I'm at the gym trying to fill a void in my life. Do you know how embarrassing it feels to have 3 gym memberships because you don't want to be too well-known at a particular one and make the employees notice you spend every Saturday night there? My extremist tendencies are going to send me to a shrink one day, y'know. But enough about me, how's your mother doing!?"
😅 That's how the old me would've broken it down later that night in bed. But in real time I'd say "Hey thanks! I try!" and keep it moving. That's been the difference between my 20's and 30's. 🤙
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slimgirljo15 wrote: »MelG7777, perhaps you need this?
https://www.amazon.com/Just-Because-Nice-Doesnt-T-shirt/dp/B07K13LMRR?customId=B0753882ZV&th=1
😂I honestly don’t think he thought anything at all. I think the lady did. And I was curious what other peoples opinions were on it.
I think other things will make it appear a flirt, like telling them they look like they workout while making eye contact and squeezing his muscle. 😆
Did you look into his eyes and squeeze his muscle Mel? 😜
😂😂I promise no.
Obviously you did it wrong then. 🤷♀️3 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
One of my big fitness goals is to look like someone who works out (since I don't look the part, even though I work out) so that would be an awesome compliment.
The closest I ever got was when a coworker walked into the workroom just as I was reaching across the photocopier for something and gasped. "Holy *kitten*, look at your arm!" She's normally kind of catty so it was a particularly good compliment from her.
My flirt detector was never installed so I'd never see it as "something more". It's quite possible I have infuriated many men over the years by being dumb as a stump in that regard.1 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉3 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?
Not the same i dont think. If Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime was walking with you out of the gym, would you think to tell him he looks like he works out? I would hope not.....unless of course yuou wanted to find a way to talk to him. What he says after that is irrelevant.....stating the obvious is just a way to start a conversation. Sure is cold today huh? Ummm....yeah, its 0°.......wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm? ......you see, that small obvious talk works all the time lol2 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?
Not the same i dont think. If Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime was walking with you out of the gym, would you think to tell him he looks like he works out? I would hope not.....unless of course yuou wanted to find a way to talk to him. What he says after that is irrelevant.....stating the obvious is just a way to start a conversation. Sure is cold today huh? Ummm....yeah, its 0°.......wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm? ......you see, that small obvious talk works all the time lol
I think stating you haven't worked out or haven't played in years, a natural response would be oh, you look like you work out...shes not just out right stating the obvious...shes surprised because he stated he DOESNT workout
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Missed my point. Him saying he hadnt worked out in a while is a response.....asking someone what they do for a workout is the initiation of that response. After you initiate the rest is irrelevant, you succeeded in starting a conversation. His response does not exist without initiation. Now it doesnt have to mean she or anybody is hitting on them.PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?
Not the same i dont think. If Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime was walking with you out of the gym, would you think to tell him he looks like he works out? I would hope not.....unless of course yuou wanted to find a way to talk to him. What he says after that is irrelevant.....stating the obvious is just a way to start a conversation. Sure is cold today huh? Ummm....yeah, its 0°.......wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm? ......you see, that small obvious talk works all the time lol
I think stating you haven't worked out or haven't played in years, a natural response would be oh, you look like you work out...shes not just out right stating the obvious...shes surprised because he stated he DOESNT workout0 -
Missed my point. Him saying he hadnt worked out in a while is a response.....asking someone what they do for a workout is the initiation of that response. After you initiate the rest is irrelevant, you succeeded in starting a conversation. His response does not exist without initiation. Now it doesnt have to mean she or anybody is hitting on them.PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?
Not the same i dont think. If Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime was walking with you out of the gym, would you think to tell him he looks like he works out? I would hope not.....unless of course yuou wanted to find a way to talk to him. What he says after that is irrelevant.....stating the obvious is just a way to start a conversation. Sure is cold today huh? Ummm....yeah, its 0°.......wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm? ......you see, that small obvious talk works all the time lol
I think stating you haven't worked out or haven't played in years, a natural response would be oh, you look like you work out...shes not just out right stating the obvious...shes surprised because he stated he DOESNT workout
I'm confused...whats your point?3 -
I lost all concentration at "wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm?" My mind is basically on par with Benny Hill's (but in reverse...)
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My takeaway.....just don’t compliment people in that way. I don’t want to give people the wrong idea. 🤷🏻♀️ It’s not necessary to say anything really I suppose.
I was just legitimately confused...😅
I will no longer speak as I could be flirting, I could be insulting. I have no idea anymore😬4 -
Someone recently came by my place and saw my garage gym, and hit me with "It looks like SOMEbody works out".
Which is funny, because I'm quite out of shape. I do workout, though. I just couldn't for a good while.
I said yeah, somebody tries.3 -
My takeaway.....just don’t compliment people in that way. I don’t want to give people the wrong idea. 🤷🏻♀️ It’s not necessary to say anything really I suppose.
Mel.. you know your intent, so if you want to compliment, then do. 🙂 What the old biddy thought doesn't matter or anyone else for that matter... you were paying a genuine compliment.. you might have made his day.
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My takeaway.....just don’t compliment people in that way. I don’t want to give people the wrong idea. 🤷🏻♀️ It’s not necessary to say anything really I suppose.
That's generally my approach too, which is unfortunate because I think compliments should be more freely given. But it seems like someone is always looking for something between the lines, and nothing is always safe, so...1
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