Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..

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  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,588 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you respond to someone who tries to dissuade you from liking someone just because they don’t get along with them?

    Usually I laugh it off but based on the many past experiences and influences in my life, it they persist I will often 👻... Not intentionally it just kinda happens naturally 🤷🏽‍♂️
  • Yoshiboobs
    Yoshiboobs Posts: 1,090 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you respond to someone who tries to dissuade you from liking someone just because they don’t get along with them?

    Can't recall being in this situation 🤔. I wouldn't be into it.
  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,588 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?

    ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.

    I open my book marks and look for @CacoEther threads 😂... Or the weakness thread... Sometimes I just lurk, sometimes I comment... Idk tbh I just do 🤷🏽‍♂️

    This is the nicest thing you’ve ever hollered in my general direction 😁

    Sometimes I search your id so I can see where you are 😬...
    Kidding 😂
  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,074 Member
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here and take them downstairs.

    FIFY ;)
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?

    ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.

    I open my book marks and look for @CacoEther threads 😂... Or the weakness thread... Sometimes I just lurk, sometimes I comment... Idk tbh I just do 🤷🏽‍♂️

    This is the nicest thing you’ve ever hollered in my general direction 😁

    Sometimes I search your id so I can see where you are 😬...
    Kidding 😂

    I have no idea what this means but I LIKE IT
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..

    This was me the first few months I was in here.bijwlivpjm7x.png

    Aww nooo 🥺
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here and take them downstairs.

    FIFY ;)

    😆 thanks .. can always count on you
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    Guys/girls:

    Whats your reaction to ex reaching out to you months to year or longer after break up?

    1. Curious and wanna catch up
    2. Don't ever contact me again
    3. Curious and may wanna grab drinks or more
    4. Restraining order
    5. Name your own ...

    5. No, I still won't "lend" you money. *kitten* off.
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    guys/girls-

    not so much opinion, but a question i guess

    how many pairs of shoes do you own?
    and how do you store them when you're not using them; like do you just huck em in the closet and forget about them, or do you keep them on a specific shelf in there, or do you keep them in the boxes until you wear them again?

    I'm really not the best person to answer this but around 300 pairs. They kinda have their own room.

    They're all in their boxes with tissue paper and dessicant, labelled. Although the labelling system has gotten a little vague and I may have to move to a picture label.
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..

    Really? You’re like the most welcoming person here 😅

    Also.. can confirm the bravado and jokes. Fake it til you Make it Generation, repreSENT

    You're flirting with me again.. arent you 😉
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?

    ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.

    I'm only in here a couple of times a day so I usually go to the threads I've looked at before that have the most new posts (like this one had 133). I almost never go past page 1. If I'm really procrastinating about whatever it is I'm supposed to be doing, I'll start scanning the thread titles.

    "Insightful" to me means I learned something new, or I developed a new appreciation for the poster's perspective.
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?

    ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.

    The times (usually 6am) that I have time to log in I check threads I frequent. If I have down time I check for new threads...I lurk until theres something that interest me, I find funny, or I connect with. I don't really think anything about insightful.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    guys/girls-

    not so much opinion, but a question i guess

    how many pairs of shoes do you own?
    and how do you store them when you're not using them; like do you just huck em in the closet and forget about them, or do you keep them on a specific shelf in there, or do you keep them in the boxes until you wear them again?

    I own... enough. I recently downsized a my collection, now I only have flats I actually wear. So my "collection" is probably less than 20 pairs now, including flats, snow boots, running shoes, etc.

    They are stored neatly on the back of my closet door, a nice row on the bottom of my closet and on a shoe rack downstairs near our front door.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?

    ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.

    I usually go catch up on threads I participate in and then check out ones I'm interested in.

    I use "insightful" when I learn something new and potentially valuable. Either about random *kitten* or an little nugget of interesting information about one of you people here.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you respond to someone who tries to dissuade you from liking someone just because they don’t get along with them?

    Uhm... ignore that fool. I make my own decisions about people and I want none of their drama.

    I like to usually give people a chance (don't want to judge anyone before I talk to them and get to know them a bit first). It's really hard to resist the urge to judge, but I still make the effort.
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,677 Member
    JessBbody wrote: »
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..

    This was me the first few months I was in here.bijwlivpjm7x.png

    I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.

    I hate to think anyone feels this way. :(

    ❤️

    Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    edited December 2020
    iMago wrote: »
    guys/girls-

    not so much opinion, but a question i guess

    how many pairs of shoes do you own?
    and how do you store them when you're not using them; like do you just huck em in the closet and forget about them, or do you keep them on a specific shelf in there, or do you keep them in the boxes until you wear them again?

    Is this a trick question? Am I being judged? Interviewed?!
    ...why do I feel attacked?
    ...(because you are a shoe hoarder, Vikka)

    being asked to model some - that's it!

    ~50 (which is ridiculous, this year I can count on 2 hands how many pair I've worn) And I'm a "minimalist" (in everything else, except soup...I have a lot of soup)

    They are neatly stored on a shoe shelf in the closet (b/c I am a tidy MF and I don't wear most of them, so why not!) My heels and indoor flipflops, running and training shoes are in my bedroom closet, and my "currently worn" 2 pair of boots are on a boot tray by the door. My muddy trail running shoes are in the farthest corner possible, closest to the door (eww, dirty). My new sparkly flats and not worn outside yet (cheaper brand) Uggs are in my living room so I can look at them
    ('cause that's not at all weird)

    eta - *note I also have Crocs ballet flats - intriguing, I'm sure!
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,677 Member
    JessBbody wrote: »
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..

    This was me the first few months I was in here.bijwlivpjm7x.png

    I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.

    I hate to think anyone feels this way. :(

    ❤️

    Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.

    I don't feel.this way, FWIW.

    Thank you ❤️
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    JessBbody wrote: »
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..

    This was me the first few months I was in here.bijwlivpjm7x.png

    I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.

    I hate to think anyone feels this way. :(

    ❤️

    Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.

    “id10t” is how i know you’re a tech genius 😄

    I think you’re really well liked here. I’m surprised you feel this way.
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    guys/girls-

    not so much opinion, but a question i guess

    how many pairs of shoes do you own?
    and how do you store them when you're not using them; like do you just huck em in the closet and forget about them, or do you keep them on a specific shelf in there, or do you keep them in the boxes until you wear them again?

    Is this a trick question? Am I being judged? Interviewed?!
    ...why do I feel attacked?
    ...(because you are a shoe hoarder, Vikka)

    being asked to model some - that's it!

    ~50 (which is ridiculous, this year I can count on 2 hands how many pair I've worn) And I'm a "minimalist" (in everything else, except soup...I have a lot of soup)

    They are neatly stored on a shoe shelf in the closet (b/c I am a tidy MF and I don't wear most of them, so why not!) My heels and indoor flipflops, running and training shoes are in my bedroom closet, and my "currently worn" 2 pair of boots are on a boot tray by the door. My muddy trail running shoes are in the farthest corner possible, closest to the door (eww, dirty). My new sparkly flats and not worn outside yet (cheaper brand) Uggs are in my living room so I can look at them
    ('cause that's not at all weird)

    eta - *note I also have Crocs ballet flats - intriguing, I'm sure!

    50 pairs my God

    At first I was like but then I was like
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  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,677 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    JessBbody wrote: »
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..

    This was me the first few months I was in here.bijwlivpjm7x.png

    I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.

    I hate to think anyone feels this way. :(

    ❤️

    Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.

    “id10t” is how i know you’re a tech genius 😄

    I think you’re really well liked here. I’m surprised you feel this way.

    😂 😂 😂 Guilty as charged.

    And thank you. I struggle a lot with it, actually. So I appreciate it. ❤️
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    JessBbody wrote: »
    It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
    Im really am surprised.. 🤷‍♀️

    I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..

    This was me the first few months I was in here.bijwlivpjm7x.png

    I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.

    I hate to think anyone feels this way. :(

    ❤️

    Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.

    “id10t” is how i know you’re a tech genius 😄

    I think you’re really well liked here. I’m surprised you feel this way.

    😂 😂 😂 Guilty as charged.

    And thank you. I struggle a lot with it, actually. So I appreciate it. ❤️

    Well cut that *kitten* out 😏❤️
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    Guys/girls:

    Whats your reaction to ex reaching out to you months to year or longer after break up?

    1. Curious and wanna catch up
    2. Don't ever contact me again
    3. Curious and may wanna grab drinks or more
    4. Restraining order
    5. Name your own ...

    5. No, I still won't "lend" you money. *kitten* off.

    😂😂

    I had one tell me i had to block him or he would not stop messaging.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?

    ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.

    I ignore most of chit-chat... whatever the "cool" factor is in this group, I don't have it. I prefer conversational threads and the every so rear serious/thoughtful post. I catch up on wholesome memes a couple of times per month.

    Let's talk -

    I don't necessarily see a "cool factor" in here as much as I see a bunch of regulars having a good time. I've seen this said iften around here and it makes me cringe.

    Time doesn't always allow me to say more than a few sentences at a time, work is first. Conversational threads are very time consuming and almost too personal at times. I feel like I'm reading someone's diary.

    I come here to get a good laugh and to have fun...I don't necessarily think I'm "cool." If anything, I'm probably annoying to many 😂

    That may well be the case. To me, it feels like high school, where all the cool kids are in threads laughing and having a good time, and I'm over in the corner not getting the joke but desperately wanting to be accepted into your group.

    To be clear, I don't use the word "cool" as any sort of judgement or evaluation. But like you said, there is a group or regulars that get each other and are generally the ones that drive many of the threads. I routinely feel like an outsider (uncool) in those threads.

    That's how I feel so many times. :blush: I'm an extreme introvert and thought I was better about it on here, being anonymous and all. But come to find out, I still feel like I'm lurking in a corner and am invisible most of the time. My sister is 10 yrs. older than me; she always finds stuff to talk about, loves people, getting to know them and has a zillion friends. Not me, I'm exactly the opposite. It's not that I don't care about people, it's more like I'll say stupid stuff and people won't like me. (Now if that doesn't sound like high school all over again, I don't know what does :/)

    And the picture of that little puppy with his head hanging down, just want to pick him up and cuddle him all day long.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Coming into this site every a.m. I always check out a post or 2 on other topics then come to chit chat, start at the bottom and work my way up, picking topics that I usually check out, avoiding certain ones that I've never started to read and by now have 1K replies, then once I hit the top I start back again and see if I want to read anything I missed. Actually, this topic was one I'd never read because I was already too far behind. Looks like a whole lot of catching to do. But there's only so many hours in a day.
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?

    ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.

    I have "favourite" threads - but if there is a 'fresh meat' tread that looks intriguing, I go there first.

    I hate to say it, but 'trolly' threads entertain me - sometimes, and I jump into them for amusement (as long as they aren't cruel)

    If I'm on my laptop I do sometimes go to a thread if there is someone (I find ) interesting was the last poster. On my phone - its blind, I don't use the app, and cant see the pp in the main CC section - so go to my usuals of whatever intrigues me.

    I've been finding myself associating my heightened anxiety problems lately with 'here', its misdirected, I know - but for some reason 'social interaction' en masse, is making me feel sketched out and more vulnerable lately. I used to have a lot of fun here, and still do, but maybe just a bit hyper critical of everything...right now? 🤔 Mostly feeling regretful for what I say, and feeling 'paranoid' or hyper sensitive to the interpretation (again, I know it's a me problem)

    I like interacting with everyone, but am shy (ish). I sometimes feel like I'm that annoying, cringy post poster and should just go away and come back anew...but reality is - I'd still be that cringy post poster, shy, girl who (spews) her thoughts

    Random thought interjection - For the record, I like you!

    To me "insightful" can be a dis - really, I'm not smart enough to be 'insightful' - but it could be a compliment or neutral too - like "I get that interesting perspective of yours, Vikka"

    Guess it depends on my mood - and which way the wind blows?!

    Thank you for that - 💙

    I love reading your threads. You're the perfect mix of funny, quirky (in the best way) and adorable.

    Thanks Lady!
    Am super complimented by the 'quirky' acknowledgement! Flattered! I identify! Funny and adorable is cool too - I'll absorb al the positives as POWER!!

    "QuirkyCanuck" was one of my usernames (for Insta(stalker)gram) (I basically just creep my cousin who is a fitness model competitor) TMI, but rando info is my specialty!

    I can't decide b/t whimsy and quirky as a descriptor for me! Hmm, maybe I'll unite the 2!,

    Anyhow - as I ramble...
    HULK SMASH - 2020 is our *kitten*, and almost conquered!

    Have a great day Lady!

    and thank-you for making mine better!❤