Ways We Sabotage Our Success
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CameronWhittaker wrote: »I have done 5 months of really clean eating and regular exercise and my results have been amazing (50kg loss), but since hitting the 5-month park I have been struggling.
Not fully blowing up calorie-wise and I have been logging fairly accurately. But just giving into temptation, I set myself hard rules like No chocolate, No lollies, No chippies, and No takeaways. I have been bending these rules a lot, little bits of lollies, chocolate, and chippies. and I have had takeaways a few times.
It's stupid because the small amount of chocolate I have eaten isn't even an issue calorie-wise.. but breaking my rules feels like a huge defeat after going 5 months with none.
Even today I kept under my calories, and most of my food was fine. But I had a bacon & egg McMuffin, I shouldn't have had that and it feels like a defeat even though iv kept it under my goal.
I haven't fully broken and bought a block of chocolate or a bag of chips but I feel like that slide is coming.
Knowing what your weaknesses are is the first step, I have struggled for years. It's hard and I have yoyo'd but don't be so hard on yourself. take it one day at a time, and rejoice at each day you are successful and you will start to have more and more good days and get on track. Good luck.1 -
As a reward to myself for careful eating and exercise throughout the day, sometimes I'll have a glass of wine...then two...then three. Now my day is shot and I feel ashamed for screwing up.5
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The "all or none" thinking...if I'm not perfect or think I've messed up somehow, I would just throw in the towel and "start again on Monday." Then, during those days before Monday, I would pig out...because I was going to "diet" again so might us well do it now.
Also, if the scale wasn't moving in the right direction, I'd restrict myself further, which would then lead to bingeing later. I really didn't understand normal weight fluctuations when I was younger. Conversely, I may have just given up, thinking what I was doing wasn't working. I just wasn't patient with the process.2 -
Loosing track of the long term and putting to much importance on the short term.3
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Every single response above have been so insightful. I am five years into this journey. Set out with 125 pounds to lose. Lost 79 in the first 2 years and have stayed exactly the same since that time (yo-yo). My stagnation is directly related to my relationship with food as I come in and out of periods of binge eating. My exercise has remained the only constant and I LOVE how strong I am. However, in the last year though, I have new thoughts creeping in of..." you are 56 years old why keep trying to lose the rest of this weight " "who cares if you lose the rest of it"... These thoughts are painful to have because they remind me of my deep regret about waiting until I was 50 to live my life. The past 5 years have been the most joyful, the hardest, the loneliest, the fullest, just a really selfish five years of self discovery and love. So....all that to say that I have to cling to my goal and push through these newest damaging thoughts. And to all the young folks setting out on this journey of self care...I say: your future self will love you for it. Happy living all.9
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Emotional eating is the big one for me.
However I prefer to try not to see it as "sabotage" because that for me frames it in a very negative way and makes it feel like my behaviour is bad or lacking, which only increases my descent down the spiral to failure and depression. Sabotage also makes it sounds very deliberate, when in reality, it is anything but. Nobody means to destroy their efforts at becoming more healthy.
Emotional eating is a coping mechanism which isn't healthy, but it is a coping mechanism and, in the moment, it does make me feel better. That's why it's so powerful.
It will take a lifetime's work and persistence to keep on top of it and I think I will always struggle at least a little bit. But what is important to me is to simply say "whoops!" and then get straight back onto the wagon once it's happened. Being kind to myself.
And that is where the progress lies - not in beating myself up for doing it - but in immediately resuming my usual habits and not guilt-tripping myself about it, not even making a big deal out of it, but just accepting myself. It's hard work, but I hope I'll get closer to it eventually!
I wasn't trying to frame it negatively as I said in my blog many times we do these things on auto-pilot or unintentionally or thinking we are doing something good like drinking smoothies not realizing how many calories they contain and that can blow a whole day. And psychologist have said control of our craving hormone like ghurelin is virtually impossible. And your right about food being a coping mechanism too. So by no means did I mean to come off negative Just trying to raise awareness. Thanks for sharing.1 -
tindavione wrote: »Self sabotage...I am new on here but not new to this subject! How about adding "using food as a emotion regulator" ..anger , fear frustration, they all look better after a coke and chocolate bar "fix" ( that doesn't end up fixing anything in the long run I know !) ..or how about "too tired to cook " so eat out ( or the newest one was Hello Fresh..thought it would help..nope! Anyone got suggestions for simple meal planning strategies..?? I am soooo done with with roller coaster ride!
I made a binder with all the meals our family loves and print out a calendar for the month to put in the front. I pencil in meals throughout the month, knowing I can erase and rearrange as needed. But it helps take the guess work out of meal planning.
For breakfast, lunch, and snacks, I am trying something new and made a word document where I listed some of the snacks, breakfasts, and lunch that I like, with fat, calories,and protein listed for each. That way, I dont have to think about it, I just choose one of those.
Simplifying the decision process is important for me.
Obviously there will be days where I cant choose from my list, because I'm not eating at home, etc. But most days I think this will work.
Hope that helps!
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callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »Having been on here almost a decade at this point, I think the most common 'self-sabotage' I notice is the over-restriction of foods or food groups. This can be in the form of specific 'diets' - be it keto or low carb, or meal replacement shakes (or... whatever), or in the belief that (for example) all sweets are 'bad' and therefore off-limits. Or that carbs make you fat, or that 'whatever' is bad for you and will prevent you from losing weight.
We all have our demons and our battles, we all face different challenges, but if I had to narrow it down to a generic 'one item' that I see over and over again, that would be it. Oftentimes binging or even purposely 'cheating' (which is a term I hate) at night, on the weekends, whatever your vice is, is a product of over-restriction.
I know personally, that when I tried to eliminate foods that I perceived to be 'off limits' that I would inevitably binge on them and then feel guilt, and then give up, and then restart, and it can be a vicious cycle. One that far too many fall into. Once I gave up the idea of 'off limits' and instead focused on 'earning my food', my mindset changed. Yes, I can (and do) have cookies and sweets and eat out. Anyone can look at my diary and see that. I lost over 100 pounds eating them. I make room for them. If I am over a bit, its okay. not the end of the world. As long as I am under maintenance (for me, about 1800 before exercise), its all okay. And even when i have the random day or days where I am over a bit, its still okay. I dont have my deficit set so low that I can not fit in the foods I want, in an average day. I may lose at a lower rate at times, but life, and food, is so much more enjoyable, and I have developed good habits for life.
What I personally have to be careful about, is self-soothing with food (using food as a coping mechanism). For me, my 'bedtime cookies' can very quickly become a coping mechanism for my depression and anxiety. I will purposely go through periods where I do not buy (my favorites), to keep my mind in check, and prevent me from being ABLE to binge on 10 oreos instead of 3 (for example).
So true - and congrats on losing over 100 pounds and keeping it off. Good strategy. Thanks for sharing. Good insight. Have a great week.1 -
I seem to have no off-button when it comes to food. I rarely feel full, so I have to constantly say "don't start" or "stop." Then I get mad because I feel so caged in by rules--rules that I WANT to follow, but hate. I wish I could learn not to think about food constantly.5
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springlering62 wrote: »Not starting.
Excuses.
Lack of self control.
Easy availability of easy calories.
“I’ll start as soon as all the goodies in the house are gone”. They were never gone.
“It’s new! I have to try it!” (That one is still a problem.)
“I’m going to force feed myself chocolate until I’m so sick of it I’ll never touch it again.” Never reached that limit.
“I’ll start tomorrow.” Tomorrow was never the perfect day.
Even now, there are certain foods I can’t have in the house because I will eat every last crumb. Witness a trip to IKEA last week. I ate almost a whole “flat” of those crispy chocolate oatmeal cookies in an afternoon. At a 100 calories a pop. And why? They aren’t even that good.
I often let my husband do the grocery shopping now. He comes home with what’s on the list and his own snacks, which I won’t bother.springlering62 wrote: »Not starting.
Excuses.
Lack of self control.
Easy availability of easy calories.
“I’ll start as soon as all the goodies in the house are gone”. They were never gone.
“It’s new! I have to try it!” (That one is still a problem.)
“I’m going to force feed myself chocolate until I’m so sick of it I’ll never touch it again.” Never reached that limit.
“I’ll start tomorrow.” Tomorrow was never the perfect day.
Even now, there are certain foods I can’t have in the house because I will eat every last crumb. Witness a trip to IKEA last week. I ate almost a whole “flat” of those crispy chocolate oatmeal cookies in an afternoon. At a 100 calories a pop. And why? They aren’t even that good.
I often let my husband do the grocery shopping now. He comes home with what’s on the list and his own snacks, which I won’t bother.
They say knowing and acknowledging is half the battle and it sounds like you are putting some strategies in place like letting hubby do the shopping. Good luck on finding more, success is just around the next corner for you just keep looking. Thanks for sharing0 -
I seem to have no off-button when it comes to food. I rarely feel full, so I have to constantly say "don't start" or "stop." Then I get mad because I feel so caged in by rules--rules that I WANT to follow, but hate. I wish I could learn not to think about food constantly.
I know that's that self gratification sabotage I talk about in my blog. That's why I have to constantly have to be occupied every minute of the day. Have something in my hand so I don't put food in my hand. That's actually how I started my jewelry business last year, I got so busy with it that I didn't have time for anything else. Thanks for sharing.
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Thehardmakesitworthit wrote: »Every single response above have been so insightful. I am five years into this journey. Set out with 125 pounds to lose. Lost 79 in the first 2 years and have stayed exactly the same since that time (yo-yo). My stagnation is directly related to my relationship with food as I come in and out of periods of binge eating. My exercise has remained the only constant and I LOVE how strong I am. However, in the last year though, I have new thoughts creeping in of..." you are 56 years old why keep trying to lose the rest of this weight " "who cares if you lose the rest of it"... These thoughts are painful to have because they remind me of my deep regret about waiting until I was 50 to live my life. The past 5 years have been the most joyful, the hardest, the loneliest, the fullest, just a really selfish five years of self discovery and love. So....all that to say that I have to cling to my goal and push through these newest damaging thoughts. And to all the young folks setting out on this journey of self care...I say: your future self will love you for it. Happy living all.
I am 10 years older than you, started my first journey 25 years ago. Then started again 3 years ago when I got to 227 pounds and I say to you now that I am 66 years old and finally took the 100 pounds off a week ago. Yes it's worth it to go ahead and finish what you started no matter how old you are because you are worth it. If you get a chance go check out my blog chronicling my journey as a serial dieter. Below are my photos at 63 and now 66. So 79 pound lost is a great start many people can't even say they accomplished that.
I even volunteer to be your accountability partner and help you any way I can.
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Poobah1972 wrote: »Loosing track of the long term and putting to much importance on the short term.
I like that, isn't that what society pushes us to do. We are always looking for the quick fix and the now vs the big picture and the long term benefits. Thanks for that great share.2 -
Speakeasy76 wrote: »The "all or none" thinking...if I'm not perfect or think I've messed up somehow, I would just throw in the towel and "start again on Monday." Then, during those days before Monday, I would pig out...because I was going to "diet" again so might us well do it now.
Also, if the scale wasn't moving in the right direction, I'd restrict myself further, which would then lead to bingeing later. I really didn't understand normal weight fluctuations when I was younger. Conversely, I may have just given up, thinking what I was doing wasn't working. I just wasn't patient with the process.Speakeasy76 wrote: »The "all or none" thinking...if I'm not perfect or think I've messed up somehow, I would just throw in the towel and "start again on Monday." Then, during those days before Monday, I would pig out...because I was going to "diet" again so might us well do it now.
Also, if the scale wasn't moving in the right direction, I'd restrict myself further, which would then lead to bingeing later. I really didn't understand normal weight fluctuations when I was younger. Conversely, I may have just given up, thinking what I was doing wasn't working. I just wasn't patient with the process.
You know what that say patience is a virtue, we all need to be a little more patient with ourselves I know I need to be kinder and more patient with myself. Thanks for sharing.💖💖💖1 -
ClearNotCloudyMind wrote: »Great thread! My thoughts...
1. Seeing a goal weight as THE all-encompassing goal. When I was focused on that, I was eating too little (impatient) and feeling like a failure when it didn't all happen at once, or if my weight didn't fall in a week.
2. Not listening to my body re food. Eating should feel good, not bad! When I eat right then it tastes lovely, my body feels better and I look forwards to my meals. If at any point that stops, I'm not eating right and need to sort it out.
3. Not listening to my body re exercise. Exercise should also feel good! If I'm suffering days of crippling DOMS, making excuses to avoid exercising, or finding it painful, maybe it's not as beneficial as it should be and I need to find an alternative.
4. Forgetting to appreciate how much better life is now. Since I dropped the idea of a goal weight, it's all been about my body becoming a nicer place to live in. There are always going to be things I'm working for - maybe a new yoga pose, running faster or even hitting the next kg down on the scale. However I don't think I'm ever going to arrive at the point where I say "I'm done". So I need to enjoy NOW and keep living the life that makes tomorrow even better.ClearNotCloudyMind wrote: »Great thread! My thoughts...
1. Seeing a goal weight as THE all-encompassing goal. When I was focused on that, I was eating too little (impatient) and feeling like a failure when it didn't all happen at once, or if my weight didn't fall in a week.
2. Not listening to my body re food. Eating should feel good, not bad! When I eat right then it tastes lovely, my body feels better and I look forwards to my meals. If at any point that stops, I'm not eating right and need to sort it out.
3. Not listening to my body re exercise. Exercise should also feel good! If I'm suffering days of crippling DOMS, making excuses to avoid exercising, or finding it painful, maybe it's not as beneficial as it should be and I need to find an alternative.
4. Forgetting to appreciate how much better life is now. Since I dropped the idea of a goal weight, it's all been about my body becoming a nicer place to live in. There are always going to be things I'm working for - maybe a new yoga pose, running faster or even hitting the next kg down on the scale. However I don't think I'm ever going to arrive at the point where I say "I'm done". So I need to enjoy NOW and keep living the life that makes tomorrow even better.ClearNotCloudyMind wrote: »Great thread! My thoughts...
1. Seeing a goal weight as THE all-encompassing goal. When I was focused on that, I was eating too little (impatient) and feeling like a failure when it didn't all happen at once, or if my weight didn't fall in a week.
2. Not listening to my body re food. Eating should feel good, not bad! When I eat right then it tastes lovely, my body feels better and I look forwards to my meals. If at any point that stops, I'm not eating right and need to sort it out.
3. Not listening to my body re exercise. Exercise should also feel good! If I'm suffering days of crippling DOMS, making excuses to avoid exercising, or finding it painful, maybe it's not as beneficial as it should be and I need to find an alternative.
4. Forgetting to appreciate how much better life is now. Since I dropped the idea of a goal weight, it's all been about my body becoming a nicer place to live in. There are always going to be things I'm working for - maybe a new yoga pose, running faster or even hitting the next kg down on the scale. However I don't think I'm ever going to arrive at the point where I say "I'm done". So I need to enjoy NOW and keep living the life that makes tomorrow even better.
Thanks for your great thoughts, appreciate your sharing - have a great week. 💖💖💖2 -
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After 160+ pounds lost
my L size clothes are too tight. Ignore and move on to XL
my XL clothes are too tight. Tsk Tsk myself, Ignore and move on to XXL
my XXL clothes are too tight. "Better do something" myself, Ignore and move on to XXXL
my XXXL will soon be too small. Finally started positive change in eating.
Not sure what this tells me. I guess that I hate saying no to food and became just generally angry because I know I have to. I became completely delusional about my ability to control the weight. A belief about control is not control. "The most difficult thing is the decision to act" Perhaps the changes I expected after losing the weight just didn't materialize. Those expectations run a lifetime deep and stay hidden for the most part. How do you remove the past images and sounds, the ridicule and shame, name calling, whispers and self loathing associated with a morbidly obese life? That, I don't know but I do know finding a positive avenue is a hell of a lot healthier than moving on to 4X. I can't say I'm happy to start this journey again, or look forward to loving myself (I'll settle for a handshake and a bucket of self tolerance) but I do look forward to pulling out those boxed clothes in the reverse order. Thanks for all the thoughtful posts9 -
CameronWhittaker wrote: »I have done 5 months of really clean eating and regular exercise and my results have been amazing (50kg loss), but since hitting the 5-month park I have been struggling.
Not fully blowing up calorie-wise and I have been logging fairly accurately. But just giving into temptation, I set myself hard rules like No chocolate, No lollies, No chippies, and No takeaways. I have been bending these rules a lot, little bits of lollies, chocolate, and chippies. and I have had takeaways a few times.
It's stupid because the small amount of chocolate I have eaten isn't even an issue calorie-wise.. but breaking my rules feels like a huge defeat after going 5 months with none.
Even today I kept under my calories, and most of my food was fine. But I had a bacon & egg McMuffin, I shouldn't have had that and it feels like a defeat even though iv kept it under my goal.
I haven't fully broken and bought a block of chocolate or a bag of chips but I feel like that slide is coming.
Cameron, your post, and some of the others, are so familiar. I just finished 5 months, and did well. But I'm still at war with myself. 92% of my being wants to stuff my face with fats, sugars and carbs. Its an addiction at least as hard to break as drugs and alcohol. One difference, however, is you can't go cold turkey with food. We have to keep eating. We just have to learn to do it intelligently. Try telling a drug addict or alcoholic to do that. "You can still have alcohol or drugs, just do it in moderation". That never works. But here we are having to try to do it with our addiction.
I don't have any particular wisdom to share. I just want to encourage you to resist and stay as disciplined as you can. That's what I'm trying to do. I have a long way to go, and if I get there, I know it will be one of the greatest challenges of my life not to eat my way back to a horribly unhealthy weight. But I really don't have much choice now. I'm not young anymore, and I simply cannot afford another yo-yo or two. Good luck. Stay strong. And remember, while its extraordinarily difficult, its still a choice you make.
I think what you said was very wise and inspiring. Thank you for sharing. Great Post. Have a great week. And good luck on your journey.2 -
I figured out that all of my success sabotaging issues is related to my mindset.
All or Nothing when cheating -losing weight - Muscles..etc,
I want it fast, and right now,
Emotional eating, specially when in H.A.L.T state,
Want it to be an easy ride,
Not comfortable of being Hungry,
Lake of Patient, Persistence, Consistency,
yeah, almost forget, and not having a strong WHY for losing weight...
these kind of staff...
I think the WHY is sitting on your shoulder - you want to be around for a long time and be healthy for him/her.
Thanks for the share and have a great week.1 -
Here's 10 that I know have sabotaged me since adolescence:
1. Evening grazing
2. Not taking time to prepare a daytime meal and "grabbing" something unhealthy
3. Excusing the fact that it's "easy" to lose that 15lbs anytime (it isn't)
4. Oh, today was rough- I'll start tomorrow
5. Food as comfort when stressed or sad
6. Food as filler when bored or tired
7. Seeing myself as "too"- too fat, too thin, too old... I need to just "see myself" as I am.
8. My great, self-disciplined partner, who's always been in shape, can eat what he likes-and likes food a lot!
9. Loving to bake and to cook as relaxation
10. A false idea of what "healthy eating" is. Remembering to make wise choices, even when rushed.
This is a great way to remember what "counts"- I'm writing these on a piece of paper by my refrig!
The frig is a great place to put your list it's where mine is and I have one posted on the inside of my pantry door too. Thanks for sharing and be kind to yourself and have a great day.1 -
Sand_TIger wrote: »Oh - I almost forgot this one - I've done it a lot, too!
A person can do a lot of prep work, like research, notes, analysis, meal planning etc, and it can give a person the false sense that they did something significant to achieve their goal. It gives that satisfied feeling while being just prep work and no actual progress toward the goal. Then that can make a person slack off and not do the actual work needed because they already feel like they did something about it.
Two quick examples I've done:
In the past I've blogged and written a lot about a weight loss plan and it has given me such a sense of satisfaction that I've not done as much with my actual plan.
In the past I've started out on a book idea and spent so long talking about it to people that I never wrote more than the third chapter.
This is able to be overcome, obviously, but it's definitely a way it's possible to self sabotage. The key is to make sure plans are carried out!
Very insightful and so true - it's like having a goal without a plan of action or a target date. Love it.2 -
eromligyppah wrote: »For me it's 6- fear of success that leads me to question myself, say I'm not good enough or deserve to be fit how I want to be, or people will just make fun of me anyways so why bother. Then that leads to the eating of junk and snacking when I don't need to be. Did it this weekend, I try to end the cycle but it sure is difficult. I am doing better than I use to be since I don't have 1 specific person taring me down all the time is helpful, but the struggle remains.
It's always good to get those people out of your life who are tearing you down and not supporting your goals to lose weight. And yes it is difficult, but you deserve it and it will come to you. Just keep telling yourself you are worthy and worth it.I believe in you and we are all on this journey together. Good luck to you.2 -
CameronWhittaker wrote: »I have done 5 months of really clean eating and regular exercise and my results have been amazing (50kg loss), but since hitting the 5-month park I have been struggling.
Not fully blowing up calorie-wise and I have been logging fairly accurately. But just giving into temptation, I set myself hard rules like No chocolate, No lollies, No chippies, and No takeaways. I have been bending these rules a lot, little bits of lollies, chocolate, and chippies. and I have had takeaways a few times.
It's stupid because the small amount of chocolate I have eaten isn't even an issue calorie-wise.. but breaking my rules feels like a huge defeat after going 5 months with none.
Even today I kept under my calories, and most of my food was fine. But I had a bacon & egg McMuffin, I shouldn't have had that and it feels like a defeat even though iv kept it under my goal.
I haven't fully broken and bought a block of chocolate or a bag of chips but I feel like that slide is coming.
Having lost so much weight in such a short time, many dietitians and lipidologists/physiologists have recommended a "MAINTENANCE" phase in your weight lost efforts. Anywhere from 2/3 as long to the whole length of your diet so far (5 months) you would eat at maintenance, trying not to gain or lose any significant amount of weight. The increase in calories, which may only be 300 - 500 per day in some cases, will help reduce "diet fatigue" and prepare you for your next push into further weight loss. Dr. Mike Isratel, Dr. James Hoffman & Dr. Spencer Nadolsky have done extensive research into this phenomenon.
Great advise - sometimes I think maintenance is harder than taking it off. Thanks for your insight.2 -
6- Fear of success
9-Skipping meals
Wow... these are right on the money and hit a vulnerable spot. I don't think I am afraid of success as much as failure but as I am seeing results, this thought is calming down.
I have had some not so great thoughts about food all my life. Skipping meals: I have thought that less calories in = weight loss. I was an endurance athlete for 12 years and my weight kept creeping up. As people made comments on how "skinny" I should be for all my exercise, I just kept eating less. I got to the point where I was swimming 2 to 5 miles a day and only eating 800-100 cal/day. Now I realize this is unhealthy and I need to stay in a window close to my allotted calories.
I am finding that this journey can be all over the place emotionally. It is a little anxiety producing at times but these threads are very helpful and really inspiring.
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Stress/emotional eating > Gain weight > Depression > Eat > Repeat Cycle
Hubby's been out of work for a year due to COVID (doesn't want to risk bringing it home to his dad). We have no income. MIL died. My stress outlet is alone & quiet time which I can only get by going outside.
The weight gain is all on me. I can't blame my medications or even menopause. Have gained 62.2# to the day. There's no up side for me.7 -
Spotteddingo wrote: »6- Fear of success
9-Skipping meals
Wow... these are right on the money and hit a vulnerable spot. I don't think I am afraid of success as much as failure but as I am seeing results, this thought is calming down.
I have had some not so great thoughts about food all my life. Skipping meals: I have thought that less calories in = weight loss. I was an endurance athlete for 12 years and my weight kept creeping up. As people made comments on how "skinny" I should be for all my exercise, I just kept eating less. I got to the point where I was swimming 2 to 5 miles a day and only eating 800-100 cal/day. Now I realize this is unhealthy and I need to stay in a window close to my allotted calories.
I am finding that this journey can be all over the place emotionally. It is a little anxiety producing at times but these threads are very helpful and really inspiring.
Grateful
Thank you so much. I thought of this thread on the anniversary of my mom's passing. She was my biggest supporter on my journey and her big thing was knowledge of what's holding you back from reaching your goals. So this thread was to honor her. So thank you for sharing.2 -
I seem to have no off-button when it comes to food. I rarely feel full, so I have to constantly say "don't start" or "stop." Then I get mad because I feel so caged in by rules--rules that I WANT to follow, but hate. I wish I could learn not to think about food constantly.
Food for me has NEVER been about hunger. It was always "time for breakfast", "time for lunch", "want a cookie", etc so I never learned hunger triggers - or satiety triggers. I had to relearn how to eat and how much and when my body needed fuel. I started measuring foods and really listening to my body, and started working with an online health coach. I also upped my water intake, and protein. That made a huge difference for me. I appreciate where you are.3 -
Stress/emotional eating > Gain weight > Depression > Eat > Repeat Cycle
Hubby's been out of work for a year due to COVID (doesn't want to risk bringing it home to his dad). We have no income. MIL died. My stress outlet is alone & quiet time which I can only get by going outside.
The weight gain is all on me. I can't blame my medications or even menopause. Have gained 62.2# to the day. There's no up side for me.
The upside is your alive and so many people have died from this terrible disease. Like everything else Covid will eventually go away. As will your weigh gain. I just went through the anniversary of my mom's passing earlier this week which is what brought me to write my blog on this topic and this thread. Life is hard and so is losing weigh. I have been fat all my life and a serial dieter. I have lost much but I have gained the insight that every lost and every challenge make us stronger. The fact that you are taking responsibility for your gain tells me that your stronger than your taking credit for.
It's hard right now but you will get through this and your husband will get a job, you will get your life back we all just have to hold on however we can and do whatever we can too hold on.
Thank you for sharing and I will keep you in my prayers.5 -
tomaspetro wrote: »After 160+ pounds lost
my L size clothes are too tight. Ignore and move on to XL
my XL clothes are too tight. Tsk Tsk myself, Ignore and move on to XXL
my XXL clothes are too tight. "Better do something" myself, Ignore and move on to XXXL
my XXXL will soon be too small. Finally started positive change in eating.
Not sure what this tells me. I guess that I hate saying no to food and became just generally angry because I know I have to. I became completely delusional about my ability to control the weight. A belief about control is not control. "The most difficult thing is the decision to act" Perhaps the changes I expected after losing the weight just didn't materialize. Those expectations run a lifetime deep and stay hidden for the most part. How do you remove the past images and sounds, the ridicule and shame, name calling, whispers and self loathing associated with a morbidly obese life? That, I don't know but I do know finding a positive avenue is a hell of a lot healthier than moving on to 4X. I can't say I'm happy to start this journey again, or look forward to loving myself (I'll settle for a handshake and a bucket of self tolerance) but I do look forward to pulling out those boxed clothes in the reverse order. Thanks for all the thoughtful posts
As a multiple time journey starter and finally a finisher - you can do it. It's hard starting over. But instead of a handshake sending you a virtual hug and lots of love for the journey and a bunch of courage. You can do it my friend and know everybody reading this post is there with you to support and stand by you. Take care and good luck.💖💖💖2 -
My sabotage comes from being worried too much about my daughter. She is 25 but every time she struggles with certain parts of life, work, finances, man trouble, I internalize it and take it on. I find that I stop focusing on the daily parts of my journey to just sit and worry about her. When worry comes, so does the emotional eating and there goes my progress! She is my only child and life has not been the easiest for her. I don't know that I will ever be able to stop doing it to myself but I hope I can create easy daily tasks for myself so that even if I do derail, I can get right back on it.3
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