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slimgirljo15 wrote: »My dads broken heart 💔
His little companion of 12 years has just been run over and killed.
RIP Tiny..you'll be missed 😭
I'm so sorry 😞 💔2 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »My dads broken heart 💔
His little companion of 12 years has just been run over and killed.
RIP Tiny..you'll be missed 😭
Oh Jo, I am so sorry. 💔
What a sad, sad thing. 😢1 -
Strawberry cheesecake ice cream
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Jo, I'm so very sorry about Tiny.
I hope your dad is doing alright; what a heart breaker.
Wish I could give your dad a huge hug right now. And you, as well. Watching people we love suffer a broken heart, is harder than he!!. 2 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »My dads broken heart 💔
His little companion of 12 years has just been run over and killed.
RIP Tiny..you'll be missed 😭
I am so sorry! Thoughts and Prayers!
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Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts and words, they are much appreciated. We are both shattered, it was unexpected and worse it happened right in front of us. 😞
Hugs to you all ( I'm not posting the hug emoji, that damn thing has a smile on its face) there should be a sad hug one. 😭
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April 16th 2020 and tomorrow 🙏
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »April 16th 2020 and tomorrow 🙏
YES!
Your kids are so attractive, just like their mom. ❤️🌷3 -
Wish I could sleep.2
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »April 16th 2020 and tomorrow 🙏
❤🤗 thats awesome2 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »April 16th 2020 and tomorrow 🙏
So many hugs 🤗❤️2 -
I cannot explain how badly I don’t want to paint. But I promised her.3
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Yesterday we were wearing t-shirts outside and today it's snowing 🤨4
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »Yesterday we were wearing t-shirts outside and today it's snowing 🤨
Yeah..mother nature is being funny this year.1 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »Yesterday we were wearing t-shirts outside and today it's snowing 🤨
Left MN on Wednesday morning 30F and snowing; arrived in SC later that afternoon 88F humid af.2 -
Oh, you know.. normal stuff you process after someone close to you dies.
Also, really upset that I lost what little progress I had made in my absence. I pretty much have to start over now.3 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »Yesterday we were wearing t-shirts outside and today it's snowing 🤨
Hah, same here! But it since stopped snowing and wow, you should see how green the grass is.
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I am pretty sure the corner of my house isn't supposed to look like this.
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KosmosKitten wrote: »Oh, you know.. normal stuff you process after someone close to you dies.
Also, really upset that I lost what little progress I had made in my absence. I pretty much have to start over now.
My condolences...
Is your dad okay? As well as you?1 -
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God really? MFP is full of married pervs but I am forbidden from typing sh I ??y3
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I love all the pervs 😬
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IslandGal3 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »I love all the pervs 😬
Eta: I'm not the one who disagreed ^^
You're my favorite perv. ❤
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KosmosKitten wrote: »Oh, you know.. normal stuff you process after someone close to you dies.
Also, really upset that I lost what little progress I had made in my absence. I pretty much have to start over now.
My condolences...
Is your dad okay? As well as you?
I think he will be. He has a pretty extensive support system of family and friends that live in the area. It will take him some time to get used to being alone (particularly sleeping alone, since my stepmother was a prolific snorer and probably had sleep apnea). My dad got quite used to her snoring. I've suggested a white noise machine, but he said no to it. I use a fan to help me sleep (I don't like silence when trying to sleep because my anxiety kicks in, I start thinking of a bunch of really dumb stuff and then I never get to sleep). The biggest hurdle for him will be the hurdle I experience with the passing of my cats: I still feel that I could have done something more or better to reach a diagnosis sooner. They both died of CRF... and I still feel to some degree that I murdered my last cat because I had to put him down due to his kidneys failing a month after his sister died of the same thing. Dad keeps running scenarios in his mind that he should have forced her to go get a diagnosis sooner, without realizing how fast the disease spread.. or the fact that an exam a year earlier would NOT have yielded a result. That's how fast it showed up and progressed. He's just over there, beating himself up, believing the outcome could have been different.. or that he is directly responsible for her death because he took her off life support and signed a DNR (both things *she* wanted). There is nothing I can say or do that will make him feel better about it... he'll have to work through it in his own time. Thankfully, both his brother and a few friends have dealt with the same situation before (they sadly all had spouses pass before them.. all from cancer). My hope is that he will continue to talk to those people to get some insight and comfort in knowing he did the BEST he could for her given the situation.
He went bowling on his league Wed. (day before I left). I hope he'll continue and eventually get back into the gym (he stopped because of coronavirus and taking care of my stepmom).
As for myself? I've actually been grieving since they visited back in February. One, I knew she wasn't doing well when she was adamant I learn how to make a couple of dishes that are family favorites. She has never in her life sat down to teach me either of them up to that point, so I knew then that she knew she was dying. I suspect she just couldn't bring herself to worry my father more than he already was. And she took a pretty radical downturn after they got back home, so I'd been preparing for the worst since then.
I'm still sad about her not being here anymore, but her death was probably the most peaceful and quiet one I have witnessed (and I've watched a fair amount of people die from cancer, sadly). She passed, sleeping in the middle of the day. I worked on an unfinished project she left behind while I was staying with dad and that seems to have helped me more than I thought it would. I felt connected and close to her, even though she had gone at that point. I sent myself some other unfinished projects of hers to work on at some point, some I know are destined for other people. My hope is that I can finish them and send them to their recipients to provide joy elsewhere.
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KosmosKitten wrote: »KosmosKitten wrote: »Oh, you know.. normal stuff you process after someone close to you dies.
Also, really upset that I lost what little progress I had made in my absence. I pretty much have to start over now.
My condolences...
Is your dad okay? As well as you?
I think he will be. He has a pretty extensive support system of family and friends that live in the area. It will take him some time to get used to being alone (particularly sleeping alone, since my stepmother was a prolific snorer and probably had sleep apnea). My dad got quite used to her snoring. I've suggested a white noise machine, but he said no to it. I use a fan to help me sleep (I don't like silence when trying to sleep because my anxiety kicks in, I start thinking of a bunch of really dumb stuff and then I never get to sleep). The biggest hurdle for him will be the hurdle I experience with the passing of my cats: I still feel that I could have done something more or better to reach a diagnosis sooner. They both died of CRF... and I still feel to some degree that I murdered my last cat because I had to put him down due to his kidneys failing a month after his sister died of the same thing. Dad keeps running scenarios in his mind that he should have forced her to go get a diagnosis sooner, without realizing how fast the disease spread.. or the fact that an exam a year earlier would NOT have yielded a result. That's how fast it showed up and progressed. He's just over there, beating himself up, believing the outcome could have been different.. or that he is directly responsible for her death because he took her off life support and signed a DNR (both things *she* wanted). There is nothing I can say or do that will make him feel better about it... he'll have to work through it in his own time. Thankfully, both his brother and a few friends have dealt with the same situation before (they sadly all had spouses pass before them.. all from cancer). My hope is that he will continue to talk to those people to get some insight and comfort in knowing he did the BEST he could for her given the situation.
He went bowling on his league Wed. (day before I left). I hope he'll continue and eventually get back into the gym (he stopped because of coronavirus and taking care of my stepmom).
As for myself? I've actually been grieving since they visited back in February. One, I knew she wasn't doing well when she was adamant I learn how to make a couple of dishes that are family favorites. She has never in her life sat down to teach me either of them up to that point, so I knew then that she knew she was dying. I suspect she just couldn't bring herself to worry my father more than he already was. And she took a pretty radical downturn after they got back home, so I'd been preparing for the worst since then.
I'm still sad about her not being here anymore, but her death was probably the most peaceful and quiet one I have witnessed (and I've watched a fair amount of people die from cancer, sadly). She passed, sleeping in the middle of the day. I worked on an unfinished project she left behind while I was staying with dad and that seems to have helped me more than I thought it would. I felt connected and close to her, even though she had gone at that point. I sent myself some other unfinished projects of hers to work on at some point, some I know are destined for other people. My hope is that I can finish them and send them to their recipients to provide joy elsewhere.
I just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear of your stepmums passing. 😔2 -
@KosmosKitten You always made her sound like an amazing person but now even more so! May there be many family fav dishes in your future and I'm sure the projects you finish on your behalf will be so meaningful to the gift recipients. Your dad seems to be in an unfortunate but helpful club of men and I hope he does find solace when being with them.0
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IslandGal3 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »I love all the pervs 😬
Eta: I'm not the one who disagreed ^^
You're my favorite perv. ❤IslandGal3 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »I love all the pervs 😬
Eta: I'm not the one who disagreed ^^
You're my favorite perv. ❤
Ditto
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