What nobody tells you about losing weight

springlering62 wrote: »

buddharivet wrote: »

I’m back already. It finally happened. I had a friend ask me what my “secret” was, and then discuss nutrition with me and shoot down Every Single Thing I told her to do. I was not in a social circumstance where I felt comfortable saying something along the lines if “Are you seriously trying to tell your friend who has lost 228 pounds that she doesn’t know what she is talking about?”. So I just said, “I’m sorry, but I don’t have a magical answer for you.” And left it at that. And, for some reason both completely predictable and completely unfathomable, she totally accepted that answer. I guess I need to get used to having to say that.

Sir! I disagree your disagree and find you extremely disagreeable. I fling down the gauntlet of Ove-Glove and challenge you to a duel at dawn.

Post-breakfast, of course. One must have protein and carbs in sufficient numbers to kick your disagreeable *kitten*.





Who the hell could possibly disagree this post?! I know I know, finger slippage while scrolling, but still…..

Thank you so very much for coming to my defense @springlering62 ! I hadn’t even noticed the “disagree” on my post. And now there seems to be one on yours too!

Some people’s children! (As my mother used to say)

ginamyrmel wrote: »

Nobody told me I'd gain wrinkles without the usual padding. Guess I should have figured that out on my own.

That's a lovely photo! And frankly I see no wrinkles.

I went swimming this weekend and felt good about wearing a suit in public, at a water Zumba class, for the first time in many many many years. The person I was with was not as comfortable with themselves. I had to hear more than I wanted to hear. She commented on how tiny I was a number of times. Once she even said I looked like I was 15. I had to tell her that I just got out of the overweight range and when I was 15, I probably weighed 30 lbs less. Btw I am 61, for the readers here. Sometime I will ask if looking 15 is a compliment or not? Cuz I am wondering..... I did say that we need to get in the kind of shape where we are happier with ourselves and have more confidence. I complimented here genuinely on a number of things. She also said that she thinks I don't realize how tiny that I am. I do know that I have more to go. I am happy that I have lost a fair amount. I still have goals and that is ok. I do not feel they are unrealistic. I just went there to have fun and forget about problems for awhile.......Need to rethink these outings.

I posted this on another thread as well.

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Something else that I struggle with is using up the excess energy without irritating others.

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YES! haha both my husband and my sister ask me where I get my energy and I can tell I annoy them both!!

JMC3Terp wrote: »

Sand_TIger wrote: »

salleewins wrote: »

She also said that she thinks I don't realize how tiny that I am. I do know that I have more to go. I am happy that I have lost a fair amount. I still have goals and that is ok. I do not feel they are unrealistic. I just went there to have fun and forget about problems for awhile.......Need to rethink these outings.

I posted this on another thread as well.

One thing that I see over and over is how many folks have a very skewed idea of what's a normal weight. It's hard not to these days. I look at pictures of people from seventy years ago and at first they look really gaunt and then I realize "that's actually how we are supposed to be if we were healthy!"

I can't agree with this enough. All in all, I've had rather positive experiences with other people, but the one thing that has floored me is what people think is an appropriate weight/body size.

So I've lost 125 pounds. But I was morbidly obese to start. So much so that it took 102 pounds to no longer be classified as morbidly obese and now just be plain old obese.

But I'm out eating and someone mentions "so are you done losing weight?" And I respond that no, I still have a ways to go. To which, they completely and seriously state that I shouldn't lose much more because I'm fairly skinny...

People, I'm 80 pounds above a normal BMI. I wear a 2XL shirt and have a size 36 waist. This is not "skinny".

I still can't believe they said that LOL.

And don't get me wrong. Different people can and should be happy at different body sizes. But 80 pounds overweight is not skinny. Certainly not on me anyways.

This is such a real thing. People started telling me I was getting too thin at... 150lbs. Which is, admittedly, the very top end of a healthy BMI for me, but they were acting like I was going to die of starvation.

FGS1974 wrote: »

You can't determine where on your body the weight will drop from, and the results can seem sub-optimal even once you've acheived goal, but over the next year your remaining weight will redistribute. I lost over 100lbs and looked gaunt in the face but still had a bit of a tummy, which was rather disappointing; a couple of years on my tummy has shrunk and my face filled out again while remaining the same weight. Don't be discouraged as you see parts of yourself shrink and other parts seem to increase (relatively speaking) – it'll sort itself out :-)

Thank you. I am 147 lbs on a good day which is the upper end of my BMI. I do have a tummy. I don't think I am tiny at about 5'4' and that weight. What you say is encouraging to hear. I do want to lose more. LOL. Maybe when some people look at me I will vanish right before their eyes. However I live with myself. I just want to be the happiest I can be with myself. I want to lose my fat and keep toning in addition. Lifelong journey.

I have rewritten this post several times now to try and not sound like a total whiner, but I'm not sure I can succeed at that so here it is:

I've realized several of my relationships were more toxic and one-sided than I thought they were. I'm not ready to ditch them all just yet because in most cases I don't think it's malicious or deliberate; it's just the habits we've all gotten into and when I change things, I get blamed even if the change is needed. Especially when the status quo was heavy on me as giver and other person as taker.

I've recommended the book Codependent No More a few times on these boards. I will recommend it again now.

No one told me this and maybe I'm the only weirdo here. But after you have lost weight and stayed relatively stable for a bit, when you look in the mirror you no longer think how much you have lost but does x body part look bigger or flabbier or more toned or whatever? You just get used to the new size and begin to compare everything relative to that.