Single ladies and fellas...

Haha! Hell no! Im sssoooo shy! Im really am! Im very quiet and nerdy and im always around my friends. They tell me to approach someone and my fear kicks in. I never been asked out so thats probably the problem lol

When I was single, yeah, all the time.

It wasn't always like that though. I never used to approach. Then I reached a stage where I was so horny and so lonely that I thought "nothing is as bad as this, something has got to give..." So, one fateful night I went out with some equally geeky friends and our mission was to simply approach as many women as possible. The goal wasn't to get a number, or a date, or even for the girl to be interested. It was simply to go over and say "hi."

The first couple of times were diffcult but after that it got less and less so. It's like many things. The fear or idea of doing something a lot worse than actually doing it. It's one big mindgame. Funnily enough I reached a stage after approaching dozens of women that I didn't have to do so anymore. It was a zen thing. At some point in the night a situation always seemed to present itself where I could quite naturally start talking to an attractive lady as she was in vicinty.

I went from no approaches, to lot of approaches, back to no approaches but with completely different outcomes. Spooky maaaan

Do NOT get me started on this... LOL! I'm kinda shy but I also attempt to say something every once in a while. The area where I live is hell... you LITERALLY get the, "why are you talking to me?" look if you try to talk to an attractive woman. Also, attractive women get hit on ALL the time, from the moment they leave home till the time they come back.

So you're saying that even though you're taken, you enjoy the attention. I can almost hear the thoughts, awwww... he's so cute... look at him... he's trying to hit on me. Awww... :laugh: At 45 yrs old, I have zero time or patience for games. I'm very friendly and if someone wants to talk to me they'd be surprised just how easy I am to be approached.

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So then why not go talk to someone who isn't the traditionally attractive woman? Why not go for the one who's smiling a lot or looking like she'd be fun to talk to and not *****y and mean? :laugh:

Ha, nope. Don't have the courage. Maybe one day I'll build up enough confidence to be able to pull it off, but for now I'm still working on that.

Simple babycakse..............boooze up and just start chatting up. Usually if the woman goes with the flow shes diggin it. you could tell in the first sentence if othe chick is into it.

No, I approach the same sex because I'm a lesbian. However, since I have a girlfriend...I don't approach anyone........they approach me. Take a 5 Hour Energy...that'll get you talking.

5 hour energy!.................damn! Im usually in "how you doin" mood after 3 drinks! Its showtime!

No, I approach the same sex because I'm a lesbian. However, since I have a girlfriend...I don't approach anyone........they approach me. Take a 5 Hour Energy...that'll get you talking.

5 hour energy!.................damn! Im usually in "how you doin" mood after 3 drinks! Its showtime!

3 drinks work too but by that time I'm usually slurring and actuing obnoxious. I'm sort of a light weight when it comes to drinking but hey, whatever works! It's called "liquid courage" for a reason

i always feel to big to talk to anyone I find attractive, and not most of the people that I work with are married so no help there lol

I work in customer service so I talk to people for a living lol There have been times I've approached men...if there's a sporting thing on the tv at whatever pub or bar I'll ask about it.

"so do you have money on this game to like some of my friends?" :laugh:

I can't do the "sexy" thing so I try and get them talking about sports...or fitness

Can't do the sexy thing my *kitten*!!!

i have a many times worst thing that can happen is they so no or they have a bf no biggie..

Am I the only one that isn't shy around here?

How'd I start dating my husband? We had mutual friends and all went out one night. We were all sitting at a table. He went up to buy a round of drinks for everyone. I waited a few minutes, then walked up behind him.. waited for him to turn around, grabbed him and kissed him. Just like that. I held onto his face and wouldn't let him move. His friend came over and rescued the drinks. I pushed him back to the table, climbed on him and madeout with him. No question whether or not I'm confident. I honestly never even thought of being rejected....

Way to go!!!

Not single Amanda, you know that, but I walked up and kissed my now husband full on the mouth. It worked! Lol

Not single Amanda, you know that, but I walked up and kissed my now husband full on the mouth. It worked! Lol

Thank you for clarifying that it was on the mouth. You know how my mind works...

That I DO Zip, that I do! Lmao

I personally shoot a look and hope it gets me somewhere. Usually.. it does not. :P

It starts with contact. If we connect then I approach

Nope! I got rejected in the past so I feel like there's no point!