WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2024

Anniesquats100 · March 15

Lanette thank you. It's working but slowly!

Kylia so sorry your DH spoke like that. Hugs to you. And thanks for noticing my progress!

I raised my times! I did twenty minutes on my bike and fourteen minutes walking! Yay!

Annie in Delaware

barbiecat · March 15

Crystal, Welcome. I hope you will keep coming back. I read this thread every morning while I eat my breakfast. It puts me on track to do healthy things and take good care of myself, I found MFP and this thread when I was 62 and the veteran of decades of failed attempts to lose weight. Starting with baby steps, I've changed my life and created habits that promote health and fitness. I've lost 50 pounds and kept it off.

Annie, good idea to choose your battles with your dad. Also, get rid of things you don't use. You don't have to have all that stuff "just in case" for the future.

Allie, Be careful. The cat is training you to feed her on her schedule instead of yours.

Yay, Dancing this morning.

Barbie in NW WA

Machka9 · March 15

Halfway through the month ...

Today was a 3 km walk. Parking in the city is challenging. In order to avoid paying for parking or dealing with parking garages, we choose to park some distance away from where we want to go.

Then we walked to pick up my medication, to get something to eat, and to the concert hall to attend another symphony.

The symphony was another stunning performance! Well worth attending. We've attended two symphonies this month and both have been amazing.

I also did some work in the garden, but I didn't think it was enough to record in my exercise spreadsheet.

Machka in Oz

pipcd34 · March 15

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bwcetc · March 15

Heather ... you look wonderful in Bea's birthday photos.... and knowing you were in pain shows that you know how to put on a brave face.

Kylia ... hugs. Sometimes we're the bug; sometimes we're the windshield. Sorry you were the windshield this time around.

Joy ... 16 dozen pierogis? My back and hips would be locked up solid after that!

Crystal ... welcome!

Gray day here near Buffalo
Beth

kevrit · March 15

Great Friday from gloomy NM. The last two days have been overcast, and I am not used to that any more. It has affected my mood and I just want to crawl back into bed! I need to go to PO and Walmart today so no bed for me.. Perhaps a nap later? I’ve been doing good on all my goals except my weight. I know it’s water weight as it goes up 5 pounds in a week and goes down the same 5 pounds in a week or maybe a little less. Depressing. I’ll be sure to mention it to my Renal doc the next appointment. I may try the recommended meds just to help with my weight, and blood pressure. Have the A1C down to 5.4 which is high normal, but blood pressure varies with weight fluctuations. Renal numbers are good, I think I fixed that! IDK, just yucky from the weather I think.

I have noticed a big change in DH’s memory of late. I’ve told you all before he has alcoholic dementia. It is begining to show more and more. He talks to me and gets all the details mixed up. I told him some fact recently, that he repeated to me that he found on ‘the Internet’ and changed some of it to make it a lot worse than it really was, and it was his idea. He had never done that before. That night he was really mixing a lot of stuff up. He used to box, and had gotten into a lot of fight when he was young to add to the alcohol, so I expected this. I don’t argue with him about the facts just acknowledge what he says. Problem is, he says stuff that is totally off the wall to campers that come in. They believe him because they don’t know any better. I get embarrassed about it if I hear him and can’t correct him in front of others b/c it causes an argument that embarrasses the people he talks to, so I just walk away knowing that I know the truth. He is 70 now, and I’m glad he lasted this long with his mind. Not sure how long I’ll be able to deal with this before I can’t anymore….

This stuff is affected my weight too. I know it..

RVRita who is sorry for the rant but needed to talk to someone.

kevrit · March 15

And on a lighter note—-Today is: A good day for a nap!!

drkatiebug · March 15

Oh, Rita, I’m so sorry. I have no idea how I would deal with that in your shoes.

Annie, your tales of your father’s escapades without his pants (pun kind of intended) remind me of a kindergarten student my daughter had in her class. The little girl’s clothes would make her itchy; she would just start to shed them when that happened. My daughter put her on a written behavior plan which essentially said “student will keep her clothes on all day.” Just one of many reasons why I could never teach kindergarten.

Kylia, sending you hugs as well.

GodMomKim · March 15

Rita -
No apologies needed. we are here to listen and support. My mom is also showing signs of dementia, so between all of us with family with dementia, or brain injuries or both we can understand and know you are walking a tightrope.

hang in there!

Kim in N. California

Anniesquats100 · March 15

Rita every conversation is different, and you have to weigh the consequences of correcting him vs the consequences of letting him believe nonsense, just like you are doing. It's so sad to have someone you love change like that. Our hearts go out to you.

Annie in Delaware

LisaInArkansas · March 15

Morning, all, I began this as dawn breaks in the Arkansas River Valley, birds already in full swing,

Like Kylia, lots of thunder and lightning last night, but no major damage nearby except some flooding and closed streets in the largest town near us. Apparently two deaths were caused closer to Ohio than Arkansas. The weather generated between Dallas and us and then swept northeast over us and toward her and Ginny. Glad she and Ginny are OK.

Kylia - Alcohol opens some best closed doors, I've found. You did the best thing you could have done and followed the advice my sister gave me, which was to just walk away. Go somewhere else, close a door, stop communicating. Until everyone's sober, all words are dangerous, and some of them nearly unforgivable. Unfortunately, arguments while driving don't allow that. His being on his best behavior tells me he understood that he had crossed a line.

Lanette - I'm sorry the foot is still giving you gyp. Most frustrating.

Ginny - Glad Kylia gave us the report that you're OK. Do you still have a house full?

Sue - Any movement on the eviction of your squatter?

Crystal in Ontario - Welcome, and an early happy birthday! Make sure to bookmark the page and keep coming back.

Annie - Woo-hoo for pants and exercise habits!

Rita - No apologies - that's why we're here.

No real plans for today, and pleased with that. Broke down and ordered a photo/document feed scanner last night. Been toying with it for some time - it will help me get all the photos digitized and all the files that need keeping digitized as well. Plus, I'll be able to send them or make them accessible to the kids for all the old photos I have of them, as well. The old flatbed scanner will work for things that can't run through a feed, but there aren't many. Still haven't been able to bring myself to clean up my computer files, but this might help get going on that, as well.

Home and garden stuff:

Also ordered all the necessaries delivered to build a raised bed garden this year. We've toyed with it in years past, and Corey's figured out how he wants to do it - basically a horseshoe shape.

The shorter end of the horseshoe will be eight feet, and the longer legs will be 16-feet long boxes basically, two feet across, and two feet high, with an arched trellis of hog wire over them to support the tomatoes and cucumbers. Eventually, he plans to clad the outside of it in the stone that we've got everywhere around here. Probably very eventually, but dreams are a wonderful thing. Everything's ordered and on its way, will be delivered next week, to get things put up the following weekend.

Just sent him a YouTube video where they take chunks of trees to fill in the bottom of raised beds - it takes them years to break down, but pulls in the bugs and worms and such that soil needs to stay healthy. Makes sense to me.

Well, I've been trying to get this posted for nearly four hours, but took my good morning call from Corey. Then my sister called, and I had to talk her off of a metaphorical ledge with some research work she's doing that I don't pretend to understand. Just helping her with the wording so she doesn't say something awful in a Zoom meeting.

My daughter called while I was on the phone with my sis, but she'll call back. We're five hours difference again with our time change, so she'll probably call when she's on the way to school to drop off her daughter. If she's calling earlier, she's calling me to talk while she's doing her early morning walk.

Time to get going on my yoga (5th time this week, woot!), and if there's energy left, the elliptical. Too muddy to work outside.

Off to the races, kids,
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR

SophieRosieMom · March 15

Rita - No doubt your DH's miscommunication "skills" are very stressful for you, especially if he's giving wrong info to the campers. Please, please vent here all you want. We are here for you.

HUGS

Kim is spot on, many of us have been or are going through similar.

If anyone wants to weigh in here..... looking to get a back-up laptop this year. Either a basic model HP with very few bells and whistles or a "renewed" Apple Macbook of some vintage from Amazon. Prices on both are about the same, but the price on the HP can escalate with purchase of the Word/Excel office suite. Thinking of just taking this old HP offline and using just Word and Excel and storing photos.

Early stages. Plenty of YouTube videos about Mac's - I know nothing about them. Might not be worth the learning curve.

TIA.

Lanette

SW WA State

cityjaneLondon · March 15

Rita - So hard. I dread that more than anything. With the best will in the world, we have to know our own limitations and not feel guilty about looking after our own mental health. I am not a natural carer, so my good will might run out pretty soon. Also, some types of dementia are easier to handle than others. Some stay nice, others get ornery. One of my friends had the sweetest mother who suddenly developed the foulest mouth you've ever heard!
We are holding your hands. Can your AlAnon group help? And get in touch with a dementia group. Hard decisions down the line. The more information you have, the better.

John has just left to pick up Edie.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Anniesquats100 · March 15

Lisa thank you! And Yay for yoga!

Annie in Delaware

javaplace · March 15

bwcetc wrote: »

Kim ... family can be so dysfunctional. Hugs

Allie ... for decades I sent gifts to my two nieces that we no longer saw due to a very nasty divorce situation. Never heard a reply. Never even knew if they got the gifts. I reached out every year. Christmas. Easter. Valentine's Day. Birthdays. Nothing. And I almost stopped. My husband asked me why I was sending gifts. Was it to receive acknowledgement or to show them they were thought of and loved. So I kept sending the gifts. And then, one year, one of the girls ... then in her 20s ... reached out! She's shared a lot since then and I feel blessed that we now have a relationship! Choosing love is never wrong.

Beth

Agreed!

pinh · March 15

Hi all,

Had minor setback...or maybe more of a challenge. My dad broke his arm and he lives an hour away and I had to spend a bunch of time while he was in the hospital commuting and now that he is in rehab I stayed at his apartment a few days. Mostly realizing that he needs more help foisted on him than he acknowledges. The apartment he lives in has services he can bring on to help him as he returns home. I just have to figure out what he needs.

But that said, I was out of my routine for the better part of two weeks and I'm only hoping he can get settled in after rehab. Getting myself back to my plan is feeling important since we both need to be in good order to work through the next few months.

Staying healthy without life interrupting feels like playing frogger sometimes.

The nice weather might settle in more firmly. I am crossing my fingers for no more snow.

-Anna from Michigan

Whidislander · March 15

Nothing much going on these days. Quiet life. Husband did take me out for lunch to a restaurant we had not visited. It was called Krakens Cove so photos of octopi everywhere. I had fish and chips and husband had a steak sandwich. The owner served and took care of us. He was a nice guy and we congratulated him on his new business. Noticed the wife sat us down and gave us our menus but that's it. There were a fair amount of people at the restaurant which was encouraging. Thinking this is more his business than hers. We gave him a good tip because he was very personable and we want to see him thrive. Its not often you have a good restaurant serving beef and seafood items and both be yummy. They have a Sunday brunch thing and I noticed an eggs Benedict with shrimp that looked good.
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa

barbiecat · March 15

Lanette, As a long time PC user, I have no desire to climb the learning curve of a Mac computer. Jake got enchanted with the idea of a Mac and has had a huge challenge learning it. I am no help and I told him that before he bought it. From my point of view, it's important to know what you want your computer to do before you can decide what to buy. I've had my hp PC for many years and love it. It has a lot of memory and a CD drive. When I bought it, I declined having a cameral in it because I couldn't see why I would need it. Now I go to meetings on Zoom many times a week and had to buy an external camera which is annoying compared to having one in the computer. No matter how thorough you are, there's a good chance that you'll include something you don't need or not include something you need. I use my computer a lot both online and for documents and photos. I'm glad I put the money into it.

Barbie in sunny NW WA

dlfk202000 · March 15

Started my morning in the dentist chair(well, after doing the morning chores, AKA cat care, and put two corned beef in the pressure cooker to take to mom's this evening).
Had to have a crown replaced because of a small cavity under it-the appointment was supposed to be one hour, ended up being an hour and forty five minutes. Took two doses of Novicane and then a dose of something else because it was still hurting a bit when he was drilling. The old crown didn't want to come off, took a lot of work to get it off. Go back in 3 weeks to get the permanent one put on. The new assistant is one of our subs at Zumba. Didn't recognize her with the mask on.

Heading out to walk the wetlands before picking up Ezie.

Need to get dishes done, and pack so I am ready to go to mom's as soon as Ezie leaves or soon after. Nice to have daylight for the whole drive now.

Debbie
Napa Valley,CA

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