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  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    edited April 28
    Mystery meat solved. It was a package of tamales that my friend's daughter in law brought for Christmas. I was given a package and stuck it in yhe freezer. TOTALLY forgot them. Very different from any I ha e ever had. Very surprised to find a whole chicken leg inside! Unfortunately, did not care for it. At least met my goal of trying something new every week!

    Other than that, an uneventful day. Off to help at a fund raiser this morning. Tomorrow having HVAC system replaced.

    @jonni82014 where are you going on your trip? When?
  • jonni82014
    jonni82014 Posts: 1,534 Member
    edited April 28
    @jan110144 I would like to try tamales; never had one.
    Speaking of HVAC we are having our furnace, humidifier, hot water tank replaced and a new AC installed. They are 20years. Thank you Costco we win a few $$ back on our Membership, Costco promo another 15% discount and points on our Cash back Credit Cards Very pleased that there is not a lot to retrofit.
    Our daughter and SIL (Germany) had a set of twins (boy and girl) in December. Going to Netherlands, Belgium, France and Germany in the summer. I have not travelled to Europe before.

    Just for today: Off to the Rec. Centre 45minute walk on track it's raining. 50-60minutes stretch and weights (cable) maybe a dip in the pool or hot tub.

    Have a great day everyone B)
  • BarbMessimer
    BarbMessimer Posts: 362 Member
    My knee's getting better in spite of myself... Been working on repotting plumerias. Hard work... Can't imagine how many calories I've burned but I'll take all the ones I can get! lol. I use a rolling walker to get around and sometimes put a pot on the seat to roll it to where it needs to go. "Where there's a will, there's a way." I almost have all of the 62 plumerias repotted that I inherited from my friend. She would be so proud of how well I'm taking care of her "babies". One even bloomed today (pretty early for blooms). I'll be at it again tomorrow and then I have to give my own a little attention. Lots of work but I love doing it and glad we've had some dry days so I can get things done.

    @jonni82014 ... What a great trip you're going to have and to see those little grandbabies as well. My son and DIL were stationed in Germany too and I finally got to go to Europe. I had a wonderful time. We went to Austria and Italy. I even got to tour the lost city of Pompeii. Great memories. My grandson was 2 and now he's 25. My, how time has flown!
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    Not much going on for next couple of days since I will pretty much be stuck at home while they replace hvac. Everything moving forward wonderfully with intuitive eating. (Actually dislike that term ... find it totally NOT intuitive, at least initially). A little struggle staying away from the scale this morning, but I am moving to weighing in just once a month ... so not til June 1.

    @jonni82014 what a great trip you have coming up!! I'll bet you are very excited to see the twins. I have been to France, Germany and the Netherlands, but not Belgium. What are your travel dates? Will you be traveling by train once you get there? (I love European trains)

    @BarbMessimer SIXTY-TWO plumerias repotted! Wow! That IS a lot if work. You will have to post pics when they all bloom. Pompeii was one of the most interesting places I have visited.
  • jonni82014
    jonni82014 Posts: 1,534 Member
    edited April 29
    @BarbMessimer 62 plumerias! You must have a huge plot of land. Are they shrubs? I was curious and looked up plumerias on Wikipedia. Sooo... beautiful. Wikipedia had a video of a plumeria blooming. I bet the fragrance is overwhelming. Pompeii will have to be another trip.

    @jan110144 mid summer is our trip. Yes we will be travelling by train.

    Just for today: Went to the Senior Centre 20minutes on the treadmill (raining outside) 45minutes stretch and weights. Wednesday the Senior Center will have speakers for 1/2 of the day leading discussions on de-cluttering and downsizing. They call it Toonie Talks as Canadian has a two dollar coin called a toonie. That's what we pay.

    Turkey tacos ( without the shell) for dinner.

    Have a great evening :)

  • gates6489
    gates6489 Posts: 2 Member
    Hello. I would love to hear any tips you can give me on this journey.
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    Good morning! Yesterday was pretty boring. Stuck inside most of the day while they installed my new furnace and because it rained most of the day. Did manage to get two walks in for Abby between the showers. Installation continues today with the air conditioning install. Free tomorrow!

    @jonni82014 Never heard of the Canadian 'toonie' before. I am looking at the whole downsizing thing in the not too distant future. Placed myself on the waiting list for an apartment in a senior living community. Most likely it will be 4-5 years before a vacancy comes up. I am not ready to do that right now, but may be by then (I will be 85 in 5 years. The length of the wait time really surprised me. The good thing is that when you get to the top of the list, if you decide you are not ready, you can pass and remain at the top of the list until you are.

    @gates6489 Welcome! Where are you in your journey? You will find we are a group of folks each following our own path. For example, I am a month in to focusing on 'intuitive eating' (actually hate that term as I find my eating is far from 'intuitive'), but am tired of a life of sequential dieting and decided it is about time I change eating habits permanently. So far, so good. I am finding it a really good fit for me and it is going well. The key role of the group for me is accountability. Having somewhere to 'report in' on a daily basis is really helpful this early in major change process.
  • jonni82014
    jonni82014 Posts: 1,534 Member
    @jan110144 The two dollar value coin is called the toonie (two). We have a one dollar value coin called the loonie. It has a bird on it. The lake loon bird hence the name loonie.
    We are decluttering and downsizing however at this point if we were to downsize from our house to condo we would be paying the same price. There would be no equity in the house to draw on. The condos we were looking at are the same price as the our house. Senior living is sooooo... expensive $6000. - $8000. per person per month. Nothing available as Senior Community Living. There is a house shortage in Canada as a whole.

    @gates6489 welcome.

    @BarbMessimer how is the knee?

    Just for today: I am still research weight loss blockers ie life traumas. I might have to sit down with a professional to help me override my thinking. I have a clue what the life trauma is but not the steps that I would have to take

    Have a great day everyone!
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    edited May 1
    Welcome to May!

    @ jonni82014 Wow you senior living costs are high. Here, that would be pretty much 'assisted living' (vs. the independent living, which is what I am on the wait list for). I am fortunate, though, that unless/until things change I can stay in my house pretty much as long as I choose. I have a downstairs master and am close to all shopping. So, there is nothing pushing me to move. Just planning ahead since I have no kids and no relatives who live close. Your idea of perhaps talking with a professional is a good one I think. Best wishes for that.

    Hope everyone else is having a good day!


  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    Sorry – long post - feel free to skip.

    Journey Month 1

    I started the IE "intuitive eating" journey one month ago today. I had tried this before, but did not succeed. This time it was probably not a typical start, as I began by the normal ‘dieting’, tracking, etc. I did it knowing that I wanted to move toward IE and just took this period to read and understand what I was about to do. During this time, I also concentrated on making sure I got adequate sleep, exercise, hydration and made an attempt to do more things with friends. These three issues were key, because I frequently struggle with trying to figure out whether I am tired, stressed, bored, thirsty or hungry! Fundamentally, I needed to cut down on the ‘noise’ if I was going to be able to listen to my body and try to understand what it needs.

    After about two weeks, I decided to switch over to IE. By this time, I was MUCH MORE attuned to what I was feeling. Turns out that much of the time my eating was a response not to hunger but to one of the other issues. Addressing those has been absolutely essential to being able to recognize and respond to my hunger cues.

    Once I started IE, the only real change I made (besides no longer tracking and obsessing about what I was eating) was to focus on variety. Instead of eating the same things over and over again (typical diet mode), I made sure that I was digging out old recipes, trying new ones, etc. The only ‘rule’ for me, was that there were no rules. I do tend to have the same thing for breakfast most mornings, but lunch and dinner are as varied as I can think of and have time for. The only time I eat the same thing twice is if I make something that has left-overs that don’t freeze well. Otherwise, into the freezer for future meals leftovers go. This variety has proven to be my ‘magic cure’ for cravings. So far, I can honestly say that cravings have not not been an issue.

    One other key change for me, that seems to have really resolved bingeing, is the concept of granting permission to myself. When I have people over for dinner, or o out to dinner, and I know that I will be eating/drinking special things (i.e., dessert, richer than normal daily foods, drinking a glass of wine), I no longer try to plan just how much I can have to ‘stay on plan’ (old behavior). Inevitably, that would never work. Instead, it would tend to lead to overindulgence, disappointment, feeling ashamed of myself, and several days of highly "bingy" behavior following. Or, if I managed to ‘regulate’ myself, I would end the evening craving and giving in to eating, which, again, often led to a binge. Now going into such a day/evening, I tell myself that I am going to eat (whatever), have a good glass of wine, enjoy dessert and savor the entire experience. Doing that, I end the day feeling satisfied and content … and best of all a return to ‘normal’ eating the following day. And, pretty much I am quite happy with just a ‘normal’ amount of food. Amazing how the messages you give yourself can have such a powerful impact on behavior.

    My goals for April were to walk at least 10,000 steps per day, a FitBit sleep score of at least 80, and to adhere to my eating plan. Results
    Steps – 29 days at 10,000 or more Average steps/day – 13,500. Total miles – approx. 160
    Sleep – 25 or 30 days with sleep score over 30 (never lower than 78)
    Food – Started tracking and then moved to ‘intuitive eating’ after two weeks. “On Plan” – 30 of 30 days.

    All in all, an excellent start. May will be much the same. Only changes will be 12,000 steps a day (vs 10) and add more variety in fruits and veggies.
  • annliz23
    annliz23 Posts: 3,742 Member
    Hi all, I really must remember to come on here but I just keep forgetting with so much going on but lovely to read all about your lives.
    A new month so hopefully I can get on track my main goal to to get the 2 poodles to walk nicely without pulling me so we can walk more.
    Aiming to plant some new shrubs in the garden and do my hanging baskets, looking forward to the summer.
    Take care everyone.
  • jonni82014
    jonni82014 Posts: 1,534 Member
    edited May 1
    @jan110144 You are a star!
    I like you words:
    I no longer try to plan just how much I can have to ‘stay on plan’ (old behavior).

    Just for today: Senior Centre attending discussions on decluttering and downsizing.

    It's snowing. It has been for two days; worst part is it is staying on the ground; best part we really need the moisture ie wild fires and drought.

    I have participated on the MFP forum NO Late Night Snacking since March/22 -
    Effective 30April/24: I have been successful Not snacking for 748days and have snacked at night 9days. I do not eat after 6pm.

    Have a great day everyone! B)

  • BarbMessimer
    BarbMessimer Posts: 362 Member
    edited May 1
    @jonni82014 ... Knee's getting better, mostly just sore, not what I'd call pain really... so it's healing. I keep using my leg muscles as I can't let the muscles atrophy and I've progressed from the rolling walker to a cane for balance. The knee is weak and I could easily fall. Thank for asking.

    BTW, I have around 250 plumerias. Fortunately, they don't all have to be repotted right now. I had a large collection and then my dear friend passed away and left her collection to me. Those are the ones I've been working on. Growing plumerias is a fascinating hobby. There are so many different kinds and fragrances. Sometimes it takes years for one to bloom but when it does, you're ecstatic! Just like Christmas morning... lol

    @jan110144 ... IE.... What is that exactly?

    @gates6489 ... Everyone has to do what works for them. Basically, I've limited sugar, fruits, highly processed foods, commercially fried food, starchy vegetables (like potatoes) and beans. I eat whole foods: meat and vegetables twice a day over 6 hours with no snacking in-between. I drink coffee, tea and lots of water. No sodas... not even diet. I've lost 68 pounds this way over a couple of years... and kept it off.
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    May off to a good start. New hvac system installed yesterday ($$ - ouch!).Window replacement scheduled for end of month ($$$$ - OUCH!).

    @annliz23 I find that daily check-in first thing in the morning really helps me stay on track. Get into a habit of walking your poodles around the same time every day and you will never miss another walk. I start getting "the look" if I am too late in putting my shoes on and grabbing the leash🙂

    @jonni82014 EXCELLENT accomplishment re no night time snacking! I have really cut down on mine primarily because late night eating tends to make it harder for me to go to sleep. Now, I will only have something if i am really hungry ... then will usually be a piece of fruit or a handful if nuts.

    @BarbMessimer glad to hear your knee is getting better. IE is "intuitive eating". I read a very good book that talked about "attuned eating" which I think is a far better word and more closely aligns with what i am doing. Intuitive eating, however, is the phrase most people relate to.
  • jonni82014
    jonni82014 Posts: 1,534 Member
    edited May 2
    @gates6489 Glad to read that you are on the right track and successful as well. DH and I quit sodas Coca-Cola and Diet Pepsi about 20years ago. The withdrawals were severe; two days; however the results were fantastic DH lost 40# I lost 15#.

    Weather too cool to get outside; though the perennials are peeking and they love the moisture.

    @jan110144 Can you pass me the title of the book about "attuned eating" I'm curious.

    Just for today: Going to the Rec. Centre. 45minute walk on track. 50-60minutes weights and stretch.

    Have a healthy day everyone B)

  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    @jonni82014 book - "The Emotional Eating, Chronic Dieting, Binge Eating and Body Image Workbook" by Judith Matz. Et al. This is NOT a "diet" or "how to" book. I found it really helpful from a mental and emotional perspective in terms of getting me out af a "diet" mindset into a healthy choices mode ... which I have no doubt will also lead to weight reduction over a realistic time frame. The release from "rules" and rigid focus on what i can and can't eat has been particularly helpful for me. The process has been incredibly freeing.
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    All good here yesterday. Did go for lunch at the retirement community for which I am on a waiting list. The food was good (which I understand is not true in many facilities) and the people very nice. It is really strange to even think about making a move like this. Even more so is the recognition that I will be 80 in a few months. Very surreal.

    Have a good day everyone.
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    First day off the rails. Looking back at it today, I think I just plain under-ate the past couple of days and allowed myself to get too hungry. Resulted in mini-binge. Only positive thing was that I did not have any junk food in the house, so overate mostly good stuff. Back on Track today, hopefully. Telling myself that this was just one day in the rest of my life ... no big deal in the scheme of things.

    Hope everyone is doing well.
  • BarbMessimer
    BarbMessimer Posts: 362 Member
    @jan110144 .... Don't feel bad to have an "off" day and at least you ate good food. Your body might have needed it. BTW, I ordered 2 books on IE. I can't wait to read them.
  • BarbMessimer
    BarbMessimer Posts: 362 Member
    My son got on my case the other day. A month ago I hurt my knee (almost healed now) and also recently got a UTI. He gave me a lecture about my weight. Said in the past when I lost down to merely being overweight (Don't want to divulge the number), that I was so much healthier, had more energy and was out and about more and that I needed to get back to that point. I defended myself and told him to not "fuss" at me... that I keep working on it and even though I put back on a few pounds last year, I've consistently kept off 50 and am so much better off than I was in 2021. I told him I work on this every day and am working to get back to where I once was. He then said I was too obsessed with food, and I told him I have to be or I'd be like I was before. At that point, I told him to "get off my case"!!!! I know he loves me dearly and I believe his little lecture was meant to help me as he's concerned with my health. I think I do well. I'm 77 and manage a "plumeria farm" with 250 plumerias so I'm out almost every day working on them. I don't sit around watching TV and overeating. He just wants me to do better.
  • jonni82014
    jonni82014 Posts: 1,534 Member
    @BarbMessimer It really matters what you think and do for yourself. Yes, it seems that we are obsessed with food. However in my case, I am vocal about my food choices wherever I am , so it sounds like I am really obsessed with food; to my inner circle. I learned that with certain people (my son) I now, do not talk about food. I change the subject to ask how, is his and his family's health or things that they are doing in their lives ie school, job, vacations etc? I have asked him : Are you doing all you can to keep well so I don't have to worry about you?


    I let my inner circle know (when the subject comes up) that I am healthy and well. Doing so is not placing a burden on them. At the Senior Centre health and wellness it's an ongoing conversation.

    @jan110144 Good to get back on track.

    Just for today. Catching up on laundry and housecleaning. Beautiful day for a walk 12C/53.6F
    Have a healthy day.

  • BarbMessimer
    BarbMessimer Posts: 362 Member
    @jonni82014 ... Thank you. I'm sure he's just concerned and loves me.... and I AM trying.
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    Semi back on track yesterday. Went to Indy for a play (matinee) and then out for a very early dinner. All good, but did not make the greatest food choices later. Missed my 12000 step goal, although did make 10,000. Back to a normal schedule today.

    Observation ... the last two days were a bit problematic. What I realize is that when my normal schedule is interrupted and I find myself hungry later in the evening, I tend to graze (which is never good and almost always does not end well). What probably need to do is just go ahead in those instances is take the time to go ahead abd hacmve a mini-meal. Now ... let's see if I actually remember this nugget the next time this happens!

    @BarbMessimer I am sure your son is coming from a place of love and concern. He just doesn't know how to be supportive around this issue. Hope you like the IE books. I am convinced that the "attuned" eating (still dislike "intuitive "😀) is ultimately the answer. But, getting away from the "rules" of the diet mindset (and the hyper focus on food) is really a challenge after years of struggling with weight issues.

    @jonni82014 Good advice re way to set boundaries around food issues. Focusing on over-all healthy lifestyle issues is really important ... health is not just about food.



  • nsk1951
    nsk1951 Posts: 1,304 Member
    HA ... It seems like 'we old-timer's (I'm 79) are all pretty much in the same boat, still! We are still way overweight and struggling to get healthier. Hooray for us for continuing to be concerned and active in our health management, which includes lifestyle, interpersonal relationships, as well as our physical well being.

    Today, I feel thankful for reading the past couple of day's posts because I was feeling pretty down about myself and don't feel that way any longer after spending a few minutes reading here. So, Thanks for sharing your struggles as well as successes!

    AFM ... My weight gain is still out of control. I went on a reducing 'diet' 2 weeks ago and lost weight the first week but gained back the loss this second week. That kind of yo-yoing is how it all began for me over 50 years ago!. I am determined that I will stop this. I too lost 50 pounds using MFP in the past and then continued to maintain and lose some more on my own. But something has gotten terribly out of whack since I moved into an Independent Senior Apartment building. (This is NOT the kind of senior apartment complex that provides food and other services; it's a plain small apartment with elevator service and a community room where we can gather if we want to.) Actually, it's not even since I moved here in 2022 that my weight has started to climb, but since the cancer diagnosis last year. That, and sudden problems with my blood pressure, and heart has put me into a new class of many medications, and those medications seem to be driving my insulin resistance and appetite. Also, when I was undergoing cancer surgery and therapy last year, my doctors urged me to maintain my weight; which I did until I started to gain. It's a new struggle I am figuring out. I want so much to get back into the numbers I was a 1.5 years ago, and even to continue on my goal of losing 100 pounds. But this set back is eating up the days and months of my life, and i hate it.
  • BarbMessimer
    BarbMessimer Posts: 362 Member
    @jan110144 ... I understand about when you get out of your normal routine. Same here. And I also agree that instead of late-night grazing, just plan a mini meal of the right foods and let that be it. I'll remind myself of that too as I stay up late (insomnia) and have trouble with late night eating, especially if I haven't had much to eat earlier.
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    Whew! After 2 rocky days, back on track (hopefully🙂). Good day yesterday, including a good night's sleep, which makes a huge difference. New recipe for the week... huli huli chicken in the grill. A keeper.

    @nsk1951 sounds like you're dealing with a lot of challenges right now. It can be a challenge to figure out what is going to workband be sustainable for you when there are so many factors involved.

    @BarbMessimer Sleep is such a major part of things for me! The first day mini-binge resulted in a really bad night's sleep which led to a second problematic day and poor sleep (although not as bad as day 1). Back on track yesterday with a bit of effort and voilà ... slept really well. Can already tell that I will be fine today. I understand what happened. Now to see if I can manage it better the next time it happens. Right now, I am grateful it was only 2 days.
  • jonni82014
    jonni82014 Posts: 1,534 Member
    Beautiful day here! We are expecting 4 days of rain. Not great for the hairdo; but really required to quell wildfires and provide much needed moisture for areas experiencing drought.

    @nsk1951 small actions = big success.
    @jan110144 huli huli chicken? Sweet? Sour?

    We sometimes have to dig our "toolbox" and pull out experiences that serve/served us to achieve our goals. ie using MFP to record our eating. I am guilty of creating a list of items that I would like to achieve or accomplish. then I become overwhelmed. I like to use the "Just for Today..." keeps me on track. I use Just for Today for all areas of my life.

    Example: Just for today:
    1. Senior Centre 45minutes treadmill 50minutes free weights and stretch.
    2. Balance the chequebook. Cross the action off of my list.
    3. I will be a more active listener. Sit back and listen to my coffee klatch friends instead of trying to be heard. This action could be considered ongoing; but just for today.

    When the Just for Today actions are accomplished I consider the actions as a success. Done.

    There are other ongoing actions ie mindful eating, drinking water, modulating my voice.
    I consider those as a "given" unless I go off track.

    Have a healthy day everyone B)
  • nsk1951
    nsk1951 Posts: 1,304 Member
    Just for Today ... that's something I have practiced over the years as well. It's interesting to me how things seem to come and go, ebb and flow, in my life; probably yours too. One day or moment we feel 'down' and 'defeated' and when we give it a little time, it usually improves. We don't always recognize what made it so. It's a real blessing when we do.

    Just for Today I am going to do some housework ... sort the laundry, vacuum the rugs ... cook a Monday Night dinner ... which for me is meatless Monday.
  • BarbMessimer
    BarbMessimer Posts: 362 Member
    @jan110144 ... I had to google Huli Huli Chicken. Sounds delicious and will plan to make it in the future. I think it would be great paired up with Caribbean rice... just can't eat too much of the rice.

    I had a good night's sleep last night which is cause for celebration as it happens so infrequently. Looking forward to today. Lots of work to do in my plumeria farm.
  • jan110144
    jan110144 Posts: 1,281 Member
    Looking at a rainy day today, so need to be out of the house early to walk Abby. Yesterday good. Today will be a challenge with being stuck in the house most of the day. Dinner at friend's house tonight.

    @jonni82014 huli huli chicken involves a marinade of pineapple juice, garlic, ginger and worcestershire sauce.

    Just for today is a very good mind set for most things in life! I am very good at not getting stuck in the past. However, I am a "planner" at heart so keeping myself grounded in the present instead of jumping into the future can be a challenge.