WOMEN AGES 50+FOR MAY 2024
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Good morning ladies!
Evelyn I'm sorry for your losses.
My dad wants me to mend his flag. I could do it but I just don't want to. He has asked me three times. Maybe that's why I feel upset. It's a silly little task, but I don't want to be drawn into his flag project. I resent the fact that he won't honor my answer but it's really because he doesn't remember. And women have always done his mending for him.
Plus I'm upset with myself for eating cookies and cheese and rolls and everything else. My weight is going up again. And we have a family party on Sunday. I can do better than this.
Have a great day! May you be happy, healthy, safe and free!
Annie in Delaware
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So, it's a lovely, cool morning here in Arkansas, but I'm still tired from yesterday... very little sleep last night.
My friends arrived shortly after my last post yesterday. I always forget in between how much I enjoy my friend's husband. He's a wonderful man, retired highway state trooper, just grounded and lovely, and he adores her and their kids. His counseling and wisdom was a huge part of how I was able to get it together and realize that I deserved better than my now-ex-husband, and set me off into the life I have now.
They've been married 35 years now, and they're still good together. Not me and Corey good, it's a very different relationship, but it works for them. It was also just incredibly, bone-deep satisfying to my heart to finally be able to hug my friend after so many years of phone conversations.
So they made it up the drive, decided where to park that massive RV, but had to turn it around to safely park it, and promptly sunk the big beastie (6 and a half tons) up to the hubs in my front yard. I knew it was a possibility with all the rain. And then, two hours of drama ensued, calling roadside assistance without success, putting rocks under tires, digging tires in deeper, breaking a bottle jack... and Corey got home at 5:30 and dragged them out with his truck. Which I had said two hours earlier... but never mind. Not worried about the front yard, mind you, it's where I want to put the circular drive, so no sweat, but was kind of a wreck for everyone's peace of mind.
Made dinner taste really, really good, though, as everyone had a few hours of hard work in the quite humid and sweaty afternoon behind them, and the best sauce is always hunger! After the flappity-do and with full bellies, everyone was able to settle down and just gab and do that thing that couples who really enjoy each others company always do when the conversation is fun and just flows, moving from room to room and place to place outside. Such joy in all this. Truly filling up my heart.
Must admit I really liked sending them to their little house to sleep, too. Just knowing they were sleeping in their own bed, in the place they've lived in for the last six months, was great. I'm a slightly nervous host when folks stay with us, but this way I didn't have to worry if they had what they needed.
Then about 11 p.m., I was still struggling to settle my fizz and excitement of the evening, couldn't sleep, got up and found them wandering around the house looking for the breaker box. The power to the trailer had tripped the surge protector we had them plugged into, but they didn't realize that was the issue, so were looking for the breaker box. Got Corey up to sort it, bless him. He does not wake up well, but he was able to go right back to sleep and is still snoozing. Took me a while longer. Hope they slept well, too.
And this way, I get to enjoy some alone time in the morning to talk to y'all. I did end up writing a book in the end, sorry about that!
May have to nap later to survive, only got about three hours sleep last night, but that's fine. Cor's got a 10 a.m. dentist appointment for a temporary crown, and that's the only thing with any planning until their train ride tomorrow. Hopefully a nice relaxed day today. Hope it's a wonderful Friday for everyone.
Love,
Lisa in AR
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Today's Highlights
- Submitted report
- Finished book
- Finished colouring
- Moved more garden stuff
- Quiet evening
This photograph does not do this picture justice. I'm hoping to get a better photo tomorrow. I've loved doing this one and it took me a while. Lots of little details.
Read my first Michael Crichton novel.
What a slog! I almost quit reading it several times and probably should have. So Boring! I thought maybe the mystery part would liven things up, but it didn't. It was just one political rant after another.
I've found textbooks more interesting.
But when I looked up this author, I recognise a lot of titles.
Is it worth reading another one or are they all a boring slog like this one?
Finishing this book was a highlight simply because I'm happy to be finished!
Next, I might read a nice exciting Grade 11 Physics textbook to liven things up a bit!!
Machka in Oz
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Carol - hope the hearing aids you found on Amazon do the job. I'm thinking of going that route if my old one doesn't work out. The FDA says the OTC aids are OK for mild to moderate hearing loss - hard to hear in groups, on the phone, etc. Which is me. And it now looks like they're rechargeable. Those teensy batteries are a pain to deal with. So please let us know how you like them. Looks like Amazon is carrying some top brands. Not cheap, but well designed and reliable, and some of them are returnable. (I didn't read the fine print so maybe there are a lot of stipulations.)
Sorry to hear you are having trouble getting affordable lawn mowing for the properties.
Ginny - I checked the Medicare website and also my Medigap supplemental plan, and from what I could tell, hearing aids for regular old age hearing loss aren't covered through what I have. Evidently some Medicare Advantage plans do cover them. If you found links for hearing aids that Medicare pays for, I'm "all ears."
Sue - glad to hear you are doing better. Were you going to try to find a new tenant or just take a break from all of that for a while?
Debbie -you can handle a chainsaw? I'm impressed! I've been thinking of getting a little battery operated one (Stihl again). Great job on the walking. And nice your DH will be attending the show and you'll have Saturday to yourself.
Evie - wow, so sorry to hear about all of the recent deaths in your family. Had they been ill prior?
Heather - enjoy your lunch. It's great to get fixed up and get out of the house for a bit.
Barbie - that fireproof box sounds like the perfect solution.
Lisa - glad your friend and her DH are settling in, they sound like the perfect guests having their own house. Glad Corey was able to tow them out of the wet spot. And fix the electrical situation.
If your BIL does land at your house for a while, hope the job market is great and he can find good employment.
I'm so used to being on my own and setting my own schedule, I'm starting to get a little anxious about my sister's overnight stay in July if that makes any sense. I did warn her about Rosie's barking and anxiety about having strangers in the house, especially since a double dose of CBD doesn't slow her down. I decided against putting her in a dog hotel.
So if that would be a problem for sis or her DH, they still had time to make other plans and book a hotel room nearby like they'd originally planned. Haven't heard what they decided.
It's getting light out now and I have a few more outside tasks before the rain arrives this afternoon. Managed to get the back yard mowed yesterday so all caught up.
Lanette
SW WA State4 -
Lisa ~ So glad you are enjoying your company!
Machka ~ I have never read any of Crichton's books. I seem to read the same mystery writers over and over. Probably need to extend to some new ones.
Beth ~ Bless you for making your mom know that you were alright and ease her fears. Hope the implant will settle down and you will be able to hear really well.
Lanette ~ Is your sister bringing her big dog? I can see why you worry about Rosie's barking but it would be sad to put her in a dog hotel.
I agree with all who have said that no matter how old your children are you always will worry about them. We love our son and daughter-in-law dearly but worry so much when they are having rough patches. My husband and I had so many times when we probably worried our parents but somehow we are still together at almost 54 years. And, we still have our ups and downs. LOL
Carol in GA
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Lanette, I'm glad to hear that you won't put Rosie in a dog hotel and that it's up to your guests if they can handle your household or go to a hotel.
About the safe deposit box. It's something that my parents had, so like many things, we just continued doing what we grew up with. Until now, it didn't occur to me that there was a better way. Jake just ordered a box from Amazon and it should be here in a few days. As an aside, we already have a steel gun safe that is so heavy that we had to have the floor reinforced in one of our houses before we moved in. Jake didn't think the gun safe was sufficiently fire safe or secure. I like the idea of a fireproof box because the important stuff is paper.
Barbie in NW WA2 -
Barbie ~ We have a fireproof file cabinet that we keep valuables and papers in.1
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Barbie ... thank you for the new thread!
Welcome ... to the new posters!
Had my cochlear implant surgery on Monday. The surgery went well, but I am experiencing post-op dizziness and equilibrium issues. Unfortunately, they're getting worse each day but hopefully should start to recede soon. A common side-effect of surgery in the middle ear I'm told. Swelling, blood behind the TM, etc. Both my husband and son are taking good care of me so I'm trying to ride it out. I've looked like a cross between Ralph Macchio from Karate Kid and an aircraft flagman with the device they strapped to my head to protect the ear. We're going to remove all of that today and unpack the dressings. Hoping that helps with the dizziness. All my other complaints are minor.
I pretty much stayed the same last month. Too much stress. And, until I can cook for myself again, my food choices are limited to what my husband makes...which seems to be a lot of toast! LOL.
Beth near Buffalo
I hope things start to improve as you recover. Dizziness is horrible!
Lanette and Carol ...
I also have tinnitus which is slowly getting worse. It started about 6 years ago, about the time my husband had his accident. 2 years ago, an audiologist tested me and told me that the combination of my tinnitus and my hearing loss are quite typical and that I will very likely continue to lose my hearing.
For the time being, I'm using sound therapy. I need to start using it more consistently again but meanwhile, I get some immediate help when I do use it.
https://www.healthline.com/health/tinnitus-retraining-therapy
At some point, I will likely start using hearing aids.
M in Oz1 -
Machka “stairs to nowhere”?
Barbara
We're not quite sure why they were built. Maybe there's a plan for later. But for now, at the bottom, they end in an empty lot and at the top they end at the edge of the big lawn that goes around the cenotaph. And not just a lawn, there's another hill to walk over before finally getting to the cenotaph area. There's no path or anything, just a grassy hill.
So people walk up them presuming they're going to see the cenotaph ... and when they get to the top, they're confronted with a grassy hill to climb. If you were a visitor to the area, I think you'd be confused and not sure where to go next.
But for me, they're a great location for stair climbing!
M in Oz
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It's friday! Woohoo
Family visiting and we have a nice lunch planned of baked ham with new potatoes and salad.
Plus it's a bank holiday here so a lovely long weekend.
Weigh in day and I'm down a kilo so that's7.6kg total
Hope you all get to spend time this weekend doing something you love
Rusty in Yorkshire5 -
We have to change campsites this weekend due to construction and the ‘wish’ of our useless ranger. DH is upset about it and very grumpy. I think he is a bit autistic and hates change. He has a lot of the other symptoms as well. He hates change. This is a small one, but he is acting like it is a major move. The site we are moving in is fine, just a little closer to the park entrance, dump station, and dumpsters. Those are why he doesn’t want to move. I hate confrontation but he takes his frustrations and anger at others, including himself on me. So now, I’m depressed too. No-win situation. I don’t want to up my medication because of the effects I suffered, so will just need to deal. Perhaps I’ll go treat myself in town today….
RVRita in sunny Roswell.7 -
Today is NO PANTS DAY!!!! (Shorts are ok in my book! Lol)
RVRita in Roswell
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Evelyn - sorry for the losses in your family. It seems they all seem to go together, we lost 2 uncles and my dad the year my dad passed. There is only one uncle left now and no one sees him.
Heather - How wonderful your friends will be coming for a visit. Your brother’s family had a lot of news, he seems to handle it all well.
Lisa - I don’t think I could take anyone in that drank too much. We both have experience with drinkers and aren’t willing to put up with it. Hopefully if he comes it won’t be a long stay.
I’m so incredibly happy for you to have hugged your friend. It just means so much.
Machka - I love your synopsis of the book.
Lanette - I think out of respect to Rosie and you I would stay at a hotel. I would want to see my sister though.
Carol - I know my parents and grandparents and in-laws worried about us a lot. I think once you become a parent you worry for the rest of your life.
I started a nativity set for Michaela last night at ceramics. At Christmas she told me she didn’t have one because “only me and Daddy love Jesus.” That’s not entirely accurate but Lauryn and Jonah don’t go often to church so that’s her impression.
The set I’m making has 14 little pieces and they look like Precious Moments. I only got the skin painted last night so nothing to show yet.
I felt like I had a win at school yesterday, there is a group of three that I’m helping and I think they all passed the quiz they were given. Also, the one that was upset with me came to me for help several times. That felt good.
Only nine days left in this school after today. I’ll miss them.
Tracey in Edmonton
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CarolGaGal wrote: »Machka ~ I have never read any of Crichton's books. I seem to read the same mystery writers over and over. Probably need to extend to some new ones.
Carol in GA
I looked at the books I read last year and decided that I would expand my selection this year ... with varying results.
M in Oz
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Tracey - nice that you have formed a bond with some of the kids. Of course you have!
My brother is pretty laid back about most things. I think the transition thing is quite hard for them , as they are quite evangelical Christians, but they are loving the person and supporting them, if not the action. He tries to help everyone, including missionary work In Africa. Unfortunately, he is not as mindful of his own health as he should be, and is neglectful of his diabetes.
I decided to write my favourite niece a WhatsApp message this morning, expressing my love and support. I got a lovely reply, and she was obviously touched and delighted. I wish I had the financial means to be of more practical help. Unfortunately, I'm not in a position to travel to see them. The baby is due on the 11th. Not a good time for your spouse to be looking for work. I know my brother will do all he can. It's my DSIL's first blood grandchild, though my brother's 11th!
I was always close to my niece when she was little, then lost that connection for a while when she went through big mental health issues as a teenager. Her spouse helped to pull her through that. Nowdays I feel we have reconnected. I think she feels a bond.
Lunch was great! Lovely to chat with my friend. She really appreciated the sartorial efforts I had been to! Said I looked very French, the best possible compliment! She carried her best real Chanel handbag, which she rarely brings out, especially for me! Her son bought it for her, and she says she would rather have had the money. Cost a ridiculous fortune.
The couple at the next table were French , so we chatted a bit in French. The woman had a gorgeous blue handbag, so I complimented her on it. She agreed and said it was 'Bleu Majorelle'. I said I had been to the garden in Marrakesh, which is the origen of that colour name. Great fun!
I'm going to wear the same outfit on Monday, for our lunch with John's younger daughter, so I carefully hung it up when I got back.
For lunch I had scallops and octopus, both fabulous, and G had grilled plaice and chips (fries)
How lucky I am.
Tonight is half a thin, homemade pizza each with green salad.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
Rita - I think a lot of people get upset with change, especially as they age. I'm one of those "set in my ways" and it seems with each passing day, I get further rooted, lol. My DH was that way, and it might have been due to his encroaching dementia too. I know there are folks who easily go with the flow and I'm not one of them either. Hope the move to the new area isn't too hard on your DH. Or you!
Vicki - glad you weren't harmed by the nearby tornado. Glad you have POA for your friend and can take care of things. So important we have someone lined up that we trust who can make the hard decisions per our wishes.
Beth - hope the tinnitus is better today.
Tracey- so proud of you bonding with those kids in such a short period of time. I think you bring firm love and stability into the classroom, and you'll be a great help to whatever lucky teacher gets you when you are employed in the future. You are quick to think on your feet and instinctively know what to do.
Barbie - our previous dog Sophie's main mission in life was to destroy squeakies in her toys. Fortunately, Rosie doesn't chew them to death like that.
Carol - luckily, my sis doesn't have a dog. They are cat people and their cat does fine at the "cat hotel."
Barking dog story -Yesterday morning I decided to walk Rosie down our private road on her leash, and she is an excellent leash walker. Figured if I can get her worn out by walking, she won't be interested going under the back fence to explore.
Three doors down, the neighbors have a pit bull they used to keep chained outside next to their house. It barked and lunged/yanked on its chain at whoever was walking or driving by. I used to take our previous dog Sophie out for walks down the road, which she loved, but once that dog showed up, she refused to go for walks anymore.
That pit bull is now old, has bad hips and stays in the house. Can still bark and pull though - last year I was walking by the house when the lady had him out on the leash. She's rather frail and he pulled her over onto the the gravel drive while he was coming toward me and barking up a storm. Her husband dashed out and grabbed the dog and helped his wife back up.
So the husband walks the dog these days.
Well, yesterday, I crossed my fingers that the dog would be inside the house. No luck, frail Franny was coming around the house with that blasted dog just as Rosie and I got close, and naturally it started barking like mad and pulling her toward me! Rosie didn't act scared, but I don't think she'd back down from a fight. And I'd have to get in the middle of it. I turned Rosie around and gave that lady a burning glare for about half a minute. Unless she was blind, she could tell I was irked that she could barely control the barking nasty thing. And had absolutely no business being outside with it.
I dug around in my closet - last year I had ordered an ultrasonic trainer device which supposedly emits a high frequency that dogs don't like. I hadn't used it yet but put the battery in it and am anxious to give it a try. Yesterday when I was mowing in back, another neighbor dog went for me and barked and lunged at the fence. Those neighbors - the man of the house is deaf and has the TV up so loud, his wife can't hear anything that goes on outside it seems.
Think I'll get the weed eater going by the back fence....maybe I can test the new gizmo today.
Lanette
SW WA State7 -
Evelyn--Seems they come in groups sometimes. So sorry for your loss. Proud of you for not involing the cookie jar.
Barbie--We also have the safe and I like that I can exchange stuff as needed and don't have to make a trip to the bank or somewhere. Also have one for the guns.
Lisa--Glad you are enjoying the time with your friends, even with the little sitbacks.
Lanette--I am getting to the point I just want to stay home with no one but DH. I will ride with him to the store, but I stay in the car. After answering the phone and dealing with people for 10 hours I just want quite. Love my family but getting to be in little bits at a time. But I still enjoy traveling where we don't know anyone and can do our own thing.
So glad it is Friday and I have the next 2 days off. Only thing planned for sure is church on Sunday. Hope you have a great weekend.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE4 -
Evelyn, condolences on all your losses. That is a lot to handle at one time.
Beth, praying your side effects are settling down and you can start to enjoy your implant.
Lisa, your poor visitors. I would be stressed in their situation for all the drama they have caused. You are a great hostess for handling it all in stride.
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Today’s gratitude: Joe thought up a prudent plan for if/when the water system guy wants to start work.
Lazy day, didn’t get out of my nightgown, recovering from Wednesday night’s GERD. Trying to look back and identify trigger, doesn’t seem to be citrus, garlic or tomato (rotflmao) but maybe Chai latte?
Heard back from MFP support about the huge expanded gif. “This is a known issue which our developers are working on correcting. We apologize for the inconvenience this may cause until the fix is in place. If it “bugs” anyone, I’ll but barky in a spoiler. ;}
Lanette roaring tinnitus, yuck. Glad the aid still works! Thanks for the humming / nitrous oxide reminder. Will practice for my next bp test Does Rosie continue to bark at guests if you’re in the room? Our dog sitter reported that when she let Shadow outside, she barked and barked and wouldn’t come back in past the sitter. So frustrating.
Carol sorry for the stress, could raising rents cover rising costs? 54 years? VERY well done!
Lisa totally agree teeth are worth it. Wonder if this year’s GERD episodes have been because missing two teeth I’m not chewing as thoroughly. . . “… and might not” Fingers X’d!
Heather great news your friends will be there for you post-op. :Love hearing about you chatting in French with nearby diners. We need a pic of you in your very French style.
Rusty insightful point, “clean your plate, children are starving in India”. [sigh] Con VERY grats on the gone kilo!
Beth ((hugs)) How hard to lose your hearing as a teen. Brava for reassuring your mom at the expense of vertigo and being carried in.
Vicki so glad to hear you have this weekend off. Does that mean your workplace is finally fully staffed?
Sue fingers X’d for the new rX but good to know the spendy one works.
Ginny “…nsurance manages health care not our doctor in many cases.” Sad but true.
Barbie would you share the make/model of fireproof safe you chose/ If there was a disaster here, we couldn’t get to the bank over the bridge, or if we got there and the power was out, we couldn’t access the box.
Michele what Machka said about plants, juniper does that to me. (gentle hugs)
Debbie you and Lisa inspire me with your chainsawing. I admire but am afraid its beyond me.
Evelyn ((hugs)) and condolences. Was there an earthquake near you early this morning?
Annie you (and I) can and have done better. Let’s start fresh!
Machka “…might read a nice exciting Grade 11 Physics textbook to liven things up a bit” you crack me up! I vaguely remember enjoying the “Andromeda Strain” by Crichton, you might give that a try, but if it’s a slog in the beginning, go for what you know you’ll enjoy. Are there photos of the stairs, hill and cenotaph in your albums?
Rita so hard to deal with your DH. When will the move be complete? Will you return to his preferred site after the construction?
Tracey “…the one that was upset with me came to me for help several times.” What a testament! You are in the right place at the right time. Bravissima!
Did shoulder PT yesterday (thanks pip, thanks Annie). Time to do it again
Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
Move more than yesterday, fuel better than yesterday, live NOW.
Open heart and mind before mouth.
2024: Strengthen: body, mind, heart-connections.
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