WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2024

LisaInArkansas · June 10

Good morning, my chickens, from the chore soiree that is my Monday mornings.

Hummingbird feeder is soaking in boiling water in the sink, towels and sheets are on the line, meds waiting to be sorted for the week, Walmart list ordered for delivery this afternoon, and on and on and on and on and on... a page full of to-do list. Slept wonderfully, probably due to the exercise yesterday, and plan to fit yoga into the schedule this morning to try to continue that not-quite-a-trend, but hopefully a beginning.

Nothing on the schedule until Friday's infusion, so time for a little creativity after the chores are done.

Heather - Love to see you making leaps and bounds (so to speak! 😜👀😁) in your recovery. There's so much joy in movement, and it's not been joyful for you for a long time. Regarding empathy - got longer than I meant it to, so I put it in a spoiler. Skip it if you're not up to some inner thoughts:

- One of the reasons I don't seek out friendships, and don't tend to make friends easily, or even casual acquaintances for that matter, is empathy. When you feel another's pain too much, distancing yourself at that point from a close relationship is nearly impossible. Being at one remove (like these social media conversations) makes those kinds of interactions much more survivable for me, and I prefer it that way.

Feeling my own pain and grief is hard. My mother's death 25 years ago next month remains a never-closed wound that I just learned to live with over time. Feeling others' pain, especially pain that I have no way to resolve, is unbearable. I feel so much sympathy for all of you who have gone through death and pain in this last decade, but it doesn't evolve into empathy. I can address your pain without feeling it in my own body.

That said, I've hurt people by pushing them away to arm's length, and I hate that. Nonetheless, I have done it because it was absolutely necessary for my own mental and emotional equilibrium. I think those of us who've been abused have very stalwart defenses built to shield our own emotions, because if we don't build them, we don't make it to adulthood intact mentally or emotionally.

I've accepted that it's part of who I am, and I no longer excuse it to others, but I don't feel that kind of shielding of my self and distancing of others is my most admirable trait. My upbringing, on the other hand, prepared me for the loss of animals. Part of me always knows that in that kind of love, loss is always waiting, so I don't find it unbearable, because it's expected. Most people don't understand that, either.

Ah - I really didn't mean to go that far into that. Introspection isn't always comfortable, so I hope you skipped that if you weren't in the mood.

Onward and upward, kids - rattling at y'all doesn't get the dishes put away!

Love,
Lisa in AR

Whidislander · June 10

Heather you are a rock star! You need to be wearing your tierra friend!

Lisa I can relate to your inner thoughts because my middle sis shares a bit like that. I have learned (well learning) to accept what my sister is willing to share with me, and communicate with me. She tends to isolate. I tend to get frustrated and mad. This vision of "sisterly love and devotion" that I play in my mind is not reality, and I need to stop trying to make her be someone she isn't. She is she , and I am me, and that is ok.💖
Rebecca
Whitney
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kevrit · June 10

@Heather, I have a friend who walks a lot like you and had to have a hip replacement recently. I was surprised to see her walking her usually 2 miles one way to this park, without crutches, within 6 weeks of the surgery. She is in shape which I’m sure helped her, like you. I’m NOT suggesting you do that yet, just thought it was surprising and great to see how fast people can recover from something that used to be a long recovery. It amazes me how far surgery has come. My DH had his gallbladder removed by robot, and a hernia repair by robot. Only 3 tiny incisions for each and very quick recovery time. I’ve had many surgeries in my time and always have the large scars to prove it. So quick easy recovery and barely any scars still amaze me! (Hysterectomy/bladder repair, tennis elbow repair, appendicitis, and periodic gland removal due to tumor (spit gland by ear) to name a few)

RVRita in Roswell

kevrit · June 10

@Lisa, your introspection describes me perfectly. I grew up next door to my grandparents who raised animals for food. Chicken, pigs, and cows, only a few of each except the chickens. I used to watch and help my grandfather decapitate the chickens and help my grandma de-feather them. Always been around cats and dogs and their babies. I was hurt badly as a child and by men since I was a teen and have built a wall. I’m afraid of being hurt so put people at arms length. Very seldom did I or do I have close friends because I feel/know I’ll be hurt by them. I have empathy for others (not famous people as to me, they usually put themselves in the bad positions) but I am not emotional. Part is that is from medication, another from life lessons I had to learn. I think this is why I simply stay with my DH rather than go through the pain of leaving. The guilt and pain would be worse for me than what I put up with now.

Sorry, this turned into a confession post. I’ll stop here.
Love this group!

RVRita in Roswell

kevrit · June 10

Today is a good day to drink ice tea while writing with a ballpoint pen! I think I need to journal after my bloodwork today!

RVRita in Roswell

exermom · June 10

Debbie – are you in competition with Rebecca for the title of “food porn queen”? Looks fantastic. I’m so sorry the show didn’t pan out for you

Kim – what a great thing for you to do with that man. It helps to get an “older” perspective, too.

Sunny today. If we didn’t have bowling, I would probably go in the pool. But there isn’t any rain in the forecast until next week

Annie – feel better fast

M – how many coats of paint did you do?

Heather – I know with WalMart you can specify “no substitutions”. Not that I use WalMart pick up very much unless it’s for something very heavy (like last time I got 5 gallons of chlorinating solution and they at least put it in the trunk)

I am a very emotional person. I can cry at the drop of a hat. Someone tells me they’re in pain, I can start to cry for them.

Michele NC
who got new bowling shoes. Now to see if they match my ball and bag

cityjaneLondon · June 10

We had some of our lettuce leaves today, in our sandwiches, along with a few baby leaves from the pot of rocket (arugula) that we sowed at the same time.

Makes me inexplicably happy.

Just had a long nap. The first time I've been able to sleep on my side for more than ten minutes. Hooray! I have found having to sleep on my back very annoying.

House clean again!!! She hoovered the stairs today, which would have been impossible for me to do, and anyway, not my favourite job.

Terri - Have you booked the cruise yet? If you are going to ring them, I advise doing it at 9 am on the dot.

My son can't take us home tomorrow, so I'm thinking about whether I can afford an Uber both ways. It's also more expensive at peak hours, in the rush hour.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

grandmallie · June 10

Afternoon ladies
Not feeling to well this afternoon,oh well..this to shall pass..
Someone jumped off the bridge today so there is planes flying over trying to look for the body im guessing..
So sad..
Its beautiful outside so have the window and the slider open.

1948CWB · June 10

LisaInArkansas · June 10

Rebecca darlin' - I do say quite often that it's not usually people who hurt us, it's that they violate our expectations of them, which you've basically said is the case with your sister. Our only real option is to change our expectations, as we're not going to change them. Also comes around to something I was discussing with my sister the other day - siblings don't necessarily grow up the same... she and I are so different that those places where we're the same (our voices are nearly identical) are weirdly shocking. And we honestly don't feel like we grew up in the same house as our brothers sometimes, as their experiences of our upbringing were absolutely different than my sister's and mine.

Rita - It took me a long time to learn that we can love people without the requirement of feeling their pain. I love this group, but don't take on that empathic burden for each and every one. It's a far different kind of love than my feelings for my husband, my kids, my best friend, my sister. Not less, just different. I'm OK with that.

Got one call from my best friend and two from my husband... one thing about waking up after he leaves at 5:15 a.m. is that I get a "good morning" call from him around 8 or 9 a.m. Feels like a verbal hug.

Four things down on my list, more to go...

Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa in AR

kevrit · June 10

Back from bloodwork and thought I’d post about the class I’m taking:
The class in taking is free or $17 once for a meal plan and food list. It is virtual. Called Healthie and has an app. The emails come from Hope 80/20. So far nothing I didn’t already know but a good refresher. Eat every 3-4 hours is what I’m working on now and upping my exercise to 2 15 min walks a day plus yoga 2x a week. Those and sweets/dessert only 2 times a week. Doable goals.

RvRita in Roswell- going for my first walk now

pipcd34 · June 10

Stat for the day-

Outside bike ride (specialized)- 3hrs 7min 33sec, 811elev, 61aw, 12.1amph, 129ahr, 161mhr, 37.73mi= 1376c
Strava app = 763c

With today’s ride, I’m over the 2 thousand mile mark (2018.83).

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SophieRosieMom · June 10

MFP Weekly Check-in June 10, 2024

Rita in Roswell, NM - Up .2 of a pound this week. Having elimination issues. I must find a way to normalize those. I started a 6 week prediabetic class and hope that will help. The Jardiance has lowered my BP to 94/68 so must adjust that too. Got work to do today!

Debbie in Napa Valley, CA -

Up one pound this week. I am sure sitting all day Saturday at the show, snacking didn't help. Most were healthy but the corn chips weren't.

Evelyn on Vancouver Island - Currently staying at the same weight as the end of May. Not totally unhappy about that as my eating has slipped a bit again. But nicer weather appears to be here so hopefully will be encouraged to be more active.

Lanette in SW WA State – Weight holding steady in the desired range. Doing plenty of yard work for exercise these days in addition to walking carrying 3 to 5 lb. weights for 10 minutes 2 or 3 times per day.

ginnytez · June 10

I am probably medium on the empathy scale. I learn to block some because I couldn't handle the rush of emotions. I rely on intuition quite a bit.

Heather-your body will let you know when you are ready for what. With my first hp I was still using cane. One day I realized I had walked across kitchen to coffee counter without cane. I panicked and wondered how I would make it back without cane! one step at a time got me back to start.

Busy at work. I did get the mid afternoon dip but not as bad as it has been. Came home and threw some salmon filets in ooven and Brussel sprouts in microwave to steam. I think I still have the energy to tidy kitchen and maybe get ironing done.

Off to put food away, etc.

Take care all,

Ginny in Ohio

Machka9 · June 10

Michele ... 2 coats.

Lisa ... I get what you said about empathy. I am very low on the empathy scale. But I sympathise with you all when you go through stuff.

I'm taking a day off painting today and going to work instead. My arms will appreciate it.

M in Oz

grandmallie · June 10

Evening ladies
Not much doing today and tomorrow is hair dresser..thank goodness..that tax bill wiped me out so im pinchin pennies this month for sure.. and Tracys Sprinkle is coming up the 6th of July.

TerriRichardson112 · June 10

🤗🤗🤗 and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

☘️ Terri

pipcd34 · June 11

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exermom · June 11

Tried on my new bowling shoes, They fit but most importantly, they match my ball and bag

At bowling today they had a sub from the junior league. This 7 year old bowled a 203!

Just came back from my walk around the neighborhood. I’d forgotten that they were celebrating the May and June birthdays at bowling today.

Ceramics tonight. Finished Tigger and put him in to be fired.

Michele NC

GodMomKim · June 11

Hi Gals,

I think I am more like Machka then some of you, of course it is too bad that someone passes and it is hard on friends and family. But the celebrities we “know” from books, movies, TV, podcasts are not knowing the whole person just their public facing bit and they don’t know us at all. I have never felt that attached to a celebrity from which ever genre unless I actually knew them in real life. But then it is not the celebrity you are missing but a friend or family member.

Sometimes it is amazing how different folks look at things. I wrote about my neighbor and was so excited about having help dealing with my tree and the vines, and mostly I just listened to the girl problems, and you all picked that out as the important piece. A new point of view. I was glad to help him and to listen, but I was all about me getting that darn tree/vine job done. I so appreciate this group as it helps me look at an event from different sides.

Thinking of you all,
Kim in N. California

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