LESS Alcohol ~ OCTOBER 2024 ~ One Day at A Time
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SurferGirl1982 wrote: »I figured the "screw-up" of the group should check-in 🤔 I'm still messing up. But I do think that tomorrow will be Day 1 again!
You stop that right now! You're not a screw up! You absolutely will succeed one day as long you keep trying! Keep on checking in no matter what
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@surfergirl1982 You can do it! I know you can. For the first two weeks, I felt incredibly unsettled, angry, emotional, weepy and then suddenly I felt better. My brain was like a scrambled egg. You did it before, you can do it again. Just muscle through those first few difficult days. And once you have some momentum, you will feel so good. We're all rooting for you!
One possible idea: what if you go away for a few days for rest and relaxation? Change your scenery because home is where you drink.6 -
@SurferGirl1982 you can absolutely do this, but you are also absolutely not a screw up! You may be stumbling on implementing the physical step, but the mental prep you are doing is going to work so much in your favour.
AF household weekend seems to be going OK, I mean, for me it's business as usual but the partner seems to be managing, which is good.8 -
Good morning, all and happy weekend!
My DIL sent me a message yesterday and asked, if it's not too short of a notice, if I could fly to Arizona and help her drive back to Florida with her and my four grandbabies. Guess who would have dreaded not being able to relax with my wine at night on that long drive before I started my LA journey. You guessed it. So, now I get to be excited about helping and spending time with people I love
AF = 18
A = 010 -
I meant that's why I didn't go...because no alcohol is served and I was an every night drinker. I chose wine over fun.6 -
SurferGirl1982 wrote: »Thanks @chicbuc I will keep trying and posting. It's hard to post when you have no good news. But, you and just about everybody in this group are doing great.
I understand completely. But keep coming back here to check in and get encouragement. Also, perhaps exposure to enough people working hard to overcome the same issues will make you feel less alone. Perhaps there is motivation by seeing others succeed.
It kind of reminds me of my little bit of a shameful secret…. Sometimes watching an episode of “Hoarders” is the kick in the pants I need to clean the house. Not that I hoard, but I get a lot of inspiration from when they start to clean out the mountains of stuff and give the house a good scrubbing. Welp, time to get out the vacuum! Suddenly, cleaning my tidy house is a lot less daunting. I get right to work.
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Yesterday was not a less alcohol day for me. Glass of wine on the boat while we were motoring to check out what was upriver- no wind to speak of. At any rate, dinner with friends meant I had an Old Fashioned and then wine with dinner. Of course I had a headache when I woke up in the middle of the night. But overall feeling ok.
Today is a new day. If I can stick to no more than two drinks, I will take the win.
Happy Saturday!7 -
I am feeling a group HUG in here with all of the positive motivations.
Long long before I ever found this group I was having the same daily talks with myself about TODAY IS THE DAY I skip drinking.
There always seemed to be something that sabotaged my good intentions. I would say I had a hard day at work, or I received a stressful phone call, traffic was backed up, dog threw up on my freshly shampoo'd carpet. Oh the list goes on and on.
It wasn't everything else getting in my way of skipping drinking for that day, it was me. I am not saying that this is how it goes for all of you here trying to have LESS.
It is my story and I am writing it to let others know that it may seem like a piece of cake for me now, but in the beginning it was pure h3ll trying to get an AF day and I feel for you and understand your mindset.
And that is why I have faith it will come for you to. Whether it be a 10 day AF streak, a 50 day AF streak or a 2 day AF streak.
Like someone here said surround yourself with like minded people, those people are us.8 -
Hi all! Just returned from a great sober vacation. Saw Ruby Red and her hubby and we had a great time. Then went to see various family members. I was humbled to see how normal drinkers drink. As in take it or leave it. I am on Day 26 AF and feeling really good. Alcohol is losing it's grip on me but I know better than to let my guard down. That wolf is waiting patiently in the woods for me and I don't plan on setting foot in there again.8
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I’m back from a SUPER fun time with grandkids and my daughter. We went to a water theme park for two days that also had bowling, mini golf, and an aerial rope climbing adventure. Then, we stopped at a huge pumpkin farm on our way back home yesterday. The highlight was being with my loved ones doing tons of fun activities and laughing together. I did the rope obstacle course in a climbers harness 30 ft above the ground, three times with my sweet 8 yr old grandson! Such a blast and test of my mental and physical strength! There were 26 stations - what a rush! Also went on large water slides for the very first time in my life! And didn’t even worry about all the kids peeing in the pool. There was so much chlorine it was burning my eyes. I’m feeling healthier and stronger as I age smarter and wiser! And yes, I’m super sore today. ☺️
My DD and I did end of having wine while out to dinner with the kids and another one at the family dance party (this was on the second night). Didn’t think about having any on the first overnight, but daughter never drinks and she was feeling like it would be fun so I went with it and enjoyed along with her.
Now home, I am gladly counting tonight as AF.
Have a great weekend to my LA friends!
October goal: Soberish October 🍁🎃🍁
Current:
AF days - 12
A days - 7
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AF - 16
A - 4
My son with autism was nominated and WON Homecoming King!!!! I am one very proud mom! The students cheered for him louder than any other nominee during HOCO court introductions at the pep rally where he was crowned! Then, when he won, the students started chanting his name while he danced and celebrated! Afterwards, they rushed the gym floor to shake his hand, fist bump, hug, and take pictures with MY boy!!! I was crying! I called his dad who wasn’t able to make it, and he had to pull over on the side of the road to cry! My mom cried! My best friend cried! His ABA therapist cried! His girlfriend’s mom cried!
My son is not what most people think of when they think of children with autism. He’s incredibly outgoing and loves to socialize with his peers… well with anyone! He loves having the spotlight on him! He loves to sing and dance! He’s just awesome, and I’m not the only one who thinks so! His elementary school teacher insisted on conducting Ronny’s homebound learning when he battled cancer 10 years ago instead of letting a sub do it, and he refused to accept a better paying teaching job in a town 3 hours away until Ronny was promoted to middle school because he loved Ronny and couldn’t leave him! That’s how awesome my Ronny is!
I literally had to ask him to take this picture with me (which I look horrible in, but I don’t care) because everyone else was trying to get pictures with him.
He is currently at the Homecoming Dance with his girlfriend, and I have to pick them up at 11:00!😩 I want to go to bed.
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@NonnieDoiron ...such a sweet day you and yours are having. You DO NOT LOOK HORRIBLE IN THAT PHOTO !! Cute as a "bug in a rug" as my grandpa would say, and son & girl friend are adorable. Please excuse my ignorance, but what is the uniform, ROTC perhaps ??
Guess today is another AF day, at least til after 11pm.
Iwillnotcryiwillnotcryiwillnot....8 -
Well, @SurferGirl1982 ...it was AF until 5pm, no ?? Take the little wins and the big wins will come.
YOU ARE NOT A SCREW UP !! The voices in your head need to get their butts kicked out. [Where is a kicking donkey emoji when I need one ??]
Nope, you can't abandon Tinker or the rest of your family, but maybe change your position in the house during the times you are most vulnerable to drinking. Is the Rec room/Sun room/Sewing room a place where you usually don't imbibe?? Go there to read, watch a movie, craft, call your maiden auntie, research some weird thing you heard online....
It's your life. Make it longer, healthier, happier.
Not everyone is just glowing with success in reducing A. We do love to crow about our victories. And then report our stumbles.
I plan to open a bottle of Chianti in a couple weeks. Whether it's with tears or rejoicing will determine how my LA journey continues.8 -
I screwed up. Driving down the main street of our suburb on the beach, which we moved to 18 months ago, I was pointing out the new things that were opening, or reopening for the summer. In this, I pointed out the bar that's expanded, the new bar that opened where the burger shop was, and the 2 new bars where the ice cream place was, and where the cafe was expanding. We do this all the time, the "look how things are changing!" because we bought in a bit of a dogy area, but it's rapidly improving. But now partner is craving beer, and in a foul mood. I didn't even think about it, I wasn't suggesting we go there or anything, but pointing out new bars was NOT helpful and was really thoughtless.
So now he's mad, and I'm sad and worried. But there's no booze in the house (that he knows of), so there will be no drinking... today.10 -
@NonnieDoiron That is the coolest story of the week...maybe month...or year!! What an amazing young man and you have raised!! I did cry a little too.
@Alatariel75 If he made it through the night, I hope he feels better this morning. We all know how he feels. It's tough, but he's got you to support him through it
@SurferGirl1982 It's OK. Breathe and try again
I'm sitting here waiting for my SO to get home from the casino for dinner with a friend last night. I'm sure he got toasted and probably fell asleep in his truck. It's not the first time and probably won't be the last
He finally called. He drank too much and was sleeping in his truck.
AF = 19
A = 09 -
forestdweller1 wrote: »@NonnieDoiron ...such a sweet day you and yours are having. You DO NOT LOOK HORRIBLE IN THAT PHOTO !! Cute as a "bug in a rug" as my grandpa would say, and son & girl friend are adorable. Please excuse my ignorance, but what is the uniform, ROTC perhaps ??
Guess today is another AF day, at least til after 11pm.
Iwillnotcryiwillnotcryiwillnot....
Yes, the uniform is Jr.ROTC. He looks so dashing! 😉 I’m just naturally biased though. The kids had a blast last night at the dance. GF got to hang out with her friends (she doesn’t dance), my son danced like a fool, and GF allowed 1 slow dance.
Thank you for the compliment! I don’t normally step into photos when I haven’t fixed my hair (no need to immortalize my lazy disheveled-ness), but I was overwhelmed at work that morning and didn’t get to do anything with it. And, I just HAD to get my picture with him. I was too happy for him not to do it!
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You look beautiful, @NonnieDoiron and your smile is radiant!7
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@NonnieDoiron beautiful pictures and story. Your son is handsome and sounds amazing. You raised a winner.
@SurferGirl1982 you DID accomplish LESS yesterday.
▪︎started later
▪︎LESS ounces
▪︎You were aware if your drinking
▪︎You got in here and were accountable
WIN-WIN-WIN
@forestdweller1 wrote: "I plan to open a bottle of Chianti in a couple weeks. Whether it's with tears or rejoicing will determine how my LA journey continues."
Tears or Rejoicing? Did I miss a post where you mentioned why? 🥺
Here is your donkey
@Michieb125 I love your SOBERISH OCTOBERISH words. So happy your time with family was a success.
@Womona there is definitely a challenge with drinking LESS when there is a water vessel involved. My first husband and I owned two different boats in our day. Alcohol always seemed to be the first thing to get packed. Now I ask myself WHY? If ever there was a time for me to have my wits about me in case of an emergency, it would have been then. I love your athletic adventures, you keep in motion which is so important.
@SunnyDays930 @RubyRed427 @xbowhunter @globalhiker your non-alcohol check-ins are so important to this group. I for one, so admire the confidence that is oozing from each post you write. It really does inspire (even if you don't realize it) us to reach our personal goals or to have LESS in our lives.
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Thank you @MissMay. I see the Dr this Friday for my blood work. That will be 1 month AF. I am hoping it is improved as my liver enzymes were concerning the last time I had it done.8
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Yay!! Happy for you!!5
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Big HUG for all of you working at it!!! I am so impressed. I love it that folks are thinking about their plan of what will work for them.
@NonnieDoiron what wonderful news and congratulations!! I am so proud of you and your son.
So, guess what today is? Day 50 AF! And yes of those 50 days, TEN were vacation days. I can't believe I did my first AF vacation since I was a kid AND I HAD A REALLY GOOD TIME WITHOUT WINE!! I wanted to drink some of those days, but chose a soft drink instead or if after dinner, it was a chocolate and an NA beer. I love feeling rational and being emotionally on an even keel and not having the wine devil in my head controlling my thinking and practically forcing me to drink. He's like a controlling abusive partner. I really hated that feeling and now I wonder if the risk of trying to drink a bit here or there is worth it since I really don't want that wine devil coming back to control me. I feel strong and good without him.12 -
Good morning my less alcohol friends.
You are all amazing!
Another weekend AF and loving it. I'm so clear and focused with a crazy amount of energy and get up and go...lol
Everyone in my circle is now accepting of my choice to be the best version of me so it's nice to no longer be pressured to poison myself.
AF - 36
A - Never again!
Cheers and have a great Monday! 13 -
Day 29 AF
I have been so productive... cleaning, organizing, reading a lot. It's like I found several extra hours in the day! It's a gift. Went to a party yesterday. Everyone drank normally but lots of beverages there: great varieties. I skipped them and had Perrier in a wine glass. I brought my own Perrier. That's my new thing "BYOP" because not everyone has Perrier at a party!11 -
I had a very lazy Sunday binge watching a show and watching football. I did force myself to do my workout.
Monday night football tonight at the stadium will be my first big challenge this month, but right now I don't feel the urge to drink when we get there. Wine doesn't make me feel better. It doesn't make me have more fun. It would start making me feel fuzzy and sleepy right away, and I would feel terrible tomorrow. I think I can do get through AND have fun (as long as we win...lol) without wine. I did go to a game about a month ago that I didn't drink at because I had a hangover from the night before, and I had fun. Can you see I'm trying to talk myself into it?
AF = 20
A = 09 -
@NonnieDoiron how exciting for your son!!!! You must be over the moon. Congratulations to him!!
@Alatariel75 you didn’t do anything wrong- it’s not your fault that all the old businesses turned into bars. You are not responsible for your SO’s moods. Yes, it must have been a huge challenge for him, but you clearly have his back.
@SurferGirl1982 congrats on your AF day!!!!! That’s fantastic.
To all of you with huge AF streaks, you are so inspiring- especially the amount of energy you have and the ability to just get stuff done!
In addition to this past Friday, I also blew my LA goals on Saturday. We sailed up to a friend’s dock and had two glasses of champagne on the boat-then inside for another drink, then back at the dock for one more. My poor liver. I really could have gone AF yesterday, but at the last minute I caved. So, only one glass.
A friend turned me on to an AF sparkling rosé that is supposed to be really good. I need to order it online, will report back. Meanwhile time to pick up some LA wine to wean myself off.
Ok, nice Monday reset for those who need it. Thanks for the much needed inspiration, AF warriors!
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@Womona hi there - when you find out, can you let me know what brand that AF sparkling rose is and if you liked it? I am on the hunt for "the best one" for a special occasion. Too bad we can't just go to an AF sparking wine tasting!5
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I’m very excited for those of you who are grabbing the AF brass ring this month. I can hear so much enthusiasm about your new found energy! Your tenacity and commitment to honor your deepest desires around drinking is honorable 🤗.
Keep up the awesome job!
I might be an odd one but love Mondays just as much as a Saturday! Making my weekly list of things I’d like to accomplish and some things I need to take care of. This day always feels like a fresh start with new found motivation to focus on health and wellness practices.
Didn’t plan on it, but finished off the other half of a good white wine last night that I had in the garage reefer. Later this week, my DH and I head out for a fall camp trip in our travel trailer. In the past (as in years 2021/2022), I would definitely bring several bottles for my camp trips and have Prosecco each day but not this time. Seems pretty ridiculous now but I can see it was about FOMO or not having ‘enough.’
Unlike previous months, I am doing fairly well with my October goal in terms of my AF days vs. A days. But, I did have wine a few days in a row over the weekend which I will be correcting today! Will refine and reset as I go for 5 dry days this week and embrace the changing season (literally and figuratively).
May you find your best resolve just for today.
🍁🎃🍁
Current:
AF days - 12
A days - 9
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I wish I could have just one drink .... around this time of the day, right after work and before dinner, the wine witch calls my name very loudly. Sigh. I know it serves no purpose, but the habit is so ingrained in my brain. I'll make a fake G&T and pretend. I still struggle sometimes. I hope I can feel like Xbow one day, where I don't even want it.10
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