WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2024

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,360 Member
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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,269 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    bwcetc wrote: »
    Debbie. … no one can force you to take your MIL out of the hospital. Your key words to use are her “health and safety.” Her health and safety are in jeopardy. Hospitals do not want liability problems. The social worker should work with you in finding appropriate placement. Push for the place you want but realize you may end up somewhere that has an open bed first. You can still move to your place of choice later. So sorry you’re going through this.

    thank you-
    Dh is so exhausted right now that he is starting to second guess everything he is deciding. Even after all the verbal abuse from her. He does know that having her in the rehab place is the best place for her and he can not continue to be there 24/7- mentally and physically he can't.

    Can you both go home and get a good night's sleep now while she is sedated?

    he went back to the hospital to check on her because they hadn't called him then went over to check on her dog, stayed there a few hours until he had to go to work. Stopped here around 5 or 6, not sure, I was asleep, barely woke up when he was talking to the cats then was going back to his mom's. Planned on sleeping a few hours at her place.
    After all the abuse, he is still worried about her being upset and not knowing why he isn't there. He was told not to come because she gets more aggetated.
    I am hoping with some sleep, a decent meal(he picked up food for himself at the Asian place he likes), he will have a bit more of a clear head. Upset that he has to put her in a home instead of letting her stay at her own home, but knows he can't take this anymore.
    She has been telling us for years she wants to go into a home like where we had his aunt. Somewhere where they will do everything for her, feed her just what she wants(even though he buys what she says she wants then turns her nose up at it), Where she wants to go and thinks she deserves is NOT the place she is going. The place Annie was at was very nice but was independent living which Fumiko is no well enough for.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,269 Member
    bwcetc wrote: »
    Debbie ... I did a little research on the potential legal action for leaving an Alzheimer's patient home alone. There is NO actual law in regards to leaving a person with demential home alone. But it's a fine line and depends a lot on individual circumstances. Are you her sole caregiver? Does she depend on you for mobility? Does she live with you or on her own? Things of that nature. Is it possible to be arrested for neglect ... yes, if something were to happen that could be traced back to poor care/neglect/abuse/etc.

    Dh is her sole caregiver. I go help once in a while. For a long time I was going every morning with him to walk her dog while he gave her her meds, made her breakfast, etc. She got mad that I was always over there. She doesn't think he should spend so much time with me(time where he should be just sitting there with her while she sleeps or yells at him, calling him terrible names). For the past two months I haven't gone to walk the dog because it makes it easier on dh-one less thing for her to complain about. I do go help with things he can't do by himself. I am a LOT calmer towards her and have a ton more patience than he has.I will admit, when I got called over there at 3:30AM I was not as calm or patient as I could have been when she wouldn't let me help her. I started out very calm and quiet but when she fought me and pushed back so hard it hurt my back, I was done. Just leave her on the floor and call for medical transport. Not worth hurting myself.
    She can walk, she does shuffle a lot(she walks almost normal if she doesn't think anyone is watching her-when we are watching, she shuffles, moans and groans, saying she can't walk)
    A few months ago she was saying she couldn't walk and needed to go to the hospital. Took her, ran tests, they found nothing wrong, she yelled saying the doctors were stupid for not finding anything and yep, got up and walked across the room there and also at her house when we got her back home. She can usually get up out of her chair by herself- it is one of the mobility/lift chairs. She stays in that 23.5 hrs a day or more.
    She lives on her own. Dh goes over twice a day every day, staying up to 3-4 hrs at a time, sometimes longer(just sitting there while she yells at him).
    She is capable of still showering by herself, cooking for her self when she wants to, basic cleaning but she chooses to sit there in her chair demanding things from dh. Constant get me water, I want coffee, etc
    She feels any pain at all is the worst pain ever. She has arthritis in many areas so yes she hurts. The pain meds do help but the hallucinations were so bad the doctor cut the dosage in half- that made her really mad, of course, blaming dh for witholding her meds from her
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,392 Member
    Today is

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    RVRita
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,392 Member
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    Hugs to all, RVRita
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,901 Member
    Hello, my chickens, from the vasty dark of the forests of the Arkansas River Valley,

    Sounds grand, doesn't it? In all honesty, the trees look better in the dark, as the leaves and their colors have all fallen away and the bare branches shiver in the wind's winter chill. This land is about three-quarter hardwood and the rest evergreen, so lots of places with no green at all. We live seven miles from the nearest town, and at this time of year, we always see houses on the way in that we had forgotten were there, as they're well back in the tree line!

    Debbie - Just sending good thoughts for you and your husband.

    Rebecca - I remember those days, in NCO clubs and base bowling alleys, 40 years ago now. Amazing that they're that empty, but I guess everyone who can has gone home for the holidays.

    Terri - Such a lovely family.

    Heather - Enjoy your fun family get-together. It sounds wonderful.

    Allie - Just sending good thoughts, baby girl.

    Tracey - Hope the wrapping party went very well!

    Headed for town in 45 minutes, hoping my gut doesn't go sideways in the interim. Either here or there is fine, but in between would be disastrous. I carry a change of clothes in the car, always, but haven't had to use it in a long time. Just hard to get appointment times that arrange themselves around the behavior of my wonky digestive system.

    Time to print out the notes I've made in the last month or so - questions to ask, referrals to ask for.

    More later, most likely,
    Love y'all!
    Lisa in AR

    The gal that was running the burger and pizza joint taking peoples orders was also the gal that was supposed to take drink orders in the bar. Three people came in to look around, but just assumed it wasn't open though music was playing. One lone guy sat at the bar for a bit, totally ignored. Definitely not slot of workers present. In my husbands day, the place would've been packed and the dancing floor full.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,901 Member
    kymarai wrote: »
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    This is where she sleeps when we go to bed. Apparently needed more cuddles this morning. Yes, I am chilling in bed so excuse the hair!

    Beth and Allie Thank you for your suggestions to Debbie. Such a hard position to be in.

    Debbie and Annie Such a hard place to be in. Hugs held extra!

    Rebecca I feel the same as you about this community. I miss when I am not here.

    After searching for the lights for the little truck for an hour, found them in the truck! Managed to not kill each other and got her decorated and ready for tonight. Vacuumed carpets again. DH said they look good. The main carpet so needs replaced. It is 33 years old, has staining, and the pad is deteriorating. Have thought of vinyl plank like in kitchen/laundry room but love the warmth of carpet. The thought of removing furniture and nicnaks sends my anxiety into tornado mood though! So as long as no bare spots it stays! Cleaned kittens water dish and cleaned up kitchen, mopped floor. Hmm, no cookies made....DED texted me and said youngest granddaughter wants to bake cookies with me! She is 15 and even though it is after the holidays we are making it a date! I did manage to get nails stuck on last night. I like press on for holidays and special events. Sorted gifts, still need to wrap. Other than 3 hrs work then a massage tomorrow, I have time. We will go to both girls houses on Christmas day.
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    Better get started on this day! It has been 27 yrs since my father in law passed on this day.

    Short work day today too. Will post some parade pictures after tonight.

    Love to all!
    Hugs held tight!
    Kylia in Ohio as ready as I am going to be for Christmas

    Pretty nails! Can't wait to see your neighborhood parade photos! Enjoy the baking date with granddaughter!🎁💖👍🏼🤗. Don't forget to both wear aprons! I renember once when baking with Athena, I had brought down my apron for her to wear. It was more like a dress, but I warmed my heart when later that month the other grandma (she goes by Gigi) said when they were going to bake, "I need to wear my grandma's apron".
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    Hugs!
    Merry Christmas
    I don't think I have your address, send me a private text please!
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,557 Member
    Rebecca – when we first moved to this neighborhood, NO ONE decorated. Now about ½ do. Last night while I was taking the pictures, someone drove up and said “whenever we visit my mother, we always have to drive by your house”. Made me feel good. When I’m not here for a while, I feel like I’ve lost my right arm

    Allie – I’m so sorry Kyle won’t take any meds.

    Rita – when you told Allie “don’t wait until someone ends up in the hospital” all I could think of was “or worse”

    We’ll probably need to leave for Jess’ in an hour or so and I know that I’ll need to shut off my computer. I’ll be thinking of you all.

    Michele NC
    who is sad that she can’t play mahjongg online in the car. At least I can play at Jess’
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,731 Member
    Carol My nails are press ons! Easy. Polish doesn't last on mine with gasoline at work, so I use press ons for fancy/pretty events. Thank you!
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,269 Member
    Got woken up early and couldn't get back to sleep so decided to get some things done. Feels good.
    Finally got my first Christmas card done- added a two page letter in it to an old friend, former neighbor when I lived on base. I didn't hear from her last year so a lot to catch up on.

    Got the gifts/treats for all the zumba classmates-sweets, of course( four kinds of fudge, four kinds of cracker toffee,Christmas nougat, walnut date bars- just a bit of each) plus they get to pick either knee high sherpa lined socks or a box of 5pair of fuzzy small socks, a candle, a pen and a Blistex chap stick.
    Shopped all year and got some amazing deals- nice gifts for them but didn't cost me a ton which is good when I did 16 bags. The two guys got a few other things, though, they might actually like the fuzzy socks.

    Waiting to hear from DH- don't want to bug him. Hoping he is sleeping but doubt it(although, he hasnt messaged me so he might be)
    I need to pick up a few things to take to mom's tomorrow. I will see if he wants to go with me or if I should just go myself. Do need to get gas for sure- Not driving up there on just over 1/4 tank.

    Dished to do first then get dressed and maybe another cup of tea.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,269 Member
    haha-I guess I do type fast and a lot- after typing that last comment, my fitbit says I am earning my activity points or what ever it says. Thinks I am really moving. Even more than when I am actually up and doing stuff.
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,705 Member
    MFP Weekly Check-In for December 23, 2024

    Rita in Roswell, NM - Up another pound this week. Not happy about that. I need to get back to using the My Plate I bought. Good way for me to control portions. I think I will wait until next week, after Christmas to start back.

    Barbara on the Southern Oregon Coast- WT Sunday settled down to 130.8 from 133.0, weekly average down to 130.6 from 131.4. Weekly average steps improved to 6167 from 5413, still short of goal 7778. Went line dancing only once, skipped BB&B and dog group entirely due fudge frenzy and parcel packing.. CI less than CO (whew) and sugar somewhat improved. AF, PT & Zumba still a dream. Easing back onto track, scale showed 129.7 this morning thank goodness.

    Sure miss the thread, promised myself a nice long catchup soon, maybe Christmas eve.
    Longest night is behind us so we've turned the corner!
    Merry Christmas all! xo, Barbara


    Lanette SW WA State – weight still at 160. If I can keep it there, that’s a win (it was my original goal.) Step daily average 6797, down a bit from last week. Still walking with weights – but waiting 30 minutes after eating to let digestion start first.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,360 Member
    edited December 23
    Stats for the day-

    Walk w/family - 5mi= 531c
    Walk home to gym- 52c
    Treadmill jog- 10.33min mi, 5k= 312c
    Treadmill jog- 9.56min mi, 1.90mi= 198c
    Overall 5 miles 10.12min mi
    Walk gym to home = 55c
    Total cal 1148

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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,901 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Rebecca – when we first moved to this neighborhood, NO ONE decorated. Now about ½ do. Last night while I was taking the pictures, someone drove up and said “whenever we visit my mother, we always have to drive by your house”. Made me feel good. When I’m not here for a while, I feel like I’ve lost my right arm

    Allie – I’m so sorry Kyle won’t take any meds.

    Rita – when you told Allie “don’t wait until someone ends up in the hospital” all I could think of was “or worse”

    We’ll probably need to leave for Jess’ in an hour or so and I know that I’ll need to shut off my computer. I’ll be thinking of you all.

    Michele NC
    who is sad that she can’t play mahjongg online in the car. At least I can play at Jess’

    Oh sweet makes all your hard work mean something when you get comments like that! How nice!👍🏼💖
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
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