WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2025

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  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,570 Member
    Snow: earlier today I got a message on my tablet that the schools are having a 2 hr delay tomorrow. Makes me laugh. But this is the south. What is Lynette going to do when she has to drive from the house to her work. As it is, one time we had a dusting and she told me that she was going to ask Vince to drive her to work since he has a big vehicle. Ahhhh I don’t think so

    Allie – good luck tomorrow

    Michele NC
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,411 Member
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  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,092 Member
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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,208 Member
    🤗 🤗 🤗 and 🙏 🙏 🙏 to those who want/need them.

    céad míle fáilte to our new ladies.

    ☘️ Terri

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,745 Member
    edited January 6
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    I needed 51 AA batteries to operate everything I had lit at Christmas. I bought a pack of Duracell on sale as my first set, I don’t think they lasted very well. The second set I bought was Walmart brand and they’re still going.

    I try, as much as possible, to get USB powered lights. They were popular for a little while, then seemed to have mostly disappeared. I would have more random twinkly lights about if more were USB powered.

    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    I woke up this morning and it was cold in here. I asked Rodger if the furnace had been on and he said yes, but it was having to get really cold in here before it kicked in. I looked at the thermostat and the temperature was only 18C.

    18C (65F) is about as hot as I like it indoors, and if it is 18, I will be in shorts, a tank top, and likely barefoot.

    We keep our air con running at 16C and fortunately, with our new sunscreen shades, that keeps the temperature about 18C in the mornings and evenings. During the day, it gets a bit uncomfortable at about 22C (71F), but I add fans to try to keep things cool or go outside where there's always a breeze. Overnight, the temperature drops to 16C (61F), or sometimes a bit lower.

    At work, I've now got 2 fans blowing on me to try to keep me cool because the temperature in there is a toasty 21 or 22C.

    It's a cool night outside, so it is 16C in here right now, and I'm in shorts and a tank top ... but I have a light sleeveless top over the tank top and I have small socks on.

    I bought 2 new tank tops today ... I wear them so often!

    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    I’m tired of having to figure everything out and I have no one to blame but myself.
    My parents were really a traditional male/female role household. If something went wrong mom would even call my Dad to come home from work to deal with it if it was something urgent. If Dad couldn’t her Father lived right across from us and when my brother was about 12 he started fixing things. I never wanted to be one of those women that had to depend on a man, I think I took it way too far and Rodger just let me. Why should he have to think about any of it when he knows I will.
    Tracey in Edmonton

    Whidislander wrote: »
    I think each mate having different tasks is important. If I make a labor intensive meal (lots of pans used etc) he will tidy in the kitchen as much as he's able, putting leftovers in containers, dishes in dishwasher. I just have to hand wash some pots and the cast iron. I might bring in a load of bags first off from the car after a grocery haul, but I let him do the multiple trips from the garage, because I put everything away. I think its a give and take. I would be exhausted if not only did I have to make the meal but totally clean up everything. If your mate is on the "same level" health wise as you, you and him should delegate tasks equally. It seems only fair.
    That's my two cents anyways.😁💖
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    Absolutely Rebecca!!

    My husband and I have even divided up the yard. The backyard is his (mostly) and the front yard is mine (mostly). And our laundry - he does his and I do mine.

    I have taken on more since my husband's accident, but even so, he still does as many of "his things" as he can.

    Maybe it's because we married later in life and had both gotten used to doing things for ourselves.



    More on Vitamins, Minerals, etc.

    B6, Calcium, and Evening Primrose Oil seemed to help with my menstruation issues. They seemed to ease the nausea, bloating and pain a bit. Thankfully I don't need B6 or Evening Primrose Oil very often now.

    I was actually a little puzzled why a man would be on B6 in that article because I associate B6 with "women's issues". :smiley:

    I have been prescribed 5 mg of folic acid and B12 for my MTHFR.

    I take a Vit D in winter.

    I take some of the electrolytes (calcium, magnesium) when I'm exercising a lot or gardening in hot weather. I also salt my food and eat food with potassium in those conditions.

    And opposite to Lisa, I don't take iron and I limit my Vitamin C intake.

    kymarai wrote: »
    Vitamins I take B12, magnesium, iron, and in winter D3 with K2. Right now that is working for me. I don't do well on just a multivitamin. By taking these individually I can adjust how my body feels. Call me weird, but about once a week, I hold the vitamin bottle, close my eyes, and ask my body if I need this vitamin. If I sway that means yes, if I hold steady, I feel it is my body saying no. Sounds kind of woohoo, but has helped in my vitamin decisions. Probably need to add fish once or twice a week to my diet for Omegas, but yuck :neutral:
    Kylia in Ohio not stressing about upcoming storm

    I'm with you on fish but you could take a fish oil capsule. :)


    margaretturk wrote: »
    I went to the British arrow awards last night. It is the best of British Commercials. I enjoyed it. Interesting there were no big Pharma commercials in that mix. One of my favs was the little boy with his Venus Fly Trap. Many thoughtful ones about Climate Change and family values. The Marmite commercial was cute. They had pregnant moms eating it and then watching the babies faces in utero and their reaction to Marmite. Thought of you Macha because I know you have mentioned it. Here I guess they call it VegX.

    If the UK is like Canada and Australia, it may not be allowed to show drug ads. You won't see them on Canadian or Australian TV. I find it hilarious when we go to Canada and watch a US TV channel with SO MANY drug ads and they're all the same.

    Do you have any of these symptoms? (And probably every one of us does have those symptoms at some point.) Talk to your doctor about the new drug FIXALL. FIXALL will fix every one of your symptoms (and we'll show you images of people living full and active lives in the background). Are you ready to start taking FIXALL and become one of these exciting people? .............. And then, the mechanical voice comes on listing the thousands of side effects of FIXALL, including all the symptoms that FIXALL is supposed to fix.

    My doctor would see me to the door if I came in and suggested I needed a medication!!



    Marmite is British ... Vegemite is Australian. Apparently, they are similar but there's something significant that identifies one or the other. I've never had Marmite, and did not like Vegemite!! I haven't eaten Vegemite in 20 years and that is OK with me. :grin:


    Machka in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,745 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    they were showing some of Tasmania..beautiful down there.

    It is beautiful here. :)

  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,419 Member
    Not sure how much snow we actually got. I don't think my neighborhood too bad-maybe 3-4? But rest of county must be worse-County has closed offices for day. All schools closed. It really does help I they can clear the roads without a bunch of people competing with them. With the wind drifting gets bad on county roads. Since I have been up for while monitoring and them making calls-I may just stretch out on the couch for a bit

    Ginny in Ohio-and I agree with Kylia-very white!
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,411 Member
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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,966 Member
    OregonMother wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    ginnytez wrote: »
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    Debbie-good luck with MIL decision. While she may like it at home, bottom line is she will get better care in a facility most likely. While it is costly, it sounds like she has the money and then the government will kick in.


    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio

    Dh(who yes is the most pessimistic pessimist around) says that she won't get any help, $$ wise, until she cleans out her bank accounts and sells the house and uses that money for her care.
    I don't think it is that drastic but it might be.
    She has three medical insurances( Kaiser, Tri-care, Medicare) so something should help with the cost I would think. He says there is help through the VA but her monthly income is over the threshold so they won't help. Before he said it was because she would have too much money in her savings after getting the money from her brother(which she only got half of, niece took the other half).
    He just keeps saying- that is like a new car every four months - $8000 per month for the care.
    Having her in the rehab place hasn't lessened the burden on him really. Just added more stress because they are pushing to get her out of there. He still goes twice a day plus two times or more to take care of the dog and hang out with him because he is lonely.
    Yesterday was the first time he saw his mom just one time but we were over with the dog twice.
    I can't say much or he gets very angry- unless I am agreeing with him-can't have an opinion of my own

    Debbie

    Time for church- then pick up the dog to take him over to see her.

    I think he is correct, Debbie. My mother-in-law got Medicaid help with her long-term care, but she was not allowed to have more than $2000 in savings. They didn't count her house. Then when she died, they "billed" the estate for what they had spent in her care, to the tune of $130,000. We sold her house to one of my stepson's for basically what we owed Medicaid and paid them off. My husband thought it was immoral, but really, why should the taxpayers pay for her care when she did have an asset? I don't know what they would have done to get the money if she hadn't had her home. I am assuming they would not have come after us for it, but I don't know for sure.

    My mother had long-term care insurance which paid us back for most of what we spent for her long-term care; otherwise, we would have had to pay it all out of pocket until she got down to $2000, minus her house. In other words, I don't think you would have to sell the house first, but I think the state will have to try to get back what they have spent. The federal government requires it. (This is from the research we did after his mom died and we received the bill.)

    They only way to get around it is to transfer wealth five years before the care is needed. A co-worker did this with his mother's assets, transferred them all into his name, and they prayed that she would last five years before needing care. She did, just. And now, of course, she accuses him of stealing her house and money, but it worked for all of them, and he was able to protect her assets and investments.

    But thankfully your MIL has the money to afford a nice place, because what Medicaid pays for isn't nice. We upgraded my MIL, and we paid, I think $1200 a month, out of our pockets to put her in a place that wasn't for "poor people," as she said. Completely oblivious to the fact that she was just about as poor as a person could be.

    I understand the pressure, too. Once the rehab place my mother was in realized that she wasn't going to improve, they were pushing us to find her a long-term care situation. I personally don't think going home from rehab, when it is determined that you can't improve, is a wise decision. But everyone has to do what is right for their families.

    Hang in there!

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, OR

    For a time after my mother in laws husband passed (my husbands stepfather) she sent us a fair amount of money to hide in our savings, then she got it back after a time.🙄💖.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,966 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Whidislander wrote: »
    Regarding letting a man fix things, Lee is of the opinion that he just calls other men (or woman) that know more, and get paid for know it, well he keeps businesses going in doing so. He is not a fiddler, or a person that takes something apart just to figure it out. I do let him do a lot of things though. If there is a power outage it is he that goes round and resets everything. He reorganizes the dishes in the dishwasher because evidently I don't do it correctly (frustrating)! I think each mate having different tasks is important. If I make a labor intensive meal (lots of pans used etc) he will tidy in the kitchen as much as he's able, putting leftovers in containers, dishes in dishwasher. I just have to hand wash some pots and the cast iron. I might bring in a load of bags first off from the car after a grocery haul, but I let him do the multiple trips from the garage, because I put everything away. I think its a give and take. I would be exhausted if not only did I have to make the meal but totally clean up everything. If your mate is on the "same level" health wise as you, you and him should delegate tasks equally. It seems only fair.
    That's my two cents anyways.😁💖
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    I like your "two cents"- sure would be nice. My dh also goes behind me when I do things like cleaning the litter boxes or feeding the cats, lawn work at his mom's house- because it isn't up to his standards- Yes, very frustrating.
    He does not help with any cooking, dishes, laundry, garbage, etc Then gets mad because he wants me to help him when he cleans the second catio(the cat keeps getting out because of the way he does it plus takes so long to do it, cleaning, vacuuming, etc every day and he is too fat to be inside with the door closed. Doing that catio is the one chore I don't do but I do feed them twice a day in there. Do it quick and get out before he wants to come out. He just wants to eat. The other cat just hides in there when I feed them-she is totally feral.

    Debbie

    Husband only does the dishwasher deal, but he knows I clean things up better than him. When I come back from visiting my sisters, the first thing I do is get a soapy scrubber and wash down the kitchen counters and stovetop. Writing my name in shiny grease is not ever gonna happen in my kitchen, (but it happens when I am gone!).
    I am sorry your husband is cruel, and doesn't help you like he should. ((((((((Big hugs)))))))) to you for dealing, and doing your best.💖
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,682 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    OregonMother wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    ginnytez wrote: »
    [b

    Debbie-good luck with MIL decision. While she may like it at home, bottom line is she will get better care in a facility most likely. While it is costly, it sounds like she has the money and then the government will kick in.


    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio

    Dh(who yes is the most pessimistic pessimist around) says that she won't get any help, $$ wise, until she cleans out her bank accounts and sells the house and uses that money for her care.
    I don't think it is that drastic but it might be.
    She has three medical insurances( Kaiser, Tri-care, Medicare) so something should help with the cost I would think. He says there is help through the VA but her monthly income is over the threshold so they won't help. Before he said it was because she would have too much money in her savings after getting the money from her brother(which she only got half of, niece took the other half).
    He just keeps saying- that is like a new car every four months - $8000 per month for the care.
    Having her in the rehab place hasn't lessened the burden on him really. Just added more stress because they are pushing to get her out of there. He still goes twice a day plus two times or more to take care of the dog and hang out with him because he is lonely.
    Yesterday was the first time he saw his mom just one time but we were over with the dog twice.
    I can't say much or he gets very angry- unless I am agreeing with him-can't have an opinion of my own

    Debbie

    Time for church- then pick up the dog to take him over to see her.

    I think he is correct, Debbie. My mother-in-law got Medicaid help with her long-term care, but she was not allowed to have more than $2000 in savings. They didn't count her house. Then when she died, they "billed" the estate for what they had spent in her care, to the tune of $130,000. We sold her house to one of my stepson's for basically what we owed Medicaid and paid them off. My husband thought it was immoral, but really, why should the taxpayers pay for her care when she did have an asset? I don't know what they would have done to get the money if she hadn't had her home. I am assuming they would not have come after us for it, but I don't know for sure.

    My mother had long-term care insurance which paid us back for most of what we spent for her long-term care; otherwise, we would have had to pay it all out of pocket until she got down to $2000, minus her house. In other words, I don't think you would have to sell the house first, but I think the state will have to try to get back what they have spent. The federal government requires it. (This is from the research we did after his mom died and we received the bill.)

    They only way to get around it is to transfer wealth five years before the care is needed. A co-worker did this with his mother's assets, transferred them all into his name, and they prayed that she would last five years before needing care. She did, just. And now, of course, she accuses him of stealing her house and money, but it worked for all of them, and he was able to protect her assets and investments.

    But thankfully your MIL has the money to afford a nice place, because what Medicaid pays for isn't nice. We upgraded my MIL, and we paid, I think $1200 a month, out of our pockets to put her in a place that wasn't for "poor people," as she said. Completely oblivious to the fact that she was just about as poor as a person could be.

    I understand the pressure, too. Once the rehab place my mother was in realized that she wasn't going to improve, they were pushing us to find her a long-term care situation. I personally don't think going home from rehab, when it is determined that you can't improve, is a wise decision. But everyone has to do what is right for their families.

    Hang in there!

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, OR

    For a time after my mother in laws husband passed (my husbands stepfather) she sent us a fair amount of money to hide in our savings, then she got it back after a time.🙄💖.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    My mil had thousands of dollars stashed around her house. We had to go through everything, literally.

    It's sad that it has to come to that, but it is what it is.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley OR
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,414 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Good evening all
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    Here is a group picture of all of us at the party.. Dan had a blast..and those he grew up with him were there.. and his mom and dad..
    ,I forked out for the cake and the pizza your kid only turns 40 once.
    Tracy didnt want to take the kids out that late..they go to bed early.. sent her the picture
    She start works tomorrow, and I start watching little girl..

    Allie, I seem to know that restaurant! What was the name? I think I’ve been there for a Christmas party when I was working at the printing shop in Newington. Brought back instant memories!

    Prayers for all your stress. Hugs too….

    RVRita

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