for guys... When you see a girl with limited clothing on..

Hasn't it already been established that guys are always thinking dirty thoughts? I don't think it matters what we wear.

This is true, but the thoughts are extra naughty if a woman is wearing a sports jersey.

I see what you did there, Cool James.

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I picture pretty much every single woman I meet naked with a few exceptions such as close family and someone I'm in no way, shape, or form attracted to. I think a lot more profane things of some. And no, I'm not bothered by it when I'm in a relationship because unlike what some like to believe thoughts are just that, thoughts.

I am, obviously, not a guy...But - depending on her figure (if I like it) i will think dirty thoughts about her. Just sayin, this isn't really a Men only question.

I think your cousin is trying to be diplomatic or he plays for another team. "dirty and impure thoughts?" Having sexual thoughts is what makes a male. Acting or not acting on them is what differentiates the men from the boys.

And the women from the girls...

I usually wonder if what they have on comes in my size, then how dirty THEIR thoughts of ME would be.

It's like reverse-sexicism.

and I just made that ^ word up.

I usually wonder if what they have on comes in my size, then how dirty THEIR thoughts of ME would be.

It's like reverse-sexicism.

and I just made that ^ word up.

Um, no you didn't.

If a woman dresses in a way that is sexually revealing, then, do you think it is inappropriate if she gets extra attention (cat calls, etc.)? Or do you think she is, in a way, wanting the attention and dressing to gain that attention?

Biologically speaking, visual displays and audible calls have always been a method of attracting a mate. It's true of many species in the animal kingdom, and despite most humans not wanting to admit that they are animals our animal nature cannot be denied, and can rarely be repressed with any level of success.

In a way, on a subconscious and primal level, we're trying to attract a lover when we make such calls or give such visual displays, but this doesn't mean that we're consciously asking for any increased attention or that we're dressing in such a way intentionally to gain attention. Much of what we do is due to subconscious activity that we have very little control over.

In the modern world there is a loose set of mores that people are expected to live by, e.g., not walking around in public completely nude. That example is pretty widely adhered to, and is generally not an issue unless drugs or alcohol are involved...or lots of money and a dare. Anyway, one of those mores is called "decency" and though the legal definitions vary it's pretty common that anything goes in public except for exposing one's breasts or genitals--and breasts are OK under certain maternal circumstances. So, if one goes out in public wearing just enough to cover the breasts and vulva (like some bikinis), that's fine, and it should be fine.

In regards to the calls, stares and other possibly "inappropriate" behaviour...it's not inappropriate at all. It's natural, and it can't be repressed. We cannot rationally expect to repress millions of years of evolution, and when we try to the consequences are often quite negative. So, when you're out in public and you hear someone whistle or yell something over your way, just keep moving, smile, and realise that your part of a biological system that is more complex than you've ever realised, and what's just occurred is simply natural.

Too wordy? Meh, boredom. lol

Seeing sexy women walking around is like similar to a restaurant. You can look at the menu, you can consider eating what's on the menu, but it doesn't mean you're going to actually eat at the restaurant, no matter how good it looks.

Seeing sexy women walking around is like similar to a restaurant. You can look at the menu, you can consider eating what's on the menu, but it doesn't mean you're going to actually eat at the restaurant, no matter how good it looks.

Was that your lengthy way of saying you don't dine at the Y?

I keep covered up for safety reasons. My husband said if I wore lowcut tops in public, men would be walking into walls, causing traffic accidents, etc. So I save them for at home, where they can't do any harm. Hahaha. Seriously though, there is power in a woman's body, and if you are choosy about whose attention you want, or what kind, take ten seconds and think about what you're wearing. I think women underestimate the effect of showing less. Also, I'd appreciate it if my sons didn't have to grow up bombarded with sexual images. I want them to respect women, so it would be nice if women respected themselves and showed a good example.