Ex boyfriend advice desperately needed

bks1
bks1 Posts: 32 Member
edited October 4 in Chit-Chat
im not sure if this is the right place to post this- but it's doing my head in and I'm hoping someone can shed some insight on this guy for me. Ok, a brief summary- we were together 4yrs, he broke up with me a year ago and broke my heart, he found someone straight away and they are still together. He emailed me out of the blue several months ago- just chit chat, very light hearted, nothing specific- so I replied. Maybe 5 emails to and fro. Then he stopped emailing for the past month.

Today I open my email to find THIS sent from him (yesterday)
(I copied and pasted it).

Can I get a shirt from you?
 
I wrote this massive email explaining the reason but it was like, not weird or anything, I swear.
 
I can't explain it. You know.
 
I can't even explain why. There has been this annoying voice in the back of my head to ask you, actually, the voice sounds like you, haha. kidding.
 
I'll be upfront, I have no interest in seeing you, or catching up or having a friendship. I just have this urge to smell you. ok, that has got to be the most weirdest, creepiest thing I ever wrote. But its the truth.
 
I am normal, just got a quirk or two.
 
Anywho, I dont know how the logistics will work, I guess I'll give you the address to post to if you agree to the worlds most creepiest request. But honestly, Im not being creepy, I really can't explain it.
 
I really cant hey.
 
Well, bartering is a two way street. Is there anything I can offer in return?
 
Besides my awesomesness!!!!!!


.....And THAT was his email. He never used to be a creep, he's still with his girlfriend- I can't even begin to understand the motivation or thought process behind this email.

And to be honest, it really hurt when he said he didn't want a friendship-
I just assumed he did, otherwise why initiate contact??

I'm so sorry for the length of this, my dear MFP friends. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.

All I really want is if anyone is able to help me understand why he would send something like this. I'm just flummoxed.
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  • _beachgirl_
    _beachgirl_ Posts: 3,865 Member
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,387 Member
    I'd block him from my email and phone.
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    What the hell? :noway:
  • ahinescapron
    ahinescapron Posts: 351 Member
    Agreed...block the perv!
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

    this.
  • nananie2
    nananie2 Posts: 272 Member
    Boy, that is creepy... get away from him, fast!
  • sweetie89207
    sweetie89207 Posts: 361
    creeper...block his loser face...but i do agree- forward it to the g-f...then block it completely....this guy is a loser and u dont wanna be anything to him...including friends
  • sharonsjones
    sharonsjones Posts: 574 Member
    I Agree too. Block the weirdo! God was on ur side when he broke up with u. You missed a bullet!
  • robertf57
    robertf57 Posts: 560 Member
    Too creepy! BLOCK and forward to the current girlfriend if you can.....
  • Ready4Changes
    Ready4Changes Posts: 89
    Ya, I agree block him
  • cheetahcub2010
    cheetahcub2010 Posts: 62 Member
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

    I'm going to agree with this. Show this to the new girl. As for his motivation, I really couldn't say, hopefully some males with read this and have something more helpful to add.
  • KatieCuth
    KatieCuth Posts: 569 Member
    Well there is a postive at least he is being honest to you even its quite wierd.

    We cant really tell you what to do but he is still playing you... so dont take it in... leave it at the door its being one year.. the future is bright...
  • edmondskm
    edmondskm Posts: 22
    He's already said that he doesn't want to be your friend so he doesn't want anything more than that so block that ****.
  • _GlaDOS_
    _GlaDOS_ Posts: 1,520 Member
    You can't explain crazy. Ignore!
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    they say scent is the strongest trigger for memories..so maybe he's feeling nostalgic? either way. it's not your problem.
  • jillinthbox
    jillinthbox Posts: 18 Member
    Move forward not backward. Just a little strength will get you past thinking about him and this. Get yourself busy and go meet new people. You'll forget soon enough. Move on!
  • Aeliyah
    Aeliyah Posts: 247
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

    I like that idea. Even if he was creepin, or had whatever type of fetish, etc., it doesn't - and shouldn't - involve you now. I'm sure what he said hurt... but I personally wouldn't want ANYthing to do with this guy after that email...

    Best of luck...
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Two words...pepper spray.
  • wormzmom
    wormzmom Posts: 11
    What a creep! Pity the poor girl that is with him, honey, and thank ur lucky stars to be rid of him! I agree, block him, and get urself a decent man!
  • crazytxmom
    crazytxmom Posts: 166 Member
    Honey, take his email & his memory and delete them! Never waste another thought on him!

    Best of luck to ya!
  • wormzmom
    wormzmom Posts: 11
    What a creep! Pity the poor girl that is with him, honey, and thank ur lucky stars to be rid of him! I agree, block him, and get urself a decent man!
  • vichick20
    vichick20 Posts: 96 Member
    That has to be the strangest request I have ever heard! Do you think he is trying to play an odd game of severe reverse psychology? I can't imagine why he would ask for that (... other than being a little insane!) unless he still had some feelings for you. I AM NOT suggesting you send it though, or give into whatever game he is playing with you.

    My advice, try not to obsess over the "why". Just move on and do not reply to him (i know the curiosity is probably killing you, but it is what he wants probably). You are much better off without him (whether he is crazy or just playing head games). If you don't trust yourself, delete his email addy and phone number so you can't contact him.
  • kyrstensmom
    kyrstensmom Posts: 297 Member
    It sounds to me like he's trying to hurt you again. You are moving on and he can't stand it. Take the high road. Just politely decline and ask him not to contact you again. If he does, thats when you come out guns blazing and forward that email (that you of course saved) to the current GF. He sounds like a creep and you are better off without him.
  • megz4987
    megz4987 Posts: 1,008 Member
    Well I only ever miss someones smell if I miss THEM so he's either confused or... yea, a creep. Being that he thinks he's SO AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!! I'm going with creep.
  • NashvilleShelley
    NashvilleShelley Posts: 238
    This is just way to weird for me....

    I would block him. I would suggest not forwarding to his gf because that is starting something that you don't need. Just get the creep out of your life.
  • TheCats_Meow
    TheCats_Meow Posts: 438 Member
    What the what?!?!

    I don't want to see you or be your friend but I want to SMELL you?!?!?!?!

    That's just.........creepy isn't enough to describe how weird that is!

    I concur with the others; block & ignore.

    Forwarding the e-mail to current girlfriend would be epic, but yeah, definitely ignore!

    Good luck, sweetie!
  • acasey0123
    acasey0123 Posts: 640 Member
    he wants to smell you?!?!? creep-y
  • Healthy_Hannah483
    Healthy_Hannah483 Posts: 151 Member
    Agree with the people above me. BLOCK, BLOCK, BLOCK. Nothing good can come from keeping in contact or submitting to his request.
  • red01angel
    red01angel Posts: 806 Member
    I'd block him from my email and phone.

    But first tell him to fvck off.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,954 Member
    im not sure if this is the right place to post this- but it's doing my head in and I'm hoping someone can shed some insight on this guy for me. Ok, a brief summary- we were together 4yrs, he broke up with me a year ago and broke my heart, he found someone straight away and they are still together. He emailed me out of the blue several months ago- just chit chat, very light hearted, nothing specific- so I replied. Maybe 5 emails to and fro. Then he stopped emailing for the past month.

    Today I open my email to find THIS sent from him (yesterday)
    (I copied and pasted it).

    Can I get a shirt from you?
     
    I wrote this massive email explaining the reason but it was like, not weird or anything, I swear.
     
    I can't explain it. You know.
     
    I can't even explain why. There has been this annoying voice in the back of my head to ask you, actually, the voice sounds like you, haha. kidding.
     
    I'll be upfront, I have no interest in seeing you, or catching up or having a friendship. I just have this urge to smell you. ok, that has got to be the most weirdest, creepiest thing I ever wrote. But its the truth.
     
    I am normal, just got a quirk or two.
     
    Anywho, I dont know how the logistics will work, I guess I'll give you the address to post to if you agree to the worlds most creepiest request. But honestly, Im not being creepy, I really can't explain it.
     
    I really cant hey.
     
    Well, bartering is a two way street. Is there anything I can offer in return?
     
    Besides my awesomesness!!!!!!


    .....And THAT was his email. He never used to be a creep, he's still with his girlfriend- I can't even begin to understand the motivation or thought process behind this email.

    And to be honest, it really hurt when he said he didn't want a friendship-
    I just assumed he did, otherwise why initiate contact??

    I'm so sorry for the length of this, my dear MFP friends. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.

    All I really want is if anyone is able to help me understand why he would send something like this. I'm just flummoxed.
    He's testing you to see if you're still hanging on......................nothing better for a man's ego than to be wanted by women.
    He's a douche. I say *kitten* on a shirt and send it to him.
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