Ex boyfriend advice desperately needed

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  • travelgirl96
    travelgirl96 Posts: 68
    sounds like you're better off without him. you could send him a shirt that has "CREEP" printed on the front.
  • abrantner
    abrantner Posts: 90
    Wow, just wow.. I even read it to my husband.. and the response is still wow. But I do concur with the majority opinion here, block him and forget about him. I sounds to me like he's on some kind of control/power trip. He wants to smell you but doesn't want anything to do with you? What a passive/agreessive jerky thing to do. If he really missed your smell that much, all he would have to do is go to a store and purchase your perfume, shampoo etc.. I would drop him like a hot potato.

    Allison
  • bks1
    bks1 Posts: 32 Member
    I'm definitely NOT going to continue to communicate with him- he has freaked me right out. I can't forward the emails on to his gf- I don't know her details. I'm sure I could find them out, but she was extrememly abusive to me when they got together- so the less I have to do with her, the better. She justifies all his actions anyway, and I'm sure she'll find a way to spin this on me.

    I'd rather just forget about him completely- but as I said , all I really want is some insight as to WHY he might be doing/saying this. Because it's just too WEIRD.
  • nanodot
    nanodot Posts: 154 Member
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

    Yeah. Scents can bring up incredibly powerful emotional memories. He probably has a fetish for women's scents, which frankly isn't a big deal, most people have something quirky... But he definitely lost his right to sniff you when he broke up with you, and to ask for your shirt a year later, he must be desperate. Not appropriate.
  • sloanie1
    sloanie1 Posts: 276 Member
    Sweetie he is NUTZ!!!! that is NOT normal behaviour!!!! what an absolute creep all right....I mean who does he think he is??? "my awesomeness" sounds like his ego boost of himself has caused braindamage......my advice is DELETE.....he is just keeping his options open and trying to control you and see how far he can get...he clearly isn't happy in his NOW relationship and knows he has painted himself into a corner.....basically he wants a bit on the side.....like I said to you, you have the looks of a model and could have any guy eating out of the palm of your hand....save it for the real deal, someone who loves and appreciates you...this guy is TOXIC with a a capital T!!!!

    Sxxxx
  • aliciar3
    aliciar3 Posts: 39
    That is by far one of the strangest emails I've ever read.

    I agree with not forwarding it to his girlfriend - you don't need to get involved in their relationship.

    I would just block him and be thankful that you broke up before his creepy side came out...
  • spitfire1962
    spitfire1962 Posts: 347 Member
    He wants a booty call. He doesn't want a commitment to you. You deserve better than that. I don't think his email even deserves a response. Just delete it and block him. If he continues, then forward to his girlfriend as the other poster stated. There are quality men out there, and you are a quality girl. Don't settle for less. How dare he even think you would send him anything or ask anything of him. Just move on and don't turn back. I wish you the best. ;)
  • Gemnildy
    Gemnildy Posts: 124 Member
    You are WAY too beautiful to deal with this kind of crap... if you feel the need to respond; make sure you tell him that it will be the last contact you need to have!
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
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  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    Anyone consider maybe the GIRLFRIEND sent this????
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    ...he clearly isn't happy in his NOW relationship and knows he has painted himself into a corner.....


    yes. exactly this. i've been in a situation similar to this...and while my case is extremely rare on how it works out..i wouldn't recommend traveling down THAT road to my worst enemy. it will be nothing but heartache for you...
  • EmpressOfJudgment
    EmpressOfJudgment Posts: 1,162 Member
    It sounds like they deserve each other. Ignore and block and be glad you didn't get serious with that nutjob.
  • k2quiere
    k2quiere Posts: 4,151 Member
    They call them exes for a reason...you're better off. I would say be sure to lock your windows and your doors unless you want to wonder where your clothes have gone.
  • sloanie1
    sloanie1 Posts: 276 Member
    Anyone consider maybe the GIRLFRIEND sent this????

    hahahaha no didn't think of that!!! and it's usually women with the suspicious minds LOL!!!
  • bks1
    bks1 Posts: 32 Member
    You guys are the best, I absolutely love the support on this site!

    I most definitely wasn't even considering sending anything to him, the very idea of it creeps me out *shudder*

    I suppose the fact that he said that he wanted nothing to do with me- no friendship, etc- but then asked me for a very bizarre request- that seemed really incongruent. I mean, if you were going to ask someone for something, you wouldn't really say that.

    Anyway, I'm sticking to my plan- no more contact EVER- but I have the curiousity bug in my head that needs to be silenced- hence hashing this out with all you guys! :)
  • Gigi_licious
    Gigi_licious Posts: 1,185 Member
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

    ^^ This. But first I would respond with the 3 most beautiful words of all time: *kitten* Yourself *kitten*! :flowerforyou:
  • katemiddletonisawesome
    katemiddletonisawesome Posts: 152 Member
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

    I concur.
  • bks1
    bks1 Posts: 32 Member
    Noooooo, I didn't consider that! But it wouldn't make much sense would it.....
  • bks1
    bks1 Posts: 32 Member
    Anyone consider maybe the GIRLFRIEND sent this????

    Noooooo, I didn't consider that! But it wouldn't make much sense would it.....
  • EmpressOfJudgment
    EmpressOfJudgment Posts: 1,162 Member
    I think you should ignore him completely. That way YOU are the one who has made the decision to have nothing to do with him. Don't let him decide what your "relationship" will be. *kitten* that asshat.
  • Jess90_
    Jess90_ Posts: 4
    Dont even write back.He's not even worth your time...you need someone who truly appreciates you and wants your friendship :)
  • silver02bullet
    silver02bullet Posts: 261 Member
    Ok. W have all been in similar situations....maybe not the smelly part. Lol

    I'd either not reply at all and give it no other thought. Or tell him you just took a bunch of items to goodwill and he can find one there.

    I do admit that's kind of creepy . Maybe he was messed up when he wrote it.

    Good luck. Exes who break ur heart suck. Im in that boat right now.
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    Since I've had a rough night I'd say print and sent it to his girlfriend with flowers . , . Sorry that was mean.
  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,809 Member
    Step 1: find the smelliest bum you can

    Step 2: fill him full of liquor until he pukes on his SHIRT

    Step 3: buy shirt from bum

    Step 4: put shirt in gift bag

    Step 5: print out email, put in gift bag

    Step 6: deliver shirt to exec boyfriend's house

    Step 7: THEN block him
  • Drunkadelic
    Drunkadelic Posts: 948 Member
    Step 1: find the smelliest bum you can

    Step 2: fill him full of liquor until he pukes on his SHIRT

    Step 3: buy shirt from bum

    Step 4: put shirt in gift bag

    Step 5: print out email, put in gift bag

    Step 6: deliver shirt to exec boyfriend's house

    Step 7: THEN block him

    There we go. Best answer yet
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    Step 1: find the smelliest bum you can

    Step 2: fill him full of liquor until he pukes on his SHIRT

    Step 3: buy shirt from bum

    Step 4: put shirt in gift bag

    Step 5: print out email, put in gift bag

    Step 6: deliver shirt to exec boyfriend's house

    Step 7: THEN block him

    Might not need to pay for shirt if supplying booze! LOl
  • bks1
    bks1 Posts: 32 Member
    Step 1: find the smelliest bum you can

    Step 2: fill him full of liquor until he pukes on his SHIRT

    Step 3: buy shirt from bum

    Step 4: put shirt in gift bag

    Step 5: print out email, put in gift bag

    Step 6: deliver shirt to exec boyfriend's house

    Step 7: THEN block him

    LOL I love it!!!!
  • masonsmomma
    masonsmomma Posts: 184 Member
    I agree with what advice others have posted to you. If I were in your shoes, I'd forward it to his girlfriend (i'd want to know if I was her), DO NOT reply to the email (I know it's hard) and block him/ ignore him from now on. That's such a weird and creepy request and he put you in a really awkward position. Try to be strong Hun! <3
  • StarGeezer
    StarGeezer Posts: 351
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    Two words...restraining order. That is just all kinds of messed up right there! :noway:
  • manjingirl
    manjingirl Posts: 188 Member
    You know when people find your facebook account open and put up crude status updates or post weird pictures "for fun"?

    Well I think someone has hacked his email, I seriously don't think it's him. Maybe the new girl is responsible, or maybe some "friend" thinks it's a funny thing to do.

    So just ignore it.
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