What was the worst thing someone said to you regarding your

I have long since forgiven him for this but parents- please note- that saying mean things about your childs weight will not help them lose it!

That is SO true. My mom was very thin as a teen/young adult and then gained a ton of weight when she got married, and she tries very hard but has always been overweight (she also has PCOS). I think she was so disappointed in herself for getting fat (since she'd been so thin before) that she just wanted to try everything in her power to make sure I didn't make the same mistakes. I truly think she had NO idea how much she hurt me with her comments. The worst part is, I was never really overweight until a couple of years ago- I was always well within my healthy range. Here's a few I can remember:


In middle school, when I was VERY thin- this is what set me up to be so afraid of gaining any weight:

"Don't ever gain weight- in high school people that are fat don't have friends or get dates."
Said numerous times when I commented on a wealthy friend (I was jealous of all the "stuff" she had- but she was overweight)- "She has NOTHING on you. She would kill to be you- being thin is a thousand times better than having more stuff."

In high school/beginning of college, I was 5'4 and 130-135 pounds (ironically, this is my goal weight now). If I excercised and dieted like crazy, I could get down to 120, and then my mom would see me gain from that and get afraid that I was going to "go crazy." These are all things she said during that period-
(When coming back from working at a summer camp) she grabbed my stomach and said "What did you find so interesting to eat up there?"
-"Someone already looks like they gained the freshman 7 or 8. It's not like you look terrible now, but I assume you want to look like you did before."
-"Remember when you were so fit and thin?"
-"Should you be eating that?"
-"I can't believe you would think about wearing a 2 piece suit with your figure"
-"That outfit is only flattering on skinny people."
-"I looked for an extra large, but could only find a large" (when buying me shorts- remember I said I was a size 4).

Of course it only got worse as I got bigger...in college I dreaded visiting home because I knew she'd make comments about my weight. I truly believe that she was a HUGE factor in what made me think it wasn't okay to be 135 pounds and eventually gaining. If I thought that was healthy and fine, I could have easily maintained it. However, I got trapped into yo-yo dieting and binge-starve cycles trying to lose weight at that size. I think she truly thought she was doing what was best for me by encouraging me to be thin and happy, but she ended up being a big root of the problem. Parents- DON'T DO THIS TO YOUR KIDS!

Lately everyone has been asked me if I am pregnant. My youngest will be 5 next month and she also asked me if I had a baby in my tummy, because it keeps getting bigger. That in it self was a kick in the pants to start this program…..

Wow this thread brings back awful memories.
All my friends were thin. I was the "chubby or fat girl"

My mom said some pretty awful things too but always followed it with "i love you and don't want you to be fat"

The one comment that really hurt me was when I was walking from my car into Wal-mart...just minding my own business and this car full of teenage guys passes by me and they are laughing.
One hangs out the window and screams.
HAVEN'T YOU EVER HEARD OF JENNY CRAIG??

I just felt devastated and humiliated.


Now I'm 8 lbs from goal and 6 lbs from 100 lost and ...I get hurtful comments but it's the opposite.

I'm obsessive over my weight now..like I am supposed to just stop trying or I've lost enough..just take a rest.

Make up your mind people either you want me healthy or you want me fat.

My 2 younger sons....they used to say things ...I know kids do and they dont' mean it bad.

Now they are my biggest fans. My baby boy says to me mama you look so beautiful and skinny!

I am glad i make them proud.

Nichole

The part where people are saying "just take a rest", "you are almost there" etc....some people are blessed with a high metabolism, and it sucks when you aren't and you HAVE to continue to STAY where you are. There is NO STOPPING, it's going to be a constant for the rest of your life, like you said "you either want me skinn/healthy or fat!!"

I can't believe how many of you out there had MOTHERS that put you down like that. I think that would be the most hurtful thing in the world is to have my mother say/have said some of the things I have read here.

When I was about 11, my grandmother said to me: 'It's a good thing you're intelligent, because you'll never be attractive."

Thanks for ruining my self esteem, Granny. ><!

If I hear one more time that I have childbearing hips or that with my waist to hip ratio I will never have to worry about heart disease.....

-Gramma: "maybe we should stop feeding you"
-Husband: "all the fat on your body and stomach are just not attractive !"
-Male stranger at a party: "yeah so you are pregnant right?" (Do men really think women drink alcohol when pregnant? wtf ??!!)
-Male stranger at a new years party: "So nice to see you out in your condition, being pregnant and all.." (really WTF?!)
-Male stranger at a bar: "are you really pregnant?"
-Male stranger at house boating party: "she drinks lots of beer, look at her beer belly"

These are just some that I can remember. I have cried many times over these insulting comments.

When I got my first place, I went furniture shopping for a living room set. I went to a local store that had a good reputation and the salesman told me I would need something sturdy because of my weight (I weighed about 170 lbs at the time). I was mortified and left. Lucky for me I found a great couch, love seat, and recliner at another store. I was able to pick out the fabrics and had the set for over 20 years.

By the way, I got a great sense of satisfaction when that first store went out of business.

and yet i'm still skinnier than you

Some of these things are just heartbreaking!! I can't imagine parents saying these things to their own kids. Omg, I don't care if my daughter was obese I would encourage her to be healthy & try to HELP not put her down and ruin her self confidence. It's clear that statements made to kids at a young age really stick with them.

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'Do you wear a body suit to squeeze the fat in?' ... I was getting ready for a night out and he said it in front of the whole party!