Ex boyfriend advice desperately needed

So he tells you basically he wants nothing to do with you, but hey hehe, can you do this creepy favor for me?

Ironically, he reminds me of my ex, we were together about as long as you two were. We broke up last October, but he's contacted me 3 times since then. Which, if we parted on good terms, it would be different. But he did it in the most mean/offensive way. The first time it was an email (ignored), second a text (reminded him I told him not to contact me), third was at text this past Tuesday. This whole time he's been through 3 girlfriends, lived with 2 of them and he's contacting me wanting to know what I've been doing/wanting a friendship. What reminds me of your ex, is he has told me "i'm just curious that's it, don't get any ideas" and "i'm very happy with who I'm with." Yet, he wants me to satisfy his curiosity.

He's a jerk, like my ex. It's very selfish for him to ask a favor of you when he's told you he wants nothing to do with you. Only a very narcissistic person would have the audacity to ask for a request after that. Why he asked such a creepy thing, sounds like some theories have been thrown out. One thing is obvious though, it's VERY strange. Don't contact crazy girlfriend, don't contact him. If he keeps contacting you, tell him not to contact you anymore and move on. Sounds like he had the friendly vibe from you in the past, which is why I'm sure he feels okay to ask you this. Nothing good for you could come of being in contact with him at this point or in the future.

Block him before it gets worse. I let mine get to where cops had to be involved...and since it was across state lines (He moved back to momma.) the police were useless and no one wanted to take ownership. "Oh he's in that state, so it's theirs. Oh, you're in this state so it's theirs." It was frustrating and angering. Spare yourself the prolonged drama and block everything.

I used have an ex-boyfriend who just couldn't let the relationship go. It started out with small things like this, a random e-mail here or there, a phone call. It eventually developed into a really terrible stalking situation. My ex wasn't like that when we were together, either (although he was controlling, which I guess should have been a clue).

It sounds like he's trying to move on with this girl, but that his fond memories of your relationship are holding him back from doing that. I think the healthiest thing for the both of you is to NOT RESPOND. If he writes again and has trouble catching your drift, I would just explain that you're moving on with your life and that you are not comfortable with his request. Ask him not to write to you again.

I know how hard it is to end a relationship, especially when a guy keeps popping up. I don't want YOU, however, to end up in the horrid situation that I was in, either.

Shannon

Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

But before you block him, cuss him out and tell him what a jerkfaced weirdo you think he is. Then block.

Send him a shirt. What harm is it doing.

I haven't read all the replies, but I'd get a male un-neutered cat to pee on a shirt and send it to him. What a creep!

Oh my gosh, how creepy! My mind would be reeling too! I'd totally just do what you're doing though and just not respond, and forget about the email. What a waste of energy to even have to focus on that weirdo for a second. Just thank your lucky stars that Creepo's your EX

Please: sent it to his current girlfriend. If I were his gf, I'd totally want to know about that.

Block him, don't give him your shirt lol!

That is really weird.

Send him a man's shirt..sprayed with cologne, and tell him it belongs to the guy who is allowed to smell you now!!

Don't send it to his bird, nothing good would come from it. He probably misses you more than he lets on.

Don't be sending him any clothing though, it's beyond weird. I would slap myself if I ever sent that.

IGNORE, DELETE, BLOCK..problem solved. Take 3 steps forward, not 2 steps back. You can do it and you will feel SO much better.

Just one final query tho.... Does anyone think he just said he didn't want a friendship etc because he knew it would upset me, or he genuinely doesn't want a friendship? Previous emails of his were very suggestive of just wanting a friendship.

Just curious.

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks HE is thinking .. ONLY he can answer that question.

Be careful how you translate his choice of word "friends'.. You not be on the same 'page' as he .. If you need to know .. ask him.

I think you've wasted too much time on thinking about him at all. You're a beautiful thoughtful girl. I guarantee there's a someone near you right now that wishes he could be with you.

Keep the "ex" in front of "boyfriend" and close that chapter.

This man is wise, and knows what he's talking about. :-)