For women: "Your husband must be happy..."

i hope these people aren't your friends... i think that is SO rude and I wouldn't know how to take it either.

you should be doing this for yourself and no one else... next time, just tell them that YOU are finally happy... and that's all that matters.

Ditto! I've decided to lose weight for myself not for my hubby! My husband has always been happy with me and the way I look, and he'll be even happier to see me feel better about myself once I DO get down to the size I want to be. ;-)

i think sometimes people don't know what to say...so at times, what they mean as a compliment sometimes doesn't come out exactly as intended.

I regularly have my foot inserted into my mouth.

I get those comments from my mother-in-law! Ugh!

Since people have started noticing my weight loss I have gotten these comments and I don't really know how to take them.

"Well, your husband must be happy."

"I bet your husband must be thrilled with your weight loss."

"ooooh I bet your man is finally happy!!!!"

I can say that these people don't know my husband and he seemed pretty happy with me before. I decided to change for me, not to please him. He is very proud of me and he is happy for my accomplishment but somehow it seems like people think that he wasn't happy with me before because I was very overweight. Maybe I'm overreacing but this comment really bugs me.

Have people made similar comments to any of you ladies??

:huh: WHAT! Thats freaking awful! I cannot believe that someone would actually say that to you! WOW! Some people! I am the same as you, even though I am overweight, my husband still loves me just the way I am. He loved me when I was thin and he loves me now that I am fat! (lol) - I just can't believe that people would really say things like that!

That sure puts a damper on the excitement that you have about losing the weight! Geesh! Dont worry about it though, just remember why you are really doing it and ignore stupid people out there, cause belive me, there are MANY of them! :grumble:

I get those comments from my mother-in-law! Ugh!

eww

had your husband not been happy with you before he wouldn't have married you...

i don't know. personally i think it sounds rude but maybe those people think they're giving a compliment. i wouldn't sweat it too hard.

Why don't you just try to take it as a compliment and not interpret it as a backhanded insult?

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Yes I get comments all the time, He never mind my size before as far as I know because we got togeather the size i was, and after nearly 30 lbs he told me a few days ago FINALLY he noticed i was loosing weight, then told me you know you don't need too loose much more, i just laughed and told him im doing this for me and i will know when i am going to stop and maintain...I love that man i call my husband! People are so cruel sometimes.

I could have written your post word for word! "Your husband must be thrilled!" He was thrilled with me before!

But the thing that does thrill him is how much more comfortable I am being nekkid.

Yep, I've gotten that comment many times, and I don't get it.

Ridiculous how insensitive people are! My SO loves me for me, and thought that I was sexy at my high weight and has thought the same of my body at each weight.

Although, I must say that my ex was always super happy when I lost weight, and I always lost it just for him. That's why he's my EX.

Yeah, I hate that too. I'd much rather that my spouse didn't notice that I'm more fit which generally in most cultures considered more physically attractive. It would also suck if someone speculated that my spouse might think I'm more fit and attractive than when I was 50 pounds heavier.

How dare the *kitten*.

I can understand how it would be perceived this way, but it seems like it might be a person's way of trying to be positive without sounding condescending. For example, if an acquaintance were to say that he or she were proud of you or happy for you, it might feel insincere, because he or she isn't really close enough to you to have those emotions. But commenting on how proud you must be making your significant other, it would be acknowledging your accomplishments in a genuine manner.

I've noticed that numerous people are both awkward at giving and receiving compliments, so when we work the rusty compliment muscle, it can sometimes be awkward. Just smile, say how proud of yourself you both are, and move on. I truly believe that for the main, this is just a poorly done compliment.

As a male, my wife either doesn't notice or doesn't really care.

but I've not made the dramatic losses some of you have. ie.. Just around 14 lbs. (4 lbs since I've been here)

I can relate! Just this week, a friend of mine said "Have you lost weight"? I said "Yes, I have. Thanks for noticing". She said "How could I not? I bet your family is happy." I had to sit and think about that and wonder if it was a jab or a compliment. Anyway, my response was "I lost weight, I feel great and YES the family is proud of me thank you."
The way I see it is: some people have a disease I like to call "diarrhea of the mouth"...crap just spews out of their mouth without the use of their brain cells. So you gotta fluff it off and just keep doing what your doing! Good job by the way!

LMBO!!! I LOVE this comment!