Your man cook and do dishes?

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  • otr12
    otr12 Posts: 632 Member
    My husband earns money and I don't. So I do everything else.
    We like it this way.
  • baisleac
    baisleac Posts: 2,019 Member
    So do your husbands take part in the cooking and dishes in your house or is that a job that falls on the woman? How do you balance the workload? Tricky as a newlywed to demand help. Just wondering.....

    My husband is a stay at home dad... he does most of the dishes/laundry/cleaning/etc. I do most of the cooking because I enjoy cooking.

    Honestly... I should do more around the house than I do.
  • dandrews010
    dandrews010 Posts: 253 Member
    Unfortunately, both things are against my religion.
  • baisleac
    baisleac Posts: 2,019 Member
    He does! But I prefer to cook (so I know how to log) and I prefer to make The Child do the dishes (no freeloaders in my house!)

    I can't wait until our slave...err... kiddo is old enough to help do the dishes. :laugh:
  • jskaggs1971
    jskaggs1971 Posts: 371 Member
    My wife and I share the cooking, but I do almost all of the kitchen cleanup. You see, she does it wrong.

    I'm a "clean as you go" cook, due to long-ago experience in commercial kitchens. My wife does not clean as she goes, and leaves the kitchen a disaster after she cooks. However, she's a fantastic baker, so it all works out in the end.

    She does the laundry, though. She says I do it wrong.
  • cpeterson70
    cpeterson70 Posts: 19 Member
    I prefer to do the cooking. My husband can cook, but I just prefer my food to his...especially since I have been cooking for both of us for about 11 years. I think he has really forgotten all he knew. He can still make Mac 'N Cheese from a box :-) He does do most of the dishes, laundry etc. It seems he doesn't do the floors or the litter box. I don't expect him to do the litter box though. I had my cat before we got married. He was only forced to do the litter box when I was pregnant...and didn't do a good job with it.

    Can't wait until I feel my kids are ready to do the dishes. My daughter probably should be given the job now. She's 8 1/2. Is that too young?
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I do all the cooking. I get home 2 hours before she does. Plus I like it. I clean as I go.

    At big events like Xmas, Thanksgiving, whatever, she supports in whatever help I need, whether it be clean up, side dishes, desserts or banging the cook.
  • baisleac
    baisleac Posts: 2,019 Member
    Can't wait until I feel my kids are ready to do the dishes. My daughter probably should be given the job now. She's 8 1/2. Is that too young?

    Heck to the No... you have to start 'em young. I was the dish slave as soon as I was tall enough to reach the bottom of the sink when standing on my little step stool. :laugh:

    Might want to tandem wash for a bit though.
  • loved11
    loved11 Posts: 92 Member
    My hubby of 30 years does all that and more. He even cleans litterboxes. Only thing I can't get him to do is dust but who cares when he does everything else. I work full time and when we got married I told him that I expected him to help around the house. He used to insist on me doing his ironing....until I deliberately put a double crease in his pants. Now he does his own! :)

    Actually his Mom raised him right!

    My hubby too. He does it all. We have 10 kids and I stay home. He is amazing at all of it. We just do what we can, we each have our strengths. He grocery shops and coupons because he is amazing with money and time. I do kids, teens, schools etc.. we just work as a team and communicate. Communication is key! !!!!!!
    His mom was a exceptional person, she taught him well also
  • megz4987
    megz4987 Posts: 1,008 Member
    My fiancé is not allowed near the dishes haha. Hes tried being nice and helping out with them but they don't look clean enough to me when he's done with them and I end up recleaning. He does cook from time to time though :) it's a nice treat to not have to cook!
  • AZTrailRunner
    AZTrailRunner Posts: 1,199 Member
    She stays away from my tools and I stay away from her dishes. When we mixed up that agreement, it doesn't end well. lol
  • MissFuchsia
    MissFuchsia Posts: 523 Member
    My husband does most of the cooking. I'm hopeless in the kitchen. I do most of cleaning but he does help when asked
  • Rikki444
    Rikki444 Posts: 326 Member
    Not married and not living with my sweetie.... but I knew he is a keeper when he stood up from the dinner (table) we prepared together and started to clean the kitchen... now, the 'trick' to keep him doing it is to show how much I appreciate his kindness. I don't think dinner is a 'job' or a 'chore' that has to be divided.... so when he completely ignores 'gender roles' and steps up like that.... well.... that is pretty cool. :love:
  • UrbanRunner81
    UrbanRunner81 Posts: 1,207 Member
    I usually cook, but husband usually does all the dishes. He can cook but he doesn't get home until 6 and by that time the kids are starving and so am I so I cook.
    He is awesome about making breakfast though.
  • CaitlinMyers428
    CaitlinMyers428 Posts: 151 Member
    Well I'm not married yet, but my boyfriend and I live together with our daughter. I'm a stay at home mom and I do the cleaning and dishes. He works 40 hours a week and cooks when he gets home because he loves to cook. When he's on his days off he will do dishes. I feel lucky to have him. :D
  • nkswans
    nkswans Posts: 469 Member
    I'm not married but in college my boyfriend I practically lived together. He was always at my apartment. I did the cooking (in a teeny tiny kitchen) so it was only fair for him to do the dishes...or at least help with them.
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    my husband actually does most of the dishes/cooking/cleaning/bathing of the children

    we both have full time jobs, but I'm also in school full time, and he has a more regular schedule, as in I'm rarely home for dinner so all that falls on him. He takes it like a champ ;)
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    I'm not married but my adult son lives with me and he does the cooking and the dishes. He also does his own laundry and is good about cleaning house when he gets bored. He also takes the trash out. He's going to make some lucky woman a wonderful husband some day. :bigsmile: I don't know what I'm going to do when he moves out again. I'll have to cook my own food, wash my own dishes and take out my own trash. :tongue: :laugh:
  • mrshickey
    mrshickey Posts: 239
    Husband & I share the workload. If it is my day off I clean and cook, if it is his day off..he cleans and cooks. If it is the weekend we both pitch in. We both work, we both make the mess..we both should clean.

    ^^^this^^^
  • MrsSpratt
    MrsSpratt Posts: 200 Member
    We share the chores, but I do more cooking and he does more dishes.
  • goodmonster
    goodmonster Posts: 165
    I've been married for two months (exactly today actually) and everyone is right, asking is the best thing you can do. Or necessity.

    My husband burns a pot of boiled water so if I don't cook he can't eat anything fancier than oatmeal ;)
    So often he's the one who does dishes simply as a small thank you for putting food in his belly.

    As for the rest of the things around the house it's a kind of wordless agreement that we take turns. =)
  • 1ArmyMom1
    1ArmyMom1 Posts: 94
    My husband was Mr. Mom when we first moved to Florida because I was transferred for my job & he didn't have one when we first got here... now he's working part time so he still does the cooking, washing the dishes, and grocery shopping... I do the laundry and the bills... everyone helps clean the rest of the house (or are supposed to! LOL!)
  • EmpressOfJudgment
    EmpressOfJudgment Posts: 1,162 Member
    My guy loves to cook and he doesn't mind doing dishes. I'm pretty lucky. However, he's not allowed to do laundry. I prefer my clothes unwrinkled and not all one shade of pink.
  • kyle4jem
    kyle4jem Posts: 1,400 Member
    Mine does - I thought if i got him to do the cooking and the dishes it would be an incentive for him to go out and get a job. Fat chance, if you will pardon the expression.
    Well, maybe he makes up for things in other areas :wink:...

    I think I'd want him to do more though to earn his keep :ohwell:
  • kyle4jem
    kyle4jem Posts: 1,400 Member
    My hubster does about 60-70% of the cooking because he's a bloody gourmet genius :tongue:

    And while he's not a feeder, he does love good old fashioned ingredients... i.e. lots of butter and fatty cuts of meat and dripping etc. Of course that didn't help my waistline much :laugh:

    I cook when I'm working from home and also sometimes at the weekend... or sometimes I cheat and just heat things up in the oven... but always quality prepared foods, no frozen meals or TV dinners in this household.

    We both work full-time so have no time for cleaning, so our little luxury is we have cleaners in once a fortnight to make sure the house stays ship-shape.

    I do all the laundry and ironing because I'm very anal about it. He puts out the rubbish and tends to the garden. And we both stack and/or empty the dishwasher.

    We have a very balance relationship and neither of us have to nag the other to do anything :happy:
  • Leyla135
    Leyla135 Posts: 48
    Well im not married but been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I never expect him to do any of the house chores, i like doing it myself. As far as cooking we both do it. Since i have not been working i have been doing most of the cooking, but when it comes to grilling that is his job. I give him his beer and tell him he looks like a real man. Big belly and all. When i did work he always had dinner ready when i got home. :tongue:
  • princessf1
    princessf1 Posts: 495 Member
    Um, NO. Wonder where I can get one that does?
  • XFitMojoMom
    XFitMojoMom Posts: 3,255 Member
    Husband cooks (but uses to much soya in his concoctions), but I appreciate it;
    Husband will pitch in and clean the kitchen;
    Husband does laundry, but this irritates me to NO END!!

    BUT
    He will not help in the garden OR pick up our dog waste. He even made me do it while I was pregnant.
  • CastleMadeOfSand
    CastleMadeOfSand Posts: 432 Member
    I do mostly all the laundry and dishes in this household. I however, suck at cleaning the rest of the place.
  • asyouseefit
    asyouseefit Posts: 1,265 Member
    I cook because I love cooking and we have a dishwasher. :)
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