married women,does your man...?

Research shows that marriages are more successful and men are more satisfied when the wife's BMI is lower than her husbands.

My husband is happy for me that I'm losing weight, but has told me it never bothered him. Mind you, I'm not just a little overweight. The more I lose though, the more insecure he seems, so I'm not sure how me losing a lot of weight is gonna play out!

If I didn't care, why would I stay married to her?

My husband cares. He never said anything to me but I could tell in the way he treated me. I finally called him out on it. He said it was MOSTLY because of how I have changed since I've gained weight (which is true I have changed, and not in a good way). But I think someone can still love you while not being satisfied with your appearance. I think we all care to a degree.

When I first met my husband to be I was 265 lbs., he was 5' tall. He didn't care about my weight, I didn't care about his height. Needless to say, we are no longer together, my weight and his height had nothing to do with it though.....

My husband says he doesn't care, that I'm beautiful and he loves me no matter what. I know, however, that he'd rather have a thinner, healthier, happier wife. Who wouldn't? He fell in love with that version of me, why wouldn't he want me to be that way now? He is very supportive of me getting in shape and sensitive to the fact that it's a journey and I have a lot of ups and downs during said journey.

Now, that being said, my BMI is higher then 24-25. He'd be stoked if it was that low, I'd expect. I am proportional, I don't have a huge gut and tiny legs or anything like that, and I expect I would be if I were at the BMI as well. I doubt he would be upset with me at that range.

I just asked my husband and he said he would care more for health reasons. He thinks the heavier you get it limits what you can do. So, they do care.

Mine says he doesn't care and he doesn't seem too. BUT he defintely chases me a little more now that I'm losing some weight.

Mine too!

Well, I went from a 6-8 to a 16 (post baby ) in a year. He never ever, not one single time, made ANY reference to my weight. Ever. I asked him why once, I mean, DUH.....you wife went from a 6/8 to a 16, you are gonna have an opinion...he said "Well....I knew you would never stay that way. I wouldnt have to say a word. It is just the way you are. I knew you would take it off sooner or later". I stayed roughly a 12 for a freeking decade. Never a word. ALWAYS told me I was beautiful. I am now an easy size 8. Yup. Calls me beautiful. I also get some sexy comments thrown in. Does he PREFER me this way. More than likely, yes. Am I happier this way? Yes. It may also have a little to do with my OWN attitude as well. But not one time, ever, has he made me feel bad about myself.

I'm certain my husband cares although he'd never say so. He's gained some significant weight as of late so he's not really in a place to care, in my opinion. But generally, yes I would think that men do care.

My husband says he doesn't care, but he says he is proud of me and the hard work I've done to get to the weight I am. I think he cares more about my emotions and my self esteem, and my health, too, obviously.

My husband supports me either way.....saying he loves me no matter what. He has always complimented me telling me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me.....it really has always been me who does not like the way I was and am.......hence the decision to make BIG changes.

My husband doesn't care Except.. he doesn't want me too skinny (like anorexic skinny) or too fat (like.. super obese). Basically he wants me to be healthy weight and take care of myself. He's actually worried I'm going to lose too much weight and lose my curves :laugh:

He has always said he loves me no matter what, and I believe that. He also tells me I am sexy no matter what size I am, and I believe that he does see me that way.

That said, he does care when I gain weight. Mainly because *I* care when I gain weight, I am less confident and less likely to be naked if I am not comfortable in my own skin. I know it bothers him when I put on weight, and I also know it is only because my own body image issues make it an issue.

My Husband cares. He cares because he knows i'm happier when i'm a healthier weight. I'm back down to the weight i was when I met him and he says that i'm happier, treat him more nicely and I have more fun in the bedroom with him! So a husband caring isn't always negative it can be a positive thing like my husband!