Is it wrong to get pissed at your wife because..........

Is it wrong to get pissed off that your wife gets more flattered by other guys complimenting her than you? Is it wrong to get pissed off when ur wife goes to a bar gets home at 5am (bars close at 3am) and then have a guy add her on facebook next day asking her on a date because she told him she was single? is it wrong to get pissed off because a friend tells u that he saw ur wife at a bar dancing very "provocative"? Is it wrong to ask your wife to quit flirting with guys as its embarrassing because a friend points it out to me and asks if i care or not and why wont i do anything about it? Is it wrong to ask your wife to cool off and pay more attention to her family than how many guys hit on her? Is it wrong to get even more pissed when you confront her about it she tells you you are stupid, insecure, shes unhappy, and its retarded because all she got out everything you confronted her about was that you dont want her to dress up n do her make up everday because u told her to quit seeking attetion from other men..

Your words: "What to tell you about me? I sleep, I eat, I train, I repeat... "

Maybe you should consider: "What to tell you about me? I focus on my marriage with my wife, I sleep, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I eat, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I train, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I repeat..."

It's a fitness site, I can understand why he posted that in his profile here. He was looking for like minded friends.

I'm sure she deleted his account...I hope, if it's worth working out...they do. If it's not, I hope for the quickest, most painless end for him as is possible. Mine was drug out over the course of four years...full of cheating, lies...threats of taking my kids and disappearing, physical and mental abuse, more cheating, more lies, rinse/repeat...and hurt bad enough I completely managed to forget who I was.

No thanks...I wouldn't wish that on anyone, much less a friend like Euro.

For the first question about compliments... you have to understand something. A compliment from you feels wonderful, I'm sure, but in the back of her mind she's thinking "He's just saying that because he loves me." It's like getting told you're beautiful by your mother. Are you flattered? Sure. But it doesn't really have much impact. A stranger doesn't have nearly as much reinforcement or incentive to offer compliments. Whether that is worth getting upset about, I can't say.

The second part. If she were my boyfriend, I would be furious and very hurt. It is NOT okay to claim singledom when you're attached, let alone married. Maybe she wanted to feel unencumbered while out having a good time. I don't care. That crosses a line, for me personally.

Third. Provocative dancing is kind of expected in a club or a rowdy bar. How provocative you can't say, you're basing your anger on a friend's judgment. Not saying it isn't "accurate" but perhaps this is the lesser of your problems.

Fourth. It would not be wrong to ask your wife to quit flirting, as long as you hold yourself to the same standard Some couples see flirting as harmless, others feel it is disrespectful or, in your case, embarrassing. This goes along with the ENTIRE bar problem, I think.

I'll stop there because this situation can't be solved going on a case by case basis. It sounds like you're VERY hurt by your wife's behavior, and I understand where you're coming from. Is this a recent development (perhaps part of losing weight herself?)? Or has she always sought the high of having men find her attractive and irresistible?

I would sit her down and have a nice long, no blame playing, conversation. Describe how YOU feel when she says or does these things and WHY you have a problem with it. Stay calm, and make sure you listen when she responds. If she gets defensive, say that this is important to you and that you are NOT trying to attack her, but you need to talk. Immediately.

If your attempts continue to lead nowhere, say you need counseling or a divorce. Some people can't be swayed from destructive behavior, but there is no reason for you to be dragged through emotional turmoil along with them.

Good luck .