Are you a hugger?

ninerbuff
ninerbuff Posts: 49,031 Member
edited October 6 in Chit-Chat
In my culture we hug a lot with family and close friends, but there are some people who are just huggers with EVERYONE. So do you hug or do you avoid it at all costs?


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  • onefourone
    onefourone Posts: 212 Member
    I am a hugger for sure
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
    It depends on the other person. If they open their arms and lean in, than I go for the hug. If they offer their hand, than its just a handshake.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    depends on the person. i like to hug my hugger friends, but not my nonhugger friends.

    i also like to hug when i am dating, and i like to hug my pet pigeon when i have him >.<

    for some reason i feel odd hugging my mom and family-like friends though haha...i think because i was very shy as a kid so i ddnt hug them for so many years that yeah ^-^y
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
    I hug :D I am a very huggable person ^-^
  • lucy1945
    lucy1945 Posts: 153
    I hug! :happy: I'm hugging you right now! hahaha
  • skywa
    skywa Posts: 901 Member
    With friends and family yes. Strangers and adequateness, no.
  • weightlosswonderwoman
    weightlosswonderwoman Posts: 40 Member
    A hug = a handshake for me
    Hugs just come naturally :)
  • pumpkinmoccasins
    pumpkinmoccasins Posts: 24
    This is kind of a weird subject for me because I used to be a hugger, and then something changed and I guess I became more aware of other people's personal spaces or something... I'm not adverse to hugging by any means, I guess I'm just not typically in a warm, hug-friendly environment.
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    I used to be, but then at college there was an overly huggy girl who found out I liked hugs, so she decided we were going to hug every time she saw me. It was a small college of a few hundred people, so it was several times a day. I am officially hugged out. Except my husband, my kids and a few select friends, I do not offer hugs. Oh, and my parents whom I don't see for months at a time.
  • fit4mom
    fit4mom Posts: 1,352 Member
    This is kind of a weird subject for me because I used to be a hugger, and then something changed and I guess I became more aware of other people's personal spaces or something... I'm not adverse to hugging by any means, I guess I'm just not typically in a warm, hug-friendly environment.
    Awesomeness!
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Noooooo. Im a hand-shaker. That is, until I know you well enough to let you into my personal space. Then Im good with hugs.
  • embersfallen
    embersfallen Posts: 534 Member
    A hug = a handshake for me
    Hugs just come naturally :)

    agreed! Hugs are just a natural expression of caring for me.....
  • whitehandlady
    whitehandlady Posts: 459 Member
    i love hugs and i'm sad many people do not :(
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,031 Member
    Lots of huggers here!


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    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • Elf_Princess1210
    Elf_Princess1210 Posts: 895 Member
    I'm not a hugger. I also am a 25 year survivor of mental, emotional, and physical abuse. I don't like anyone touching me unless I know and trust them.
  • jchester71
    jchester71 Posts: 124 Member
    No hugging for me especially with the opposite sex unless it is my wife, my mother or my sisters or niece. The developmentally disabled are excluded from my no hugging policy though.
  • southofmadness
    southofmadness Posts: 316 Member
    someone i know well..? If they go to hug...im a hugger for sure . If i have been DRINKING...EVERYONE gets a hug. like it or not :smile:
  • poisongirl6485
    poisongirl6485 Posts: 1,487 Member
    I'm a hugger with people I know relatively well. Otherwise I might do a half-hug/pat on the back thing LOL.

    Drinking brings out more hugs.
  • Starla_
    Starla_ Posts: 349
    i love hugs but having had a very non huggy childhood they arent something thqat comes very easy for me.

    they used to make me feel very uncomfortable even when i wanted them but now i dont tend to freak out anymore when someone gives me one.

    I wish i was more naturally inclined to give them because they are fantastic and I do crave them.
  • runs4zen
    runs4zen Posts: 769 Member
    No hugging unless you are family or a good friend. Like a pp said, I'm a great hand shaker. I'm all about personal space!
  • AngelikaLumiere
    AngelikaLumiere Posts: 862 Member
    I am a polite hugger. Since I think that hugging is very personal and a sign of affection, I always ask first. "You need a hug?" "Can I give you a hug?" I prefer to be asked before someone starts hugging me and don't like to be hugged by new acquaintances, but old friends are open season as far as I am concerned.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I'm not a hugger. I also am a 25 year survivor of mental, emotional, and physical abuse. I don't like anyone touching me unless I know and trust them.


    I am not a survivor of abuse, but I still don't like anyone touching me unless I know and trust them! I just can't stand it and I am especially physically repelled when people I don't like or trust try to come in for a hug! It's cringe-worthy!!! I'm a little standoffish, but little kids and friendly animals can have as many hugs as they want (I hate it when people force themselves on kids and pets), and I absolutely adore hugging my husband. It's one of my favorite things to do.
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    No. I'm not someone who hugs a lot and honestly? I prefer to not be hugged unless you are my significant other, best friend, child, or other close family member.

    I'm not anti-hug, I just have a personal space issue and hate when people invade it.

    Someone mentioned a handshake.. please.. do not offer your hand to me. I will cringe and try to find a way to avoid touching it. You can wave, say hello or whatever - but please.. skip the rest unless I know you, like you and trust you.
  • Mcmilligen
    Mcmilligen Posts: 332 Member
    Oh man! I WISH I was a hugger! But for me, I reserve touchy moments like that for special times, or for very close friends and family. I suppose you could say I'm not a touchy person, although I LOVE affection. It's a kind of weird line.
  • snookumss
    snookumss Posts: 1,451 Member
    I am a hugger SOMETIMES. When I was in school I had a closer group of friends who I always hugged, but now I hardly ever get hugs. If somebody wants a hug, I am all for it but its not automatic for me.
  • purplebabe2025
    purplebabe2025 Posts: 383 Member
    You can't underestimate the power of a hug. I live for them!
  • kiwianjel
    kiwianjel Posts: 80 Member
    Yep I'm a hugger :) fortunately so is my partner and both my girls!
  • PBJunky
    PBJunky Posts: 737 Member
    I love hugs and to be affectionate but don't do it if you have a jealous girlfriend
  • Elleinnz
    Elleinnz Posts: 1,661 Member
    Oh yes - I am a hugger - tonight I met two friends of a friend - by the end of the night they each got a goodbye hug as well ;-)
  • aaleigha1
    aaleigha1 Posts: 408 Member
    I am a natural hugger - not with family so much, only my children - as my upbringing didnt include many hugs -
    my dh is not a natural hugger - I so wish he was
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