Why can't men pick up after themselves.
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Men are great. Getting to be with your SO is great.
If you really have an issue try dating women and see how much you like that.0 -
I don't suppose "why can't women understand that they have to make me a sammich" is too easy or been done?
Oh, real thought. Embrace the reason it is there, not just the fact that it irks you. Figure it out, then meet halfway. If he doesn't play, perhaps someone who won't meet you halfway on an issue that really bothers you isn't worth the effort. Or worth the mess...0 -
Interesting. I'm the messy one. My man likes to get on my case about leaving **** laying around. Talk about role reversals. He is very chauvinist. I sure fooled him! Hehehehe (maniacal laugh)! I play my part (you know, woman's job) just enough to make him hope...0
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1) A-Shirts. Not "wife-beaters". Like a t-shirt.
2) If he is messy, it is because his parents didn't teach him not to be. So maybe the question is "Why can't mothers teach their kids to pick up after themselves"? That should go over well.
3) Bins and strikes sound like fun. But I'll bet if you told him you'd have more time to do it if you didn't have to pick up after him, you wouldn't need either.
Signed,
Totally the porn star he wanted0 -
you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!0
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You don't. You find a new fiance. I'm telling you this now because a man DOESN'T want to change. I almost ended up the same way. I lived with a female for 3 years who was a total slob. It was argument after argument about cleaning up. I gave up after a year and it didn't change. If you stick around you'll be dealing with it daily. Getting married won't change anything. Oh and I left this female after the lease was up.Okay I am part time student so I spend most of my time at home with our son. Meaning I do the majority of the cooking and cleaning. Which I am fine with. I love it really and wouldn't have it any other way. I expect that my job is to keep a clean home, and cook healthy meals for my family and spend time playing and teaching our 2 year old. What my title does not consist of is picking up after my fiance. Like wth is wrong with him. I ask him every day to throw is snot rags away. But what do I find this morning. His socks on the back of the couch. His nail clippers on the freezer. His snot rag on the kitchen shelf of all places. A book on the mantle. His shorts on the floor along with his wife beater. And a bunch of ripped up flyers of things he wants on the table. I also find cheese shreddings on the counter probably from shredding cheese for his lunch this morning. I could go mad I really could. If he was home I would tear his head off right now. I am not his damn servant. He has a entire desk for himself where he can keep all his crap. We have a hamper for our dirty clothes. And a rag to clean up. Why why why are men like this?? I love him I really do and he is a wonderful man and father. But honestly this is driving me crazy every day its the same thing. I spend hours keeping this house clean and when he comes home a few hours later you wouldn't know it. Is this all men or just mine? How do I fix him?? lol
Oh and there are men who aren't slobs. I'm OCD about organization in my home so I do almost ALL the cleaning, laundry, waxing of floors and vacuuming. Same at work. When I have to watch the fitness area, I put the weights away where all racks are evened out with the same amount of 45's, 35's 25's 10's and 5's. We're out there, you just have to look harder.
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Hey hey now...
I'll have you know that I maintain an immaculate household! My bathroom, for example, is so spotless the Virgin Mary herself would be proud to take a dump.
All of my clothes are either folded like you would find them on a display self, or cleanly pressed and hung according to occasion (dress,casual,business,party). My shoe displays are neat, tight, and tucked away in the closet where they're suppose to be.
I never leave dirty dishes around my apartment or in the sink, they're cleaned immediately I've used them...dried, and put away.
So don't blame all men! It's how they were raised dammit! >;/0 -
You don't. You find a new fiance. I'm telling you this now because a man DOESN'T want to change. I almost ended up the same way. I lived with a female for 3 years who was a total slob. It was argument after argument about cleaning up. I gave up after a year and it didn't change. If you stick around you'll be dealing with it daily. Getting married won't change anything.Okay I am part time student so I spend most of my time at home with our son. Meaning I do the majority of the cooking and cleaning. Which I am fine with. I love it really and wouldn't have it any other way. I expect that my job is to keep a clean home, and cook healthy meals for my family and spend time playing and teaching our 2 year old. What my title does not consist of is picking up after my fiance. Like wth is wrong with him. I ask him every day to throw is snot rags away. But what do I find this morning. His socks on the back of the couch. His nail clippers on the freezer. His snot rag on the kitchen shelf of all places. A book on the mantle. His shorts on the floor along with his wife beater. And a bunch of ripped up flyers of things he wants on the table. I also find cheese shreddings on the counter probably from shredding cheese for his lunch this morning. I could go mad I really could. If he was home I would tear his head off right now. I am not his damn servant. He has a entire desk for himself where he can keep all his crap. We have a hamper for our dirty clothes. And a rag to clean up. Why why why are men like this?? I love him I really do and he is a wonderful man and father. But honestly this is driving me crazy every day its the same thing. I spend hours keeping this house clean and when he comes home a few hours later you wouldn't know it. Is this all men or just mine? How do I fix him?? lol
Oh and there are men who aren't slobs. I'm OCD about organization in my home so I do almost ALL the cleaning, laundry, waxing of floors and vacuuming. Same at work. When I have to watch the fitness area, I put the weights away where all racks are evened out with the same amount of 45's, 35's 25's 10's and 5's. We're out there, you just have to look harder.
A.C.E. Certified Personal Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Not exactly. I am changing but am naturally a fairly bad slob. Changing for her though.0 -
The small stuff that you don't sweat turns out to be huge stuff 12 years later. Resolve everything one way or another before it becomes to much.0
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you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!
Wow. You are Carrie Underwood pretty!
Back on topic. Pleasantly surprised that I came home and my wife's spot was pretty neat today. I criticized her earlier in the thread so it is only fair I post the praise as well.
And dinner was delicious too.
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you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!
The seat is what I aim for.0 -
I knew it. And once again men have been outed by honesty. It took me accidentaly walking into the mens bathroom to find my husband had miss led me for 3 kids that they don't have changing tables in the mens bathrooms.you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!
The seat is what I aim for.0 -
The small stuff that you don't sweat turns out to be huge stuff 12 years later. Resolve everything one way or another before it becomes to much.
Thank you, why can't other people understand it. He said he'd make more of an effort so I'll see how that one goes.0 -
you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!
Wow. You are Carrie Underwood pretty!
Back on topic. Pleasantly surprised that I came home and my wife's spot was pretty neat today. I criticized her earlier in the thread so it is only fair I post the praise as well.
And dinner was delicious too.
lol aww, thank you!0 -
Well he said he has been stressed out at work lately and just wanted to relax. And that he wasn't doing it to frustrate me he just hadn't thought about it. He said I never really mention it and if I had earlier he's sure he would have started picking up after himself. I feel better now!!! Thank you to the people with advice to the snotty and rude people you really can keep you BS to yourself I don't care what you have to say really. And I'm not one to tolerate something just because it's a minor problem. a problem is a problem and small problems become big ones. I don't want to be 40 and divorced because I let something slide until it drove me mad.0
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you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!
Wow. You are Carrie Underwood pretty!
Back on topic. Pleasantly surprised that I came home and my wife's spot was pretty neat today. I criticized her earlier in the thread so it is only fair I post the praise as well.
And dinner was delicious too.
lol aww, thank you!
Ya you are gorgeous. And your 33. You certainly dont look it. Not that 33 is old. But you look like your in your early 20's/0 -
You are engaged to a man who wears wife beaters. That should have been a neon sign right there :noway:
HEY!0 -
you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!
Wow. You are Carrie Underwood pretty!
Back on topic. Pleasantly surprised that I came home and my wife's spot was pretty neat today. I criticized her earlier in the thread so it is only fair I post the praise as well.
And dinner was delicious too.
lol aww, thank you!
Ya you are gorgeous. And your 33. You certainly dont look it. Not that 33 is old. But you look like your in your early 20's/
thank you, and you're pretty gorgeous yourself! No, but I'm about to be 34, that's old lol0 -
I'm the slob in my relationship. My hubby does the dishes, laundry, etc. He rocks.0
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I could tell you how to get him to stop that behavior, but then I'd be killed by the other men.0
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I could tell you how to get him to stop that behavior, but then I'd be killed by the other men.
Well if you ever change your mind lol:)0 -
Who gave you permission to leave the kitchen?
Get back in there and make me a damn sammich!0 -
Who gave you permission to leave the kitchen?
Get back in there and make me a damn sammich!
Oh shush.0 -
That's what I have a wife for. However, since I'm such an an accommodating guy, I let here wait to pick up after she gets me a sammich, but only if she remembers the beer. :drinker:0
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I feel ya! my husband leaves a trial of clothes and shoes when he comes in the door... dirty socks end up on the couch or bed (wherever he happened to sit down first!) his clothes are always thrown on the floor, he won't clean up the counters after fixing anything--this I used to be okay with because he made dinner most nights--not anymore though! He won't rinse his dirty dishes, let alone put them in the dishwasher! I do ALL the cleaning, ALL the laundry, and if he takes out the trash he complains he has to do everything!
BUT, this is small stuff--it irritates the hell outta me, but it's not worth fighting over everyday... though I always threaten not clean up after him (but he knows I'm OCD enough that I won't be able to handle the mess long! haha)
The only time all this really pisses me off to the point I do make an issue out of it is when I spent the entire day deep cleaning the house.
If I was just a housewife, I wouldn't have a problem, but I'm not just a housewife--I am a student, and I work TWO jobs and I workout at least 12 hrs a week! I am BUSY all the time!
Ok my rant is done!
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You need a guy like me :-) or do what my wife did and leave the stuff lay. Yeah it may bug you but after a time when he doesn't have any clothes he will get the hint.0
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I feel ya! my husband leaves a trial of clothes and shoes when he comes in the door... dirty socks end up on the couch or bed (wherever he happened to sit down first!) his clothes are always thrown on the floor, he won't clean up the counters after fixing anything--this I used to be okay with because he made dinner most nights--not anymore though! He won't rinse his dirty dishes, let alone put them in the dishwasher! I do ALL the cleaning, ALL the laundry, and if he takes out the trash he complains he has to do everything!
BUT, this is small stuff--it irritates the hell outta me, but it's not worth fighting over everyday... though I always threaten not clean up after him (but he knows I'm OCD enough that I won't be able to handle the mess long! haha)
The only time all this really pisses me off to the point I do make an issue out of it is when I spent the entire day deep cleaning the house.
If I was just a housewife, I wouldn't have a problem, but I'm not just a housewife--I am a student, and I work TWO jobs and I workout at least 12 hrs a week! I am BUSY all the time!
Ok my rant is done!
OOh I feel ya. I workout, I go to school, I do hours of homework. I raise a 2 year old, I run a business, and I spend tons of time keeping this house clean which is already bigger then what we need. And apparently according to people I should just deal because he works. I have two University degrees people act as if I should shush my lips because he brings home the money. I am not working so that I can raise our son. Instead I make money while being at home but apparently that's not work. The first thing I plan to do when he starts school is go back to work. I love being home with him hence why I am. I signed up to raise my kid not to be a servant to my fiance. If I chose to do nothing with the rest of my life other then be a homemaker then I wouldn't be complaining. I actually got a message telling me I shouldn't marry him I thought that was a bit extreme.0 -
I think range of cleanliness is definitely a factor in any relationship.
My wife and I are not generally clean house people but I have my limits and she does as well so eventually it all gets done. That is a major part in any relationship - clean freaks and a slob does not equal bliss trust me I have seen relationships eventually end over it.
All the people that always say "Do not sweat the small stuff," I dislike button you immensely. The small stuff eventually becomes the big stuff because regardless it eventually builds up and directly reflects on the bigger stuff.
For example the fiance that leaves his garbage every where and is driving his fiance crazy will eventually lead to a realization that the fiance is looking for a mother to take care of him, because most likely thats what he saw in his parents relationship and or thats what his mother did and that can lead to all sorts of realizations that just generally suck.0 -
I think range of cleanliness is definitely a factor in any relationship.
My wife and I are not generally clean house people but I have my limits and she does as well so eventually it all gets done. That is a major part in any relationship - clean freaks and a slob does not equal bliss trust me I have seen relationships eventually end over it.
All the people that always say "Do not sweat the small stuff," I dislike button you immensely. The small stuff eventually becomes the big stuff because regardless it eventually builds up and directly reflects on the bigger stuff.
For example the fiance that leaves his garbage every where and is driving his fiance crazy will eventually lead to a realization that the fiance is looking for a mother to take care of him, because most likely thats what he saw in his parents relationship and or thats what his mother did and that can lead to all sorts of realizations that just generally suck.
You know you could be kind of right. My fiance was abandoned by his mother when he was 5 years old. He was then raised by his father who is a very strict military man. He left the house at 6am and returned at 9pm. He cooked meals and left them in the fridge and told my fiance to microwave them for him and his sister. He didn't have any sort of mother figure until he was a teenager and he hated her. Only now do they get along. Eventually he moved from the states to Canada to start over. From 5 he raised himself. From 16 when he moved out he had to go to school work and pay bills. Maybe that's what he wants for someone to take care of him because he was responsible for taking care of himself and his sister all his life.0 -
Ok I was ready to come in here and provide you a logical reason but after readin your post...its simple - he is a pig and a slob. It will only get worse if you let it.0
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