Single ladies and fellas...

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  • AZTrailRunner
    AZTrailRunner Posts: 1,199 Member
    Newly single here, but I've never had a problem talking to really pretty women. My job has gotten me waaay past the shy part, and once you realize that most of them are just as shy, it all becomes a bit silly.

    Of course, that's because up until now, while being married, there was no pressure about the outcome since I wasn't "hitting" on them. I usually have a puppy-in-training with me, which makes for a perfect ice breaker, and allows for a casual conversation when their guard isn't up (like at a night club). We'll see what the future has in store.
  • Whitneylol
    Whitneylol Posts: 244
    Well now I feel like a freak! I think I'm probably overly confident actually. Both my serious bf's in the past have begun with my making a forward comment to them. LOL I'm very bold and people sometimes take it as *****iness, but how can I complain about being single (which I dont anyway) if I don't ever try?

    So what if they reject me, if that's the worst that happens to me in life then I've got it pretty good :)

    Flirting is SO fun!
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    I don't consider myself to be shy - but I suppose I am when it comes to chatting up guys because I don't feel terribly comfortable doing it, though I have in the past and probably would today if I came across someone interesting.

    That said, I would rather be approached first - it's a great feeling when someone notices you and makes the effort so you know that you *have* been noticed!
  • rybo
    rybo Posts: 5,424 Member
    Generally no, unless I have a good "in" to break the ice.

    Or a lot of drinks in me
  • tigerbluefly
    tigerbluefly Posts: 257 Member
    I'm not that shy but I don't approach men. I always feel that they wouldn't be interested in me. They are always looking for the younger, fitter type and I don't live up to that anymore. I don't really go out much though either so I never get to meet anyone.
  • audigal2008
    audigal2008 Posts: 1,129 Member
    Im not single but when I was I would never have the nerve! Too shy!
  • Scoobiesnax
    Scoobiesnax Posts: 148 Member
    I prefer to wait it out until the hot chick leaves Christmas Cookies on my doorstep...
  • MJKing2
    MJKing2 Posts: 177
    Not single now...but still incrediably flirty ( my husbands okay with it so it all works out!. ha!) :wink: I'm pretty shy until I either have a couple of drinks in me or until someone has shown some interest first. Then I don't have a problem approaching anyone I think is my league or under. I lack way to much confidence to approach anyone that I think is out of my league. :blushing:
  • efokken
    efokken Posts: 138 Member
    I am too shy out at the bars.... but I have more confidence in the gym, so I am the one who approaches a guy, but always to just have a conversation, I've never asked anyone out, but talking is the start of something.... :blushing:
  • jamesdelong
    jamesdelong Posts: 177 Member
    When I'm in my social butterfly mode I throw shy out the door. Of course I hate rejection but my intentions are to just say hello and introduce myself and if I feel any vibe back then I will flirt more.

    I've met some really great friends this way and I need to be friends with them first before I date them.
    (losing weight has boost my confidence ten fold and hopefully this will open the door for me more so I can have them approach me)
  • lemonadem
    lemonadem Posts: 398 Member
    Usually. Being shy is something I've never been.
  • DannyMussels
    DannyMussels Posts: 1,842 Member
    I never do.
    Literally, never.
  • 1WorkoutAtATime
    1WorkoutAtATime Posts: 719
    nope...
  • Babrao
    Babrao Posts: 152 Member
    I used to be quite shy so I would challenge myself by making myself go talk to guys that I found attractive, it has really helped me out and I am alot less shy now. Also, give me a drink or two and there is no stopping me....I become Ms. Social Butterfly, hahaha ;)
  • JizWiz
    JizWiz Posts: 57
    It depends. Sometimes I do. I think it depends on the setting...
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    I dont have the guts to approach anyone but....if I did find someone attractive I may just look but thats about it. It just makes things so much easier if guys initate things first !! lol just makes it so much easier gentlemen :)
  • Captain_Mal
    Captain_Mal Posts: 945 Member
    When I was single, sure I would about half of the time. I struck up the conversation with my husband....it never ended. :tongue:
  • bringit30
    bringit30 Posts: 103 Member
    I am not single, but when I was, I always approached people! I had "liquid" courage though usually....That was back in the day when I was thin and hot though...
  • Cfkearney
    Cfkearney Posts: 197 Member
    I will find a reason to strike up a conversation with the hot guy. And heck - Ladies, buy a guy a drink once in awhile. They aren't used to it and usually find it flattering.:wink:
  • Hollieox
    Hollieox Posts: 53
    I'm not afraid to approach a guy, but it might take me a while haha
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    If I see a hot guy in a bar, I'll totally walk up and talk to him. Sometimes, yes, they are jerks if they don't think I'm hot enough or whatever, but most of the time I end up at least having a nice conversation. Funny, though, if I know a guy and I have a crush on him, I can't tell him. I guess I just think that it can't hurt to put myself out there for some guy I'm probably not going to see again if he does reject me...
  • 1WorkoutAtATime
    1WorkoutAtATime Posts: 719
    I don't initiate, but I'm pretty good at getting them to. Four years into our relationship, my ex still thought it had all been his idea :P

    ;

    lol, genius
  • Sweet_kiwi99
    Sweet_kiwi99 Posts: 16 Member
    If I have enough drink in me I might start a funny conversation with someone I think is cute, but normally I don't do the approaching. I am usually dancing and having fun anyway, I don't usually go looking to pick up.
  • 1WorkoutAtATime
    1WorkoutAtATime Posts: 719
    Well now I feel like a freak! I think I'm probably overly confident actually. Both my serious bf's in the past have begun with my making a forward comment to them. LOL I'm very bold and people sometimes take it as *****iness, but how can I complain about being single (which I dont anyway) if I don't ever try?

    So what if they reject me, if that's the worst that happens to me in life then I've got it pretty good :)

    Flirting is SO fun!

    good point...
  • damonmath
    damonmath Posts: 359 Member
    Yes! Confidence is sexy!
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    Nope... to shy.
  • Goddess111682
    Goddess111682 Posts: 32 Member
    Im not single- but in the past, if I didn't approach, I at least winked to let them know I was interested....and if they were interested, then that would give them to approach me if they were interested...and if they didn't approach...too bad for them! lol
  • Cfkearney
    Cfkearney Posts: 197 Member
    I'm a wuss :blushing:

    you're a hot wuss! Was that too much? That was too much - I'm sorry. (That was my "I'm not really sorry because you ARE hot" voice)
  • Phoenix1401
    Phoenix1401 Posts: 711 Member
    ha! I'm waaayyy too shy:blushing: ...That's why I'm going to be single forever.
  • Deckershann
    Deckershann Posts: 272 Member
    Not single anymore and haven't been for a few years...but when I saw my husband pop up on "People You May Know" on facebook, I didn't know him but I sure as hell wanted to! Added him, he talked to me, three months later proposed, six months later married. KA-CHING.
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