YOUR SO PRETTY!! ...(FOR A FAT GIRL)

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  • Wilmingtonbelle
    Wilmingtonbelle Posts: 255 Member
    Whoever said that sounds like a person with a very punchable face!

    Agreed! :flowerforyou:

    I'm curious...is there a male equivalent to this??? Or is it only us women who have to hear this garbage?

    Sláinte
  • bunnyb11
    bunnyb11 Posts: 65 Member
    Yea I get the "You have a pretty face" all the time and honestly I'm sick of it. Growing up I used to get the "If you walk around with your tummy sucked in your stomach wouldn't look so big" LOL but I tried not to let that get to me but of course when you're a child ya can't help but feel some type of way. But as long as we know we look good the way we ARE and the way we WILL BE, that is all that matters because society is very superficial.

    Keep ya head up ladies!!! WE ARE BEAUTIFUL ALWAYS!!! ;-)

    I can relate to this entirely.........YES WE ARE BEAUTIFUL IT IS WHAT'S INSIDE THAT COUNTS ANYWAYS.......GOD KNOWS OUR HEARTS AN HE LOVES US NO MATTER WAT AN WILL NEVER LEAVE US......WE HAVE TO REMEMBER WE ARE DOING THIS FOR US AN NOT TO PLEASE ANYONE ELSE...........GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF THOSE PEOPLE IN TIME......
  • Elf_Princess1210
    Elf_Princess1210 Posts: 895 Member
    OH MY GOD, I hate it when people say that to me.
  • JPsFunkyMojo
    JPsFunkyMojo Posts: 72
    A skinny broad once said I COULD be more beautiful if I lost about 200 pounds. I said maybe so, but I can out run your skinny *kitten*. She accepted the challenge and 5 mins later she quit. No one has said anything to me since.
  • piebird79
    piebird79 Posts: 201 Member
    Ive been told I have a fuc%able face....THAT REALLY GOT UNDER MY SKIN!

    Whoever said that sounds like a person with a very punchable face!

    Ha, ha! That reminds me of a German idiom I read about a few years ago. The word is Backpfeiffengesicht and it means something along the lines of "a face that begs to have a fist put in it".
  • nowornever78
    nowornever78 Posts: 25 Member
    I get your really pretty for a black girl..... Wow Ook so if I was white I would be ugly!? lol,
  • nowornever78
    nowornever78 Posts: 25 Member
    I get your really pretty for a black girl..... Wow Ook so if I was white I would be ugly!? lol,
  • rossi02
    rossi02 Posts: 549 Member
    I get your really pretty for a black girl..... Wow Ook so if I was white I would be ugly!? lol,

    What???????? That is beyond crazy. If I were you, I would just matter of factly respond with.. "What exactly do you mean by that"?
  • 2011JAM
    2011JAM Posts: 49 Member

    And as far as the SIL oh poop on her! My hunny also tells me that it doesn't matter and yay I'm glad it doesn't but I'M GONNA! He has been very supportive and has even started consulting me on what choices he should make with his food (reason #34654 that I love him)
    That is so cute, how many reasons you love him.... Awwww I wanna squish you it's so cute lol
  • Begood03
    Begood03 Posts: 1,259 Member
    Anyone with class would just say "you're very pretty" and leave it at that.
  • v_addison
    v_addison Posts: 114 Member
    What complete and utter twats say that to someone!

    That's like us going, eeeh you're a really nice man, I bet you can't wait for puberty to hit so you develop a normal sized "tail"!!! lol It's plain rude....and you just wouldn't say that to someone!

    If you know people like this remove them out of your life...they're toxic and you deserve positivity not critical nastiness flower!

    Well said!!!!
  • 2011JAM
    2011JAM Posts: 49 Member
    I get your really pretty for a black girl..... Wow Ook so if I was white I would be ugly!? lol,

    What is wrong with people!? Black, White, red, yellow, fat thin

    If you ask me the people who say these things, you'd be pretty if... etc... Are just plain ugly....

    It should be about goodness and kindness.... Has any of these people looked in the mirror.....

    I used to be with a bloke who's favourite saying was your a fat, ugly, *****... Simple as that.... Well guess what 20 years on he is still along coz he was a very ugly person and the fat ugly ***** is very much in love and very happy..... Haha karma :-)
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    I get your really pretty for a black girl..... Wow Ook so if I was white I would be ugly!? lol,


    ^^ This. I get this all the time. I get "Your pretty for a black girl" or "You have a pretty complexion for a DARK skinned girl" <--- this one bothers me the most... I just don't understand. I get these two sayings the most all the time and even till this day I get something along those lines :/
  • AnninStPaul
    AnninStPaul Posts: 1,372 Member
    OK HERES A QUESTION FOR YOU. I STRUGGLE WITH THIS EVERY DAY. DH SAYS IT DOESNT MATTER TO HI IF I LOSE WEIGHT AND HE " DOESNT WANT ME DOING FOR HIM" MY SIL IS SUPER AGAINST IT TOO. SUGGESTIONS ?

    Sister in law is just jealous, so I say keep moving forward and stuff her!

    That was my first thought - and why should her opinion (in particular) matter? You can only do this FOR YOURSELF.
  • debmjohn
    debmjohn Posts: 5
    I was told that my twin is a porn star but she had a nice body too. ick!
  • BreakingUpWithObesity2013
    BreakingUpWithObesity2013 Posts: 276 Member
    I have got the "you'd be so pretty if you'd lose some weight" Uhm thanks?? lol Annoying!
  • peacehawk
    peacehawk Posts: 421 Member
    My mom used to say that when I was a teenager and not fat. I hated that.
  • tkn11
    tkn11 Posts: 276 Member
    OMG I used to get this all the time. I HATED it.
  • Zee48
    Zee48 Posts: 789 Member
    OK HERES A QUESTION FOR YOU. I STRUGGLE WITH THIS EVERY DAY. DH SAYS IT DOESNT MATTER TO HI IF I LOSE WEIGHT AND HE " DOESNT WANT ME DOING FOR HIM" MY SIL IS SUPER AGAINST IT TOO. SUGGESTIONS ?

    If you feel you need to lose weight for health reasons then you should proceed. Check with your doctor first and think about. I love that your DH says he does not care because to me that shows he loves you without regard to size. My DH was always that way with me and that is one of the things (ONE) that I miss since he passed away. He loved me for me.

    As for SIL - well she may be jealous, maybe she really thinks you don't need to lose. I stand by my first two statements because those are the really important issues in your case.
  • debmjohn
    debmjohn Posts: 5
    This is for you not for either of them. Other women will be jealous and you DH may be affriad of losing you. I had a boyfriend a few years ago tell his mom he didn't want me to lose weight because he was affraid I would change. He siad she is so beautiful already she will get so much attention it will go to her head. He later told me when I was struggling "Maybe God wanted you to be this way. Maybe thats why its so hard for you". To say the least that same man is now married to a barbie doll.
  • martinbeks
    martinbeks Posts: 255 Member
    OK HERES A QUESTION FOR YOU. I STRUGGLE WITH THIS EVERY DAY. DH SAYS IT DOESNT MATTER TO HI IF I LOSE WEIGHT AND HE " DOESNT WANT ME DOING FOR HIM" MY SIL IS SUPER AGAINST IT TOO. SUGGESTIONS ?

    Do it for you and no one else. Think about your own health. I know your family cares about you, but with that, they should also want you to be happy and healthy.
  • REBEE17
    REBEE17 Posts: 101 Member
    I get told this quite often...and I hate it.
  • faiga
    faiga Posts: 47
    Your lucky that he accepts you and loves you for who you are not many men do that however do it for yourself so that you can be healthy and happy dont do it for anyone else and make sure to tell them that you want their support regardless of the fact that they dont want you to do it for them because they should support you no matter what you choose
  • Bridge_CG
    Bridge_CG Posts: 429 Member
    You know, the people who say stuff like that, that's usually how they feel about themselves. Once a guy that I was "in love" with in high school told my "best friend" that he would date me if I lost 40 pounds and toned up. Really man? Now that we're both in college now and I see what I could've had... Which isn't very lovely... I feel so much better about myself. I've lost about 20 pounds within the past year, and I've gained about 15 pounds of muscle. So, remember, whenever some one says to you, "you're so pretty for a fat girl", generally that's how they feel about themselves. So, brush it off and move on. :) I think you're gorgeous anyway you look at it.
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    I used to get that from my hubby. He would tell me I was pretty but then grabbed on my flab and say something like "now to work on this". It hurt but he was right, I needed to lose weight.. BUT I lost the weight because I wanted to, not for him. I decided it was time to get the tire off.
  • Christine7280
    Christine7280 Posts: 3
    Girl...... I get the same response from everyone or I also get the" why couldn't I met you when you were smaller back in high school.
  • faiga
    faiga Posts: 47
    that quote sucks. someone once said to me if you lose 20 pounds id so go out with you lets just say that person is history
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    I've gotten that a few times. I didn't get offended because I knew it was true. I did/do have a cute face, but my body showed that I was unhealthy in many different ways and that's NOT attractive. I actually get more annoyed when people lie and say "Nooo, I don't think you're fat!" BS, I have a mirror, stupid.
  • philOHIO
    philOHIO Posts: 520 Member
    I have always preferred heavier women over that thin, stick figure, twiggy types. I think most guys feel the same way, but the model industry doesn't think so, unfortunately.
  • ctalimenti
    ctalimenti Posts: 865 Member
    another one that get's me is my husband tells me "You're so hot now" I'm like "WTF? I wasn't before? all I did was drop weight."

    Well, let's be honest - we're not as attractive fat.
    That's reality.

    And our souses or partners' loyalty has limits - believe it.
    I know a guy RIGHT NOW who is a great father, loving husband and totally loving human being in every way but very fat.
    He wasn't always fat but gained slowly over the years while his wife stayed the same.

    You know where this is going - right?

    Yes, she had an torrid affair with a guy at work - a fit guy, and she moved out, leaving my poor friend alone with his broken heart and twinkies.

    And instead of just accepting that his wife is no longer in love, he's crying and sniveling, trying to get her back; it's pathetic!
    He should be on MFP - hitting the gym and rebuilding his life.
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