BE HONEST! How does this look?

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  • Momkat65
    Momkat65 Posts: 317 Member
    :flowerforyou: The two colors cut you in half, making you look shorter than you probably are. I'd suggest a top and skirt or dress in the same/similar color to elongate your shape.You have nice curves but don't need to wear your outfit so tight either.
    Let us know what you choose. You are gorgeous no matter what you wear!
  • bramicrub
    bramicrub Posts: 7
    Do NOT wear that to a formal classy event. The outfit holds very little class as mentioned before about the zebra stuff. Go to a "formal wear" outfitter and, as mentioned before by someone, their job is to make you look good. Pay the extra bucks to look the part. And I hope people don't think I am being rude. Just being upfront and honest. The clothes, no matter who is wearing them, do not look classy.
  • aa1440
    aa1440 Posts: 956 Member
    The men will love the skirt. I think you should go with another top. You look great but, I have to agree with other posters, the top is not for a more formal event. Change the top and you will be the hit of the party!
  • ogosun
    ogosun Posts: 175 Member
    You want honesty? The skirt is too tight.... the top is cute. But the skirt clinging to every thing is not attractive. Sorry.

    must agree...the top is plain jane.... you have to find something better....
  • ojell
    ojell Posts: 748 Member
    Thanks for all the advice. I think I should probably clarify it's not a formal event. It's more casual...I just wanted to dress it up a bit. I'm guessing the women will be dressy-casual. I wish I knew what the other ladies are wearing! lol I was going more for getting the "right" attention from a guy I'm into, but just that his fam will be there and they are very classy women. I want to appeal to the older classier crowd (not come across as trashy), but still look hip since I'm young.
  • DizzieLittleLifter
    DizzieLittleLifter Posts: 1,020 Member
    There is nothing wrong with you but the outfit doesn't work the way it is for a formal occasion. Maybe with a blazer. Honestly I think an different outfit for the occasion. I think a shimmery (fabric) single color dress "v" line and synched around the breasts, with lots of folds and paired with a shrug, and a statement piece or a fur shrug wrap (hot this season). Let me look around for some pics.
  • occupyme
    occupyme Posts: 30 Member
    I concur with many others: this is not formal attire. A black dress with non-zebra hose and heels, add a string of pearls and you'll be set. You can buy a black dress and pearls anywhere from Target to Macys in addition to the really expensive shops.
  • occupyme
    occupyme Posts: 30 Member
    I just read your clarifying post about casual...the fellow's family....etc. You can never go wrong with a rather conservative but becoming black dress et al.
  • ojell
    ojell Posts: 748 Member
    FTR none of the negativity is offensive to me. LoL I value honesty. I'd rather you guys be honest then be all like "Oh, you look great!" though go out there looking a hot mess in front of these people. lol

    Thing is...I don't typically wear dresses, so I'm not sure I'll feel right in anything. LOL But I have no sense of style. A couple of my friends picked this out for me. I really have no clue what to wear. I wanna look good to the older and the younger is what I was meaning by classy. Lol I just don't wanna look trashy. haha

    I feel like I look too big in it. I'm just not sure what I CAN rock though. That's the prob, and I only have like 2 days to find something. I'm kinna freaking out a bit. I always dress safe and plain, and I just really wanted to dress out of the norm (in a great way of course) and really make my crush drool. ;)
  • DizzieLittleLifter
    DizzieLittleLifter Posts: 1,020 Member
    http://www.avenue.com/clothing/Shirred-Detail-Dress.aspx?PfId=250267&DeptId=20375&ProductTypeId=1

    http://www.avenue.com/clothing/Pleated-Georgette-Dress.aspx?PfId=252851&DeptId=20375&ProductTypeId=1

    http://www.avenue.com/clothing/Matte-Chiffon-Faux-Wrap-Dress.aspx?PfId=261101&DeptId=20375&ProductTypeId=1

    I'm really loving this blazer
    http://www.avenue.com/clothing/Pinstriped-Blazer.aspx?PfId=244959&DeptId=20681&ProductTypeId=1&PurchaseType=G&pref=ps

    (ETA I have No idea what size you are :laugh: you look great. You can dress in a way that still shows those curvs and still look classy. Sometimes something a little less tight and pulled in at just the right place will show those lovely curvs in a more classy way. :)
    This whole outfit is great! (below) If you are not comfortable wearing a dress then don't. You will feel better about yourself in something you are comfortable in!
    http://www.avenue.com/clothing/Boucle-Jacket.aspx?PfId=248827&DeptId=20681&ProductTypeId=1&PurchaseType=G&pref=ps
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    FTR none of the negativity is offensive to me. LoL I value honesty. I'd rather you guys be honest then be all like "Oh, you look great!" though go out there looking a hot mess in front of these people. lol

    Thing is...I don't typically wear dresses, so I'm not sure I'll feel right in anything. LOL But I have no sense of style. A couple of my friends picked this out for me. I really have no clue what to wear. I wanna look good to the older and the younger is what I was meaning by classy. Lol I just don't wanna look trashy. haha

    I feel like I look too big in it. I'm just not sure what I CAN rock though. That's the prob, and I only have like 2 days to find something. I'm kinna freaking out a bit. I always dress safe and plain, and I just really wanted to dress out of the norm (in a great way of course) and really make my crush drool. ;)

    Remember that sexy isn't really about showing everything you've got, but rather being confident, stylish, and flattering to your body and personality.

    My vote would be for a cocktail dress with a little flair (nice pattern, but not over the top), a high pump, some nice bling (necklace with matching bracelet would work nicely), and a nice updo.

    Examples (showing in plus sizes):

    http://www.torrid.com/torrid/Clothing/Dresses//Red+One-Shoulder+Wiggle+Dress-560459.jsp

    http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/trixxi-plus-size-prom-dress-sleeveless-banded-empire-a-line?ID=430443&CategoryID=37038#fn=sp=1&spc=364&ruleId=65&slotId=12

    http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/onyx-plus-size-dress-cap-sleeve-sequin-lace-cocktail-dress?ID=617270&CategoryID=37038&LinkType=#fn=sp=2&spc=364&ruleId=65&slotId=78
  • katmix
    katmix Posts: 296 Member
    That does change things! I would first Invest in a good shaper, and if these older gals are as conservative and classy as you say, I would definitely go with a dress (that skims curves), preferably in a solid color, does not have to be black, although black is slimming and can be worn with a variety of accessories. It should be knee-length. Don't wear the zebra hose, but nude or black. Heels are great (necessary!) but not closed booties. The beauty of a dress/outfit like this - it can be dressed up or down as future occasions may call for.

    As the mom of two adult males, rest assured that I give my 2 cents worth to them about what gals wear! Size of gals or guys isn't what is important...it is dressing in a manner that is not sloppy or tacky.

    Going out with the guys/gals after work? The above outfit is perfect! Trying to impress the mom of a guy? Dress conservatively!

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  • LiL_MisS_C
    LiL_MisS_C Posts: 332 Member
    I am not a fan of this outfit at all...I also don't find it very classy to be honest. Surely, you could find something that looks amazing on you. You have a great body for several types of styles of dresses. :)
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624
    Even for a "dressy casual" event it's to casual. The skirt is a bit snug, maybe a cute A-line dress. It will cut in at the waist and skim over the hips, throw on a cute cardigan (in case it's cool), a statement necklace and a pair of cute shoes. I would rather be
    over-dressed then under-dressed.




    <<<I wore this dress, with a bolero jacket, and beautiful fushia pumps to my DH Christmas Party and I was right in the middle of the pack.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    i love that look of the high skirt. it sucks not knowing what people are going to wear. as long as the top isn't made of a tee-shirt material, i think you are fine, and if you add some cute jewelry it would be awesome.
  • ojell
    ojell Posts: 748 Member
    I'm so tempted to just wear some tight black leggin jeans and a red top or something with some heels. Of course this wouldn't be too far off from what I would typically wear which is what I was trying to avoid. I wanted to do something different/out-of-the norm for me. I don't really wanna "play-it-safe" but I don't wanna look stupid either. I want style like my black girlfriends. Very classy, yet sexy and grabs and HOLDS the attention! You know? ;)
  • catwrangler
    catwrangler Posts: 918 Member
    classy =

    http://www.jcrew.com/womens_category/suiting/dresses/PRDOVR~43712/43712.jsp?srcCode=GGBS00002

    IMO
  • Just_Dot
    Just_Dot Posts: 2,283 Member
    See If you can find a cute wrap dress. A simple black wrap, awesome accessories and sexy heels can be casual/sexy/classy.
  • lmelangley
    lmelangley Posts: 1,039 Member
    I think you look fine in the photo if you're comfortable in the outfit, but as to whether the outfit is class enough depends on the kind of party, and what classy means to you. If it's a formal party, I think you need something classier.

    To be honest, I'm not a fan of really tight fitting skirts or patterned pantyhose for the 40 something crowd - but I'm in my late 40's and don't live in a city. I'm more of a black dress, sheer stockings and silver jewelry type of girl.

    If you want to make your crush drool, go for something that more hints at your shape. I've heard it said that men are more turned on by the fantasy of what's underneath than by having all the curves displayed - imagination is a wonderful thing.
  • ojell
    ojell Posts: 748 Member
    what about this?

    http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=1d48aac&DeptID=70656&CatID=80145&SO=0&Ne=4294957900+1490+1031+29+3+8+585&NOffset=2&N=4294936942&Nao=0&PSO=0&bcCat=3&CmCatId=70656|80145

    I'm scared to over dress, cause for all I know...the other women may very well just be wearing jeans and i nice shirt. My friend (guy) said it's casual. There will a lot of young hip people there.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    what about this?

    http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=1d48aac&DeptID=70656&CatID=80145&SO=0&Ne=4294957900+1490+1031+29+3+8+585&NOffset=2&N=4294936942&Nao=0&PSO=0&bcCat=3&CmCatId=70656|80145

    I'm scared to over dress, cause for all I know...the other women may very well just be wearing jeans and i nice shirt. My friend (guy) said it's casual. There will a lot of young hip people there.

    It is better to be overdressed and looking great than be underdressed and looking inappropriate or frumpy.

    Dress is cute, but the skirt is really tight on that one too. I would go with something with more of an empire or A-line waist.

    Examples:

    http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=1cfe81e&DeptID=70656&CatID=80145&SO=0&Ne=4294957900+1490+1031+29+3+8+585&NOffset=2&shopperType=G&N=4294936942&Nao=0&PSO=0&bcCat=3&cmAMS_T=XGN3&cmAMS_C=MERCHA&cmAMS_Z=XGN3TOPOFRESULTS&CmCatId=70656|80145

    http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?GrpTyp=SIZ&ItemID=1cb4edf&DeptID=70656&CatID=80145&SO=0&Ne=4294957900+1490+1031+29+3+8+585&NOffset=2&shopperType=G&N=4294936942&Nao=0&PSO=0&bcCat=3&cmAMS_T=XGN3&cmAMS_C=MERCHA&cmAMS_Z=XGN3TOPOFRESULTS&CmCatId=70656|80145
  • Alishia_655
    Alishia_655 Posts: 136
    Honestly, I think you look amazing! However, I would not wear this. I think that no matter if the evening is formal or casual or a mixture of both, a little black dress will never steer you wrong! Pair it up with a pair of sheer stockings, and (you could do colorful if you wanted) a pair of heels. A necklace would be great, as long as it isn't too "hey look at me" kind of thing. It should be something to catch the eye of your crush, but still be tasteful for his family. I wish you the best of luck and hope I didn't sound too much like a horrible person. :flowerforyou:
  • sc1572
    sc1572 Posts: 2,309 Member
    You're ROCKIN' it!!! :D
  • gardengals
    gardengals Posts: 46 Member
    It's a great outfit if you were headed out to a club or dance party.....for a "classy" party I would probably wear a cocktail dress with black nylons and then accesorize with some special shoes and definately jewelry.
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Just read your clarification. I still would scrap this outfit. I'm in the little black dress group. A wrap dress would look great on your figure. Pulls in at the waist, will skim your curves and draws attention up top to the ladies. Bonus there for that male attention you're seeking. I'd pick a darker color and then have fun with your shoes and accessories. a red pump and bag with a black dress would be sassy. Understated hose are usually the way to go when being classy. So no zebra. :)
  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    I'm with the others here - you can look classy & smoking hot in something not so tight. I hope you find something :)

    I really love this dress & have considered buying it to wear to something a bit more fancy schmancy

    http://www.ezibuy.com.au/womens-clothing/dresses/evening-cocktail-dress/together-jersey-dress-with-chiffon-sleeves-77022.htm
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
    It looks good, but if it's for a formal event, I would probably find something else. Especially when you mentioned that your tights are zebra...that's too casual. It's a cute outfit, but it doesn't look formal.
    i agree, you look great, but its not formal. Maybe their idea of formal is different than mine though. lol Super cute outfit though!
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624
    what about this?

    http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=1d48aac&DeptID=70656&CatID=80145&SO=0&Ne=4294957900+1490+1031+29+3+8+585&NOffset=2&N=4294936942&Nao=0&PSO=0&bcCat=3&CmCatId=70656|80145

    I'm scared to over dress, cause for all I know...the other women may very well just be wearing jeans and i nice shirt. My friend (guy) said it's casual. There will a lot of young hip people there.

    It is better to be overdressed and looking great than be underdressed and looking inappropriate or frumpy.

    Dress is cute, but the skirt is really tight on that one too. I would go with something with more of an empire or A-line waist.

    ^^This^^

    Something that skims the hips would be better. A wrap dress is a great idea and it is semi-adjustable so you'll be able to wear it many times even as you lose more weight. Undergarments are a huge thing as well, you can get some at Target and they are super supportive but not bulky.

    Go to the store and try on different styles of dresses especially ones that you'd never think you'd like and you may be surprised how they fit your slimmer body.
  • heresmyinsidevoice
    heresmyinsidevoice Posts: 311 Member
    Hey girl! Honestly, I think that your outfit choice would be rockin' for a night out with the girls at a pub, or out clubbing, but as far as a classy dinner for people generally 40 and over, I would think the tight red skirt and zebra textured tights isn't for that sort of venue. Also, that outfit doesn't look like it would be all that comfortable to wear for any really long period of time. I think when it comes to choosing a cute number to wear, and classy also applies to this rule too - COMFORT = CONFIDENCE. You want something that you feel comfortable to move around in, so you're sitting and moving naturally, not something you're self conscious or standing stiff in.

    I don't know what age range you're in, but regardless of age, a dress with gathers or pleats in the right places can look sexy, classy and be comfy - something like a few of these dresses here:

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    Hope my two cents helps! Good luck and have fun! :)
  • 12skipafew99100
    12skipafew99100 Posts: 1,669 Member
    Thanks for all the advice. I think I should probably clarify it's not a formal event. It's more casual...I just wanted to dress it up a bit. I'm guessing the women will be dressy-casual. I wish I knew what the other ladies are wearing! lol I was going more for getting the "right" attention from a guy I'm into, but just that his fam will be there and they are very classy women. I want to appeal to the older classier crowd (not come across as trashy), but still look hip since I'm young.

    Too tight. :noway:
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